Before marriage, I mastered the silent treatment. It took nothing for me to shrug off an emotion or confrontation against a wall of silence. I used to think silence worked; at least, we are not arguing, right?
me & my wife both woke up randomly at 2AM yesterday!
Instead of going back to bed, we spent the new few hrs in the dark chatting and laughing about random sh*t we been thru over the years!
nice reminder why being married to your best friend is lit 😊
Let me tell teach you something about marriage.
Once during a massive argument over the laundry, my wife took the overpriced diamond engagement ring I bought her and threw it in my face like it was cheap Wood Green Market Hall NYC jewellery? Was she mad?
1/16
Don’t get it twisted, I am not doubting your love.
But if you are serious about marriage, I don't want to hear about love. Love is the icing on a giant cake, and sometimes it spreads too thin. People think love is an emotion when really it is a commitment.
10/16
Look at the couples that have arched their backs for 20 to 30 years for their partners. Don't look at newlyweds on social media for marriage goals. Don’t look at tweets. Marriage is not a race; it's a long marathon.
Tell me about commitment— asking for the help while choking on pride and humiliation. Breaking down—not crying—breaking down every single atom of your existence in your partner's arms. Can you handle that vulnerability? Are they strong enough to put you back together?
11/16
For over 21 years, I had a habit of sleeping with my bedroom lights on. That stopped when I moved in with my wife.
I had lived alone since 17, and I opened the doors to our first home entirely unprepared for the reality that comes when building a household with a partner.
1/12
The question is no longer can I handle this? It is: Can we handle this? In marriage everything is “us”. Till death do us part. Marriage is plunging into the deep end of the public swimming pool holding on to your partner's hand while neither of you has learned how to swim.
The directors cut that never makes the premiere. That is marriage; in marriage, the bitter doesn’t shy away from the sweet. Having been in a relationship for 13 years, I can tell you that marriage is brutally honest. If you are not ready to be exposed, stay away from marriage.
The hardest thing about commitment in marriage is it doesn’t end. There is no break.
Marriage exists even with the debts. The dismissals. Miscarriages. Diagnoses. Funerals and the fights.
14/16
When I met my wife, I knew I could marry her.
In fact, I broached the subject of marriage early. She didn’t take me seriously, but I knew.
Come on; you don’t spend your teens playing Fifa, 2K or Premier Manager and not know the difference between starters and reserves.
Then tell me about discussing the past with your partner. Every scar from the one under your chin from when you fell off a swing in reception; to the ones slashed deep in your heart from abuse and mistrust.
12/16
Since its Valentine's day. I want to share my WEDDING speech. Im a pretty private when it comes to intimate moments so 🙈
I've never watched the whole ting back since that day...it brings up WAYYY TOO many emotions,but i just know whatever I said, it means twice as much now! 😭
i don’t think people realise how fragile and delicate relationships are. you can literally ruin decades of hard work and commitment in a couple of minutes.
The singular act of saying I do is easy. Getting married is easy. That part is fun and filled with photographs, food and celebration. People assume they are ready for marriage because they are ready to get married.
5/16
I blame reminders that you are getting old. I blame friends who edit their entire relationship and present you with the filtered VCSO cam version. I blame tweets like my own that only give you sample of the product.
9/16
Behind the scenes this woman has:
- supported smaller channels
- built businesses
- created jobs for family and friends
- broke barriers
- easily one of the hardest working creators day to day.
Definitely well deserved 👏👏
That was not the first time we fought before the wedding and it wasn’t the last, but those are the moments we edited out of the anniversary posts and wedding speeches. The part you don't see in the tweet you all liked on Instagram. That is the hashtag goals you snapchatted.
3/16
Love is deep.
The first time I broke my wife's heart was the first time I cried over a woman.
A situation over a girl we both knew and something I had forgotten about..etc.
1/13
The might have already bookmarked their first home, decorated their vision board with holiday destinations and collected brochures of potential schools their children might attend. They might be naive enough to think they are ready for kids—you are never prepared for kids.
