Me: “All you’re really good for is money. I don’t need you for anything else so if you’re not sending it tell me let me know”.
My dad: ok.
.............
2hours later
Daddy: I’ve sent it.
Me: thanks.
I’m about to write a thread that’s basically home. Please let it heal
I was neck deep in the trenches of a situationship a few years ago and my best girl said “why do you continue to stay?”
Me: I like him so much.
Her: “I think you stay because you think he’s too good for you. It’s almost like you don’t believe your luck that he could like you
Ladies reply with some of the reasons you stopped talking to a man.
But some people consider petty.
I’ll start- one time a Man called me and I was sorting out laundry to give my guy who washes for me.
He said: you mean you don’t wash clothes?
I never spoke to him again please
If somebody asks you out on a date, you cannot be the one constantly checking up on them and asking them time.
Watch Netflix at home and drink caprisun.
I remember when my dad died & one year had passed.
I updated my status saying happy birthday and someone sent me a message asking me how long until I’m over my dad dying and if it wasn’t ok by now.
I never spoke to her again.
Lesson?
It’s not your business how long grief takes
You’ll grow up in a house where you were consistently yelled at, become an adult who yells at the slightest thing because you don’t see it as an issue.
Then decide to date other adults from different upbringings than yours and wonder why they don’t want you to yell at them.
Lmaoooooooooooo you don’t have to Mark anything with man that respects you and has discipline.
He will be marking himself as your territory by himself.
My friend is getting married in three weeks and while I cannot release the podcast episode yet, I need you people to remember that when men want you?
They unlearn and learn to keep you.
If you’re convincing somebody’s child to keep you, please come outside.❤️
Lmaoooooooooooo this thing I want to say now, plenty of you will not like it o.
But I promise you it’s not coming from a place of spite.
As a babe, take yourself out to that restaurant and eat the 30k pasta you want.
Pay 50k for the sushi and drinks.
Use your own money.
I see why people have partners tbvh.
There’s a way life will be hard and frustrating that you really just need somebody to hold you.
Sometimes you’ll need to cry very intense tears next to someone who cares about your existence.
It makes complete sense.
At 18 I was standing outside faculty of science in Legon waiting for my friend.
My cgpa wasn’t high enough to get into Nutrition + Food Science so I was given Botany.
A man walked up to me and said “I’ve been seeing you around the faculty and I wanted to talk to you”
(1/3)
Lmaoooooooooooo this thing I want to say now will annoy some of you but ess ok.
A man invites you over the first time, you enter the house and see it’s a pigsty.
You book an Uber and go stand outside till it comes. (1/3)
My point?
He does not like you.
Men are not as indecisive about their emotions and need to commit to you.
Nobody who genuinely wants you and likes you as human being will want you to guess your importance.
You are better off counting the sand in the Atlantic Ocean
Some of you are actually very stupid and there’s nobody to tell you.
12k?
That’s why he’s recording her?
She even also said she’ll pay but just needs to charge her phone.
Why is this a video?
Again, some of you are very stupid and there’s nobody to tell you.
I love love and I’m a complete romantic but nobody will ever hold me hostage to my emotions for them.
I don’t care if I have to drool as I’m crying, roll in the mud, be blinded from my own tears, not get out of bed for weeks, I will get over you.
Lmaoooooooooooo the best types of men.
They’ll force you to send out that application, if you like convulse whilst doing it.
But you must reach for everything you’re capable of.
Love it so much.
Society has taught women that relationships are about them.
That men don’t deserve any form of romance, love, etc because they should be focused on just them.
It’s not hard to see why a lot of them go into relationships entitled and why a lot of men die on the hill of hard guy.
I LOVE it when neurodivergent people are aware of how they function and find partners that not just understand.
But know if they are also neurodivergent.
I’ve said this thing before but PLEASE check.
This has ended marriages.
Some don’t even know it’s Neurodivergence.
What you don’t see is that you’re the one who is too good for him. This man does not deserve you.
When you see this, it’ll be impossible not to leave.
Until then, I’m here when you need to rant.
Me:………..
This person treated me so bad😂
My goodness
You must be able to smell suffering from a mile away and cut it immediately.
Next thing I’ll be having conversations about why I didn’t go to market myself.
Please and abeg.
Nancy Isime’s acting has gotten so much better and I’m really proud because my eye used to pain me to watch her.
I’m glad she took the criticism and did the work.
