Now that BlueSky is finally open for all without an invite, I should probably remind everyone that you can find me over there at
@maegodhavemercy
.com.
I’ll set this as my pinned tweet, but yeah - y’all should hop off this sinking ship ASAP. See you on BlueSky! 🦋
You know what sucks the most about this whole twitter thing?
Like, even if everything went completely tits up and Elon lost the entire 44B in total, he’d still be one of the richest people in the world, and 7000+ people would have lost their jobs for nothing.
It’s funny (not like, funny ha-ha, but you know, more like, baffling) how completely unaware most cis people are about the current attacks on trans folks in the U.S. right now.
For instance, there’s a gal who works at our local grocery store that always chats with me…
Well, it’s live. So, it’s official: I’m out.
Hi, nice to meet you. I’m Mae, the creator and cartoonist for Real Life Comics, which I started back in 1999 when I was just 18.
Over the next 3 weeks, I’ve got a storyline running about my journey.
Eep!
It really drives home the point, though, that we need to be doing everything we can to increase visibility on these monsters, because some of our potentially strongest allies in the fight against them might not even know what’s going on, since the media loves to bury it.
I told her about the bathroom bill they just passed, along with the band on trans healthcare and the “take your kids” bill, and she had an absolute look of shock and horror on her face that they could be doing such a thing. She was PISSED, of course.
…and we also tend to gab about Disney stuff, since she’s also a Disney Parks fan. So I was talking about our recent trip and sharing some photos, and mentioned that it might be our last visit out there for a while because of the laws being passed.
She was completely unaware.
And it’s like, she’s getting super pissed, and I’m kinda like “yeah, it is, but I’m used to it”. ‘Cause let’s be honest, as completely fucked up as these attacks are, they’re kinda like the cosmic microwave background radiation of being trans in America at this point.
There’s a poll someone posted today that asked trans women how long they identified as a gay man prior to transition.
And like… the longer I sit with it, the angrier I get about it. Because that mentality kept me from realizing I was trans for DECADES.
Trans lesbians exist.
This mother fucker can afford to lose 44 BILLION, and his life will not change. Just… fuck him. God dammit.
I know most of the people who will be leaving Twitter will be able to get new jobs, but what a goddamn WASTE of just…everything.
Whoever decided that 1) power-only USB cables needed to exist and 2) they should be indistinguishable from data-capable USB cables has some fucking EXPLAINING to do.
HOLY SHIT I JUST GOT CORRECTLY GENDERED IN PUBLIC FOR THE FIRST TIME!!
No necklace, no makeup - just ME.
Holy fuck. I am on cloud goddamn nine right now.
Lessons learned: The El*n M*sk fan club apparently trolls twitter looking for mentions of Adder*ll so they can harass people who use it.
This is a perfectly normal social network. Yessir.
I’ve just learned that new employees on Star Trek shows who might not know some of the details get an introduction to important Star Trek concepts, and I have never felt like I have missed my calling in life more than I do now that I know “Star Trek 101 Instructor” was an option.
This comic will undoubtedly be the thing in most remembered for, and ironically, I didn’t even write a single word of it.
It’s also a bit melancholy now - Elle Stockton, who created and ran the Girl Inside Facebook page, passed away on Wednesday evening.
Well, it’s live. So, it’s official: I’m out.
Hi, nice to meet you. I’m Mae, the creator and cartoonist for Real Life Comics, which I started back in 1999 when I was just 18.
Over the next 3 weeks, I’ve got a storyline running about my journey.
Eep!
Achievement unlocked: Went out of the house looking like this!
(First attempt at doing my own makeup, too! Need to do a bit of blending practice, but all in all I’m pleased!)
When I presented as male, I would buy shirts primarily as a way of display things I was a fan of.
Now I buy clothing specifically based on how good it makes my tits look.
So… same thing, I guess?
So, after noticing that I was hesitant to attend the “Father/Daughter Dance” at my kid’s school, my wife mentioned to someone at the PTA that the name wasn’t very inclusive. The PTA thought it was a great point.
Local moms, naturally, are reacting very reasonably.
Being openly trans can be helpful for other trans people, because it can give us courage and strength… but it can also help or cis friends and family, because it can help them see that we’re going to be OK. They worry about us, for good reason… but we’re going to be okay.
