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7 months

Saw someone who was like "Don't argue with me about gender and sexuality if you haven't read Stone Butch Blues or been to a non-corporate pride event" and it's like whoa I guess you're pretty deep into gay stuff

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Trans guy was talking about how trans women are uniquely positive about girlhood and heavily hinting it shows they do not get misogyny (real wombyn hate being girls). Go look at Autostraddlers discussing American Girl dolls

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Was reading about this tattoo shop for "people of marginalized genders" and got mildly weird vibes (no trans woman employees, though it's a small shop). Anyways the owner said in an interview that "people without penises" had experiences of disrespect in the tattoo industry

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@james_f_thomas "These results provide fresh insights into how BL content may shape our cognition and attitudes, emphasizing the need for guidance in content consumption among young females." Hmmmmm

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@aromatasemebro [lashing out at someone who hurt my feelings] My followers are going to LOVE this

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@communoah My favorite recurring queer community thing is that people expect you to share their taxonomy of femme/not-femme. Keeps you on your toes

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9 months

@james_f_thomas A hand injury that affects my ability to gender trans people correctly

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6 months

@thatfrood This feels more like a synesthesia-adjacent thing than a spatial reasoning thing to me

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2 years

Hmm I think it's actually stupid to cede the ground that "public sex" is a unified category where onlookers are unilaterally unable to escape and that "sex offender" is a useful ethical category (rather than a legal one which lumps disparate shit together).

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@james_f_thomas I hang out with nonbinary people of whatever birth assignment whose analysis is on par with other trans people so this is a grim little glimpse into the Lex-poisoned gender-y barbers of the world

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7 months

A non-corporate pride event? Crazy that you got in, that's easily Berghain level

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10 months

Genuinely hope that they've reflected on that framing and course corrected in the meantime, but it was kinda depressing to see tbqh

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19 days

It feels like there are a lot of elements of girls' and young women's culture that cis women (including left-of-center cis women) fondly remember-- that it's reasonable for trans women to feel things about

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2 years

@communoah Maybe I need to treat it whimsically like some kind of baroque fanfiction world-building.

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9 months

Feels kind of bad that a lot of our intergenerational contact with Gen Z is essentially "cringe compilations queer discourse edition" and not like, spending any amount of time around them and seeing what kind of common ground emerges out of that

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3 years

@gittelspawn This reminds me when my trans youth group leader (lol I know) said that non-binary people take estrogen AND testosterone for HRT

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10 months

They did discuss having some trans woman/transfem clients in another interview (not in a weird way; it came up organically), though they also did the "but transfem medicine is kind of advanced" move. Hope I'm connecting the dots wrong here tbh

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Like there are a lot of critiques to be made of Trans Medicine but I feel like both transfem and transmasc populations are underserved and mistreated on a number of fronts beyond the scope of this thread

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But that's where the true esoteric discourse flows, the most elegant frameworks,

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Once you have that kind of sex, you've basically solved the discourse and can post gamefaqs type walkthroughs for the rest of us

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2 years

But, yeah, relying on a category that lumps together homeless people taking a piss and actual sexual violence to make your point is tremendously cop-brained and insipid

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@james_f_thomas Presented without commentary

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And of course, behind the non-profit outreach tables, the mind-blowing sex

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10 months

"*kind of more advanced". I've like generally seen this from trans mascs with chips on their shoulder tbh

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@sarahwaters420 This is just deep radfem brainrot lol

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Can't believe I'm being baited into sex/nudity at Pride discourse in February! How dare bad takes interrupt my jasmine green tea and rainy day

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@forcedmasc Ah yes, the toothpaste flag

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Encountered another post that's like "Why aren't women [read: cis women] allowed to break gender norms yet gay guys are allowed to play with femininity? Not fair" and it's like hmm idk if you've checked the news lately

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(Open to getting challenged if I'm mischaracterizing something but "people who have sex in public, no matter the other variables/conditions, are sex offenders [sic]" is a bad take full stop. Like actually a sentiment used to justify prosecution of gay people)

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Fwiw I don't think I've ever defaulted to she/her with a stranger I read as a trans woman and had them correct me, much less in a way that implied this was a distressing assumption for me to make

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11 months

Hi Kitty, remember when you tried to get a random trans woman fired from her service job for edgy Tumblr posts? Cruel and unhinged move that, for the record, didn't work . Hope one day you get a hobby and stop rotting your soul with outrage porn.

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Ethel Cain (an indie transwoman musician) made this post about an hour ago on tumblr & then deleted it.

