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margo steines

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2 years

this semester i tried a radical thing where i made every single deadline flexible for my college writing students. every single one! no "i almost died" note required. the policy is that if they aren't going to meet the deadline, they just propose an alternate one. i bet this...

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...sounds like it would be a MESS but i am here to tell you it is the BEST thing i have ever done at this work. they are SO appreciative. they do ALL the work. i spend ZERO time hassling ppl to turn stuff in. it feels HUMANE

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@starbetter absolutely, the whole "we need to prepare them for the real world" is such a load of shit, an excuse to wield small power over people who are genuinely trying to figure out their way in the world

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ive been at my annual GYN appt for 5m and have already said no to getting weighed and to having the date of my period recorded in a state w/o reproductive choice, the vibe is now TENSE in here 😬

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@mariglynn literally zero downside, a win for everyone, a kidney punch to arbitrary productivity standards and culture

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Returning here, tackily, to plug my forthcoming book, BRUTALITIES, dropping October ‘23 from Norton. (I delivered it on deadline, fwiw!) No preorder page yet but you can read the anchor essay in The Sun ❤️ Thanks for the discourse ❤️

The Sun Magazine | A Very Brutal Game | By Margo Steines | Issue 539

A man with the right scruffed-up beard and breadth of chest swaggered into the S and M dungeon that was my place of business, and twenty min

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@MsGentryTeacher You can say no to literally anything that they want to do, but they really like to cultivate an energy of trying to make you forget that

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2 years

Wow I literally cannot think of one single thing I am less interested in

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1 year

today at brunch an older man put his hands on my daughter. we were having eggs at an outdoor cafe and he approached our table and started making weird faces at her from a few feet away.

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@klgrasso5 1. i exclusively do contract grading and give most of my feedback in verbal conversations, so i haven't gotten too bogged down. part of my policy is if you take an extension, you go to the back of the feedback line, so that helps.

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the younger woman sitting closest to us said to me, “You handled that really well.”

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I was SO grateful to be seen like that, and to know that it is the 40 yrs of cultural conditioning that my body is community property that I have received that makes it feel anything short of correct to tell someone to get their hands off me, off my daughter, off all of us.

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I feel proud of myself but also so weighed down by the project of it all, by how many years I didn’t have a strong voice, and by how hard my kid will have to fight to keep herself whole in this world.

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I was raised to be polite and accept an uncomfortable hug and to never make a man feel bad about himself. It took a long time to see and reject all of that, and bodily autonomy still feels hard won. I will NEVER show my daughter that someone can touch her without asking,

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@EMJWriting My favorite move is to say “I feel good about my weight” and it never fails to make them angry

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My daughter was okay—I explained to her that sometimes people won’t respect our body boundaries and that’s when we use our strong voice, and that I will always use my strong voice for her, and it’s okay for her to use hers too.

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that we have to accommodate every boundaryless old man who has never stopped to think about why he feels entitled to put his hands on people.

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I said DONT TOUCH MY KID and he didn’t pull away or stop and then I YELLED. I yelled TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF MY CHILD and everyone turned to stare and only then did he step back. Then he lingered around our table for a while.

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I was MORTIFIED tbh. I felt so shook up but also hugely ashamed, like I had done something wrong or misread or overreacted. I wanted to leave but I made myself stay and we finished our food and when I got my daughter packed up to leave and was rolling the stroller out,

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1 year

pretty excited to be holding an actual physical copy of the book that’s been leaking out of me for the past decade

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2 years

@NadxiNieto MVP friends include: friend who sends door dash, friend who drops off soup, friend who randomly drops off flowers and pomegranates, friends (plural) who have gracefully accepted a big mess of laundry and dropped it off folded, friend who takes the baby for a stroller walk.

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@MsGentryTeacher Having a baby in this completely messed up medical system really radicalized me to my own bodily autonomy in the medical context

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1 year

LOOK IT'S MY BOOK

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1 year

@teachbk What happens if you were to tell them not to do all of it? (Genuine question, I have no idea)

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2 years

@PeretzLange I do no penalty—feels pointless otherwise. I hear u on the first point—I spend a lot of time setting the tone of mutual care & flexibility but there are still ppl who struggle to give themselves a break. I can only do what I can do 🤷🏻‍♀️

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1 year

I didn’t like the vibe, but it was a public space, and I get that ppl love to make faces at little kids and up to a point, okay. She wasn’t comfortable, and I didn’t know what to say, and then he leaned in and touched her neck/shoulder/chest.

