Feminist writer and cartoonist. Book ‘Kyle Theory’ published by
@PressIndigoThe
. Documentary podcast series ‘No Worries If Not!’ by Curly Media. she/her
I was on
@BBCWomansHour
on Monday talking about the conversations I’ve had with these teenagers/young men. This is a breakdown of the key info I’ve learned about this community over the last 18 months or so. There’s a bit more info over on my Instagram too!
@karenwhybro
I find it so frustrating that when it’s clear that women were the targets, the narrative immediately shifts to mental health, instead of seeing misogynistic extremism as a terrorist ideology
Yesterday my friend & wonderful comedian Katie Price experienced an antisemitic attack at the Spurs Arsenal game. She doesn’t use twitter so I’m sharing what she wrote on her behalf:
one year since the queen died, aka one year since the most unhinged posting humanity has ever seen. I collected the highlights on Instagram, these were my favourites
(4/4) The police officer’s speech bubble is a direct quote from Sir Stephen House, former deputy commissioner for the metropolitan police (2022). Plus the slide about cheating is based on real relationship advice columns, where the husbands have sent in these ‘problems’
yesterday I was let down. Let down by The Cally, let down by the forty other people in that pub who stood by, many of whom joined in with the group's chants of 'y*ddo go home'. Let down by my own fans, who are supposed to stick together, united by our love of football.
If you work with young people, vulnerable people or parents and would like a hard copy of this, I’ll be turning it into a small easy to read pamphlet. DM me or email me with the quantity of pamphlets you’d like and where to send them! Lily
@vulgadrawings
.com
The pub chose to remove me, putting me in an even more vulnerable position and protecting those who attacked me. I spend so much of my time explaining how football can be an opportunity to unite people but
that my male friend should ‘take his girl out of his pub’. They are five older men attacking a 26 year old Jewish woman and her friend, being incredible hostile. I take myself to the other side of the pub to calm down and gesture to them to leave us alone -
we’ll watch the last seconds of the game and leave on our own terms. The manager of the pub then comes up to my friends and asks us to leave. We leave to chants of ‘Off you go’ and ‘Y*ddo go home’.
His friend then comes up to me, looks me in the eyes and says ‘you dirty fucking y*d’. I push him away and tell him that he can’t say that. The men come at my friend, pulling my (arsenal) shirt, repeatedly threatening to "beat us both up", that I was a dirty y*d Tottenham fan and
I turn around to the instigator, say ‘look, mate, no need to say that last bit’ and walk back to my friends and the remaining 3 minutes of the game. He then comes up to me, questioning why I said that. I tell him I’m jewish and that’s an offensive racial slur.
Some friends and I went to The Cally to watch the North London Derby. An Arsenal pub in an Arsenal area, wearing our Arsenal shirts and cheering throughout for Arsenal. At around the 89th minute, a group of men behind us start chanting ‘we hate Tottenham’ and we all join in.
international womens days is wild cos every year it’s like ‘Being a woman is a busy business!!! Your opinions aren’t valued and everyone wants to kill you, so this IWD enjoy 20% off vibrators and we’ll throw in a pink rape alarm’ 💪💪💪
Notes:
Weirdly, British Siri’s default voice is a man, but it’s literally the only one. UK leading the way I guess 😎
I read a comment on a forum where a woman said she changes all her voice assistant’s to men’s voices so she can ‘practice giving her husband demands’ lol
(1/2) Love having tea with grandmas cos it’s just hardcore trauma dumping ☕️ Like yesssss Granny June pass me that Victoria sponge and tell me the most traumatising thing I’ve ever heard in my life!
They end the chant by repeatedly chanting the slur ‘Y*ddo’, which, as a Jew is incredibly offensive. My friends and I heard but ignored, rising above it. Two minutes later, more start joining in with the chant.
Inspired by my friend Maia who said ‘sport is just gossip for men’ and I LOLLED and was shook to my core, so went on a deep dive of the origins of gossip 🧵
👑 YAAAAASSSSS!!! 👑 I’ve been working on this for a few weeks and thought what better time to post it than when Molly-Mae is being compared to Thatcher 🥴
a theory heavy cartoon I did about The Female Gaze, recommend reading on the toilet or with a cup of tea (or whilst some guy is trying to make you watch Once Upon A Time in Hollywood)
(1/3) not to be sincere on main but simone de beauvoir said ‘man is considered a human being and woman is considered a female’ and she really killed it with that one
Resources for this were:
UNESCO - I'd blush if I could: closing gender divides in digital skills through education (2019)
“Alexa, are you a feminist?”: Virtual Assistants Doing Gender and What That Means for the World (Walker, 2022)
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
This-guy-is-gross-but-the-culture-that-teaches-him-is-more-gross-for-example-industries-like-film/tv/entertainment-and-music-and-fashion-and-beauty-for-telling-us-that-youth-equates-to-sex,
Cows go moo
The Institute of Labour Economics: The Gendered Division of Paid and Domestic Work under Lockdown (2020)
Action Aid - Unpaid care and domestic work (2022)
After my friend Katie experienced an antisemitic attack by fellow fans at an
@Arsenal
game, we spoke to
@kickitout
and
@LordJohnMann
and learned about the fascist history of this slur. I think some fans use this chant without knowing the context, so we turned it into a cartoon
The Mason Greenwood supporters keep saying ‘he was found not guilty’ (not true) and that the case was dropped, which isn’t the same as a false allegation. I did a cartoon on myths around false rape allegations. This slide has some key stats, save it for reference
Well done our fearless
#Lionesses
! And congrats Spain. It was not to be this time, but you have done us proud & - as a father of two girls - I know you have inspired so many along the way. This is not the end. You can hold your heads high & know we are immensely proud of you. 🏴
Obsessed with the fact that the Men’s Rights subreddit have a thread about me and my haircut. Even more obsessed with this comparison. Lord Farquaad is high camp
Every few months this cartoon from 2021 comes up in my feed. It’s had a crazy life of its own, and I think it’s a great example of how these discussions of violence against women get hijacked by the “let’s protect men’s feelings” people -
Call me Carrie Bradshaw cos all of these ideas came from sitting around yapping with my female friends while drinking cosmopolitans (2 for 1 bottles of Kylie Minogue wine in someone’s living room)