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Semi-public quasi-intellectual. Author of several books. Host @TheUnspeakPod . Co-host @specialplacepod . Founder @TheUnspeakeasy . Opinions might be your own.

Los Angeles - New York City
Joined April 2010
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6 years
Twitter: where personality disorders become careers.
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4 years
Seeing "Dr. Ford" trending reminds me anew of how much I hate when PhDs who are not medical doctors want to be addressed as "Dr." It undermines authority rather than underscores it. That goes for you, too, Dr. Jill Biden.
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Apparently not.
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Increasingly pissed abt this story. Teen makes poor choice, another teen weaponizes social media in revenge. Then NYT comes along and pours on gasoline in the name of "reckoning." Perfect encapsulation of the “no adults in the room” dynamic of the moment.
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2 years
FAIR is the new ACLU.
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Foundation Against Intolerance & Racism (FAIR)
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On January 20, 2022, FAIR filed a federal lawsuit to stop New York City from enforcing its unconstitutional order prioritizing Covid-19 treatments based on racial categorization and ethnicity.
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Beginning to think the world is divided between those who can spot Narcissistic Borderline Personality types from miles away and those who've never had reason to develop that ability.
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4 years
The SNL sketch of this is being written in real time. #TrumpPressConference
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6 years
If we're going to talk about #ToxicMasculinity we must recognize the existence of Toxic Femininity. Then get rid of both of these stupid terms and go about the business of being human. My latest for @medium .
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“And though sex differences in sports show advantages for men, researchers today still don’t know how much of this to attribute to biological difference versus the lack of support provided to women athletes to reach their highest potential.”
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6 years
In case anyone's been wondering what I've been doing for the last three years.
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2 years
My podcast is small enough that I think I could take it off Spotify as a publicity move, gain some listeners, and then put it back on without anyone really noticing.
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"If it were possible to wave a magic wand and make all Americans freeze in place for 14 days while sitting six feet apart, epidemiologists say, the whole epidemic would sputter to a halt."
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2 years
Apparently some people think I wrote this article. Which is hilarious if you know anything about my work.
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4 years
Seeing predictable pushback to this along the lines of "lol all these people with large platforms complaining abt censorship boo hoo." Actually, it's the DUTY of people with large platforms to use their reach to stand up to the nonsense and talk honestly about what's going on.
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Harper's Magazine
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A statement signed by 150 people incl. Bill T. Jones, Wynton Marsalis, Jennifer Finney Boylan, Noam Chomsky, J.K. Rowling, Margaret Atwood, and Salman Rushdie expresses concern over the illiberal trend intensified by our national reckoning.
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Glad he said it and will add that many of us have been saying all this and more--with EXTREME care, compassion, and precision--for a long time. @LisaSelinDavis @HJoyceGender @kittypurrzog @Aaron_GDAC @widerlenspod @sullydish @jessesingal @lacroicsz @HormoneHangover @BuckAngel
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Bill Maher
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If this spike in trans children is all biological, why is it regional? Either Ohio is shaming them or California is creating them.
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This may be the finest distillation of our current intellectual crisis that I've yet read or heard.
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I'll be happy to see #Biden honor his promise to pick a female running mate (if he gets that far). I'd have been even happier if he’d said “I’ll choose the most qualified person” and THEN picked a woman. Instead, he set her up to be seen less as a solid choice than a checked box.
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@bariweiss Because "my anecdotal evidence" doesn't sound as good.
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Just read the Emily Gould piece and all I can say is that this platform is filled with tin-eared prigs who've had very little contact with actual writing. The piece is wryly deadpan and draws from a venerable literary tradition that's hard to get right but is transportive when it
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Am I the only one actively avoiding coverage of Kamala Harris because I know it's going to be banality after banality? I can't even fathom an original take at this point.
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One of the most wonderful things about this particular window of this time of the year is that you can say "have a great holiday" and it also means "don't communicate with me any further for the next several weeks."
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Tuned into local NPR for first time in ages, thinking maybe I'd been judging unfairly. Immediately heard announcement saying they'd be marking 9/11 anniversary with a special series about policing.
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"She's cool, but her body count is a dealbreaker," said no Gen Xer ever.
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5 years
This sort of distorted logic -- and worse, the masses otherwise-reasonable people so eager to jump onboard -- feeds my suspicion that we're about to enter a new version of Satanic preschool panic. The last one didn't end well.
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You guys do realize that calling everyone “groomers” is just as meaningless and unserious as calling everyone “TERFs,” right?
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Meghan Daum
5 years
Incredibly gifted writer (I just taught her work to my grad students). Mostly incoherent piece. Even gifted writers can be incoherent—regularly! I remember a time when editors saved us from ourselves—regularly! What happened here?