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Also, in case anyone's tempted to reduce this situation to "they're clearly not in solidarity bc they didn't do biomedical transition [or whatever litmus test for Real Material Transing]", the owner's on T

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3 years

@communoah Saw someone on Lex post "Anyone else uncomfy [sic] with all the horny posts on here?" and tried to politely explain why it is not appropriate to resentfully vaguepost about gay people being too horny

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I genuinely wonder how many of these people have sexual orientation-related OCD (which is quite common)

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like if you have to do this to convince yourself you’re a lesbian maybe you’re not a lesbian and that is completely fine

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It's great that nowadays nonbinary people have tons of celebrity representation in the form of people who don't look like them and are best known for playing roles in their assigned gender

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Giving OCD realness

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was talking to my dad and he told me when he was 20 he did too many shrooms before work and “called in evil” he said he thought he was evil and couldn’t come into work

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9 months

As someone who's experienced emotional manipulation as an abuse tactic, the accounts I've seen about Salem's behavior are chillingly familiar, especially the screenshots of DMs. All of this is unacceptable and damaging behavior.

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Being a teenager sucks because every adult in your life is like, my child is going to do the next Columbine and/or get vaguely corrupted by playing a video game

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@scumbelievable "Queer stories naturally seem to trend towards sweetweird," says the connoisseur of children's TV

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This applies to any gender trajectory

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The person who coined "enby" (a word I've never liked) also made a popular Dangan Ronpa translation. Just a little trans history for Pride Month

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@communoah I was like it's fine to have negative feelings about sex and I know you don't mean harm but you cannot post this on a gay sex app. You just cannot do that

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8 months

Crazy that people on Tumblr did a bunch of rounds of "What if this person who I don't think is oppressed enough came to the queer meetup" and then a bunch of right-wingers started coming to pride events to terrorize people

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Anyways, this probably was an ill-considered/unthinking statement (of which I've made many), but I'm also not going to be nice about someone co-signing "the gays are unwilling to be called out as sex offenders :("

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It is funny when radfem complaints about transmasculinity amount to "It's not really good for our project". Two birds one stone baby

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4 years

@colettearrand It's a majority black city too. What a look for her.

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(an ill-considered/unthinking statement on the part of the person who tweeted it! I am, if not 100% correct, at least gesturing towards ethics more concerned with actual harm than someone going "sex offender is a meaningful category; all public sex is on par with assault")

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9 months

Don't mean to sound corny but I do think it'd protect us against some overweening "fuck them kids" impulses if we had more chill casual social contact rather than soaking up viral outrage content. We have to live in a society with 'em so we probably shouldn't see them as a Threat

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No hate to the author but it is funny when you read a personal piece about gender and it's like "Am I trans? Oh very complicated. You see, I'm not M or F... I'm something else... Maybe even a whole new type of person."

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@alpenkraehe @palashp40616755 @CultofJack OP is probably panicking trying to find the cat so let's try not to joke

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I love when people on Tumblr affect a sort of "weary queer elder" position. You are not Miss Major. You are a 35 year old with an Etsy

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I think it's morally fine if someone hates that I talk like this-- if it lands as stiff or pedantic or whatever-- but please know that I am aware and not very interested in, uh, "masking" it.

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3 years

Sending everyone who has a rocky relationship with their family good vibes + hope today is uneventful (or better). Apologies for the Tumblr-esque shoutout, but I hope everyone has someone to vent to should things go badly

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@james_f_thomas Yeah I'm familiar with this kind of "I'm super cool with trans men" bi cis woman who thinks we're some kind of butch/eunuch cusp

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@uncanny_eli Maybe this is a little cold but I feel like people treat GNC cis people getting misgendered by well-meaning strangers as like, a serious issue that it's worth continuing to misgender trans people to prevent

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Reading a book from 2008 that briefly notes "Visibility is at best of equivocal benefit to marginalized groups and often causes reactionary backlash". Generally I'm not as pessimistic about it as some people but, hahaha, tell me about it.

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Underrated annoying demographic: the queer nonbinary person who PROUDLY has nothing in common with queer guys

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Today, Adam and Jamie take on a myth that's endured for millennia-- the myth of Sisyphus. But what started out as a simple experiment quickly became an uphill battle

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[disabled queer person who justly hates having to work most of their waking life] I think I could really pull of that "subsistence farming" "medieval serf" thing

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Funny that this kind of "cis gay men are apolitical assholes" narrative is so easy to refute, yet so many people adopt it. Arguably it's rooted in irrational prejudice against gay men. Sadly no term for that exists

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@uncanny_eli "If you explicitly indicate you don't want to interact with me, well, I'll make extra sure to interact with you". Incredible vibes here

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@christapeterso This is fucking chilling. Wrote the BBC a complaint asking them to take responsibility for their framing of Cade. No idea if it works but here's a form to comment:

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Absolutely wild to me how many people are like "You should prove your commitment to liberation" but their ask is like, watching the right movies

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@_Rian_Stone What part of "working at a bookstore" suggests this to you

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@mrstomlinstan @ContraPoints It's a ridiculous comparison to anyone who doesn't share your ideological commitments

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9 months

Just off the top of my head, Salem seems to use DARVO, guilt-tripping, the silent treatment, and references to suicidality, often in order to deflect from accusations of mistreatment or having caused his partners emotional abuse. (Not the full scope of his abusive behavior.)

