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The mess that will uncovered if we had a 'pedophile hunter group' in Nigeria.
A lot of you will be shocked that over 50% of the people you know will be caught.
Nigeria has an epidemic on her hands. A lot of boys and girls have to deal with randy adults every day.
I stopped to chat with an elderly couple after church yesterday. I estimate they should be in their late 80's. Midway through, she spoke in tongues and nudged her husband to interpret.
Everything they said addressed an issue that's given me great concern.
I told them how important this message was to me and they simply shrugged and said, they only repeated what they heard God say.
Gifts are to edify and build up the body and this is one of the reasons we ought to take fellowship with the saints seriously.God loves to communicate
@hoodooyoulove_
@JahelisWasHere
This could also be a result of sexual abuse. Abused kids act out what they perceive as normal without understanding that they are abusing others too.
For years, I ran campaigns on child sexual abuse in Nigeria. Nearly every woman I met immediately understood what I meant.
The culprits are often close to home.
We've built a culture of silence on this subject which is why every time I see a pedophile get his due, I dance.
@elMunir5
The context matters though. I've seen people get low grades because they're couldn't afford to 'settle' the lecturer or buy some of their unnecessary handouts.
In many Nigerian Uni's esp state level, First class or 2.1 is simply about how much you have.
I was flogged over silly things as a child and while they loved me, with all the wisdom of nearly 3 decades, I still know frustration was at the root of it. If anyone had dared to ask, they would have discovered an underlying problem, I was dealing with an insidious type of abuse
As a child, I was hardly ever beaten/hit by my mother. We had conversations and she didn’t shout me down. When I was wrong, I was taught to quickly apologise. So, before she even told me kneel down, I’d have said “I’m sorry, Mummy🤲🏽😭” She’d tell me to get up and hug me.
My advice to teens/young adults will be to stay away from sexual relationships completely. The mental and emotional baggage it comes with is unnecessary.
Bigots forget that they share this space with people who recognise revisionism and will call it out.
Yoruba Ronu was APC's call to arms against Igbos in the SW during the 2023 elections.
This is fact and little men with their oversized egos can't change it.
I get super excited when I'm heading home to meet my husband. He's my safe space. Tension eases, He is home.
When he's coming back I want to make the home perfect. Anything that makes it easy for him to unwind and discuss.
Our world is a bubble.
I absolutely love it here.
Salute to this lady, she carried this matter on her head and continued speaking even when local media had stopped reporting on it.
It takes strength to be so committed to fighting an injustice in Nigeria. Especially cz our leaders and institutions can be so willfully deaf.
CHIOMA, the world has come to fight for you!!!
Your story went to Reddit and foreigners picked up the fight!
1.5k+ reviews on Google!
I can’t believe my eyes!
It is off my hands now.
Cancel culture is stupid.
Bringing up what a person said 5 years ago as a measure of their present character is folly especially if nothing in the present affirms it.
People need to have critical conversations again and respect the right of others to differ.
My family won't demand this. Matter of fact, if you do too much, we'll start wondering if you have self esteem issues. Who send you?
I realise we don't fit the Yoruba family stereotype (probably cz we are 1/2 Efik) but I am happy for the women who'll marry in. No stress zone 💯
Happy for your mum, such an interesting story. However, not everyone will do this and still be accepted in that family. If e reach my turn, I go cook, clean. It won’t kill me. Most of the girls forming that they will do like your mum, won’t even try that in real life.
@moses_yhung
@steezy10_
We no dey do Yahoo. Own your fraudulent art with your chest bro.
Not everyone is that desperate regardless of how much you'd like to believe it 😏
I maintain that corporal punishment is lazy and is the mark of a bully. Maybe there's a better way to do it but that prerogative will always be mine. Community training or not, anyone who dares to hit my child will have to contend with someone their size who's far crazier.
@BlogKiki_
We dont want him redeployed! We want him arrested and facing the law! This was murder! Not assault, not duty , MURDER . If the IG can only promise to redeploy criminals like this, we need a new IGP!