I lost friends when I found my wife
A relationship can show you who your real friends are.
Not everyone is happy for you and not everyone wants to see your marriage work. A relationship is never about one person — neither is it about only two people.
1/16
I blame Disney, Titanic, Celine Dion, Love Island, Love is Blind and any other Tv series that begins with love and ends with a couple winning some prize money.
8/16
My first unofficial date with my wife went great until the bill came.
It had been laughs, flirting and vibes, but then the receipt was placed on the table; it was like a gun going off at the start of the 100-meter sprint.
Let the games begin.
1/14
My marriage was going smoothly until we had our first child.
Why do children change everything? Weren't we prepared? Too young? Too independent? A single line on pregnancy tests is a lever that takes approximately 39 weeks to flip your entire relationship upside down.
1/17
Pride and love do not mix.
One day pride might cost me my marriage.
My wife would call me out as a liar if I delivered this any other way, so there is no advice here; only testimony.
I can go days without speaking to my wife...
1/14
They might be prepared for the bridal shower, the bachelor party, the wedding, the honeymoon. They might be ready to stand in front of the pastor, iman or rabbi and declare their undying love in front wet-eyed friends and family members.
6/16
Being aware of how to criticise your partner is a skill that takes years to master.
My wife has taught me that you gain more when you criticise the situation or the circumstance, but not the person.
1/15
I know I said I would return to social media after Ramadan but and I just realized I needed a little more time. Hopefully, this video helps explain a little bit, but don't worry we will have plenty of time to catch up. I missed you guys and thank you for your patience.
its been a journey. To this go from a slides on a deck to the finished product is an overwhelming experience. So proud of my guys
@TeamKano
revolutionising the game, to create this with
@kanyewest
. YEEZY TECH. We just getting started baby!
Early one morning, looking across from my bed at my sleeping wife, I realized that she was not the same woman I married six years ago.
The phrase people change is an understatement when it comes to marriage.
1/19
You don't create a partnership by forcing someone to be the person that makes you comfortable, instead of the person who differences you can both learn and grow from.
12/12
So my wife loves her Van Cleef braclet, I'm not into designer, so I buy her designer stuff, because she likes it, but I always add a unique DIY gift into the mix.
I'm old school, it's the ‘thought that counts’ kind of gifter, so I always lean toward the sentimental side 🧵
The argument escalated further.
You’re crazy.
Shut up! Solomon.
Don’t chat to me.
I’m leaving
I don’t care.
I’m not coming back
I. Do. Not. Care.
Several hours and an untold number of missed calls to her sisters and friends later she came back
2/16
I love my wife sometimes.
At other times, no one frustrates me more than my wife.
Between parents, siblings and friends too close for comfort, it's not even close. My wife walks away with the grammy for the most frustrating person in my life every year.
1/11
cc:
@KWESIARTHUR_
“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come”
the time is near my bro 🙏🏾
In a marriage, romantic love is the icing on the wedding cake; honesty is the base; vulnerability is the batter; trust is another layer and sacrifice is the secret ingredient.
Each day in a marriage requires a different layer of love.
7/13
I met my wife in 2009, but I did not propose until almost seven years later.
Most people don’t know that we went back and forth on the decision to get married.
1/16
The response to my marriage thread has been overwhelming. People have told me it brought them to tears, others that it has made them rethink decisions they knew they would regret.
Writing it was therapeutic for me; a nice reminder why it is all worth it.
Making new rules in marriage is teamwork. Not every player will play the same position.
I hate laundry,my wife hates the kitchen sink; so we delegate, divide and conquer.
The goal is equality of outcome, not to mimic processes. You waste a great striker by putting him in goal.
I used to be afraid to tell a woman about my goals and fears in life.
Growing up, my ambitions were met with looks of doubt or judgement. Conversations became more manageable when they revolved around causal flirty, romantic gestures and adolescent banter.