But just something about seeing another trans person out and about, living openly, helped her relax a little. As I was leaving, she literally thanked me for helping put her mind at ease a bit.
And also… it’s important for those trans folks that are younger than us (her son is 21) to know that things now are SO much better than they have been, and that while the world is a scary place to be trans, it can and does get better.
And there's the final comic of this series.
These last three weeks have been some of the most wonderful I've ever experienced, and the love and support I've felt were FAR beyond anything I could have imagined.
This is, of course, only the beginning. Back monday with more!
Two years ago today, I posted the first comic in a series of strips that served to not only detail my personal journey of discovery, but also served as my public coming-out announcement.
It was a scary day, but even with the world as it is today, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Well, it’s live. So, it’s official: I’m out.
Hi, nice to meet you. I’m Mae, the creator and cartoonist for Real Life Comics, which I started back in 1999 when I was just 18.
Over the next 3 weeks, I’ve got a storyline running about my journey.
Eep!
This week’s selfie needs its pair to make sense. The left is me on 1/3/20, my first day of HRT. The right is me today.
No makeup, no bra, no angles. Same pose, same shirt, and with every variable removed...
I’m still me. “He” is GONE. Holy SHIT.
Estrogen. Is. Magic. ✨
Not everyone has the privilege of being able to be openly trans, and I absolutely recognize that. For some, being out could absolutely put them in danger, and it’s important to have the safety of stealth.
But those of us who are able to need to be as visible as we can.
She seemed to open up a little bit, sharing the name her son has chosen (she liked it), and she was still saying “she” every now and again, but she’d catch herself and correct herself. I reassured her that it was okay - she was trying, and her son will see that.
Posted this on Reddit the other day, but neglected to do so anywhere else.
I did one of my usual timeline posts, but this one was Year to Year instead of month to month, and it’s kind of fascinating to me. Everyone doing the “pre-pandemic to now” meme made me think of it.
I, of course, think this is awesome because people coming out as trans is always awesome, but she was struggling. She was supportive, but she told me she was just so scared for him.
And like… I GET that. The world is not a kind place for us right now.
I told her that when I was just coming to terms with myself, I was also terrified. The worry of putting myself in danger was strong, and it’s still there in the back of my mind when I go places that I’m not used to.
But the joy of being myself outweighs those fears.
The order had gone in before my name change documents were finalized, so I laughed it off, using it as a conversation starter for how annoying the process of changing ID documents can be.
She paused, and said “yeah, one of my kids is going through that right now.”
But all I have to share is my experiences. So I said just for what it’s worth, as someone who lives in the area, I’ve been out for almost 2 years now and I’ve been lucky enough to have never been mistreated. Obviously, this area isn’t the norm, but still.
@TugBoatPatton
I guarantee you that most people have a trans person in their life. You might not know it, but statistically speaking, a little more than 1.5% of adults and about 5% of young adults are trans or non-binary.
The real cherry on top of the whole thing? The original post author was one of the first people in my neighborhood to reach out to me after I transitioned and was super supportive. She blocked me recently after she and my wife had an argument over vaccinations.
Truuuuue colors.
Why the fuck.
Why the FUCK. Did Disney have to finally revisit TRON, a world they’ve left underdeveloped for ages (like cancelling TRON: Uprising), finally decide to bring it back and have it star JARED FUCKING LETO?!
Why. The FUCK.
I went to get my blood drawn today in preparation for a doctors visit next month, and after sitting down in the chair, the gal helping me told me she couldn’t find the doctor’s order for it, so I said to check under “Greg”, just in case.
Just a gentle reminder that if you in any way support the Republican Party, you’re basically my enemy.
Wish it didn’t have to be that cut and dry, but here we are.
Marjorie Taylor Green just announced a bill to make gender affirming care for trans teens a class C felony NATIONALLY.
Tucker Carlson says he will pressure every Republican to join.
It has no chance of passing the next 2 years, but this is their plan if they win in 2024.
Almost 3 years ago, I was able to finally come to terms with who I actually was, and it was entirely due to other trans people living openly and visibly that I was able to do so.
No amount of legislating is going to make us disappear.
#TransDayOfVisibility
(Not gonna link the poll or anything because I don’t want to dogpile)
But like, god DAMMIT. As a child of the ‘80s, if I had seen anything OTHER than “gay man to trans woman” in any media EVER, I might have been able to connect the dots instead of just slowly withering away.