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I spent the last five days driving across the country, not taking in any news and listening only to podcasts that had nothing to do with politics or the culture wars. It felt amazing.
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Meghan Daum
4 years
The word "power" is one of those words -- like "harm" -- that increasingly means anything you want it to mean.
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Ezra Klein
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A lot of debates that sell themselves as being about free speech are actually about power. And there's *a lot* of power in being able to claim, and hold, the mantle of free speech defender.
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Literally shaking as I announce the news that @SarahTheHaider and I just started a podcast. It's called A SPECIAL PLACE IN HELL and it's just for you.
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" . . . Antifa is a marginal non-organization with next to no political power or popular support . . . [But it] will come to symbolize the left and everything that is wrong with it." Smart and true take from @kittypurrzog .
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I can't believe this is still going on. The misrepresentation and (willful?) misinterpretation of the Google Memo remains one of the most egregious examples of media malpractice in recent memory. And that's saying a lot.
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I have mixed feelings about this article, not least of all the assumption that there's an agreed-upon definition of "bad, conservative or offensive opinions." But @BridgetPhetasy 's quote says it all: “They can’t cancel you if you don’t care."
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Meghan Daum
6 years
I sincerely think there are many good points here. But #KillAllMen is not "another way of saying 'it would be nice if the world sucked less for women.'" It's another way of saying "I have no intellectual imagination and I'm a Twitter dopamine junkie."
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Bill Cosby liked to be addressed as "Dr. Cosby."
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Headline makes this sound like a generic tell-all, but it's a dazzlingly trenchant and hilarious look at both a specific situation and the larger milieu that bred it. This kind of piece gives me hope for the thinking world. @theorygurl , I shake your hand.
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4 years
"Mixed reviews" is code for "just about everyone sees this as perfectly rational except for certain corners of Twitter and Twitter-reverberant media."
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I was warned by some well meaning and protective friends not to write about #JussieSmollett . Glad I didn't listen.
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7 years
Not going down this rabbit hole, but I read the memo and "slams" isn't the word I'd use.
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NPR
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Google Grapples With Fallout After Employee Slams Diversity Efforts
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Can we please stop this?
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New York Times Opinion
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Men, we may not be Harvey Weinstein or Bill Cosby, but we are collectively complicit with a sexist mind-set rooted in the same toxic culture from which these men emerged. #IamSexist
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This is moving. And legit brave. Now we need to bring @amyschumer home, too.
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lmao everyone welcome @SarahKSilverman to our #PoliticallyHomeless party!
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Superb piece by @benappel , who elucidates a point that should be painfully and terrifyingly obvious but has nonetheless evaded much notice.
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4 years
Going through old @latimesopinion columns and struck by the freedom, the whimsy, the lack of self-consciousness. Ten yrs ago I was saying much the same stuff I do now, but without the hedging and sanitizing (ty, editors). My god, how did we all become so paranoid and constipated?
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Meghan Daum
6 years
I believe Christine Blasey Ford. I also believe the #BelieveWomen #BelieveSurvivors tropes are hollow, counterproductive and actually insulting to her and to the fundamental humanity of all women.
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I miss the culture wars. It was such a peaceful time.
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Meghan Daum
6 years
in this thread, literalist loons on the right join hands with literalist loons on the left and live happily ever after in Missing The Point Land. Sounds like a premise for a Stephen King novel.
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Stephen King
6 years
John McCain's finest moment (for me) came in 2008, when a woman at a rally referred to Obama as an Arab. "No, ma'am," McCain replied. "He's a decent family man, a citizen that I just happen to have disagreements with." That's manning up.
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Senator, you already have this crowd. Please stop taking tweet direction from whoever's telling you to do this.
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Kirsten Gillibrand
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Our future is: Female Intersectional Powered by our belief in one another. And we’re just getting started.
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The teen who accused her is now being dragged all over social media (and beyond) in incredibly ugly, often racist, ways. An entirely predictable (make that GUARANTEED) outcome that the NYT surely knew would occur. What's the end game here?
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Was intrigued when NYT came to me asking if I'd interview a "conservative therapist." I found Dea Bridge to be insightful, reasonable and very good with boundaries. Is that "conservative?" Should politics enter into therapy at all? Much to think abt here.
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Sure, go ahead and co-opt the title of a project that taught a generation of kids that gender stereotypes were limiting and silly and that they were fine just as they were. Good for you. Go, you! Also . . . f*ck you.
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By the way, the reason I'm not afraid of being canceled (or worse!) is because this is my dog.
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People saying he's "bowing down to the mob:" He's not. He's issuing a correction. There's a difference.
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I fucked up on the podcast with Douglas Murray and said that people got arrested lighting fires in Portland. That turns out to not be true. I was very irresponsible not looking into it before I repeated it. I read one story about a guy getting arrested for lighting fires...
