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Amitryptyling

1 year

I want to clarify some aspects of what I survived. A high earning (physician) man specifically sought out a white, young, educated woman without children to deceive and have a child with. He misrepresented his intentions thus robbing me of my ability to consent when conceiving…

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

Just got my first HOA slap on the wrist and now I want to take pictures of everything my neighbors are doing wrong. This is how wars start.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@nicholasig13 @Metasophia_G Yes, do this now before the wedding so she can get out early. Go ahead and show your true colors now.

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@AmiEverAfter

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I hope the guy who ran his kid to death on a treadmill dies the worst possible death in prison and I hope the judge who gave that man custody never sleeps another night without seeing the face of that child. I want to burn our family court system to the ground.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

@JoannaisWriting I remember feeling so ashamed when two weeks after our marriage he was screaming at me to get the f out of our house because I dropped something and it broke. I was pregnant, embarrassed, and he had been putting things on my credit card so resources were slim. Ty for sharing.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@mishricci This is probably clickbait, but if you’ve been treated this way it’s spot on. You’re not that special is the refrain of abusive men. We know. We want to be special *to you*. They nailed it if this was acting.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

As a survivor of DV the speculating about Travis Kelce isn’t sitting well with me. My abuser looks like a harmless nerd and would never get physical with a male superior. So many perpetrators of IPV never show their propensity for violence except behind closed doors with a…

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

Sometimes men like to throw at women who are settling into the idea they may never partner things like “enjoy dying alone and being eaten by your cats.” Y’all do realize in a marriage only one person gets to not die alone….right? And when I’m dead Soylent green me to the cats. I…

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

Do you remember the first time you opened a gift you found disappointing, but knew to be kind and thankful? I do. It was my 9th birthday party and a girl brought me one of those gender specific goody bags from the dollar store. It was all I’m sure she could afford. She died this…

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@AmiEverAfter

5 days

I am feeling kind of embarrassed about taking $20 gift cards for teacher appreciation week. It’s an expensive daycare. This is all I can afford. Can someone tell me this is fine. I’m feeling extra sensitive and in need of validation today.

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@AmiEverAfter

5 months

@emilykmay I watch it at least annually. And I almost weekly remind myself I’m the rule. This guy lives in my head constantly.

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@AmiEverAfter

7 months

When I know I’m going to have a hell week I buy a rotisserie chicken and eat it with green beans through the week. It’s my ‘I don’t want to feel like crap, but don’t have time to cook’ meal. What’s yours?

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@AmiEverAfter

6 months

I have a sister with developmental delays that still lives with my parents. For as long as I can remember she has sang herself to sleep. We shared a room for years then later our headboards shared a wall. I would sometimes sing with her and she would laugh and laugh. Tonight,…

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@AmiEverAfter

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@ask_aubry Mine didn’t want to watch (said it would be boring) so after 24H of laboring w/out an epidural trying to have an unmedicated vag birth they told me our baby was in distress & I needed a cesarean. I updated him & he arrived in time to berate me for needing a cesarean on way to OR.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@DarleneDempsey6 For sure could see this being a problem. There is a unit with huge Christmas decorations and inflatables still up. Makes my trash can seem kinda irrelevant.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@itsmichellehann Yep. Especially from Panera. If it was an energy drink at a gas station that would be different. Panera is like the tamest place imaginable.

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@brainwormsssss The agency I adopted my elderly dog from made me feel a bit guilty for not pursing invasive treatment for a brain tumor for her when I updated them she had died. The vet told me I had done everything reasonable and to give her a peaceful passing. Some ppl really struggle with…

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

I somehow misplaced an entire carton of eggs. Intrigued to figure out where I put them.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@kellib1228 @kaylamellis_ You’re unwell.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@therealksparkle 💯 But saying he’s probably going to be or is a domestic violence perpetrator is past what you described. It’s leveraging something horrible as a smear campaign because some powerful men don’t like a powerful man. No one gives a fuck about the actual victims of DV.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@JKnow62762 Exactly. It’s an adrenaline heavy competitive environment. Not possible to draw any broader meaning from it as spectators.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 month

I’m spending ~ $112 a month on diapers. As soon as I get the toddler potty trained I’ll start putting that $112 in a 529. When he graduates high school it’ll have around $38,000. It’ll only cover a fraction of the cost by then, but it’ll be a start. 📈📚

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@AmiEverAfter

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@emilykmay Took me right back to 7th grade sleepover and waking up to find my new tennis shoes had been filled with jello.