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2 years

@angelolexie great question, i haven't done any student presentations this semester but if i did i would have an alternate prep on hand for if/when people needed to push their deadline. i feel best with a "loose agenda" type syllabus vs a "this is happening on this day or else" vibe

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@MomirBasic I explain to them that our work is scaffolded and that we rely on each other showing up prepared and then I trust that they’re doing their best. Peer review is bundled into small group conferences w me so that I can facilitate everyone meeting each other where they’re at.

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2 years

SO excited and grateful for this opportunity, my first ever residency. I’m bringing MY WHOLE FAMILY! Most residences are not remotely accessible for ppl w small children and I thought I’d missed the window. Here’s hoping I can write a big chunk of my weird milk book in VT 🐄🥛🤱🏻

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2 years

@theyoungjoo Nope! I teach writing, so it’s not a “here are the answers” situation. I try to divest from scarcity/hoarding mentality around knowledge (not easy as it is built into a lot about academia). Also everything is scaffolded such that plagiarism would be…ambitious.

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1 year

For more spicy takes on agency, bodily autonomy and rage against systems, please preorder my book! ❤️🙏🏼

Brutalities

'Brutalities is electric with insight, riveted by its commitments—to love and bewilderment, to bearing witness—and utterly propulsive.' —Leslie Jamison, author of The Empathy Exams A searing, vivid...

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@RobinIller there are not very many medications were a matter of 10 or 20 or 50 pounds would make a difference in dosing, and they could easily weigh you in the event they needed that precise info and not just as a matter of course.

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2 years

Now that I am 40 I have some things to say: 1. Stop fucking with your eyebrows. Just stop. 2. Sunscreen every day, face + neck. Every day. 3. Put a little $ in the bank every month, no exceptions, even if it’s just fifty bucks 4. Be naked! As much as possible! You look great.

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1 year

@ababyartist Just with bad vibes and glares lol…honestly I think they are mostly confused and don’t know how to handle it on their end

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1 year

@angelolexie Literally no reason for them to even ask either unless it is specifically medically relevant which in my case it is not. I also decline weigh ins for my young child. Like WHY

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2 years

@Abrardts i have to say i did not really keep track. it hasn't seemed to matter, and everyone has respected their self-proposed deadlines with a lot of care. this would be interesting to keep track of on a large scale

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8 months

happy book day to me. thank you to everyone who has supported this extremely weird and labor intensive way of engaging with the world.

Brutalities

'Brutalities is electric with insight, riveted by its commitments—to love and bewilderment, to bearing witness—and utterly propulsive.' —Leslie Jamison, author of The Empathy Exams A searing, vivid...

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@Jdbdvsns1 I think partly to push back against the practice of asking, and also if we do end up in some not entirely implausible dystopian situation where the government is tracking our periods, I don’t really want anything recorded?

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2 years

@lolatiffhur It’s less a “fuck deadlines time doesn’t matter” vibe and more “let’s do our best and acknowledge reality, and build some flexibility into the system from the ground up so we are not always 12 hours of lateness away from catastrophe”

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@DaBronzeJay Absolutely, but you can have those convos w/o a calendar date. Reproductive choice is limited in the state I live in

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2 years

@jestom The #1 benefit and I’ll GLADLY take a pay cut for it

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11 months

um I bought this house ?!?

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1 year

Friends! I am so excited to tell you that, in the wake of the Catapult closure, I have finalized some long-in-the-works plans to host my creative writing classes independently...