You know what? I’m not done bitching about this. First and foremost,
@StarTrek
should be ASHAMED of such a nakedly obvious cash grab, and I cannot for the life of me fathom how this made it past the pitch process, but let’s pull apart this monkey bread of shit, shall we? 1/9
The idea that medication for things like ADHD or anxiety get stigmatized in our culture is fucking infuriating. I’ve been a useless lump for years because I was unable to focus long enough to actually DO anything of substance, and that’s totally changed.
Thank fuck for Adderall.
WELL, I’ve officially gone out of the house in the most overtly femme top I own, so... I think that’s it then. Clearly I’m in it for the long haul. :D
LOOKIT ALL THAT LACE OMG.
I haven’t done a
#TransTuesday
post in a while, but it’s occasionally amazing to remind myself just how far I’ve come.
I barely recognize that dude on the left at this point. Honestly, I wish I could just give him a hug and let him know everything will be OK.
Anyone who doesn’t understand the massive effect estrogen has on muscle atrophy can just come watch me try to clean the front room for the next few hours, because BOY HOWDY is it a different experience than this time last year. 🥵
I got a haircut, and it is significant for a number of reasons:
1) I literally cut off about 6” of length (seriously),
2) I got a swept bang for the first time, and
3) It is absolutely🔥🔥🔥
(We’ll call this my 3-day late 3-year HRT-iversary selfie. 😅)
#TransIsBeautiful
Happy Father’s Day to all the women that chose to stay “Dad” after transition.
Remember: “Mom” and “Dad” are just words, and in many ways, a state of mind. You get to choose how you relate to those words. You don’t have to be a man to be a dad. :D
Sorry, just seeing this ignored in 2022 feels fucking bizarre. Some of us were convinced we were just straight men because I have zero attraction to men, and perpetuating that is infuriating.
Ensign Dean, reporting for duty on Delta shift!
I finally got my
#StarTrekLowerDecks
insignia in, so I figured now was the time to show off the lower decks uniform! Now time to get ready for another second contact! 🖖
(BTW... 1 year HRT as of 1/3!)
One thing I'm starting to learn is that the generational divide between folks my age (40) and those in their 20's is a lot greater than I probably realized, especially from a trans standpoint.
The existence of the social-based internet completely changed things.
Well, the FINAL person I hadn’t yet come out to is now in the know - my landlord.
…and he was super, duper supportive. :) He even commented how much happier I seemed, and asked right away what name to use.
First time to the salon in about 8 months, and I got some advice on how to use a curling iron, to boot. I might actually be able to pull this off on my own!
I know I express this sentiment on a relatively frequent basis, but holy HECK I love being a girl. It’s just the BEST. ❤️
Felt cute, definitely won’t delete later. 😉
I take a lot of selfies, mostly by design. It’s great to be able to chart my transition week to week, so I try to snag one when I can.
But sometimes, I take a picture and have to stop and say “holy shit, that’s actually ME.”
So, it turns out you can mix a cute floral top with an army jacket, and like.. it works! Kind of a necessity as e we move into winter proper, since I don’t really have many sweaters yet.
Plus... being able to femme up a generally masc garment kind of rules. :D
And for
@StarTrek
, a series based on a moneyless, post-scarcity utopia, to jump on this bandwagon of shit, is just absolutely, mind-blowingly tone-deaf.
I love Star Trek. But Paramount can kiss the entirety of my ass, and I won’t even charge $250 for the privilege. 9/9
Y’know… this whole “girl” thing seems to agree with me. Who knew?
(In other news, my hair is stupidly long and I need to start learning more creative ways of styling it, because the half-up thing is getting old. 😄)
So I got a question in a DM the other day asking about how I dealt with talking to my younger child about my transition, and I realized that it’s not really something I ever discussed in any depth, so I thought I might take a few minutes to go into it here. 🧵
@Cheryl_Rhodess
Twitter was doing poorly financially. That much is true.
Losing 88% of its staff is unsustainable, though. It can’t function as a service without the integral staff to maintain it.
While trying to test out a quirk of FaceApp’s facial recognition with a few other ladies in chat, I wound up accidentally taking a selfie I kinda loved!
It’s... a very strange feeling to actually WANT to be take pictures after decades of avoiding cameras.
