daughter, sister, friend, wife, mother, architect, sports enthusiast, passionate cook, love nature - interested in far too many things and learning every day
What I'm doing here?
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There is no drama, no tradgedy, no issues or something extraordinary in my life. I grew up in a loving family, led by strong men and strong women who protected us very much as children and adolescents. We grew up strictly compared to our friends
Reminder:
If your husband is talking to you and your child interrupts, then you only address the child with the parenting measure:
'Don't interrupt a conversation, you have to wait.'
Never ignore your husband to turn to the child. Except emergencies.
Teach them manners!
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A man who can protect and provide for his family.
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A woman who can cook a filling and delicious meal for her family or make a home out of almost nothing.
Same, but different currencies!
Girls, can you please stop telling around that you're taken when you're not even married? You are not taken, you are borrowed at most!
Until there is a ring you are single.
This is an important distinction!!!
'He is such a great father and I feel guilty for being jealous of his relationship with our daughter.'
Ooof! 😥💔
I'm not sure how many women feel this way, but I have a theorie: You are not jealous of his relationship, you wish he would treat you in a similar way.
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If you are on your honeymoon, learn to cook something typical from there. Something you both like.
Whenever you prepare it at home, the smell alone will leave you both reminiscing. Forever.
We must realize that we can only be good wives and mothers if we are happy.
In plain language: when we are feeling safe, loved and seen by our men.
A man who doesn't give you that is a red flag!
When a woman refuses her husband's offer of help, it's often a sign that she's angry
When a woman no longer asks her husband for help, it's often a singn she has given up
When a woman doesn't have to ask her husband for help because he simply helps, then she's a happy woman
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Ladies, it is ok to be sexually liberated, wild and crazy with your husband.
Talk to him about your fantasies, go to that imaginary places with him.
Most men crave that.
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Admit that you want to look sexy to him and that it does factor into the calculation when you are choosing clothes for the day.
The feeling when he goes to work thinking you are looking really good, knowing he has to leave and you're going to look like this all day..
Priceless!
If you would throw yourself around his neck like her when he comes home, show him your affection with similar intensity, would make him feel your joy just because of his presence and make things for him to feel good, then he would throw you around in a similar way.
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If you want a strong masculine man, you will have to submit.
Submitting to a man is not easy. Therefore you HAVE look for someone who looks in the same direction.
The vetting process is much more about you then about him.
Can you love him? Will you follow, even when it's hard?
What many girls are missing out on these days (because they feel the need to present themselves as sexy and 'grown up') is to dress girly/cute.
After a certain age it looks really inappropriate. Use your time to savor this, you'll want it at some point and no longer be able to.
@NoahRevoy
@RDValerie
For me a beard can be a kind of make-up.
I love beards! But there can also be an unsightly jawline underneath.
Make-up can do the same for women.
Girls, it is not our part to ask for exclusivity. Cut off 'What are we?' from your vocabulary.
We continue dating, also other men - no sex!
If he wants to get serious/exclusive he'll tell/ask us, then we decide.
It feels SO good to be 'cute and small and fragile' next to him.
Most girls want that and all women know exactly what I mean.
No matter how strong, big/tall or independent we are.
Please your husband by being a 'bad girl' (sexually).
Especially if you are otherwise good, sweet and decent. Be playful/dirty but discreet and only with him, no one else should get it.
The information about specific or non-existent underwear when you're out is a good ex.
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Ladies, I have some casual feminine winter style inspiration for you. Nothing against jeans and pants but this
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is especially for the pants-extremists here.😉
Exchange the jeans for such a skirt and boots. Your normal daily outfit will instantly become more feminine!
My son isn't ready to date girls.
I'm sure my husband will prepare him well for it, but I will also give him my two, three words to take with him on the way.
I know that some mothers give away behavioral 'instructions' like:
- Don't forget to open the door!
- Be kind!
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I'm judgmental when it comes to letting the kids play at school friends' houses. They are simply not allowed if I don't know their parents personally and haven't found them to be good.
'But the children can be nice and friendly regardless of their parents.'
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When a man doesn't desire his wife, it leaves her with deep wounds.
However good and loving he may be to her 'outside the bedroom', she will still feel ugly and inadequate.
