the trans women of color whose memories are used to sell pride junk and push criminalization were called mothers bc they mothered gay street kids abandoned by their natal families & the state. libs would call them groomers if they were still alive
rather than remember and use people’s correct pronouns, a lot of cis people have defaulted to using they/them for everyone. please don’t do that! you’re missing the point.
don't call the cops on people who you don't think are social distancing appropriately. for the same reason that you don't call the cops on people for almost everything.
"you are valid" discourse rotting brains so we get shit like "no matter what scotus says you are worthy and beautifu" i don't care what you think of me i just want to make rent
friendly reminder that just because it's about "trans kids" doesn't mean it's not about race or class or ability. it's actually super about those things.
my favorite cis ally is the kind who’s like “have you ever met a trans person? they are harmless. they’re honestly kind of busted. how dare you say they’re dangerous when they’re literally these sad weird losers with issues”
“grooming” panic functions primarily and secondarily etc as a means of separating queer adults from queer youth. it’s harder for us to protect them and it’s harder for them to care for us as we age
i love how oreo wasn’t like “trans women are women” or “trans people are sacred,” instead going for the much more ominous and politically weird “trans people exist”
Eliott Page is a good looking guy, but I am about to blow your mind right now by saying that the goal of transitioning from female to male is not, typically, to maximize our sexiness.
if we define non-nuclear queer collectivities as grooming and normalize sexual (and other) violence in str8 state-sanctioned groups, what can “family” actually mean
prostitution laws preventing people from working together or sharing their $$ target working women, like the oft-invoked sylvia rivera, from providing for their families—including children & youth—w SW.
don’t want to rt the NYT piece about how zoomers are scary but talk about a shameless, feckless effort at portraying the youngest poorest cohort in the workplace as being more powerful than the people who employ them
just looking at this fills me with joy. i can smell the artificial cherry. i can feel the plastic baby in my arms, its tiny body rejoicing in the self-replenishing nourishment that only i can provide.
impossible to overstate how good and right this is. gay power is only powerful insofar as it is in solidarity with other people's movements. invoking the labor slogan: "an injury to one..." fucking love leslie, man
what do you miss about going to the gay bar? i miss standing in line for the gender neutral bathroom at 2am and getting nervously cruised by a baby butch who doesn’t know it’s ok to be gay yet
im bored of media where butches are the biphobic ones. where is my little tv show where a butch and a femme are together and the femme is mad bc the butch is fagging out
it IS easier and you’ll never misgender someone who uses they/them exclusively (like me!). but you’ll misgender everyone who doesn’t. defaults are easier but they also aren’t respectful.
using "womb-haver" "afab" "femme" "uterus-owner" usually comes from those desiring clarity & inclusion, but more often than just replaces cissexism. luckily, these terms almost always unnecessary. no one without a uterus is going to accidentally get an abortion.
respectfully, I do not have a strong desire to be referred to as a womb-haver or whatever. you can just say abortions are good and people should be able to get them. it’s fine
one of the problems w historicizing 20th c lesbian bar culture is that a lot of contemporary lesbians think it would have included them simply bc they’re lesbian
the question was a setup to reinforce the myth that trans, gnc, and nb people are new to queer and lesbian culture, so this answer is a total dunk. WE ARE ALL FUCKING AND IT RULES
the dearth of sex in movies is dull and bodes ill; i wish that actors making decisions about their own labor, in an industry famous for exploitation of performers, wasn’t so decontextualized; being an actor who doesn’t do sex scenes bc you’re monogamous is embarrassing lol
i think, if you're a writer, it's a good idea to write as often as you can in order to teach yourself proportion. not everything is the best thing you've ever written, or the worst. not everything shares the same level of skill or scale. profundity is by definition uncommon.
a career as a writer is not inaccessible because some writers advise writing daily or generalize about “hard work.” it’s inaccessible bc even the best, most disciplined writers can’t make a living doing it.
things change over time but remembering that “4” (as in t4t) was originally meant to facilitate fucking, rather than an exclusive/separatist politics, sure does make life a lot easier
recently i've been hearing a baby crying next door and i kept thinking, damn, where did this baby come from? they didn't have one before, and today i realized...it was born
the greta thunberg dickshaming thing is funny bc there are people coming at it without a trans lens. like im supposed to feel bad for cis men who aren’t hung. come on now
feinberg's legacy has been monstrously difficult to pinkwash because leslie was always explicit about the connections between hir gender nonconformity and hir liberatory mission as a gay communist.
you all do know that straight men could provide acceptable oral sex to women if they wanted to, right? it's not because they don't know where the clit is or it's complicated. it's because they don't care. hope this helps
arguing over whether or not the shooter is “actually” nb is beneath us and a distraction. it doesn’t matter. stunt or not, that person’s identity is, if not immaterial, secondary to the white supremacist project they serve
the demand for “natural” bodies from transgender athletes is not undermined by the punishment of black women athletes whose “natural” bodies are “too masculine.” these are inextricable from each other.
saw that keffals tweet. i often think about how my sister, who’s been called that word all her life by everyone from strangers to family to medical professionals, has like zero rights.
do u think that straight people are actually distinguishing between transsexual and gnc people in any meaningful, consistent, rational, informed, culture-competent way
i love it when a cis person is just sophisticated enough to ask your pronouns but gets bent out of shape when you ask for theirs back. WaIT a MINUte I Look NorMAL donT I!>!!>
maybe having their job outlawed while still being forced to pay rent will make more civilians understand what SWers have been talking about all this time
Modern Family (2009-2020) encapsulates the Obama-era assimilation of a certain kind of white homosexuality into the neoliberal project. The show's two major punchlines are gender-nonconformity and Latine people.
while i wont say all closeted people are straight, there’s a reason why straight people can and do have queer(ed) sex: they have chosen straightness over their own desires. they are straight, despite how they secretly indulge.
the idea that pride is an opportunity to expose kids to difference is insidious. it's not a zoo (nothing should be. zoos are bad). kids already witness difference in the street every day. what if your kids were surrounded with queer and trans people in their daily life?
i feel like some people think that if they get covid and have mild symptoms that if they pass it on to someone else, that person will also have mild symptoms.
i'm kind of obsessed with my boss. i'm using he/him at work because it's just easier and he is running with it. he keeps referring to me, him, and another coworker as "a band of merry men." obsessed
thinking about last year while literally in the middle of a fistfight this trans girl i did not know corrected a cis man who misgendered me. hope she's doing well