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@EMJWriting I am also a straight sized person, and I can only imagine the worse treatment that other bodies get around this

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2 years

I’m teaching a class on chronic illness narratives this November—syllabus is looking pretty great so far tbh. This is a space for anyone who had been betrayed by their body and wants to think that experience through on the page. Please join me ❤️

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@clhubes I feel like this is an allegory for sexuality lolol

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@coolgirl0nline 100% had a sandwich in my pocket

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1 year

17 years sober today, AMA ❤️🙏🏼

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2 years

Sick friends, come write with me about all the weird stuff that happens in your bathroom. 4x craft and studio sessions lots of prompts no workshop all body talk starting 11/28 <3

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2 years

@AntiSelfHelp Possibly, I don’t have any experience working with that age group. But also I think the distinction between no deadlines and flexibility is a important one

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8 months

my book comes out in 9d, am becoming more unhinged each day, am now primarily surviving on salami and every few days I go to Trader Joe’s and spend $80 for the dopamine hit of watching my kid push the tiny cart and having a conversation w an adult who is not embarrassed for me

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9 months

it’s here! just got my author copy!

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2 years

@angelolexie 100%. it makes me sad that they have been so terrorized by their education experience that they feel that way. glad to do any little part i can in giving them some agency and breathing room

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1 year

@bessbell Unpopular opinion but we do this and it works great, sometimes she eats zilch sometimes she eats a balanced meal sometimes she eats just rice but we’ve truly never had a tense moment over it…sorry :/ If you wanna talk “sleep when the bb sleeps” that’s another story lol

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New essay in @TheSunMagazine today, this one’s about running, but really it’s about exile, and my very tenacious dad, and obsession

The Sun Magazine | Run Home | By Margo Steines | Issue 572

Long-distance running is the dogged refusal to bend to the way you feel. It is the accommodation of pain. If you run long enough, far enough, fast enough, you w

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1 year

Thanks for this love from the person who has taught me the most, often just by living transparently ❤️

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If you’re looking for some writing classes, especially generative, emotionally smart, embodied writing, I strongly suggest signing up for one of @margosteines classes:

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@smalonemd @jfitzgeraldMD TELL US ABOUT PELVIC FLOOR PT I AM BEGGING YOU ALL. No doctor EVER told me about it—I only knew to go bc im a weightlifter and other athletes told me.

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1 year

The confusion I am met with when I read “I do not require proof, I trust you” from my syllabus 💔💔💔

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1 year

A few things not to ask for as a teacher: * A doctor’s note for a student who spent the night in the ER. * Proof of a positive COVID test. * A funeral notice for a student who’s had a death in the family. * [Insert every other personal thing that we shouldn’t be policing.]

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✨just sent off my final book edits excuse me while i perish✨

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Ok I am finally going to AWP for the first time this year—three nights alone in an air bnb hits different when you have a toddler!

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@ThePolishNinja Love hearing this from stem, I’ve been curious how it would translate to more knowledge retention type fields

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me: uses a functionally incorrect word copy editor, helpfully: that word doesn’t mean that, here is the word that means what you mean me: stet for vibes

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@Sarrigin Where do you live, that sounds amazing

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@moorehn Ok but my boyfriend is the hottest person I know and he’s already seen me in all my gross rags and still loves me so I’m doomed

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9 months

this is the literal peak compliment of my life

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If Melissa Febos and Eula Biss had a baby, it would be this book, and it would be the book you want to preorder this fall @margosteines

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2 years

@KerryHowley “the paper of record” I’ve been reading NYT since I could read and I gotta say after some of this week’s headlines…bye

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1 year

@RobinIller Also no medications were dispensed on this visit

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2 years

For LETTER TO A STRANGER, I wrote about stumbling into this beautiful desert treasure of a human, once a stranger, now my family. (1/2)

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2 years

Just wrapped my first class for @CatapultStory and feeling so grateful and inspired by the way my amazing students filled, to bursting, the container I offered. I made a commitment to myself that for every class I teach, I would take one too--who has a cnf class coming up?

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2 years

@touchofallright 100 over 4 sections, 3 preps

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2 years

Writers: Do you have some weird thoughts/experiences that you'd like to make sense and art out of? If so, I made this Catapult class for you:

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every time I wrap a creative writing class i get weepy about how astonishing my students’ work is. i'm blown away by the raw talent in this world, it is such an honor to be a part of guiding people as they make things. i’m so grateful for the trust it takes to be a student <3

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I am SO excited to finally finally have some reading time coming up this summer--what should i read?? i almost exclusively read nonfiction but am open to being changed and my taste is generally literary but never highbrow

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Huge congrats to my amazing and wildly talented student @zebra596 who just accepted a fully funded spot at her first choice MFA program!!🎉🥳🎊 What’s your best piece of MFA advice to send her off with?

