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@lovecrashdown

2 months

Y’all know lots of men and women are also nonbinary…right? Non binary isn’t a specific gender in itself.

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Idk misogyny and alienation are some the hardest parts about being a lesbian not “girls are so dramatic 😫” or “try going through a lesbian break up 😬”

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I really wish people would stop calling people “degenerates”, “porn sick”, and “addicts”. I find it to be incredibly reactionary in general and often times homophobic and ableist. There are better ways of addressing people who sexually objectify women.

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i was half joking when I tweeted this but I learned today that a lot of non binary people didn’t know that non binary is an umbrella term 🤯

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

Y’all know lots of men and women are also nonbinary…right? Non binary isn’t a specific gender in itself.

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@lovecrashdown

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the futch scale always at the scene of the crime

lilyanna 🌟💐

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the lesbian spectrum

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

i feel like when lesbians talk about gender its super not relatable for other queer people sometimes and they just dont get the context at all and we sometimes have extremely different goals for our gender embodiment and desire

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

This whole “all masculinity is toxic” rhetoric is so dangerous for studs and butches, especially TMA and transmasc butches.

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

I hate how people act like by being a lesbian Ive been able to “opt out” of misogyny because I don’t date men, when I experience violent misogyny due to that very reason!

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@lovecrashdown

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lesbianism is expansive ✅ lesbians are women ✅ lesbians aren't women ✅ lesbianism is about women loving women ✅ lesbianism is about lesbians loving lesbians ✅

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

No, butch-femme roles are not heteronormative. Here's an excerpt from "Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold" which is an excellent (not perfect) primer on the origins of b-f culture.

yuri truther junjun ⚢

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6 months

? is this not kinda heteronormative though.. (genuine question

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thinking about xanthra 💗

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@lovecrashdown

4 months

I was talking to my bestie about how so many queer ppl talk about queerness as if we are “post misogyny”

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

it’s funny when people think androgyny is inherently more progressive than being masculine or feminine, when androgyny can be just as cis centric and restrictive as being masc/fem.

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

I find that “butch” and “stud” have a much more masculine connotation than the word “masc” and many butches that are unapologetic about their masculinity still don’t identify within the “masc” term because it reduces their butchness to an aesthetic.

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@lovecrashdown

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You know theres no rule against a character being butch AND transfem at the same time. It doesn’t cancel eachother out or anything 😅

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@lovecrashdown

28 days

I think people put too much focus on understanding what is femme through aesthetic whether it’s cisnormative or “subversive” femininity, and not enough on sexual desire and devotion to butches.

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@lunar_femme

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hurts my brain to know that so many people think a femme is someone who is extra devoted to normative femininity

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6 months

CW BRIANNA GHEY It makes me sick how they specifically targeted her due to her transfemininity, fetishized her, weaponized the fact that she was isolated and depressed, and killed her for no reason and people every day literally debate if trans girls are privileged or not.

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@lovecrashdown

23 days

Happy lesbian visibility week TS butch lesbians!

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@lovecrashdown

9 months

thinking about xanthra 💗

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@lovecrashdown

4 months

Why do people get mad when trans butch lesbians don’t want to be gay men or don’t want to be compared to cis gay men whether it’s a transmasc lesbian or a transfem lesbian 🤔

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3 months

Lesbians against bioessentialism

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@lovecrashdown

26 days

The problem with femmes4femmes is the butchphobia + transphobia, not the fact that two girlie girls are dating. Now we have people calling any visibly queer feminine lesbian a femme. Feminine ≠ cisnormative/straight passing 😭

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2 months

I just think it’s a mistake to frame pervasive institutionalized misogyny and sexual violence as some sort of individualized pathological issue rather than something that is normalized and encouraged by every facet of society.

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@lovecrashdown

10 months

I wish people understood fluidity is not the only form of subversion/resistance in the LGBT community.

