Bestselling author of DevOps for Dummies and international keynote speaker. I’ve led Community, DevRel and product marketing at AWS, MSFT, and startups.
✨It was such a pleasure to speak on how I believe GenAI and AIOps will impact developers over the coming years.
Many thanks to Lee, Victor, Will, and the teams at Ars Technica and MongoDB!
➡️
It’s my birthday. I’m 37 and I have some things I’d like to share, in no particular order.
1. No one thinks about you more than you do. That thing from two years ago that keeps you up at night? No one else remembers. Honor the memory and let it go.
2. Have fun. Every day. I’ve had enough friends pass away too young to know that nothing is promised. Enjoy the moment.
3. Tell people you love them. Often. Even if you feel awkward. Your love is worth sharing.
5. Fucking go for it. Whatever it is. Just try. Maybe you make it. Maybe you don’t. The result isn’t the point.
Your journey, your growth, is the important bit. Don’t let anyone convince you shouldn’t try. Their fear is theirs, it’s not yours to carry.
6. Some people are gonna hate you. And a lot of folks aren’t gonna like you. The brighter you shine, the more shadows you cast. Let their hate be your fuel. You’ve got shit to do.
7. Floss. Seriously, floss.
9. Try things you suck at. It unlocks different parts of your brain. It humbles you. It eliminates perfectionism. Take pottery lessons. Or dancing. Be the worst in the class. And learn not to care.
8. Investing in yourself is always the best choice. Bet on yourself. Get that extra education. Switch careers. Learn a new thing. Write the book. Your future depends on you continuing to learn and grow.
20: “I sleep on a futon.”
25: “These are Egyptian cotton.”
30: “I spent $100 on a pillow.”
35: “Listen, I need a specialty neck pillow, a body pillow, a weighted blanket, a mouth guard, a fan, a noise machine, ear plugs, and 20mg of melatonin to get 3 hours of sleep.”
10. Your skin is important. Wear sunscreen. Moisturize. Take care of it.
11. There is no right age to have kids. If you want kids, have them. It’s gonna be a shitshow no matter what you do. You’ll figure it out as you go. If you don’t want kids, I love you too.
13. No one’s gonna give you the raise. Or the promotion. Or the new job. It’s always gonna be a fight. So fucking fight.
14. Your body is one of the most glorious things on earth. Every wrinkle and mark and scar and jiggle is a story. And you know how much I love stories.
15. Read. And expose yourself to ideas that challenge you, even ones that make you angry.
16. No one’s got it figured out. Everyone is bumbling through life. It’s just some people are better at making bumbling look put together.
12. Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And it’s totally worth it. The foundation of parenting is loving them, accepting them, protecting them, and showing the fuck up.
36. Weaponizing sophistication makes you look small. Using big words to make others feel stupid makes you an asshole.
37. You are magnificent. And utterly unique. Step into your power. The power that lives deep inside your soul.
Release your fear and go!
17. Bring others with you. Wherever you’re going. You need their perspective. And it’s more fun anyway.
18. Walk. Our bodies are great at it. And you’ll feel better.
19. Don’t over pluck your eyebrows.
20. Learn to cook. And season your food. Salt, pepper, garlic powder, and onion powder are the bare minimum. Paprika, parsley, lemon — there’s endless choices! Be adventurous. White food is sad food.
You know, when people hire artists, they look at their portfolio.
They don’t hand them a canvas, some watercolors and make them paint in front of an audience.
25. Friendships come and go. Releasing a friendship doesn’t mean it didn’t matter. It just means it no longer serves you.
26. Your body likes vegetables. Eat them occasionally.
27. Drink some water.
28. Shame is a weapon others use to control you. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Set yourself free.
29. You’ll never regret saying nothing in a heated moment.
30. If you’re ever arrested, shut the fuck up. Get a lawyer.
If you’re employed in tech right now, you should be tipping EXTREMELY well to everyone delivering takeout, bringing you groceries, cutting your hair, cleaning your house, etc. We’re in a very tenuous time and service workers need all the support you can give.
21. Stand in grass (or sand, or dirt) barefoot. It feeds your soul. Don’t stand in poison Ivy. That itches.
22. Save money. Don’t chase the spending habits of others.
23. Take vacations. Spend the money to treat yourself. Go somewhere new. Take people with you. Enjoy yourself. Make memories. Take photos. Make photo books.
24. Be wary of hype. It comes and goes quickly.
33. Don’t start fights you can’t finish.
34. Never ever ever prioritize someone else’s comfort over your safety. Scream. Yell. Make a scene.
35. Tip generously. Say thank you. Chew with your mouth closed.
31. There’s no shame in being fired. Or let go. The most successful people take risks. Sometimes that means getting fired. Keep taking risks.
32. Sunshine is important. Let the sun dance on your face. You have sunscreen on, remember?
Don’t do this. It’s gross.
Highlights:
• “Well, OK, since when do such hot women work in tech...”
• “I found the content wasn’t too bad either.”
• “I would like to take you out.”
🙄🤢🤮
At some point we're going to have to talk about the fact that the most successful people at anything work nights and weekends, at least occasionally.
It doesn't mean they work all the time. Or never take off a Tuesday. And it doesn't mean it's fair or equitable. But it's true.
Nothing like a big tech conference to remind you what men in tech think about the rest of us.
Them: “You’re in client services?”
Me: “Not exactly.”
Other them: “You don’t seem that technical.”