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@JaimieSeaton i don't believe that, short of really extreme circumstances, policing is a good answer to very many things. he would not have been arrested and it would have 100% scared my kid more. if i had felt physically threatened, my call would have been to my multiple-black-belt partner:)

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book comes out tmrw. kid woke up at 430, I’ve given myself stress shingles, can’t sleep can’t eat, tree came down in my yard, LIVING THE DREAM (but not even sarcastic)

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Hi friends, I'm teaching a longer workshop version of my Writing Chronic Illness class. It's a space to talk+learn craft and process for illness writing, and also a community space for anyone struggling to be an artist and take care of a complicated body<3

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2 years

@kativanovwrites I retired from sw before grad school but a LOT of nyc dominatrixes are grad students.

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11 months

new imaginary knuckle tattoo mood: HOME OWNR just closed on my first house! it feels very surreal, i grew up in an nyc rental and did not think i would ever ever be able to pull this together. thanks to everyone who has bought stuff from me, you each sponsored a GFCI outlet

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@tarintowers @jestom True true. I’ve also upgraded the office to premium toilet paper

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@DrSamiSchalk We had a SHOOTING on my campus and a week later it was business as usual…we all, esp these young ppl, need more care than we are receiving

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@DrSarah90307095 For me the deadlines are often arbitrary, and maintaining those boundaries feels like poorly spent energy, and it is fine for me to receive some work on week 8 and some on week 9.probably wouldn’t have gotten into it for another week anyway.This system supports my workflow.

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@CaitlinEichorn fuck that whole place. i was just at a residency where someone brought covid in, and they handled it incredibly well, despite having 7 families WITH SMALL CHILDREN they contained the outbreak to 4 ppl. it is doable. as someone living with long covid this shit is not nbd

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So grateful for a started Kirkus review 🙏🏼

BRUTALITIES | Kirkus Reviews

Steines tackles complex, nuanced truths about power and violence through clear writing and an unflinching gaze.

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still on vaca. i got a MASSAGE. we went for a RUN. we saw a pod of DOLPHINS. my dude looks so cute w his lil sunburn. yesterday we had lunch at 3pm and then had another lunch at 5 and dinner at 10. pure chaos. i am so happy

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2 years

$85 prescription: am I really that sick? maybe I’ll just get it next month $85 water bill: *side eye at kids letting the faucet run for 10 seconds too long* $85 dinner: money does not exist we require every side dish in this place

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@MomirBasic It def takes a different kind of syllabus building, with flexibility intentionally built in

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@RaeHoffmanJager no sleep training

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For @Shepherd_books , I wrote about some of my favorite books @emrata @girlmakesfire @lsjamison

The best books about horrible things happening to your body

Margo Steines shares the 5 best books on horrible things happening to your body. Have you read My Body?

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@jeeeberts Wait, lol, I know him! Tbh he really is so nice

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@joshuamcclure kind of agree, but also, not eating those things won’t fix you… I don’t eat any of those things, and it has not improved my health. Being meticulous with diet will only get you so far

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Not many people know this: I have been sick for nearly 5 yrs. If I had $1 for every time I've heard "but you look so healthy," I could start paying back my medical debt. Thank you @meghanor for this book, esp for its attention to the grief + "narrative chaos" of chronic illness.

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what will i do with my one wild and precious 3 hrs between drop off and pickup and why is it look at the internet

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residency update: *wrote one full essay start to finish (w my partner!) *have 75+ rough pages of new book done incldng 4 semi-formed essays *haven't gotten any ticks yet as far as i can tell *have mostly survived communal living so far *kid has gone slightly feral *SLEPT #wip

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@clhubes it’s for a divorced hamster

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2 years

@kativanovwrites it has been good! hearteningly so. like what if we just treat the students like HUMANS? i was very inspired by the work of @mauldin_laura , just to give credit where it's due

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Good haul #awp2023

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