Like I was so impressed by this her role in blood sisters.
She did good❤️
I need you to know that it’s not that difficult for a man who actually likes you to commit, to be there for you, to want you, to tell you and to love you.
It’s not.
He does not like you.
You’re the one who doesn’t rate yourself above the need for his affection.
Please leave.
I feel like people who pretend that they don’t know this thing are intentionally dishonest.
Marriage might not hinder her career; strongly dependent on the who.
but having kids?
Lol
Especially if you’re pursuing a career in the corporate world.
Let’s not lie, let’s not steal.
You don’t negotiate the reason that apartment is dirty, you don’t help clean it, you just go home and you carry on with life.
Regardless of age.
If a man has respect for your presence and he’s a clean individual, you will never walk into a dirty house.
Never.
(2/3)
Dear Nigerian men,
If you’re going to ask a woman out on a date.
“Mind chilling at, let’s hang, we could chill at, etc.”
Are not how to do it. It communicates the consistent noncommittal BS that is tiring.
That’s probably why she’s losing interest after you indicate meeting.
I just want to use this video to remind those of you that are still begging for ‘someone you’re with’ to hold you that THERE IS LOVE OUTSIDE.
Or begging your ‘partner’ to spend time with you and tell you how they feel.
You better join me outside because we’re all single❤️
Lmaoooooooooo you people can be so dishonest.
God forbid.
Everybody wants to act like they’re the only one with a life, be irresponsible in relationships, treat people like shit and it should be ok because “you must understand.”
“I have a long day but I miss you.”
Takes 1min
You’re convenient and you fit right where he wants you to.
You’re not special, you just fit and it works for his right now.
You’re not going to convince anybody’s child to want more when they don’t want you.
Unless a situation is 100% what you want to too, leave.
❤️ & 💡
That thing she said felt like a bloody slap. My sis might as well have used her hands to beat me.
I never forgot it.
Let me tell you that when I finally saw this situation for what it was, even my father couldn’t rise from the dead to keep me there.
I’d rather perish.
“I think I’ve found your birthday gift for next year.”
Lmaoooooooooooo but Nkechi is somewhere begging Femi to please remember to call her on her birthday after 2 years of being together.
God please set your children free.
I don’t think Pere Egbi is a bad actor.
But Animu?
Was Ayoola.
It was Everything about Ayoola.
The arrogance of the character was really ‘arrogancing.’
Lool.
It was everything.
Never assume anybody wants anything more than friendship if they cannot say it to you.
If you begin to catch feelings or feel like it’s a lot of closeness ASK THEM DIRECTLY.
What do you want?
What are we doing?
Are we building a friendship or more?
Audacity saves emotions.
I have a theory that if you work hard for money and you are responsible for other people with your income, you’ll have more value for money that people dash you.
Even if it’s money you can make in less than an hour.
Test or not you’ll generally appreciate it more.
Chew jeans, count the sand in the Atlantic Ocean, swim to Antarctica even.
Just remove yourself from interactions that will increase the money you need to spend in therapy.
I guarantee you it’s not worth it.
Not therapy though lol, the man you want to die ontop.
This is why when men start doing “I’ve been so busy that’s why I cannot call.”
Don’t bother to ask about you or how you’re doing, need to be reminded to reach out, etc etc.
YOU LEAVE THEM ALONE.
It’ll be hard but you’re better off crying that you left him alone than staying
Maybe if you people dated men who are CLEAN individuals & have respect for your presence in their space, we’ll know where we’re going.
No matter how much you ‘like’ a man, cleanliness is not a negotiable.
You go home, shower, & watch Netflix.
There should not be a second time.
Man you want: Yeah I’ll never do that. I don’t get why I need to do all that one to show you I care.
Frank: I remembered you like flowers and I saw these pink roses, they reminded me of you.
Man you want: good luck with that.
Frank: Have you applied?
I found some schools too
Because it is better to be single than pick someone who will ruin your life & all the progress you’ve made.
What is the point of staying single only to end up in a situationship, with an emotional vampire or with someone that considers u as a cure to boredom?
There’s Netflix
@Kokoleo_zn
Lmaoooooo a voice note played by mistake while his phone was connected with the aux chord.
It was of a girl asking him why he’s lying about coming to see her and using her emotions when he was really around because he came to see his gf (me).
He said it was a skit for a song.