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And now for something completely different (if tangentially related): I've been teaching this @MichaelWolffNYC piece for years. It remains among the finest examples of rigorously honest personal essay writing I've seen.
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Is this making your head explode? @SarahTheHaider and I recorded a new episode of A SPECIAL PLACE IN HELL last night and discussed it at length. Will get it edited up and up for you asap.
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The Problem With Jon Stewart
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What is a woman? It’s a question that’s suddenly everywhere, and it turns out the answer is complicated. Jon breaks down the gender binary and gender spectrum in this week’s episode. Stream the free episode now on Apple TV+.
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So glad to see @powellnyt cover this controversy. I caught a screening of the film this summer and have been scratching my head about its supposed problematic-ness ever since. The zombie pile-on has been shocking even by the usual zombie pile-on standards.
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The vitriol being directed at Hillbilly Elegy is starting to make me secretly hope I'll like the film.
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Nothing like reading a review of a comedy show in which all but one sentence is about how terrible, unfunny and horrifically offensive the jokes are. The remaining sentence: "Every person around me was in hysterics over every single one of his bits."
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Snapped this on my walk last evening. No filter. For me, Los Angeles has never been about the weather. It's the light. Even as it gets hotter and harder to live here, the magic hour remains.
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Imagine a world where this story could be reported without the platitudinous wage gap statistic thrown in like a catechism?
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The New York Times
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Single women own and occupy more homes than single men in the U.S., despite earning only about 83 cents for every dollar that men earn, according to a new study. Here's a look at where the ownership gap is greatest and smallest across the country:
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The number of people not getting that this is very obviously satire shows just how fraught this issue remains. The best part is that it's poking fun at the "you're selfish if you don't have kids" crowd as well as the "rah rah childfree my life's a vacation" crowd. I love it.
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That's not what that "idea" is about. No serious person has ever said it's about ability.
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NPR
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New research finds that young girls and boys have "indistinguishable" math abilities — contradicting the idea that men largely dominate STEM fields because their brains are wired that way.
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Happy birthday to @CaitlinPacific , one of the greatest essayists of our time (and by "our time" I mean a long, long time). Read this and then see to it that you've read everything else by her. And pay attention.
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As riveting as this is I actually had to take a break when it got to the part where Amy Cooper reads from the obscenely cruel messages she received from strangers. We live in a world of so much misplaced anger and lazy thinking. A destructive combination.
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Had an Uber driver last night who informed me that there was no evidence that any babies had been killed by Hamas and that if I wanted to know the truth I should listen to NPR and Democracy Now. Serves me right for not taking public transportation or driving my own damn car.
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One of the worst things about Twitter is how it disincentives clarification because doing so will be taken as "digging yourself in deeper.” Best to let the misunderstanding & invective run its course. But the idea that I don’t respect PhDs—or don’t know what they mean—is absurd.
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"It was genuinely one of the worst, most embarrassing recent moments in professional journalism, and there was never any real reckoning among those who screwed it up." @jessesingal on the systemic dysfunction that fueled the #covingtoncatholic episode.
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16th paragraph: "Prosecutors did not charge Celeste Burgess under Nebraska’s abortion law. She pleaded guilty in May to removing or concealing human skeletal remains, a felony."
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6 years
Good column and very true. Just because men are more likely (for all kinds of reasons) to commit this sort of abuse doesn't mean that women can't and don't. To assume otherwise is infantilizing to women. Smart feminism understands that.
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Bari Weiss
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Women are hypocrites. Women are abusers. Women are liars. Just like men. This obvious fact — that women are fully human — bears repeating in light of the Asia Argento news and should inform the #MeToo movement going forward. My latest:
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This contends that those who question the Farrow narrative are upset bc we're "used to a world where women were simply told to shut up." Uh, no. We're upset bc the case is so emblematic of the demise of critical thinking skills among otherwise smart ppl.
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Very fair piece. Which is very upsetting to some commenters.
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4 years
Been keeping this under my hat because I'm superstitious, but, if all goes as planned, my new podcast THE UNSPEAKABLE will launch next Monday 7/27. Candid interviews with interesting people. Conversations the way we used to have them. More info very soon.
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Merry Christmas from me and my virtual assistant.
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5 years
My latest column for @Medium , inspired by @EricRWeinstein , who identified and coined the concept of "groupfeel." It's also about the Jussie Smollett story (yes, I went there).
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Meghan Daum
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It’s telling that the most extreme manifestation of online mobbing in the name of social justice (that I know of) resides in YA Twitter. It suggests there’s something fundamentally adolescent about callout culture, as if the whole practice has an undeveloped frontal lobe.