Having a boyfriend just to not be alone and to fill the void is the worst thing you can do.
Many women just 'can't' be alone. They jump from one relationship to the next - it never works and ends in frustration and tears.
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"You're like your father/mother!"
Parents often use this sentence when they are annoyed by their kids.
This phrase is toxic and leads children to believe that being like their father or mother is not desirable and it also suggests that the parents do not like each other.
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Ever since they allowed to use insects in food and baked goods, I've been baking our own bread.
Always did as a treat, but now it became a daily routine.
We have fresh rolls every day and it's really easy to make - also to vary them.
A woman who is often criticized by her husband (to make her better), whose feelings are mostly ignored (so as not to allow too much drama), whose good work is not praised but put into perspective (so that her ego doesn't get too big) withers like a flower without water.
Girls, it's cruel but I have to say something
If you are in a long-term relationship, you wish to get married and he simply doesn't ask you (provided that he knows about your wishes and expectations!):
End the relationship before you even begin to place hints.
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He tickles and cuddles, throws and twirls her around, takes her into his world and they have a lot of fun together.
Of course, the relationship between father and daughter is very special in a very different way than a husbands and wifes, but the key is her pure femininity.
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Do NEVER talk like this about yourself to others/in public.
No matter if it's meant seriously or not, you are degrading yourself and the people around will pay less attention to your boundaries and start to do what they want with you.
Be careful when listening to her advice!
If you want your husband to go out alone with the children and do something with them while you have time for yourself or can sleep in a day on the weekends:
Then you have to let him do it his way from the start, with the newborn.
Stop dictating everything he has to consider.
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Information:
- A woman who is put down is insecure.
- A woman who is neglected is unhappy.
- A woman who feels his uncertainty is anxious.
- A woman who does not feel wanted feels worthless.
- A woman who is betrayed is a hurt woman.
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Men are emotionally very sensitive creatures.
More sensitive than women in many ways, because they avoid showing too much and tend to suppress negative feelings (this has logical and functionally important reasons for them/us) - that's why their hearts need to be protected by us.
@MrLottaHoes
You cannot be a good and strong father talking bad about your future kids like this.
'A teenage who will hate me regardless..'
That's telling about what you think of yourself.
And considering the other thing👇, you might even be right.
An annoyed man at the side of a woman makes her insecure.
Insecure women make more mistakes in everyday life - They can't focus on anything else.
The more she thinks it has something to do with her, the more she will ask questions,
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Ladies, crying is an outlet to relieve emotional pressure and we need it. In our cycle it is quite normal for this pressure to build up - even if we have no reason. Therefore, we often unconsciously search for reasons, which sometimes leads to arguments with our loved ones.
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To the girls looking for a masculine and good husband on twitter:
You will not attract the right men by posting explicit content.
Even if it's not you and just about the sexy esthetics you have in mind.
That's a private info. for the one.
It's a question of quantity vs quality
'I need a man who can handle me.'
A sane and valuable man doesn't want a complicated woman full of drama. He has better things to do than waching over you all of the time.
He wants a woman he can trust and build a future with, not a child.
It's ok to want and need a man.
It's ok to want to bear his children.
It's not stupid to focus on a simple job with a secure income that you can easily quit when the right one comes along.
It's not weak or boring to want to submit to a man.
Follow your natural calling.🌹
@scrowder
I see it this way: he made her that way, threw her into show business when she was a small girl and profited while she was corrupted - so I don't agree with that detail.
But I agree that she shouldn't be left unattended...
The classic role division, cooking for him, cleaning, creating a home, being loving, being at his disposal sexually etc has nothing to do with mothering but with caring.
Mothering is when you think you have to constantly remind and educate your husband about his responsibilities.
Real successful men want feminine, intelligent and self sufficient women to build a strong legacy with.
They know they are not present for a longer period of time during the day and therefore, the woman, should be good to represent him and teach his children in that time.
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A problem you foresaw occurred after you warned your husband:
'I told you so!'
Delete that from your vocabulary.
He already knows and will be more likely to listen next time if you don't push back on what happened. Use the energy to look ahead:
'ok, what can we do now?'
Attention is a reward.
If you don't give a child attention, he will look for other ways to get your attention. Also negative attention.