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@lovecrashdown

3 months

I consider “woman” as much as an umbrella term as “non-binary”

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@lovecrashdown

1 month

Estrogen is not just a feminizing hormone, but it’s also a butch lesbianizing hormone 😎

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@lovecrashdown

28 days

We need to make lesbian sex culture more robust and make it easier for lesbians to have good gender affirming non traumatizing consensual sex

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

@yuriafogato Yes it’s fucking weird and racist/transphobic asf

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@lovecrashdown

10 months

transmasculinity and transfemininity will always be a central part of lesbianism and butchfemme🫰🏽

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

Okay well most of my abusers were cisfeminine. Why single out masc people like their masculinity gives them a proximity to cis men they don’t have. Their masculinity marginalizes them further because they’re /not/ cis men, nor are they gender conforming like most cis women.

ACACIA MARKEL 🐦‍🔥

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6 months

Just as women can uphold patriarchy and Black folk and POC can uphold white supremacy masculine lesbian can participate in using women for currency and capital just as men

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I hate when people treat me like I can’t have fun or I lack imagination because my sexuality isn’t fluid

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

The word “fem” in studfem culture is largely interchangeable with “femme” and is not simply short for “feminine/presenting” like it is in mainstream/non-black queer culture. Black people are more likely to use the spelling “fem”>“femme”.

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@lovecrashdown

7 months

femme chivalry is definitely a thing if you don’t believe me ask butches

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@lovecrashdown

4 months

Masculine women are so fucking hot wow

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7 months

they had racist lesbians, catfishing, polycule drama, fake femmes and butches, cheating, stealing, bar brawls, car chases, extortion, etc!

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@lovecrashdown

7 months

reading about how butchfemmes in the 30s-60s were messy just like now is so funny

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

I relate a lot to trans women

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@lovecrashdown

1 month

As tme femme lesbian married to trans butch woman the way yall talk about lesbian pregnancy feels really dehumanizing and misogynistic on all fronts lmfao

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

some gender conforming fems were able to work jobs in public and provide money for butches who were visibly queer and had little to no job opportunities. butches who had jobs and/or passed as men were able to provide and protect sex working and trans femmes on the street etc.

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@lovecrashdown I’m trying to better understand the socioeconomic advantage of b-f dynamics/how it is impacted by class. I found these excerpts super interesting, but didn’t quite understand how the points made led back there

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7 months

everyone wants to talk about the unshakable bond between butch lesbians and trans men but why is no one talking about the unshakable bond between butch lesbians and the middle aged depressed cis woman that works the same shift as them 😔

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@lovecrashdown

19 days

(not subtweeting anyone or anything im just feeling alone in my thinking and wondering if ppl get me)

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@lovecrashdown

19 days

It’s upsetting to me that people think that lesbianism can’t be about women and also be expansive at the same time

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@lovecrashdown

1 month

As someone who is close to a masc lesbian trans woman who was discouraged, please transition. Your life will get so much better. Her transition goals look different than the average trans woman, but even if your goal is to pass as a cis woman you can pass as a butch cis woman.

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@lovecrashdown

5 months

Butch trans women 🥰

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@lovecrashdown

9 months

Can y’all stop implying a butch being a woman or identifying with womanhood in any way means that they are cis or self hating. There are many transgender and/or non-binary butch women.

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@lovecrashdown

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@LovelyTayForce Degeneracy is a fascist talking point that has been historically used to describe trans/gay people and calling people addicted when there is no evidence of porn addiction/it’s used in a derogatory way is ableist. I understand why people say it but I think it’s a bad idea.

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@lovecrashdown

11 months

Please be aware of the history of the term "corrective rape" and how it was specifically used to refer to the sexual assault and murder of South African lesbians.

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

I think if more people understood that butch-femme are “roles” and not just presentations there would be much less confusion

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@lovecrashdown

7 months

“[butch/femme] lesbians recognized different intensities and qualities of romantic love and accepted the probability that many more than one important love relationship might exist in a lifetime. They did not reserve sex for their one or several true loves."

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@lovecrashdown

28 days

All lesbians like butches, but not every lesbian wants to be responsible for giving them the best sexual experience and protecting their sexuality + sexual autonomy. Especially (but not exclusively) for stone lesbians whose sexual preferences are not accepted by most lesbians!

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

it means so much to me as a masculinized degendered black person who is treated like a pack mule and has to be strong for everyone that my butch literally doesn't let me carry things, that she wants my hands to be untouched, that she accommodates me with my disability, etc.

