I wrote a new short story:
"She was angry the things her mother didn’t teach her, because her mother had inherited the vow of silence, the stigma of shame, and although she knew it was unfair, but she hated her a little for never standing up for herself"
Interesting biases to note under this tweet: of course like typical dullards they are, men are accusing her of sleeping with the CEO. But even more interesting is that no-one assumed the CEO might be a woman.
Everywhere I see this video, comments are about her weight and if she’s pregnant. Pls allow women gain weight in peace and be comfortable in their bodies. She doesn’t owe you ppl a tiny waist before or after 3 children.
Men are so incredibly stupidly misogynistic that their first instinct is to find it incredulous that a man can be inspired to work harder by a woman who is better at her craft than any man or woman alive. This is why men struggle to read female authors or learn from women.
My son asked me for a younger sibling. I said whats the point even if I started today you'll be 7 years older than the child, you can't even do anything together. Why this boy got in my face talmbout "BUT I DO THINGS WITH YOU ALL THE TIME AND YOU ARE SO MUCH OLDER THAN ME"
I've never been attracted to any one my friends are with/dating. Once you introduce me to your person, they become another piece of furniture in the room.
Beautiful dark skinned babies are not punishment. Also, too many dark skinned kids have shared their trauma of growing up in colorist families and being made to feel less than, for this to incite any kind of glee.
Childbirth is dangerous. Nothing ever goes back to normal. Many near death things occur. We need to stop downplaying it. I still have pelvic girdle pain, and people are telling me “its not fair” to not give my child a sibling. This shop is CLOSED.
My driver is so irritatingly dramatic. Instead of saying "please we need to buy fuel", he will send me a message like "after today, the car cannot move again." I keep telling him just send me direct messages but he seems to enjoy his flair for melodrama.
Lol a popular creator just announced that her marriage ended and their (2) kids now live with their dad. “He wanted them, and I still see them”. All the comments are full of shock/judgement that the children live with the dad. Lol normalize dads being primary caregivers.
Piers Morgan and Meghan Markle is a macroscopic look at what happens when you reject a man who is so angered by that rejection he uses everything in his power to obsessively try to discredit you. Now, think of the many men that do this to women, daily, on a micro scale.
The funniest thing about Lori Harvey is no matter who the guy is; toxic gangsta rapper o, A list actor oh, playboy reputation o; once they start dating her small, they can’t WAIT to show her off and publicly claim her 😂😂😂😂
America is trash. Just look at this headline. This man has a wife with stage 4 cancer, left his kids with the neighbor babysitting (who has babysat before), neighbor left the kids unattended, and they are trying to charge him with child abuse. Fuck this headline & picture!
Damn she wanted God to strike down any weapon formed against her, and God struck down the marriage. I hope she’s able to move on and heal from this man.
In American universities, your professors will call you and ask why you are struggling with their class and might even give you extra credit work on the side to improve your grades. In Nigerian universities, professors brag that no-one will be able to pass their class.
Just be with someone who treats you gently. Who likes you. Who has no motivation to ever be cruel or treat you with no regard even when you no longer feel the same way about each other. Most important, someone that feels like a friend.
Today alone on the news:
- Women in Afghanistan have finally been granted the right to be included on their children’s birth certificate.
- Married women in Botswana finally gained the right to own land.
Today. In 2020.
Today I woke up at 5.30 to run, sat on the sofa to put on my sneakers, and woke up 2 hours later on said sofa with one sneaker on. We live to try another day.
I can always admit when I am wrong, but I will never accept responsibility for something I didn't do. I work hard at being/staying self-aware, but I won't be projected onto. You cannot call me by any name other than my own.
Don't ever let anyone convince you that you are who they say you are. That's how people try to control you, by controlling your narrative. It's also a way people try to put you down & keep you in check.
I want women to divest themselves from feeling embarrassed at the ending of a relationship, esp when they loved their partner enthusiastically, publicly, out loud. That a relationship failed, doesn't mean you did. If we embrace failure more, we may learn to internalize it less.
The only reason people say stupid shit like this is because we are highly sensitized to men being in any kind of distress and very desensitized to women’s pain. Rape alters a woman’s life forever but is never taken seriously.
Wow, Michaela Coel wrote 191 drafts of "I may destroy you" before settling on 12 episodes. Beyoncé rehearsed 8 months for coachella. Serena Williams plays tennis 3 hrs daily then spends another 2 hrs training in the gym. I guess what I'm saying is, excellence is by practice.
Please stop telling women with one child that its “not fair” that their child has no sibling. You don’t even know if the person is having difficulty conceiving another child. Not wanting a second one is also a good enough reason. Children aren’t toys or playthings for siblings.
Watching Cardi B melt down publicly every time Offset dogs her out is honestly so sad. I wish her the strength to get off this toxic rollercoaster. No matter what the good times feel like, this isn’t worth it.
I really like kind people. Not nice people, cos niceness can be faked and often strikes me as insincere and self flagellatory anyway. But innate kindness that just radiates from a person, even one who doesn't seem 'soft'.
Dying a sex worker and single mom is incomparable to being a thief, woman beater and drug addict. Even in these seemingly innocuous encouraging messages, we show how we think about women who dont adhere society’s rules of sexual morality
If Maya Angelou died when she was 20, she would've died a prostitute & single mom. If Malcolm X died when he was 20, he would've died as Detroit Red, a thief, a woman beater & drug addict. People's mistakes often lead to their great destiny. We all have a story to tell.
