yes this is legal which means it already happens. My wife, who’s a Black butch lesbian, and her white butch friend were denied entry to one of the big lesbian gay bars in London last year. Deputizing strangers to police ppl’s gender at the gay bar door is evil and hurts us all
If I opened a lesbian bar in London, that only permits entry to women (no TIMs), would you support it? This is legal. Do you think it would survive or die?
Did you know queer people of all genders are more likely than straights to be in age gap relationships? I wrote this story 8 (!) years ago, long before I met my wife. Fun Eileen Myles quotes in here
oh also I write about gay married life, intergenerational lesbianism, breaking cycles of abuse & more at my 5ub$t
@ck
if you’re interested in those sorts of things
rewatching satc and I’ve realized even more than $2/word I envy Carrie for being able to do a bunch of scandalous personal writing without facing a single social consequence for it
who gave Pamela “trans inclusive language is just as bad as forced birth” Paul the permission to use the word “dyke” in the New York fucking Times? Get our name out of your dirty fucking mouth, you piece of fucking shit!
when most gay movies are still made by straight men, and are bad, picking an acclaimed film by a lesbian, starring lesbians, as an example of a straight gay movie……… lol
To be clear, two middle aged butch lesbians were mistaken for and accused of being men. We had to speak to a manager.
Who should be in charge of the gender police at the door of your gay bar? How do you propose you’ll keep men out? Do you plan on genital inspections? Fuck off
After 7+ years, I’m taking a voluntary buyout from
@BuzzFeedNews
. Today is my last day. I’ll be spending the summer making fun gay jewelry at and exploring freelance writing opportunities — please get in touch!! shannonbethkeating
@gmail
.com
“Cute gay Asian boys” is infantilizing and racist, the bechdel test doesn’t & shouldn’t work that way, and calling Margaret Cho’s wonderful performance as a lesbian mother figure to her queer found family a “drab lesbian stereotype”? Fuck off lol r u serious!!
Recently left my full time job and am angling to turn my jewelry making side hustle into something more. I’m giving away the earrings & necklace in the first pic on my instagram @ shannonbethstudio and would be so so grateful if you checked it out & threw me a like or follow :)
Bazelon insists she was just “following the facts” for her disastrous story, but as this excellent episode makes clear,
@gp_jls
and other trans historians explained the facts of childhood transition to her *extensively* in interviews. She ignored them and made shit up
In our latest, we speak with
@gp_jls
and
@BerlantBro
about Emily Bazelon’s New York Times Magazine cover story “The Battle Over Gender Therapy,” and the many historical inaccuracies and laundered right wing anti-trans talking points within
Me every other day for the past 10 years: I kinda want a baby. But that would probably ruin my life. I kinda want a baby. But that would probably ruin my life. I kinda want a baby. But that would probabl
Biden admin unveiling a commemorative Nancy Reagan stamp, bisexual woman successfully sued for identifying herself as someone of dv experience when bi women are up to 2x as likely to experience sexual violence as straight women. Happy pride month
I’m a survivor of childhood abuse, and one of the most profoundly difficult & painful parts of trying—for years—to turn it into art is how terrified I’ve been about angering or upsetting my family/navigating thorny ethical qs about memoir in general.
Meanwhile, Shia LaBeouf:
Reminds me of a TikTok I saw the other day of an Amazon driver begging ppl not to buy so much awkward heavy shit like dog food and all the comments were like “better you than me!! *clicks add to cart* 💅” the amount of people who don’t see service workers as human is disturbing
🥵🥵🥵Here's Flaco's favorite pose in the heat and humidity of a NYC summer--wings spread wide to allow air to circulate and cool his body. Isn't it incredible that he can sleep standing like this?❤️🦉❤️
#birdcpp
#Flaco
So now that we know Lena Dunham is directing the new polly pocket movie, I’d like to remind everyone that she is exceedingly racist, misogynistic, & sexually abused her younger sister. She’s kept a low profile for a while now but the internet always remembers
Margot Robbie reveals her reaction when Greta Gerwig told her Nicki Minaj and Ice Spice would remix Aqua’s ‘Barbie Girl’ for the
#Barbie
movie:
“Nicki Minaj and Ice Spice. I was like, ‘Together? Are you joking?!’ I just knew immediately that all my girlfriends were going to lose
no gaylor (well kinda) but TS accusing them of sensationalizing and sexualizing her and her female friends makes me think she can only conceive of gayness as like, scandalous and sexual
For
@TheCut
I wrote about Jenny Fran Davis’s DYKETTE, what it means to grow up without meeting arbitrary hetero milestones, and the pleasures & pains of queer domesticity
My first instinct was to be like please no, then I remembered this style was actually so gender affirming for me as a gay 12 yo so actually I embrace its return 😭
This is a beautiful letter from Fiona Apple explaining to her fans why she must postpone a concert date.