Me: “I wrote the whole damn session.”
I was 28 when I wrote my first line of code. I pumped in an electrical closet while at code school to feed my six-month-old.
You can kick ass at any age.
I like when people are like, “We get paid more because it’s hard.”
No, roofing in the middle of summer is hard.
We get paid more because our services aren’t yet commoditized.
Getting an earful from a London taxi driver on how Prince Harry and Meghan Markle did the Brits wrong.
I don’t care. America has a princess now. She’s beautiful and wonderful. You can’t change my mind.
HOLY SHIT, Y’ALL!
My book is the No. 1 New Release for Software on Amazon.
Many thanks to
@mattr_
for delivering me this happy news.
I’m blown away. And it’s all because you all believed in me. I’m so happy right now.
❤️❤️❤️
I don’t think I’ll ever forgive Microsoft for hiring the single greatest group of humans I’ll most likely ever work with and then making it impossible for us to stay.
I’m super disappointed to see leaders in this industry — who have made shit tons of money off the backs of developers — use the current economy as an opportunity to make public statements about how we don’t work hard enough, aren’t talented enough, and don’t deserve jobs.
I lost someone beautiful from my life. Someone who mattered to me. And so many others.
@biglovisa
was killed in a hit and run accident yesterday in SF.
She was smart, kind, sweet and stunningly beautiful.
I met her at code school. I’m devasted. And I’ll miss her desperately.
I think I can confidently say that the entire tech community stands with the Twitter engineers — all of them.
We love you. None of this is your fault. We’re going to get you settled somewhere else. It’s going to be OK. ❤️
Nurses interviewing for a job first are asked to draw the molecular structure of various medications, then usually they’ll have them start an IV but require that it isn’t done on the arms or legs. Lastly, they usually wrap up with brain surgery.
None of this is true, I’m told.
PRO TIP: When you’re having a shit day, it’s 1000x more efficient to tell people you’re having a rough go and step away than it is to snap at a bunch of people out of nowhere and then have to go mend a bunch of relationships.
We all have bad days.
1/ There is a HUGE difference between working extra hours for a PERSONAL goal or win and doing so for someone else’s monetary gain.
I have worked ridiculous hours once in my life, when I was writing DevOps for Dummies, because I knew that would create new opportunities for me…
THIS! I sat in on an interview with a brilliant engineer. English was his third language.
Other guy: “He seemed slow to respond like he struggled with his words.”
Me: “Do you speak three fucking languages?!”
Speaking slow and thinking slow are two entirely different things.
I’m closing my DMs. The messages are getting increasingly weird because some men don’t understand boundaries.
If you’re part of a marginalized or underrepresented group, we’ll figure out how to get in touch. I will always make time for you. ❤️
Has any human in the history of the world wanted to paste and *not* match the style?!
Why is paste and create 14 different fonts, sizes, and colors the default?? No professional email should have purple text.
Is this some kind of vast word processing social experiment?
I used to be irritated by teams that would go from company to company together.
Now I get it. It’s priceless working with people who know all the pros, cons, and quirks of you. And who know how to make it safe for you to exist as your full self.
I get a good chuckle when organizers ask for slides weeks before a conference. Like, unless it's an old talk, it's just not gonna happen. I can send you _something_ but there is zero guarantee it'll in any way resemble the final talk.
✨Today’s the day!
I’m starting at
@awscloud
working for
@ulander
! I’ll be focused on all things DevOps for the AWS ecosystem.
I’m joining an amazing team and I can’t wait to share what we’re working on!
I changed my Uber account to a man’s name a few months ago as an experiment.
I haven’t been harassed since.
If the driver asks about it, I say, “Oh… boyfriend.
*rolls eyes and smirks with a slight shoulder shrug*
“He’s super protective.”
It’s. Amazing.
I wonder sometimes if the rampant burnout and anxiety we feel is because we don’t accept — nor truly believe — that thinking is work.
But it is. And thinking can happen anywhere. At the gym. In bed. On a walk. In a sauna. At lunch.
Ideas require quiet. Solutions too.
Next time someone asks me how many books I read a year, I’m just going to look at them stone faced and say, “I have a child.”
I mean if we’re counting Peppa Pig, I’m have all y’all beat.
There needs to be a “hire a man” service.
Only instead of anything sexual, I just pay a man to stand there while I buy a car, or go to the hardware store, or have a plumber come by the house.
You know, so other men don’t treat me like a helpless moron.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but take your vacation days.
No, you can’t really go anywhere.
Yes, it will be weird.
Yes, it will feel like a waste.
Do it anyway. Your future self will thank you n
I would not be able to have the career I have and be an awesome (single) mom if I worked from an office. I live four minutes from my kid’s school. I take calls in car line. I step away to make dinner and finish things after.
Remote work isn’t for everyone but it is for me.
I’m pretty proud of this. It represents roughly six months of my work and I’m hopeful that it will get the conversation started on what’s next for DevOps.
More to come!
He who smelt it dealt it.
In all seriousness, I’ve come to view suggested rewrites as a red flag. Especially when it comes to large legacy systems.
Isolated rewrites of specific services? Hell yes.
Complete rewrite? Lol.
Me: “OMG this is brilliant. I’m a genius. Twitter is gonna LOVE this.”
Twitter: 14 likes
Me: “Here’s a banal observation and mildly funny anecdote from my life.”
Twitter: 2461 likes