2024 is going to be a very different year for me. I am getting a divorce. I am breastfeeding my 22 month old still. I am writing my first R01. I am supporting my lab, as much as right now, they are supporting me. One thing, I know in my heart for sure... things are gonna change.
Dear grant reviewers this yr I had a baby / starting my lab in ongoing pandemic pls understand these things as you consider all variables new PIs are up against <esp birth parents>🥵 there is no place to put this on apps so I worry I will look unproductive.
@Momademia
Just another friendly reminder maternity leave is STILL NOT VACATION. No I'm not lazy. Yes I do want to work. I had a f******* baby and am physically extremely weak. I'm breastfeeding and barely sleep. Give. It. A. Rest.
Thanks!
New Mom
@Momademia
@mothersinsci
Nothing prepares you for the feeling of having an office and a laboratory that is your own 😳 it is the most wonderful and terrifying emotion! After so many years as a trainee part of you think it will never end... But today... I'm a
#NewPI
😱✨🙏🏼
As the year draws to a close I’d like to announce I’ve been rejected for every single grant I’ve applied for as a
#NewPI
However, I birthed a human being and boy she is lovely 🥰 💗 here’s to next year! More baby kisses and probably more grant rejections 😂
@Momademia
Excited to announce my most recent project in the field of human developmental biology was accepted without revisions February 2022.
Title: Avery Rose Steele
@Momademia
#newborn
#fourthtrimester
happened IRL
Me: I’m a breastfeeding mom so carrying milk/ice packs frozen solid
Tsa: where is your baby
Me: not with me…which is why I have to pump
Tsa: well how we do know you’re really BF
Me: if the baby were w me I wouldn’t have to pump
@momademia
Avery Rose arrived yesterday morning 6:25am. It was the hardest experience of my life, and she is the most beautiful person we have ever laid our eyes on. Can't type anymore too busy crying through the extreme physical pain and equal parts elation to meet her.
11 days into mat leave +... Is it ok for me to feel like I miss my job? Of course I love being with baby + bonding with her all day (+ all night) but I miss the intellectual stimulation being a
#NewPI
provides! Feel guilty admitting this- do other parents feel similar?
@Momademia
Baby is 3 months old and suddenly is waking up every 1.5-2 hours consistently the whole night! Seems hungry every time too. I'm back at work and so exhausted I can barely drive much less think about science. This is hard. 😱🤷🏻♀️🍼😳
@Momademia
when does this end and how to survive?
Being back at work and managing pumping for my infant is definitely a challenge. I've been late, missed meetings, gotten times confused from postpartum brain fog + massive sleep deprivation. Go easy on yourselves
#newparents
keeping tiny human alive is no small feat!
@Momademia
Starting my first ever R01, I’m terrified and intimidated and based on Twitter research it could take 5 years to get one (or never but I hope not).
#NewPI
so pls share tips/advice. 🙏🏼
@Momademia
Have reached the point with breastfeeding my newborn that if you have a problem with it you can LEAVE THE ROOM. K thanks. Babies get hungry. They need to eat ALOT. I don't need to go isolate in a room for hours on end 🤷🏻♀️👏🏼🙌🏼 🤱🏻
#breastfeedingmama
@Momademia
Celebrating one year of immense joy, vulnerability and new parenting 💗
We made it. Here’s to all the other new parents out there just getting through the day (and long nights)!
@Momademia
Haven't showered in 4 days wearing clothes from yesterday covered in spit up haven't had breakfast yet so sleep deprived can't remember what day of the week it is 😂 Am I doing new parent right? 🆕
However she has had primo care: on demand milk buffet coming up🍼
@Momademia
l
As a breastfeeding mom I have done every single bedtime for 1/2 a year now + two things are true at once Abt this: it is an absolute JOY to spend that time w her AND there are moments I feel generally burnt out as a new PI/mom.
@Momademia
#BreastfeedingMom
❗️New Year, big announcement...I am beyond excited and grateful to let you all know that starting this Jan I'll be joining
@HCCvPDAC
as a new faculty member establishing my independent lab at the Henry Ford Pancreatic Cancer Center
@HenryFordNews
. 🧵Details below!