According to the motto better treated badly than not at all.
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If you can do something better than your man:
Be patient and don't:
- be rude
- show off
- tell him "let me do it"
- give him instructions
At a good moment ask if you can give it a try or say that you have an idea...
Do not insist - let him decide.
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Men are afraid of great, strong and independent women - Not correct!
Masculine men are not afraid of difficult challenges, they are simply not drawn to the same polarity.
The strong independent woman is perceived as a gay man.🤷♀️
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The more intelligent you are as a woman, the more you have to pay attention to your femininity (feminine communication), which can be difficult if you know a lot and you have a good portion of assertiveness - a very masculine characteristic, no matter if you're wearing a dress!👇
Accept, that he is NOT your shopping bestie! A man normally doesn't like to go shopping regularly with you.
When he's inspired once in a while, yes. Leave it at that.
We started together in a one-room apartment and I would also live under a bridge with him if necessary.
I belong to him, I can't be without him. I don't want to experience the hard times with anyone else by my side.
And that's the point.
A boy will bow to her parents' rules if he really cares about the girl. No matter how antiquated or unfair he may think these rules are.
Just to see her.😍
A man moves mountains for the woman who means something to him, regardless of the difficulties.
He still comes around. We’re going to Kings Dominion tomorrow. He has a choice in all this and apparently dating my daughter is worth it.
He likes us and we like him. The high standards are doing him a favor and he is better for it.
I hope your daughter feels the same.
A good and man is and looks like a predator. One that is in control of itself - determined and focus.
That's what women find attractive.
Everything else is prey and/or actually dangerous.
Most of the career women out there who want families and want to combine the two are unaware that they will change their minds when they become mothers.
Many of them are too proud to admit to having misjudged themselves and therefore there is no goal-oriented
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Men and potential - it isn't money. It's when you see his plans, visions and intentional toughtful, actions towards them. He has knows what should come next in his life you can see what he is building, is family oriented, and is kind to people he might be superior to in general.
A woman is able to inspire her husband to act more masculine by behaving more feminine.
Most men automatically behave more masculine in the presence of a feminine woman.
I teach my daughter to take care of her skin from an early age and to have a routine where she cleans herself properly and nourishes her skin (coconut oil), we do spa days where we make our own natural masks/scrubs.
It's not about brands, expensive cosmetics and superficiality!👇
Creating sexual tension on the feminine side is docile, discreet and seldom blatant.
It is flirting, kissing, cuddling, doing/saying nice things, looking and smelling good for your man.
The sweeter you are, the more he will want to devour you. Isn't this what we want?😇
I didn't and wouldn't give my attention to a man who treats me like that.
And no valuable woman I know would.🤷♀️
Maybe you'll get a lot of girls this way, also damage them by the way. But the right one, someone you could have a 'fairytale marriage' with, will not get interested!
The problem with the rule of explicit consent to sex is this:
Our female language thrives on undertones. A NO can vary from 'yes, absolutely!' to 'Perhaps?' or 'Never in my life!'.
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If her mother also worked and wasn't at home, then she has no role model and 0 ideas of what the job of a SAHM entails. She bought the lie that SAHMs are lazy and have so much time at the end of the day - risking their happiness.
Imo this is a common problem nowadays.
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A mother of two explaining that she has no time/money for the gym and is too exhausted in the evening.
You don't need money or gym to be fit!
Have you ever thought about playing hard with the kids at the playground for 1 hr/day?
That alone would make a huge difference for many.
Just saw it:
Guy aproaches a woman telling her she's beautiful. She reacts ofended bc she's married.
Girls, don't do that! Somtimes men don't see the ring. It's ok to smile and say "Thank you, I appreciate it but I'm not interested. I'm married."
Be kind!! For the sisterhood⚘
A basic about a woman's sexual arousal
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It starts in her mind, through flirting, talking, affection, POLARITY.. which is why sexual tension with her partner is so important.
THEN a simple touch can actually arouse her and 5min sex can be very fulfilling.
Have the courage to tell your husband and family that you've changed your mind and that you'd prefer to be at home with the kids.
It's okay to change your mind, and what you feel is only natural. A mother is biologically programmed to feel this way, don't ignore that.