1/14
when i met
@KwesiArthur_
not only was he humble, workin incredibly hard, but i knew he was special! Fast forward 2 years he's gone from freestyles on twitter, to hit songs, SHUTTING DOWN shows and not 1! not 2! but 3 Ghana Music Award nominations!! 🇬🇭
Keep risin lil bro!
Still undisputedly one of the GREATEST poems of this generation! The way this man has mastered the art of using the 273,000 words in the English dictionary is UNREAL!
We don’t date anymore.
Let’s do something different for once.
How come you never make any plans?
Words that become too familiar in a long term relationship.
After 13 years in a relationship; it’s hard to keep the spark alive.
1/14
Pride is a silent killer in a relationship
We all come into relationships with baggage.
You are no exception to the rule
We come with chinks in our confidence from rejection,
scars on our love from previous relationships & bruises in places you don't want to think about
1/12
*NEW VIDEO*
Suli Breaks - Sensitive
There is new trend of people getting offended by EVERYTHING they see online. This is a message for those sensitive people. Warning ⚠️‼️ You might be offended!
Please share if you feel da message.
We marry the person, not the character we dated.
We all strive to make an impression but, don’t let the glamour blind you from the reality. He can do all the right things, but still not be right for you. She might do everything you did not expect, but be exactly what you need.
Romantic love has it's on and off days, but genuine love is timeless. Genuine love is complex; it's testing; it breaks every rule—that's why people can grow apart and still love each other.
Stop depending on one definition of love to solve all your problems.
12/13
be careful when chasing the things you desire. many want, but few understand why they want. they will say “we needs this because...” & “we need that because...”
they are ignorant to the fact that they continue to confuse their heart’s purpose with their heart’s desires.
14:12
There is a difference between living together and sharing a home. You live together with family and friends, but you share a home with a partner.
It goes deeper than sharing space, it is a process of existing together.
8/12
my 3 years old son took out my mat this morning and told me he wanted to pray. i have never had any conversations with him about religion or praying, however sees me pray five times a day.
a reminder that children will always learn more from the example you set than your words.
Don't tell your wife.
That is one of the most dangerous requests I can receive as a married man.
It's a high-risk statement, trouble making statement.
Trust me, the information is not worth it.
1/9
“I do not celebrate Valentine’s Day,"
I told my wife when we first met 16 years ago (you can imagine how that went down).
Valentine's is not consistent with my religious views, and my wife respected that, with one condition.
i say Eid mubarak to the people with a heavy heart today. Knowing that i can enjoy the occasion with my family in safety and security while our brothers and sisters in Palestine are afforded the same peace.
I’m still not a role model, but on September 25th 2019, I present to you
“How I Became A Superhero”
#HIBAS
at the iconic Brixton 02 academy, for one night only!
I have been looking forward to taking you on this journey since
#narm
and i promise you won’t be disappointed!!
Fam! The best RELATIONships are built on...
PARTNERship - working Together
HARDship - helping each other through hard times
COMPANIONship - supporting one another consistently
WORship - having faith
LEADERship - working towards a vision
FRIENDship - Obviously!!!
☺️
sometimes you have to sit with your emotions; even the painful ones. you have to take the time to let them pass through your system completely, before you can move on.
Living with your partner is living with a familiar stranger.
You know them on a romantic level, on an intimate level, but not what room temperature they need to fall asleep when they are on their monthly cycle.
5/12
Some treat their home as a structure built on ideas and expectations carried from their parents' house or bachelor pad. It's unfair to get annoyed at your partner for something you were taught that they never even knew was a lesson.
10/12
honestly, spending time offline, was VERY tough. especially when everything nowadays is based on being "visible". however, it did teach me the value of patience. I realised, as long as you ensure you are growing and developing everyday, you dnt need the world to dictate your pace
Falling in love feels great, but you only realise how deep love gets when you raise your head to breath and find yourself drowning.
Don't marry for love means don't marry for one kind of love; the butterflies, the roses and the dinner dates.
10/13