I don’t know who needs to hear this but no you don’t need a cancer discovery/CNS paper to get a tenure track offer! Impact factor is NOT everything. Let’s keep shifting the conversation away from this toxic pressure. Publish good science. Give a compelling talk. 🙏🏼
The fact babies are seen multiple times in the weeks after birth at the doctor and recovering postpartum individuals are seen only once after 6 to 8 weeks is RIDICULOUS. We can support parental AND infant health simultaneously.
@Momademia
#obgyntwitter
#Pediatrics
👶🏻👩🏻🍼
Yearly performance review is today - what did I do this year? Ahem well she’s less than 20lbs drinks ALOT of milk and doesn’t sleep more than 4-5hr chunks at a time most nights ♥️👶🏻🍼
Oh- and I started my independent research lab at
#HFPCC
🧫🔬🥼👩🏻🔬
@Momademia
The thousands of breastfeeding parents trying to fit 8hrs of work into 6hrs ✨🫠 the feeling that you aren’t as available as you want to be for your employees bc every spare chunk of time you’re pumping🫶🏼🍼 crying over spilled milk in office/pumping rm😭💗 I see you 👏🏼
@Momademia
That classic 12wk mischief making look 🤣
Makes the long list of momma complaints all worth it 😭 barely sleeping, shingles, recurrent thrush, threw out my back 😳 but... Baby smiles make me feel like I won the lottery!!!😁
#newparent
#breastfeedingmama
@Momademia
18 weeks until my
#maternity
leave.
I've heard:
"Who is going to cover your class?"
"What about your research?"
"You picked a bad time to have a baby"
"Enjoy your vacation"
What would suffice = "How can we best support you?"
@Momademia
#AcademicTwitter
#AcademicChatter
Nothing worse than hearing your newborn having a screaming melt down in the background of the phone call when you when you're at work 🥶
I just do not understand why we don't give parents a full 9-12 months like they do in so many other countries.
@Momademia
No one warns you that the first few months of being a
#NewPI
is exclusively paperwork and admin tasks and ZERO SCIENCE. ✍🏼️🖇️📰 💻 Help it feels like my brain is melting.
#AcademicChatter
New plan. PO for my grant wants a phone call tomorrow morning. BABY PLEASE WAIT ONE MORE DAY OK THANKS LOVE MOM ❤️🤰🏻
🥶🤦🏻♀️
#39weeks
#AcademicTwitter
@Momademia
I’m sick of hearing that I “have to give my baby a sibling���🤯 It’s none of their business. This is an insult to perfectly healthy wonderful only kids!! It’s absolutely ridiculous to pressure people into expanding their family by implying their kid won’t be enriched w/o siblings
Let's say you work an 8hr workday. Now let's say you're exclusively breastfeeding
your infant. Now subtract 2hr for pumping sessions throughout day to maintain milk supply. Now you have 6hr day & are expected to produce 8hrs of work.
@Momademia
not possible.
Was able to get on my stationary bike for 15 mins while baby napped for first time ever - I feel like I climbed mt. Everest 🤣 both achievement wise and exhaustion.
@Momademia
“at a pivotal point in establishing their careers, mothers in academia pay a "baby penalty." Why should parenting continue to weigh so much more heavily on female academics than on their male counterparts?”
@Momademia
interesting read…. 😵💫
Words cannot describe this feeling. Started doing science in undergrad 12 years ago, and here we are today, first ever NIH grant in my career.
.
Shout out to some👌🏼 postdoc comentors Drs. Allen and
@Pasca_Lab
.
#AcademicTwitter
#AcademicChatter
#womeninstem
I can say with total honesty I am so grateful for bebe AND @ the same time I never desire to do this again ♥️ Underneath the smile (which is real excitement to meet our little one!) is a world of pain that gets worse daily. Not all pregnancies are "smooth sailing"😐
@Momademia
I never thought I would experience anything more powerful than actual puppy eyes
.
.
and then I had my baby. ❤️😭😭😭
No wonder it's hard to get any grant writing done at home on off hours!