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

@clhubes I am *sure* it’s horrid and his own mom probably didn’t use it. She probably nursed on the couch or bed like everyone else who had an uncomfortable wooden rocking chair designed for a man.

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

@paleonormie I tipped 15% on a coffee and was given a dirty look yesterday. I am all about tipping. People deserve to be paid for their labor. It was a coffee in a drive thru. smh.

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

@nicholasig13 If anyone has contact info for the fiancé please send my way. I want to make sure she understands her rights and the importance of leaving before having the baby if he has her currently geographically isolated from her family.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@scubacuda999 I am a single parent and a female. I feel safer in townhomes/condos and benefit from not having to do my external maintenance. Even though studies show screaming for help with people near by (like apartments) won’t improve my chances of survival—my nervous system apparently…

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@AmiEverAfter

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@WildeMagnolias I did Target because it was accessible and I’ve seen them both wear clothes and jewelry from there. And there’s groceries if they’re struggling like I am.

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@AmiEverAfter

5 months

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, if I could change one thing about myself it would be not have ADHD. Some of us are smart-ish and self aware-ish and it’s brutally painful when you fuck up because of inattentiveness or impulsivity. I am getting better at stopping the shame…

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@pedrocuzo It is. Because it’s using feigned care about my safety to serve a bunch of men’s narrative. As I said, it doesn’t sit well with me.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@DarleneDempsey6 A part of me wants to go to the meetings and be in leadership, but it’s a part of me that needs therapy.

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

@ask_aubry “How do I get him to see” You will not. No matter what it is he either believes if something upsets you it matters or he doesn’t. You can not change that about him.

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

@Atul1219 I was too. She was a gentle person. Never remember a glimmer of meanness in her. Breaks my heart.

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

@samhfarrell @mishricci There’s never a reason to say “you’re not special” to your girlfriend/wife.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@Rae_209 They were engaged in a custody battle. The morning the child died he told CPS the mother was coaching the child to lie and say he was being abused to have him removed from his care. He did not know at that time the footage from the treadmill would be obtained depicting this…

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

@lucyj_ford Law and Order SVU. Mariska energy carrying me through my darkest nights.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@LuLuu716 Yes, I would very much like to have a man in my life eventually who doesn’t mistreat me or take me for granted and wants to have lots of mediocre s.x with mind blowing-sprinkled in where time and energy allows. After what I’ve been through the fact I’m still sexually attracted to…

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@AmiEverAfter

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@acweyand @fuzzymittens @AshleyGWinter @PedsHemeDoc Kegel twice for help sent me 😆

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@AmiEverAfter

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@LifeSize007 Me showing up to retrieve my food one way or another.

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@VoltsThoughts Everyone block this troll. Do not engage.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@jobackhorseman @ask_aubry As soon as I was out of the fog of waking with the baby every 2-3 hours and felt healed/energy from childbirth I started standing up for myself and setting h boundaries. It quickly became obvious he felt his behavior was not a problem. Left at around 5 months post partum.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

I want to clarify some aspects of what I survived. A high earning (physician) man specifically sought out a white, young, educated woman without children to deceive and have a child with. He misrepresented his intentions thus robbing me of my ability to consent when conceiving…

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@AmiEverAfter

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@Hey_Its_LauraNY Correct. The courts are not designed to protect children. They are there to protect the property rights of the biological or on the birth cert parents to their genetic or sunk cost property. They are retrospective so you pray the abuse leaves a mark but doesn’t kill your child so…

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@AmiEverAfter

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@CalltoActivism @ElgeeCagee Marriage is a contract between two people and the government. No one should be forced to invite the government into their home or bed if they wish not to.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@SlowToWrite It’s the tying it to sin that is deeply concerning. I recommend the book Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy as an alternative perspective to consider incorporating into your parenting.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@Sherasburner Survivor of abuse by a physician here as well.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@LizCGil My realtor acted like I was a nuisance for insisting offer was contingent on inspection. It allowed me to negotiate for quite a few repairs to be made before closing.

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

@xDaGe614x @nicholasig13 @Metasophia_G ‘It wasn’t a suggestion and then do as you please’ is the issue here.