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Jesse Singal
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WOW. The woman who got raked over the YA Twitter coals because people apparently made up a bunch of stuff about her and her highly anticipated debut novel has agreed to not publish it at all!
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On top of everything else, watching the hearings on cable news has reminded me anew how cheesy and hyperbolic and terrible just about all TV news is. Honestly, compared to CNN, Twitter is like a party of intellectuals. That is a sorry statement.
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Is there a feminist dating site called Fish Meets Bicycle? How can there not be?
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5 years
This is meant to be excoriating, but it's actually completely validating. The perfect embodiment of the kind of bad faith engagement and willful misconstrual I talk about in the book. Maybe I'll use it in a future edition as an example. #meta
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Thrilled to announce that my book has been shortlisted for the Taken Out Of Context Prize. There are 900 other finalists this year, but it’s an honor just to be nominated.
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Ground shaking piece by @AbigailShrier via @bariweiss . The oped that the NYT felt was "outside our coverage priorities" was coauthored by Dr. Laura Edwards-Leeper, who's featured in two parts of @TheUnspeakPod 's 3-part Gender Nuance series this week.
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Bari Weiss
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In exclusive interviews with @AbigailShrier , two of the most prominent providers in the field of transgender care sound off on puberty blockers, ‘affirmative’ care, the inhibition of sexual pleasure, and the suppression of dissent.
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CNN correspondent in Italy says you see the same dog being walked by different people because they know it’s the only way to go outdoors. Deadly for humans but this is the best thing that ever happened to dogs.
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Meghan Daum
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Much food for thought here. Including the idea that incels and unmarriageable men without stable lives and incomes are the "patriarchy."
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Meghan Daum
7 years
Real problem here is not the students. They're impressionable kids. Problem is the enabling, sheeplike faculty denying them an education.
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Meghan Daum
4 years
Excellent thread. Especially point about "in-group enforcers" making examples of dissenters "so that onlookers can see the potential cost of dissent." Onlookers, look a little closer. Speaking up is survivable. And the costs are low compared to the bankruptcy of nodding along.
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Thomas Chatterton Williams
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It’s getting harder and harder for me to tell the racists apart from the anti-racists. Neither make or respond to arguments so much as stick you in a identity box and try to insist you stay there.
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I've been wary of backlash warnings but if Santa goes down for sexual misconduct and Christmas gets cancelled it's gonna be swift and REAL.
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The tantrumming over this also reveals how illiterate people have become about the arts. This may not be high art but it's high in technique and draws from important and deeply American musical and choreographic traditions. Duke Ellington, Jack Cole, Busby Berkeley . . . But all
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They're talented dancers, it's an exuberant performance, and the Duke Ellington arrangement is a classic. Sorry ideology ruined it for you.
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Before you fan the flames of the firestorm, I'd suggest taking a moment to ask yourself how these changes are anything but reasonable. You can hate Trump and love Obama and still recognize that the Obama administration's guidelines on this were an overreach.
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POLITICO
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The Trump administration's guidelines for how the nation's schools should handle allegations of sexual harassment and assault boosts protections for the accused—and is almost certain to ignite a firestorm
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To think that in this day and age so many people would still read a 6500-word, not very hashtaggable essay and take the time to thoughtfully respond, well . . . wow.
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Guys, my father had a Doctorate, which he worked hard for and was a huge deal, especially given his background. He also felt that being called “Doctor” outside a specific professional setting was overkill and in that sense actually kind of diminishing.
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Meghan Daum
5 years
With all the Jennifers in Generation X you think there'd be an official subcategory called Jen X.
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Meghan Daum
7 years
I love so many artists on here, but why must it be a "made by women" list? Sexism masquerading as feminism?
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Meghan Daum
8 months
Congrats to all who were part of this huge and massively successful event last night. The Met Gala of the heterodoxy!
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The Free Press
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Thank you to everyone who came out to our first live debate last night! @annakhachiyan @louise_m_Perry @grimezsz   @Sarahthehaider @dash_eats @Aella_Girl @meghan_daum
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Semi-relatedly, if there were a dating story called Dog Person, it would be about people who can't be away from home longer than 6 hours at a time. #CatPerson
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Meghan Daum
6 years
I agree that this asinine speech should still be protected. However, I'm troubled by some observations that it's less of a stain on academia bc she teaches creative writing. Teaching in creative disciplines isn't a pass for being an impulsive moron.
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Saluting my personal assistant on #NationalPetDay .
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Meghan Daum
4 years
People suddenly upset about this tweet: you have PhDs. Please don't pretend not to know what I'm saying.
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Meghan Daum
4 years
Seeing "Dr. Ford" trending reminds me anew of how much I hate when PhDs who are not medical doctors want to be addressed as "Dr." It undermines authority rather than underscores it. That goes for you, too, Dr. Jill Biden.
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