Let Kanye West’s behavior serve as a reminder that whenever you are with/supporting a man who makes it his mission to bad mouth/disparage/publicly embarrass his exes, that you are sitting on a ticking time bomb and no matter how 😍 he is, one day it will also be your turn.
The point of appropriation is adopting something and using it for something other than in the way its unintended to the culture or offensive to the culture.
Wearing a Sari at your Indian friends traditional Indian wedding ✅
Wearing a sari as a halloween costume ❌
Piers Morgan is doing to Meghan what millions of women experience - stalking/harrassing/ hating her because he didn’t feel wanted by her. It’s so sick that he can do it under the guise of his platform. This obsession is unhealthy.
Reject any friendship dynamic that requires you to constantly make all the sacrifices or the compromises. If there’s only room for validating one person’s feelings over yours, there isn’t room for you in that friendship.
My yearly reminder that if you’re about to have a baby for a man you aren’t married to, please give your child YOUR last name. If you’re having a baby for a deadbeat thats ghosted or isn’t involved, pls leave his name off the birth certificate. Your life will be SO much easier.
Sick of the female body; hormonal imbalance, periods, mood swings, vaginal imbalances, BV, thrush, pregnancy, cysts, pms, all sorts of shit always going on. I swear women have like 4-5 normal days a month.
What is the excuse now? She was in a CHURCH. Women get brutalized, raped and killed while reading in CHURCH. This is a societal sickness! Don’t ever let me hear you say shit to justify or exuse rape! I’m so sorry Uwa, you didn’t deserve this.
#JusticeForUwa
Men place their self worth in financial prosperity, and when a man does not have money, he sentences everyone around him to purgatory and pushes away any love because he cannot believe there is anything to love about him.
No matter how thick your skin is or how strong you are, hearing even tiny negative things disguised as ��jokes’, insults etc can still bury itself in your psyche and chip at you little by little without you realizing it. Try to sweep those little mines out of your life.
My unpopular opinion is that I don't really believe in 'trying' when it comes to relationships. I just don't want to work hard at something I believe should come naturally. I don't have to 'try' to be friends with people I love, why do I have to 'try' to love someone?
I'm envious of people who are this expressive. Most you will get out of me is probably a smile. I'm just not a dramatic person at all, people probably think i dont care when I do.
That part in the Surviving RKelly doc where they talk about how Aaliyah was everyones baby and the whole team was so protective of her, and the day the rkellys room door swung open by accident and they all saw him f*cking her & everyone was silent, haunted me for a long time.
Paul Graham’s tweets today highlight the implicit bias foreign students face a lot with white teachers and professors. They already think you’re cheating half the time just cos you’re smart, now you’ll say ‘delve’ and ‘unlock’ and they will say you’re using chatGPT to write.
I’m big on self preservation, i don’t put myself in any unsafe spaces or uncomfortable situations. I don’t need ‘enemies’ to see my success or to prove anything to anyone. If i don’t care for you, i don’t want to see you, speak to you or allow you access to me in any way.
Men think they are so special when they partake in parenting, or even when they may be primary caretakers. Because by default, they think it is a mother's job and they haven't unlearned that.
Someone said “peoples vacations probably look better on IG than in real life” and I said dont do that baby. People are living fabulous lives and having a fabulous time and that’s okay 🤣 some people’s vacays are even better than what they’re posting.
Kaz was busy explaining to Tobi how she wants more cuddles, affection etc, man was saying he hasnt been in a relationship he doesnt know what he's doing. Now look at him with Chloe. Everyone knows what to do when they are into someone, stop wasting your time people.
I find it really hard sometimes to quit or let go of things, but once I really make up my mind, my execution is flawless. The problem lies in the gap between wanting to and actually really deciding to.
Don’t let people love you in secret. That goes for both lovers and friends. If anyone, for any reason, needs to hide from other people that they are cool with you/ like you/ love you, that relationship will never serve you and you will be gaslighting yourself.
I'm amazed at the mini ecosystem Lekki protest has built on its own. There are people taking it on themselves to organize parking & traffic flow. People organizing food distribution. People staying in orderly lines. People sharing protest placards. People cleaning up.
#EndSARS
I hate when people think the only way to be truthful is to be blunt, harsh or rude. You can be truthful and still hold space for someone else’s feelings, carefully consider the words you choose and be intentional about delivery. You can be truthful and an asshole.
I can’t believe they try to sell women on our 20s being our best years on the premise of youth/looks. I’m sorry but being older, more self assured, less willing to take nonsense, more purposeful and richer >>>>>>>>>>
If a person bashes their ex. They will bash you too. If a person trashes their friends. They trash you too. If a person tells you what they do for others. They tell others what they do for you. An effective way to navigate dealings w/ppl is to never assume you’re the exception.
Lagos nightlife caters exclusively to yahoo boys. There is almost nowhere left where you can walk up to the bar and just order a damn drink, its over inflated bottles or nothing.
Women need to stop letting “30” take center stage in their life. It’s a sexist benchmark of the start of our expiry that we have accepted as fact. Scrambling to do things ‘before 30’ or celebrating that something occured ‘before 30’ like 30 is the death of all hopes and dreams.