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@realgirl_fieri A new one I saw recently—strollers are bad they promote obes*ty. Your two year old should be walking with you. Like, I am trying to work on my own health I can’t stop and look at every rock with a toddler. I need to walk fast.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@buckeyebettie @PinnacleJoe This is false and harmful information. @PostpartumHelp is a good resource for accurate information and has a support line for new moms and partners if you are concerned you may be having postpartum mental health concerns for anyone reading the misinformation about.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@Tine_Rass @futuresillydoc Isn’t this…a pyramid scheme?

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@AmiEverAfter

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@petefrompitt Definitely writing a hand written note. Knowing the toddler is safe allows me to keep us afloat. It means everything to me.

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@AmiEverAfter

4 months

@PicturesFoIder This is the worst thing I’ve seen on the internet in a while. Since Christmas girl opened the brick. A generation of kids being abused for clicks and views. Sick.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@CarissasNewLife I would add getting good at holding hands and kissing without automatically expecting sex. Like be able to go on a date, kiss her against a wall, get in the car and go home, and be okay if y’all just go to bed. Men ruin the female sexual response cycle with transactional…

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4 months

@emilykmay The fact he immediately pivots to “and he’s hotter than me” is a good faith sign.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

@DrEmmaKatz thank you for your work on coercive control so one day people will read this and understand why I didn’t leave the moment it began. Thank you for helping me make sense of what happened to me.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@trevorshowvan @TableBoston @EaterBoston @infatuation @TimeOutBoston @bostonherald @BostonFoodDiary “I’m sorry it has come to this” is something people say when they aren’t actually resolved to do the action they’re claiming they are about to take.

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@SarahAshlyn3 She has family and friends who knew her intimately. I didn’t and feel weird being shaken, but it touches on other parts of my life and the community I love.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@bemooremd @NussbaumMD They may be trying to watch out for him or know the patient isn’t going to tolerate a lab draw well. This response would really shut down communication between nursing staff and medical. :-/

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@ffmichelle Thank you for this validation. Means a lot today. 💜

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5 months

@truthNhurt @x_socrates1 @fasc1nate What a weird take. She’s an hourglass that doesn’t spend hours and hours at the gym. She’s beautiful.

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@FvreignLL Treating a janitor poorly or leaving a mess for the janitor/store associate to clean up.

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@HemlockHouse Meanwhile the fence they’re responsible for is dry rotting and falling apart.

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@AmiEverAfter

3 months

@SafeTennessee As someone else said, perfectly okay to as individuals say we don’t want to date people who behave that way. I am sick of women’s safety being something that only gets cared about when it serves an agenda. And I think it’s a questioning of TS’s judgement which I don’t love. She’s…

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

Naming him would put me at risk of being labeled an alienator by family court so I won’t. But this is what I survived. And this is who I am ordered to coparent with. I am a good mom. I am a survivor.

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@FaceThesaurus Hiding your comment. Post on your own post about “but women too.”

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@sentientist This really serves no one but the wedding and divorce industry.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

The worst parts of divorcing a narcissist right now are: 1. Accepting it happened to me. I had a child w someone that was faking love to get what they wanted (a child) & my chance at a ‘normal’ family is gone. I’m discarded. 2. No one is coming to bail me out. Me vs the world.

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@emilykmay I’d say it’s not just cyclical it’s a predatory moving target to keep us feeling like we need more, different, better. But I’ve got a headache and I’m feeling rather disillusioned today.

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@AmiEverAfter

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@adamisfigurin I’ve got a book in my head about this. It details some of my sexual relationships and my sexual awakening out of purity culture, but ultimately marches toward the fallacy of thinking a relationship means partnership until the end.

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

Abusers abuse because they can. They do a risk vs benefit calculation and decide they can and so they do. It’s not their mental health, their childhood trauma, etc. It’s systemic and personal opportunities, lack of perceived consequences, and personal benefit.

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I love when a normal parenting switch turns into being told I’m an awful person and he’s taking me back to court because I asked to please have a heads up about being late in case I have plans. Love. It. 🤡 My nervous system is now freaking out at the looming threat of court with…

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@AmiEverAfter

2 months

For my friends trying to drink more water, don’t sleep on the sonic cherry limeade zero sugar drink mix. Yes it has aspartame. None of us are getting out of here alive.