#newparent
@Momademia
Just because I'm a mother it doesn't mean I'm only a mother. I'm a PERSON AS WELL. This is a problem when someone has a kid I guess. People try to box you into a single label. No thanks! 🙏🏼 I'm also a scientist who takes her work very seriously. 👩🏻🔬🥼🔬🔭
@Momademia
Have saved 16 ounces of breast milk in freezer 6wks post childbirth and I feel like I just won a marathon or something 🥛🍼🏃🏻♀️🙌🏼
It's amazing how long it takes to build up a supply to go back to work- yet another reason we need MORE PARENTAL LEAVE TIME IN THIS COUNTRY.
@Momademia
Over 30 hours of driving with small human to see her 103 year old great grandmother. Worth every minute.
💙💕💙
I started crying as soon as we walked in the room. 😭
Is being a PI trying to juggle a gazillion different things in your head all at once and pretending you aren't massively confused most of the time? If so I'm right on track as a
#NewPI
😭🤦🏻♀️😳
#AcademicTwitter
#AcademicChatter
@Momademia
I’d like to follow this tweet with an important PSA: WHEN BREASTFEEDING PARENTS ARE NOT PHYSICALLY WITH THEIR BABY THEIR BREASTS CONTINUE TO PRODUCE MILK.
they don’t just “choose” to make milk when they *sense* baby is near.
that’s all ❤️
Time has flown by. Little one is standing up (w a bit of help) and saying loudly "HI DADA" 😭
I'm so grateful to my amazing partner who is the one staying at home with her (A FULL TIME JOB) while I'm attempting to get my lab up and running!
@Momademia
One year after giving birth, after gaining more than 65lbs thanks to a very difficult pregnancy, I am back to pre pregnancy weight. It’s been a monumental effort to work on my health post baby! I haven’t started working out again (who has time?!) but did 6mons of PT. ❤️🩹
@Momademia
The. Baby. Slept. A. Three. Hour. Stretch. Last. Night.
Of course I woke up after two hours and watched her sleep the third hour because my body was not used to such a LONG stretch of sleep 😆
This could be a fluke or it could be progress, hoping for the latter! 💤🛏️
@Momademia
She is VERY excited about the sock she is holding. She carries this small sock around everywhere, sometimes putting in her mouth to crawl more efficiently. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
She’s too cute… I just…can’t even 🫠
@Momademia
Baby has discovered a screeching vocal sound (high pitched scream of delight) and she isn't afraid to use it - 🤪 simultaneously absolutely adorable as it is painful to the ears 😆
@Momademia
I don't understand how my brain is functioning with so little sleep? Little one is teething and was up 2am-5am 👶🏻
Here I am looking loopy AF from exhaustion with bebe looking like a spring chicken 🥲
@Momademia
I've hit a level of exhaustion that caffeine cannot even impact.
There are two types of bosses. Those who support people experiencing pregnancy and those who don't. Be a boss who is the former. ❤️ I went through a difficult pregnancy and knowing I was supported made all the difference!
@Momademia
Lots of feeding+cuddling this little human this week! ❤️
They are only this small for such a short time! Already can see changes! 😱
There is so much to mentally+ physically adjust to in the first week- proud of my partner and I for working as a team!
@Momademia
#newborn
Today I discovered that two women exclusively breastfeeding their babies who are trying to work together and are not on the same pumping schedules actually can't get anything done so add it to the many reasons why we need longer parental leave.
@Momademia
Thing I have learned in the past two weeks:
On demand
#Breastfeeding
is HARD WORK. Baby and I are learning together how to make it happen!
Nara app has helped me track sessions- of course as a scientist I need data to analyze...🍼🤣🤷🏻♀️🚼
@Momademia
Light coat weather today in Michigan 💗some quality time with bebe— 13 months went in the blink of an 👀 in this pic you can really appreciate she has dad’s eyes not mine!