@ATLTuck
@davidgokhshtein
@FightHaven
We do. That kid will be beaten thoroughly then expelled. The parents will also have to deal with the social stigma of raising such a badly behaved child.
@iamadeolu4
@DifferentKaro
Don't joke abeg. I have personal instances where the land was bought directly from the government. It's been years, no compensation by till date.
@mikethegreat069
@OneJoblessBoy
When in a position to uplift an entire state, we don't rise by lifting a privileged few. The goal is to make a lasting legacy by actually lifting the people who elected you and entrusted theri welfare to your government.
@VickKingsley
@Koromone_K
You realize that's not the point of the thread right? Do you need a beginner's class in consent and violation? Speak up if you do, it'll save you the trouble of having to defend yourself when you make silly assumptions.
What I dislike the most about being a 'regular' Nigerian is how powerless I feel. Anyone powerful or aggressive enough can show you shege and nothing will happen.
You'll report to the police, EFCC etc and be ignored or worse, pay them to attend to you.
2days ago, I found myself trapped in a terrifying situation. Someone pushed me when I was alighting from bus, and my phone fell down(pov: I was not even pressing my phone, I opened my bag to give the driver money)I was about picking up my phone and I saw a strange person kicked…
@Thatmedicineman
This is it. Been there so I know a lot of people still are but the reality is you cannot make Christ the center of your life and still engage in stuff he specifically condemns.
If you are still doing that, then the truth hasn't sunk in and you'll get situations like this.
Quality time for people in long distance relationships = Long calls. Sharing EVERYTHING. Talk about the interesting thing you saw on the way to work and about the taste of your akara in the evening. Text when you can't talk. Let the person into your world everyday. It works!
@hoodooyoulove_
@JahelisWasHere
True. The media teaches a lot of 'unhealthy' stuff, this is where parental guidance comes in else the untrained mind gobbles everything up and spew it right back. Where kids misbehave this way, I'm more inclined to blame the adults around them
@ozzyetomi
Feminism. A movement that seems the recognition of women as full autonomous human beings deserving of all rights and responsibilities is necessary. The movement does not have to be perfect to be valid.
and (unnecessary beating) exacerbated it.
For the older generation beating was an outlet for their frustration. Life came too hard and fast and it was easier to lead through fear.
On the other hand, my husband was never hit and he's led a 'cleaner' life. A good man indeed.
We should also not ignore the fact that a child will misbehave not because they want to but because that's what children do. They test the limits of parental and societal boundaries. This is how character and perspective is formed.
Talking through these situations equips
@Udomingod
@Dolanimi2
😂😂😂. Sorry to burst your bubble bro but you do not get to decide these things for God. She's a feminist, why are you making that your problem?
As a person who survived sexual abuse at age 6 and it's attendant trauma, I created a self-paced free course for people like me who experienced the same and have no access to therapy.
It's called 'Raped. Now what?'
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@Evans4Ayo
Why are you so triggered?
And how did the conversation about hate for men come in? Is there a supporters club I should be aware of?
How will an adult handle this? By not speaking?
Why do you think think this is representative of all Nigerians or read that?
I learnt a lesson this year. I haven't been able to articulate it but it's either
'stop giving 100% to an undeserving organization '
or
'plan your exit when you notice management is toxic'
I learnt it the hard way. Hurts especially when you were that employee who gave 100%.
Seriously though, I hope no one takes this opinion seriously.
It's a huge mistake to live like marriage is all you have to aspire to.
These people will have you bound because of their archaic ideas of virtue.
If progress means chasing opportunities that take you far
@Chimmeriri
@pst_oge
I think it was more about the heart than the act itself. An aggressive response may yet be justified if the heart was right.
Who gets to decide? God does. It's why we must remain open to correction
@Ayaya_is_Ayaya
Your point in this instance is? That 13 isn't a child?