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@DGlaucomflecken These are the same people sunning their perineum btw

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@AmiEverAfter

6 months

I’m lonely, but it’s so much less painful than being lonely in a marriage or relationship. If anyone contemplating leaving was wondering.

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@arghavan_salles I’ve never met a man *who likes women* that actually hates this. Indifference, maybe. But I’ve never met one who will trade out the other curves to get rid of the womb protecting fat. Men who hate women, but still want to sleep with them, are wild cards. No telling what they…

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@AmiEverAfter

1 year

I am guilty of having told him the desires of my heart and believing him when he said he wanted to give them to me. I am guilty of conceiving a child shortly there after but can we please pivot to the perpetrator. This was calculated predatory behavior.

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@Fitzperfect317 You’re correct. I haven’t moved away from the term yet.

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@neildfrick @crotchner2

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4 months

It is 08:05 AM. I have cried twice this morning. I am mostly hurting my child is being forced through a life in two homes. If my ex had even shown me scraps of kindness I would have stayed. I am of a stay together for the children mind. It makes me sick when people act like we…

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@JessupShannon I can’t believe people find this so controversial. Sigh.

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5 months

I am in rooms with people a lot who have never been poor who are making decisions that impact people with low financial resources and it baffles me their understanding of what people who are poor have access to/can just make happen.

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@MarcRGrant The risk of false allegations can be mitigated. It starts with recognizing coercive control and take a firm stance that when a parent abuses the other parent they are abusing the child. Compromising the mother or father of your child (by physical or emotional abuse) is directly…

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@lyonepitbull_c 💯 it’s the worst kind of lonely

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retard is when I knew I was going to leave because that was abuse of our child not just me. I could finally see him and that I had to try to protect our child. He terrorized me. He stole my ability to have a traditional family without divorce that he knew meant so much to me.

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@LeeKurtiss The mother was sending him due to a parenting plan.

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@DJHGOPexit I can complain on twitter anytime I want thank you very much.

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@ProdigalHoosier I’d say church services 3-4 times a week our whole lives with choir was kind of like music therapy. She’s in her early 30s. They’re in a very rural area now, but before they moved there were some group therapy programs with music/dance she really loved. Music is such a healing…

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our child. He was intentionally deceptive regarding his world view revealing after I was past his perceived risk for abortion he believes Black individuals are lazy, Hispanic individuals are less intelligent, and individuals with disabilities should be euthanized…

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@criscre123 Please remove firearms and sharps from your home while figuring out what is next. Consider sleeping in separate room with door locked.

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I am so thankful I left but my life has forever changed. I live in fear of being accused of parental alienation (for reporting abuse and perusing protection) and never seeing our child again. I live in fear of the family court…

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🥲 natural = $400 balayage and baby lights with 30+ min a day doing soft curls

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@MollyBee_82 My favorite, long and natural.

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He wouldn’t allow me to live on the first floor of the home after a cesarean because he wanted his possessions to not be touched. I washed bottles in the bath tub and climbed stairs and cared for an infant alone. I wasn’t allowed to use the kitchen. I wasn’t allowed to…

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Here’s what I’m embarrassed about. I am thirty something years old and still it has not sunk in that if a man says we can just take it slow and get to know each other, but offers to help you put a piece of furniture together without having met you, he does not in fact want to…

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@Oregon_CDR_USNR Faux Tom’s-my mom when I was 16 A Kid’s bop country CD from my grandma-circa 12 Wish I could have controlled my face a little better both times. I still have an overly transparent face sometimes.

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I think this is kind of the avocado toast from a few years ago. People who can’t afford a starter home aren’t spending this on weddings or rings. The middle-class debt trap looks a lot more like having just enough to cover all your bills and someone gets laid off or your child…

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The middle-class debt trap: • $60,000 car loan • $50,000 wedding loan • $150,000 student loans • $700,000 home mortgage • $20,000 engagement ring loan Society is built on getting you into consumer debt. Break free.

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@Klaus2pt0 @9a It’s been concluded he died in part due to the injuries sustained from the treadmill abuse incident. The medical examiner associated the two it seems from what I’ve read. I am sure he did continue to abuse him after that march 20th incident, but the behavior recorded on camera…

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and sexual health history to limit my parenting time and legal custody). He called our infant ‘retarded’, physically assaulted me for trying to clean and decorate ‘his’ home in ways he didn’t like after we were married and I had moved in, and isolated me from family and friends.

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