If you can do something better than your man:
Be patient and don't:
- be rude
- show off
- tell him "let me do it"
- give him instructions
At a good moment ask if you can give it a try or say that you have an idea...
Do not insist - let him decide.
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A woman who constantly nags at home, does not fulfill her responsibilities and does not give her man respect, attention, admiration and approval will weaken his masculinity and he will seek distance to have his peace.
At the same time she destroys her femininity.
A woman with a career can be very feminine.
It just depends on how she goes about things.
A woman who invests all her time into a great career cannot be a good mother.
A woman who succeeds in both is usually someone who has been able to turn her hobby
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As a wife and mother, you should own 3 types of clothes the ones you wear:
- in public.
- privately, also in front of the kids. This can be a bit more open hearted, it's good if they notice a difference and see what they should do/could expect in future.
- you only wear for him.
Today I slept in, was woken up with kisses and a delicious breakfast with crispy bacon and eggs cooked to the point and the smell of good coffee was offered to me. The children were already sitting at the table and greeted me warmly.
Beautiful!🤩
My husband is just perfect!❤🥰
@realNolanDowdle
@HeyJimBurgess
@BritMartinez
'...literally love her the same if not more.'
That's just the bad conscience of your subconscious, which you misinterpret as 'love'.
Deep down you know that it would hurt her if she knew and actually hurts her if she knows.
A man who loves protects his gf, even from himself.
If you don't dream and chase for your 'unrealistc' plans (like 99% of the people will tell you) you won't even get a fraction of it.
I don't know how many times I've heard, 'You are a dreamer.'
Find the smallest possibility/opportunity and start there. One step leads to another.
Young Ladies,
If you know little to nothing about psychology and start reading about mental disorders, you'll recognize a little bit of yourself just about everywhere.
This is normal, you don't need therapy or medication! Don't make a self fulfilling prophecy out of it.
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My husband took over everything for two days and looked after me while I was sick. He managed to postpone some appointments and worked from home, took care of the kids, brought me tea and food, gave me the extra tenderness that feels so good at that moment..
WHAT A MAN!! 😍❤
About cheating husbands and good wives overlooking it.
If your husband:
1) Truly loves you
2) Gets everything he needs from you
3) Respects you
He won't.
My father used to say: When a man is really in love, the thought of cheating is completely absurd to him.
He is right!
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Weird cofession session:
when I dated a guy and wasn't sure if I like him, I wrote down sheets of paper with my name using his last name.
I stopped dating the ones for whom that didn't sound melodious or wasn't pleasant to write.
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Put this on for HIM. At home where no one sees you. Then it's totally sweet and sexy... But not on social media or in public.
Another thing: if you're going to show skin, choose one, either cleavage or legs. Both together looks cheap and the Chanel bag doesn't make it better!
A good looking woman in a wonderful dress comes in the Café I'm sitting with some mothers from the school's parent council.
The mood changed immediately, they visibly felt personally attacked by her beauty.
I told her in front of everyone that I think her style is fabulous. 😌
I feel like I have to say something but I'm not the type person who say things like that to strangers irl, just because I think they could need a real talk. That's why I'm using twitter. Maybe it helps someone finding points of view from a normal, non-religious, happy woman.
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If you have to criticize your man for something about his behavior:
- ONLY do this privately with him alone. NEVER in front of others or the kids.
- Pay attention to your volume - the louder you are, the less he understands.
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A woman who loves behaves a little animalistic towards her man, she is not only cuddly and tender...
Many women love to bite, lick try to slip into him as well as possible, be on him, tousle his hair and/or often have totally wacky 5 minutes..
That's the 'crazy' that men love.🌹
The slower he gets to know all your facets, the more interesting he finds you.
This has nothing to do with keeping secrets. Just focus more on him, don't tell everything in advance, instead wait for opportunities to show... and it happens naturally.
When my daughter has her first period, I will celebrate it with her and help her to live based on her cycle.
Menstruation is not an uncomfortable, dirty problem. It is beginning and end at the same time, cleaning and renewal.
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Yes, in principle every child is good.
The problem is their influences and who is in charge for them.
It may not matter so much in early childhood when family views are completely different, but in adolescence it does!
Always keep an eye on the future and who you tell is safe.