If 13 is a child in the UK then calling the man a pedophile isn't exactly 'throwing words around' is it?
As far back as I can remember I've looked at those vehicles with UN plate numbers in Abuja and desired to ride in it.
Not Abuja but guess who's moving around Sokoto in a UN vehicle.
It's such a timely reminder that those BIGG things aren't so far away.
2 months into motherhood and I'm convinced I've been sleeping on my God given talent as a composer.
The songs I create for this girl are top tier. There's a song for pooing, eating, sleeping etc... and the melody 💯💯
@AdedotunOwosho
@RetsonTedheke01
Nope. You proved you are sheep. You have no mind of your own and lack the ability to think critically (or at all).
Take your silly self from any conversation on politics. You are the weapon they use, nothing more. It's unfortunate that you think yourself a silent lion. Clown!
Many Africans will be surprised by the idea that this was created in the 14th-15th century.
They truly believe that we were little more than monkeys at this time or had the capacity for creativity and self governance.
We've bought-in to western propaganda so thoroughly
In 1938, 17 brass and copper heads and the upper half of a brass figure (dated to the 14th-15th century CE) were found by accident during house building works at Ile Ife now in Nigeria. The realism and sophisticated craftsmanship of the objects challenged Western conceptions of…
@its_yugee
If it helps, marriage is sweet actually. It's so wholesome, I wouldn't want to be anything but married to the person I did. I look forward to new phases.
Not discrediting your thoughts but I believe this perspective will be helpful too.
I watched a lot of movies in the weeks leading up to bar finals. It was the only way I knew to destress.
It worked wonders, I was able to return to studies with a clearer mind.
There's no formula, discover what works for you and do it.
All the best!
As a student of the NLS, I don’t know why you are spending hours on Twitter and IG at this crucial time.Those apps serve no good to you right now. The exam is less than 3 weeks and nothing should infiltrate your mind. Leave now and you are back on Sept 5 to tweet for life. Nawa o
@EmaediongL
What a fabulous idea. Thanks for sharing. Might pick this up in 2023 but I might need to get me a bucket. Expecting an absolutely fabulous year
I was told I had a small cervix and wouldn't give birth normally and gosh did I believe it. Waited for about 35 hours after my waters broke before I had to be induced and though I had prayed, my little doubts began to grow.
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@asemota
I believe it's important to know what your limits are. If you have tendencies to cheat, it might be best to steer clear.
Sometimes, consistent exposure to bad company will loosen your inhibitions and push you over the edge.
from interrogating the peculiar challenges a child may have. How many Nigerian children deal with ADHD, dyslexia or abuse and never get the help they need because their parents choose to beat it out of them instead? Often these issues show up much later and proves destructive
@fazfunkie
@CyferM
@Traceyellle
Man said it's getting too repetitive🤣.
The 'wolf' in this context is the person you are hailing? You need to read your Bible some more guy. Even
@Traceyellle
here needs to do the same.
the child to form clear perspectives on right and wrong and apply it to new situations whenever it crops up.
Their knowledge about what is right or not is a better motivator or deterrent than 'mom/dad will beat me if I do this'.
We can't also ignore how the whip prevnts parents
Wike's tyranny was clear from the start Nigerians just thought he won't use it against them. The same happened with Buhari. He started flouting laws from his earliest days in office but Nigerians clapped because he targeted Dasuki and Zakzaky.
Let Wike be a lesson to all of you; never side with someone who abuses power. Even if you think they are on your side, or they are productive in other ways. Never side with them, because when they choose to hurt you, nothing will save you.
@BolanleCole
The right question would be, should anyone willfully abandon their wives for 7 years and still expect loyalty?
Those who answer Yes are cruel.
I am absolutely in love with a certain fine young man and even though we are a distance apart and calls manage to work, I look forward to everything that happens when we are physically together.
I like the butterflies, the handholding, everything!
Took this from
@philipolubakin
status this morning.
"When God gives you back the time you lost, don't act cute...RUN!!"