#TransIsBeautiful
Parents, please be vigilant this year and check your kids’ Halloween Candy. Some houses are giving out Tootsie Rolls. They haven’t been tampered with, they just suck.
So, it occurred to me today that despite taking quite a few pictures of myself over the last few years, I have neglected to create my own trans timeline.
THIS HAS BEEN RECTIFIED.
So,
@netflix
suspends trans employees for trying to be heard, says they won’t remove Chapelle’s special no matter who joins the protest, and responds to criticism by pointing out how popular and profitable he is.
But they made “Disclosure”, so it’s totally fine, right?
(My kid is sitting at the table playing Pokémon Go, and tells me she’s trying to hatch an egg)
Me: Kid, you can’t do that sitting still. You have to actually walk around to hatch an egg.
Me, under my breath: ...or just show them extremely relatable content...
I’m glad she got to know the impact she made on the world. I’m glad she had a wife and kids who loved and supported her, and I’m glad I got to have her in my life, albeit briefly.
Godspeed, Elle. You were rad as hell.
Im bored so let's do something artists,
What is a drawing you think you're iconic for? and let people reply to you what drawing they think you are iconic for
I got a new haircut (mostly just a trim and styling), and realized it’s been a good long time since I last posted a selfie, so I thought I’d have fun with it a bit!
Every day I’m looking more and more like ME, and less like that other person. It feels amazing. ❤️
So… tonight when we went out to dinner, my dad gave me an absolutely wonderful birthday card. He was trying to be a little goofy and wound up actually making my whole damned year. (And yes, the use of the deadname in this case is perfectly fine).
I did a thing. :)
I figured “hey, I’ve done my nails all of three times before. Clearly it’s time to become insufferably extra, right?” I made a few stupid mistakes that made for an uneven surface, but it’s all a learning experience. 😊
#CaptainMarvel
I will never, not if I live for ONE MILLION YEARS, EVER get tired of women complimenting me on my outfit or purse or whatever. It’s pure, distilled euphoria, and such a remarkably foreign experience. The most I ever got before was a “nice shirt” every now and again.
I’M JUST MAE NOW. Greg is a relic of the past.
I get to be MAE. EVERYWHERE. ALWAYS.
HOLY SHIT.
I’m still kind of struggling to contextualize it. It’s weird to be MOSTLY out, and then all of a sudden be ENTIRELY out.
I’m MAE, goddammit! 🥰
9/9
I would very much like to know why people who actively look forward to the day their deity destroys the world in a fiery apocalypse to punish nonbelievers are allowed to be involved in literally any level of government.
Sassy Mae was out in force today. At Target, I was looking for something, and an employee walked up and said “can I help you find anything, sir?”
My brain paused for a second and as soon as it rebooted, I glanced down at myself and said “You wanna try that again?”
I kinda want to take a minute just to sort of rehash something I’d mentioned before in some comic threads, because I think it bears repeating and I’m of the opinion that it never hurts to represent yourself. :)
My kids still, and always will, call me “dad”. And I love it. 1/5
Look, all I’m saying here is that if you like, watched, or have in any way ever been aware of The Matrix, you’re trans now.
I don’t see why that’s a controversial take.
Noooo big deal the creator of Lower Decks JUST LIKED THE PHOTO OF ME IN A LOWER DECKS UNIFORM WHAT DO YOU MEAN STOP SHOUTING I’M NOT SHOUTING YOU’RE SHOUTING
😳
@POTUS
You do realize that you can’t just SAY “I have your back” without actually DOING anything about it, right?
You can’t just say it once a year and hope the good vibes do the job.
BEHOLD! I have transitioned SO HARD that I have reached back in time and altered the very fabric of the past!
No mortal should hold such power, but I promise not to abuse it TOO much.
(Seriously though holy SHIT this feels amazing!)
My dad called me today to 1) admonish me for not including Stephanie as one of my names (his first name is Stephen) and 2) to let me know that he had a great aunt Mae, so it’s technically a family name! :D
My Dad: “Hey, when you come over for dinner on Thursday, why don’t you all bring your swimsuits - the community pool is open!”
Me: “Aw, the kids will love that! Sounds like…”
<Realizes she will be wearing a women’s swimsuit around her dad for the first time>
Me: “…fffun.”