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If you’re a lesbian it feels like it’s only acceptable to long and yearn for a woman’s touch, but it’s taboo to actually touch and fuck women

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

baby butch and baby femme are not an age range its a mindset that comes from a lack of experience

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@lovecrashdown

4 months

I don’t believe trans white women are more likely to be nazis that any other white person

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

I like intimate friendships but I also appreciate friendships that aren’t that deep. I can form a really strong connection with people just due to proximity, being kind every day, and having things in common honestly

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

Why do people act like being non binary and a woman is mutually exclusive 🧍🏽‍♀️

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

Least favorite trope: beautiful evil woman becomes ugly undesirable hag as a consequence of her ugly actions

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

fake butches complaining about "masc expectations" like do you know how many butches would do anything for someone to accept their masculinity and celebrate it and find it sexy and even complementary. people have quite literally died for the right to be masculine.

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@lovecrashdown

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Y’all that’s why I can be so annoying about stone/high femme terms because it’s one of the only subcultures we have that is centered around trans people having good sex and being respected fully. When people don’t know what they mean it can be pretty dangerous for stone lesbians.

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@lovecrashdown

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@rosemynes I’m glad, there are many of us :)

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6 months

let’s bring back self aware rich queers who will invite you to their families second property instead of hiding it cuz wtf 😭

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@lovecrashdown

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Lesbian women who desire to be pregnant together are not hypothetical. We are not all "c4t". Lesbians regardless of their ASAB have many unique ways of getting each other pregnant that should never be compared to cis heterosexuals.

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@lovecrashdown

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@sapphokyoujuro I totally get you! Its a good thing considering yourself a third gender is included in the non binary umbrella. all of us arent the same and have different views of our gender and genders that change over time. all of it is non binary :)

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A lot of the times as a lesbian I don't feel "queer" in the same way a lot of other people do

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@lovecrashdown

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Non black people need to be aware how their own fragility affects black people in an extremely violent way, regardless of you intentions.

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@lovecrashdown

8 months

Guys you’re allowed to headcanon a butch person as transfem it’s okay

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

any lesbian can come inside another lesbian if they want

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i want to cry everytime i remember women cant c*m inside eachother

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@lovecrashdown

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Us tme queer ppl have no business invoking transmisogyny directly/indirectly for cool points~ or whatever

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@lovecrashdown

3 months

Can’t believe there are butch lesbian swifties

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@lovecrashdown

10 months

Being femme is not equivalent to being gender conforming or even passing a cis person.

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@lovecrashdown

14 days

As someone who actually loves using labels (Black/Lesbian/Woman/Femme) I think people act like one’s identity starts and ends with simply deciding to use a specific label rather than that particular label being informed by their experiences and desires!

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i know a lot of people think yearning is a central theme in lesbian literature which it is but i think the actual root theme is Alienation and yearning comes with that naturally

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@adrian_satsuki If you think I think using that terminology is wrong because I have sympathy for misogynists and abusers you didn’t understand my post

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@lovecrashdown

4 months

Here is what a lot of transmisogynistic queer trans discourse looks like to me: misogyny is not a real or a real concern, misogyny is not meaningful in trans spaces, if misogyny is real it is rooted in being assigned female, transphobia goes beyond misogyny or is worse, etc.

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I was talking to my bestie about how so many queer ppl talk about queerness as if we are “post misogyny”

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I will say butchfemme is not going to be appealing to most lesbians and is going to feel way too restricted and gendered for a lot of people. I need people to understand that this “strictness” is in place to protect butchfemmes from sexual, transphobic, and emotional harm

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

Tbh a LOT of (mostly white) neurodivergent people do this a lot too

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@peachmilfshake

2 months

I am begging neurotypical to understand. Appropriate: “hey could you help me move this weekend?” Not appropriate: “gosh.. all these heavy boxes and furniture… all by myself in just a few hours… sure wish I had someone to help me… but no one cares..” STOP IT

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i don’t think “femme lesbian” will ever be an accurate or meaningful descriptor for people who would feel less comfortable being alone than dating a non butch

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

The term “butch” not just “femme” are misused by people who have zero understanding of what it means and conflate these terms with masculine/feminine. I feel like a lot of focus is on “fake femmes” but there are just as many butches who fail to embody any butch traits or values.