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Man it sucks that PETA (who are deeply unserious) have such a high profile bc industrial animal agriculture as practiced in the U.S. is basically evil

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@aromatasemebro "make all trans masc folks feel unsafe with you" Oh for fuck's sake, what a crybaby

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I saw a trans guy on Youtube who was pretty "normcore" and I was like wow I forgot there are guys in categories outside "fudanshi" "autism" and "communist twink"

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Kind of cynical but I can't help but feel that some of the people who are (rightly) upset over Nex's murder will go right back to posting as if that kind of nonbinary person could never experience mistreatment/violence

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"It's actually socially good to publicly make fun of people because I find them cringe" is some Kiwifarms shit with pretensions sorry

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@forcedmasc Me but I drop a few therapy buzzwords in there to keep everyone guessing :)

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Sucks how many cool, insightful, funny trans people constantly crowdfund to survive

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Cis crossdresser whose day is ruined because someone called him she/her...

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@S0phie_Salt @gally420 Then why bring the puberty blockers into it

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The author invented being nonbinary in 2022, which was generous of them.

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Someone on OKC wrote "Ask me about: The inherent transness of lesbianism" and oh boy I passed

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But yes bi women holding hands with their boyfriends at Pride and asexual teenagers with bad opinions are our biggest social and material threats

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One of the tricky things about talking about trans stuff and gender is that you can't tell at a glance if someone's situation is like broadly working for them or if they are taking constant psychic damage from the closet

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@thatfrood I just see it as like, a timeline (left-to-right)

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@epistemophagy Trans women compare trans women to men more than someone whose signature contribution to the discourse is Trans Women: They Are Men

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There is a type of person on here where I fantasize, fairly or not, about someone they respect taking them aside and going "Your struggles deserve compassion but you are hurting other people in unintentional ways when you are publicly neurotic about weight"

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2016 Tumblr users being like, yeah I'm the defender of true gay experience, not some logged-on MOGAI shit. Here's 500 words about how "futch" is problematic

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Or a unified bloc based on their posting habits. Add in the fact that teenagers are extremely disempowered and often subject to homophobic/ableist/transphobic treatment in all contexts of their lives and it's like idk if I want to primarily imagine them in negative terms.

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Meet my horrible Puritan children, Scrupulosity and Brainworms.

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I love participating in trans culture (watching a body horror movie)

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@communoah Once DM'd someone on Lex because they posted an ad about how all the thirsty posts made them "uncomfy" [sic]. To their credit they apologized

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Pressuring my friends to develop OCD. Showing them the Wikipedia article like "Religious themes... That sounds pretty cool, right?" until they alight on one that cooks their brain like cabbage

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@thatfrood "i don't even think i believe" Shoutout to posting stuff you think of in the shower during an imaginary argument I guess

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Every time I read something about "real tops" and "real bottoms" I roll my eyes. I don't want to have sex with anyone on this level of reification

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@uncanny_eli It's fascinating how little this kind of person can empathize with someone not wanting to be trapped in the role of "man", bc they see manhood as granting only agency. To them it's never a site of formative hurt for people who don't fit into a specific mold

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Kind of wild to me that some people believe that being a single celibate woman is more disincentivized or stigmatized than being a sex worker

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Queer communities and culture are fundamentally shaped by experiences of oppression but tbh I am currently less about "I get to be in this community because I'm oppressed" and more into "I get to be in this community because being friends with/fucking/dating queer people is good"

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Can't you see by the ΘΔ stick and poke this is clearly an it/its type situation

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Guy who's into bondage but repressed, so he gets all his info from articles like Seven Essential Knots for Sailors

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Just saw a TERF get mad at Kim Petras for presenting a sexualized image of womanhood, unlike cis female pop stars who are completely sexless I guess

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He seems to conflate --feeling threatened and attacked-- (e.g. by analysis of transmisogyny theory that makes him feel guilty/like he might be a potential abuser, which as it happens, he is) with real threats to his well-being.

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@forcedmasc Putting aside the weird hormone essentialism I like the idea that a subjective experience of sexual desire can be definitively "false"

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This is always the bogeyman of someone who's like "We need to address the material issues our community faces" meanwhile the "material issues" are "someone somewhere is stealing valor"

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Transition is cool because you can express preferences to people and they'll be like "That's not true", "Ew", and "?!", then you actually get the haircut/clothes/gendered address/body that you want. And it's neither creepy nor wet

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