Dear 20 something when the lights go off at night and you get into bed ready to soak in the pool of your own tears.
Remember, you weren’t supposed to have it all figured out by now.
Remember it’s perfectly ok to answer
“I’m figuring stuff out as I go” when you’re asked.
I don’t think it’s right to insult how somebody’s partner looks when it’s not you they are loving.
Half the time it’s the people who have nobody loving them or trying to that think other people can do better.
Yet you’re drastically single.
Nobody is even asking if you woke up
Incase you’re wondering;
I went back to the office the next day to say thank you & I wailed.
That’s when I noticed his name.
He said something in him had been telling him I needed his help but every time he came out, I was gone.
So he’s happy
He wrote a note for my friend too
I’m tired of this thing because over and over and over again women will see this and eventually help clean that space or go on to date the person.
It is not ‘a red flag.’
It’s a bloody signboard.
Vet Romantic partners like you’re serious about your choice, I’m begging.
Nobody is ever going to love you the way that Jesus does.
Nobody.
I promise.
The people who understand that kind of love can only mirror it. But nobody is ever going to love you like him.
“I will be embarking on a 150-hours cookathon next month and it will be duely registered with the Guinness World Records” — Chef Dammy
🎥:
@nigeriantribune
I can’t explain how heartbreaking it is that I’ll never get a text like this again in my life.
Loooooooooool when I first got into Uni, my dad would call me everyday because it was a new country and sent me “monthly” pocket money every two weeks😂
“Don’t tell your mother o”
I don't think you people understand that forgetting someone's birthday that is supposed to be important to you IS NOT OK.
There are many things you should forget but one day every year?
Surely you can set a reminder & care enough to call or text at the beginning of their day FGS
So seriously o.
If you’re fine and you’re single.
Start saying it.
Not for banter dear.
Seriously put yourself out there.
“I’m single and I’m open to meeting people. Or I’m single o.”
Lmaoooooooooooo!
Sha say it so people will not be avoiding you.
Tbvh I do not like periods.
I hate how your entire week can be slowed down by this thing.
I’ve had a migraine since Tuesday night Fgs and now I can barely have my eyes open without feeling pain.
After 3 days it’ll be like nothing happened but you’re after my life?
I’m tired
One day somebody is going to show up & be more than you asked for in different ways, but they’ll still be everything you wanted.
There will come a time where you decide if you do what you normally do, or you fight for them even though you’re both not perfect.
I hope you fight.
Loooool saw that tweet yesterday and logged out.
When a person dates you, they date all the versions of you.
Past, present, ‘in process’ & future.Your past is not a separate person, it is u.
You take away their choice when u don’t tell them.
SELECTIVE HONESTY IS STILL LYING.
But you’re not the problem though.
It is your partner that says they’d prefer you do not shout at them that is the issue.
God forbid you accept that your inability to self regulate is a problem.
You’ll then go on to be with a person who yells too and raise children like you.
27.
Happy birthday my best girl. You’ve come really far and you’re doing really well.
Abba is incredibly proud of who you are.
Try dey relaz.
You’re the best gift I could ask for and I love you.❤️
There are really no coincidences in life.
Needed to go out last night because migraine has rendered me a vampire.
I realized that my car just won’t start.
Tried to get battery from my neighbors but nobody was available.
Ended up booking a bolt and waited for him to get to me.
One day we will have this conversation of how most of u take no time to actually have knowledge in anything else.
Conversation is flat, u can’t stimulate someone mentally, you don’t know how to engage, but let’s keep pretending that speaking in tongues makes up for these things.
If they do, we mourn & then find new favorite people.❤️
Life wasn’t meant to be spent in a constant state of gloom.
People will come & go.
Mourn when they go then love again.
Save emotional real estate for the ones that stay.
Don’t scare them away with your refusal to love
I want soft love.
All this terminator thing you people do, I can’t do eeet.
Life is already too hard nau.
Y’all are not tired?
I’m so tired from life that if the love is giving terminator vibes I’ll actually run away.
Are you people not exhausted?
Kenny.
I met Kenny a few years ago. I had just moved back home from Accra and found a gym I could call home.
Kenny at the time was going to this same gym.
This story is about someone who eventually became my friend.
I hope that it encourages someone.
Me: *stares in I really need to go *
Her: * The bearer of this letter should be given full access to Nutrition + Food Science department as she’s shown great commitment and zeal. She’s my top recommendation.