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

another thing is this is referencing the 40s-60s where butches OUTNUMBERED femmes by a lot. now its the complete opposite lol so its not as if femmes are sidelines or have a less important role. honestly femmes these days do not stand by butches enough imo

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

I am socially isolated, economically disadvantaged, misgendered, and have even been targeted in hate crimes because of my fundamental lack of attraction to men. It really upsets me when so many people in our community trivialize that aspect of lesbianism.

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@lovecrashdown

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This is why you have people calling Chappell Roan a femme because she’s feminine and looks queer when actual femmes are dolls, look butchy, and/or are damn near indistinguishable from a cishet woman but the thing they all have in common is desire and companionship with butches 🤓

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

why do people act like stone tops are the most respected and accepted in our community do y'all hear yourselves

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

I don’t think it’s inherently wrong for something or someone to be sexualized especially when it’s women being horny for each other

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

wrestling with the fact you arent attracted to men in this world is literally so hard you get shit from everyone even queer people..it was the biggest shocker to me coming out that my most of my other non binary friends couldnt relate to me anymore and treated me different

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@lovecrashdown

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My wife beautiful transgender wife says you can transition into a butch woman if you want 👍🏽 Never forget that 😤

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

The opposing gender roles of butchfemme have historically allowed working class lesbians to protect each other socioeconomically as well as physically. Butch femme roles subvert heterosexual dyads and serve as a form of resistance.

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

Many butches are emotionally sensitive, caring, open, nice, etc. These are fine traits, but they are compulsory for "women". Just because butches celebrate masculine aspects of themselves doesn't mean their other parts don't exist, they simply don't have anything to prove.

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@lovecrashdown

11 months

Most lesbians in this day and age aren’t butches or femmes

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11 months

gotta introduce some of yall to the fact that some lesbians are neither butch nor femme nor futch etc. many are simply what i like to call "just hanging out"

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Do people not understand that the concept of masculine and femme are thrust upon peoples bodies against their will? Do they not understand these concepts are gatekept and racialized? Do they not understand people are feminized and masculinized in a violent way?

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@lovecrashdown

10 months

Some of our genders and sexualities are more rock solid and unchanging rather than fluid.

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@lovecrashdown

2 months

a lot of butches and studs are fat 47 year old cis women named Destiny that own a miniature schnauzer with their femme and wear polos + cute mustache + has a favorite nephew and owns DVD box sets of Lost

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@lovecrashdown

10 months

I sometimes feel people view lesbianism as the "female" version of being gay and its not lol

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@lovecrashdown

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Handiness is perhaps one of the most attractive traits in a lesbian.

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@lovecrashdown

6 months

queer people don’t feel like you have to choose and stick to one label for the rest of your life. i encourage you to interact with many different communities with humility and enthusiasm. because of those experiences i have no doubt in who i am and i’m proud of it!

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People age 26+.. what is some advice you would give someone age 20-25?

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8 months

like so many femmes to use the the high femme label with no conception of what it means and desexualize it so much. not going to go over the definition too much again but it's about sex and desire in relation to stone butches and a stone femme's relationship with their own body.

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@lovecrashdown

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i feel like maybe im just autistic asf but i cant with "blehhh whatever who cares 🤪🤪🤪 we're queer" approach to community on here. it seems like even the most non conforming ppl and identities do so with purpose and intentionality and have a logic to why they do what they do

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@lovecrashdown

9 months

y'all be antiblack because lots of tme hypermasc studs have strong boundaries about being called a woman/girl or being able to be sensitive because they are being violently masculinized and ungendered constantly by partners who fetishize their masculinity instead of respecting it

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@lovecrashdown

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it’s genuinely heaven being married to a woman

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@lovecrashdown

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Its kind of extremely annoying how non black lesbians just don’t give a fuck about antiblackness at all but love to call each other dykes all day every day

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@lovecrashdown

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black person: im deeply uncomfortable with this non black person: um source?

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