If you've had wasted years, you recognise how much of a gift it is to have Time restored to you.
Even if they call you crazy..Squeeze value from evry moment
Hey believer, if there's something you know God is calling you to or that you absolutely need to do but can't find the courage for...I have a message that'll help.
I listened yesterday
@slchurchng
and it's been on repeat today.
Faith comes by hearing & this is my gift to you.
I am grateful to have married someone who shares my vision about family and parenting. We agree that the parenting style we grew with ends with us.
We've been deliberate about gaining new knowledge and we are building the kind of home I could only have dreamt about.
I never liked motivational speakers The idea that people built luxurious lifestyles simply by telling others "you can have whatever you desire" surprised me.
It smacked of privilege.
Certain aspects of that narrative still does
People are being disenfranchised in Kogi, Lagos and Rivers yet children have been pictured voting in the North.
@inecnigeria
there's no way this is all you can put up with the billions received for this election.
This month I'll be speaking a lot on sexual violence. Rape can be a life changing occurrence, it really can set you on a different trajectory and leave you there.
My focus this month is on healing and growing through this experience.
Kindly share to anyone you know who needs it
@PosDisruptor
@its_daqueen
Child molestation, abuse and rape is very prevalent in Nigeria. Every part of Nigeria
We can admit that 2 truths can exist equally.
As the poster highlights, what makes the Nigerian situation particularly reprehensible is that rapists and abusers are coddled. Justice is rare
Document everything! Take pictures , keep memories & treasure them.
Life is too fast to make everything about the distant future.
Definitely wish I knew this earlier.
@Kingdm_Heritage
I'm not quite sure how you assume people who meet their S/O do not pray first or that discernment cannot be exercised even on a dating site or event.
Looking happens even as you pray and you don't exactly get to build anything significant simply by connecting there.
Under tweets like this just identify the insecure men and block them. May they not slide into your DM and may you see the signs early.
Marrying a person like this is a death sentence.
I’ve tried to ignore you on purpose, but I want it to be clear that I don’t welcome or tolerate your energy.
If this is what you had to say in the DM, I can already tell where your insecurities are from.
Women are not the cause of any failures, or your insecurities.
Best thing about this year?. I married the man I'm going to build a dynasty with.
If I could create my perfect world, I wouldn't have been able to conjure this man.
God molded him thoroughly then graciously gifted him to me.
There's no one else I'd rather do life with.
@TheJohnOlonade
To be fair, I don't see it as faux outrage.
Narrowing the scope of your engagement on national issues to wether or not it favours you or your family is a rather selfish thing to do.
This opinion was not created in a vacuum.
I am just hearing that myself and Buratai are now both bloody civilians😏. So after all that gra gra he leaves the office to be remembered for brutally killing Nigerian youth who simply cried out to be allowed to live!
What a shameful way to be remembered!
Growing up as a PK, I didn't even want to be a Christian. I had seen too much wahala from Christians.
God himself orchestrated my return to Him and even then I fought so hard.
This Faith we've chosen is life, please grow in it . Nominal Christianity hurts you and others.
I went through a “I can never marry a pastor” thread and saw the level of wickedness that many women have seen in the hands of supposed pastors they were in a relationship with
As a pastor, it’s heartbreaking when the testimony of the people closest to you is nothing like Christ
@KhloeUmoh
If they have problems understanding feminism within the Nigerian context, atleast they can understand that a woman has/should have full autonomy and equal rights.
Hey Twitter people. What are you doing on the 27th?
@pastorpoju
and
@philipolubakin
will be teaching on making your FAITH work. There's NO better way to spend that evening.
It's happening
@slchurchng
Abuja!
Transportation available too, DM for details.
It is 8 days to SLC hosting
@pastorpoju
and
@Prospaochimana
at the Bible Faith Seminar.
It will be an intense atmosphere of the word and worship as Pastor Poju teaches on How to make Your Faith work.
How ready are you?
Who are you bringing with you?