Thank you.
Signed: Assistant Dean Faculty Of Science *
Me: 😨😨
LMAO when you get this answer you better unplug your emotions.
If you choose to continue to engage, remove your emotions from it and start going on dates with other people.
He’s telling you I don’t want a relationship with you.
It’s just intelligently packaged situationship.
What do you want us to be? Because I know I honestly enjoy your company and friendship and I want us to build on that but with time.
I don't want to rush into giving us a tag when we could easily just enjoy every moment without unnecessary drama.
I want you in my corner always
I had a dream that was so instructive.
Most you of you will seek to go into romantic relationships in 2021.
For a lot of you, you will get what you want but it’ll be cloaked.
Do not be carried away by what you see as “cute, sweet” because you will miss what is important.
Looooooooooool i think it’s mad hilarious how after all this rubbish so many of you are doing towards Tunde and Alma, you’ll come and do “bE kInD”
I pray they keep loving each other loudly. Because he does charity work he shouldn’t love and be loved?
Mschew rubbish
LMAOOO!
I need you people to know that Men who actually love you ask things like “what’s the highest point you see yourself going with your career?”
Then proceed to help you get there.
They support you unwaveringly.
They don’t ask you to give up advancement for them.
You won't believe what this girl's boyfriend asked her to do! Just when she thought life was going perfectly - a scholarship abroad, opportunities of a lifetime - love knocked on her door.
Now, imagine having your dreams within reach, only to have someone you love ask you to…
It’s not your business how people handle learning to live with it.
If you have no important and useful words to offer them, shut up.
Your silence works just fine.
When you pick a person, you pick how they were raised.
If they were not raised on kindness, you pick that.
If they were raised on dismissive affection, you pick that too.
Trust that it will show in the way they are with you.
Remember this as you choose your people.
You see thoughtfulness?
Being consistent with your presence and spending timeeeeeee even if it’s in silence?
Making plans for me and us because you know I love so so things.
Buying me gifts based off of oh you noticed I like etc
Lol my cold heart will melt.
The cycle continues.
When it doesn’t need to if you’d only see that there are better ways to address stuff instead of shouting.
You may not have an issue with it because of how you were raised, but not everybody was raised being yelled out.
Not everybody will stay for it.
The police has followed us to GANA STREET IN MAITAMA!
POURING WATER, TRYING TO BEAT US.
We’re parked infront of a Supermarket in Maitama.
DO NOT STOP THIS PROTEST!
YOUR COUNTRY HAS DONE NOTHING AND THIS IS A FOKKEN LIE!
#EndSARS
Do you know what it feels like to have a partner that you can text and go “I’m craving attention!! Answer me😭😭😭”
And they laugh and call you? Apologize for not answering early?
And tell you “I’m here boo, crave all the attention”
You think it’s impossible
At some point, a lot of you need to understand that what you’re really craving is intimacy, not sex.
You also need to understand the intimacy you crave will not come from removing cloth and putting it back on.
This.
I pray everybody finds it.
A heart that considers you and can put all your differences and disagreements aside when they know you need them and or struggling.
One that loves you with kindness as their being not as a feeling.
It’s one of the most beautiful things ever
I’m the type that panics whenever it rains at the night. I never sleep alone when it rains even before i got married and he knows. So we had a fight that day and went to sleep in separate rooms. I believed i was the victim so I didn’t want to apologize lol, plus i was so scared
For man that I love?
If I’m even thirsty and can’t stand up to get water, I go tell am.
“Babe see now I’m thirsty and it’s far”
Him: aww babe so sorry.
There’s nobody in your house to help?
Ehen!
Dahz what I’m looking for😌
I don’t owe money because I don’t typically borrow money. Unless it’s a I’m actually dying situation.
Once I borrow that money I can barely sleep well till it’s paid off.
This is why I will NEVER understand people that owe you money and “forget.”
How?
How do you forget?!
HOW?!
Please o, do you people get serious muscle pain all over your body but especially in your legs during your periods ?
Like I can almost not walk, it’s the power of God that’s holding me now 😭😭
And I’ve never had this symptom before.
I’m going to need volunteers in ABUJA for tomorrow to pick up and share snacks and drinks for our family members protesting.
As of right now all of us are related.
Your transport will be covered please.
Send me a DM.
Thank you.
#AbujaProtests
#SARSMUSTENDNOW