I am impressed at the way she was instantly able to make the decision to choose love over her career. Indeed, the world needs more of this.
Enjoy the story...
“It's 6pm
He’s also a giant misogynist. All his critics are “purple haired girls” who aren’t actual gay people (because he only sees gay men as gay, and he also only sees men as people)
"While A+ is a straightforward way to get bonus Autostraddle content, the For Them subscription, in addition to offering discounts and pre-sale access, also advertises "the first gender-tracking app for real time gender evolution using biometric data."" lmao!
Scaremongers and bigots want you to think that tons of kids are getting trans healthcare way too easily. This is the reality: teens being denied care for months and years that could have saved their lives.
I literally don’t get the point of identifying as non-binary if you’re just going to be like “we are all still male and female.” Kinda sounds like you want to keep claiming (white) womanhood for victimhood/supremacy reasons but opt back out when it no longer benefits you
Kylie Jenner denies rumors that she’s hooking up with best friend Stassie Karanikolaou after sharing photo of them kissing back in February:
“When we get a little alcohol in our system, we just like to kiss each other and stuff.”
Been watching a lot of 00s media lately and the scrunchie is often treated as evidence the wearer is hopelessly unhip (most iconically by Carrie in her last fight with Berger). I for one am thankful the cute comfy accessory that is the scrunchie has risen again
My incredible, larger than life Uncle Chris—nearly 7ft tall!—died unexpectedly on New Year’s Eve. Chris was everyone’s biggest champion and such a dear, loving, hilarious person. I’m crushed, especially for his wife and twin boys. If you’re able to help:
“I love fantasy. I’m an emo. I’m a bit of a goth, I guess. This is a dream,” said Jacob Anderson, who plays the reluctant bloodsucker Louis in AMC’s “Interview With the Vampire.”
His worst statement yet, I think. “Shocking and deeply upsetting” does not even BEGIN to cover it. Where is the rage, where is the grief, where is the CULPABILITY!! This was in his own fucking backyard! Mealy mouthed shameful bullshit
It is shocking and deeply upsetting that three young Palestinians were shot here in Burlington, VT. Hate has no place here, or anywhere. I look forward to a full investigation. My thoughts are with them and their families.
A released Palestinian prisoner says in Arabic that Israel held them in the cold w/o electricity, "sprayed us w/ pepper spray" & "left us to die."
She never mentioned Hamas or a word like it. Yet
@BBC
translated to: "No one helped us. Only Hamas cared...We love them very much."
For my first
@guardian
story I spoke to tattoo artists and some of their heavily tattooed clients about how to avoid tattoo regret, which ended up helping me feel more at peace with my own “bad” tattoos
um, feels like ppl really undersold The Lost City to me, and frankly I'm upset. extremely fun and funny rom-com with solid action sequences, a satisfying love story with legit chemistry, and a perfect cast featuring some good old-fashioned Movie Stars
Jennifer Lawrence says she can't do franchises anymore:
“I loved superhero movies. Franchise is art and they’re so fun; I could never do one now because I’m too old & brittle. I love them too. This generation understandably likes a world to escape to, and I can relate to that.”
My newsletter is reborn! I’ll be writing weekly about being an expat in a small town in northern England, big gay feelings, pop culture, mental health, marriage, family, and lots more. Would love for you to follow along 💘
kinda want to have a baby for someone else to raise. I have no parental rights, but I can still visit and hang out with the kid sometimes in the role of like, a loving yet insane lesbian aunt. if youre interested in this arrangement hmu