@Momademia
My goal as a scientist is to establish my independent lab studying the complex of cellular cross-talk in pancreatic cancer. PDA has impacted so many people around the globe and I want to do everything possible to raise awareness and make progress! 💜🟣💜
#WorldPancreaticCancerDay
Grant submitted two hours in advance of the deadline in record breaking time
@Momademia
literally submitted while pumping breast milk for the little one 🫠
I cannot express the emotions and excitement felt by this!! We gave it our all+ I am so grateful and humbled to be one of the 4 grants selected for funding! Thanks to
@HCCvPDAC
for insightful edits and input + our entire
#HFPCC
team!
@MSUPhmTox
@HenryFordHealth
@Momademia
Baby rolled stomach to back and found her thumb to suck on all in one morning 😳 babies are AMAZING. The growth rate is astounding.
What a big day 😭😍🐣🙌🏼👌🏼
@Momademia
@mothersinsci
Morning stroll before heading to lab-
OK I just can't with this tiny round baby face with the CHEEKS and the SMILE. If this baby gets any cuter I don't know what I'll do. 😭💞💖🐣 I'm going to say this every single month but dang 3mon is a cute af age for babies.
@Momademia
Starting a lab 🧪is harder in many ways than I expected and all of them relate to management of humans 😅 trying to support staff/students is not a direct skill you are taught as a Postdoc so it’s been a learning curve!
@Momademia
The kind of pressure I feel on the job market as a woman is immense. I want to write a letter to every person who asked me when I'm having children and let them know exactly how it made me feel. If I ever interview someone this topic will never cross my lips.
#AcademicChatter
For the last week baby has decided to wake up btw 3 - 4 am and then steadfastly proceeds to refuse to go back to bed 🥶 Helllllo sleep regression it had been a month so nice to have you back with us! 🤦🏻♀️
However...she's cute as a frigging button 😁💕
@Momademia
#breastfeedingmama
The most predictable thing about having a
#newborn
:
Pick up baby - baby sleeps calmly😴
Put baby in bassinet - baby immediately cries 😭
Pick up baby - baby immediately falls back asleep 😴
Put baby in bassinet - baby immediately cries 😭
REPEAT forever.
🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🚼
@Momademia
From the moment I knew I was pregnant I knew three things: 1. I would do anything in the world for my child, 2. I would never stop worrying, 3. and this was the most intense love I had ever felt for something.
@Momademia
And now every day the love is even stronger! 💕💕💕
Norovirus
COVID-19
Sinus infection
Now, hand foot and mouth disease
😷🤷🏻♀️
What is the point in daycare? Sorry, how do people maintain their jobs? I’m confused… most folks I talk to says it doesn’t get better so nothing to look forward to but more sick time.
@Momademia
I swear... Time is speeding up! Weekends have a totally new meaning for me now - Soak up as much time as possible with this absolute joy 💕💞💕
@Momademia
Every moment pretty much feels fleeting with a new baby 😭!
My baby is 10 weeks old today. I have not eaten a hot meal in 10 weeks. Coincidence? I think not....🤣
Anyone w me here? It's like they can smell it and and as SOON as you go to eat as if on cue they start crying! 🙃🍼
@Momademia
@mothersinsci
Almost 5 months in and breastfeeding thirst reflex is REAL.
It's a kind of absolutely parched feeling that is SO INTENSE 🤣🌊 why does no one talk about this?!
I have to keep water near me all the time!🥛
@Momademia
#breastfeeding
#BreastfeedingMom
This Little one has consistently been impossible to get back to sleep btw the hours of 230-430am every single night and yet unbelievably sleepy after 7am 🤦🏻♀️
I am VERY TIRED right now whew.
Anyone else have this issue and found something that worked?
@Momademia
There aren't words to describe the emotions of becoming a first time parent so I won't even try. 💞 it's been my biggest challenge in life and also the greatest joy! I am finally starting to see myself as a mom. 🥰
@mothersinsci
@Momademia
Why did no one warn me about all nighter back to cluster feeding?!?! 😱
... Any tips on survivung this from other
#breastfeeding
parents ?
@Momademia
🐣
At least we got a few minutes of 🌞 in yesterday - a rare appearance in the midst of
#Michigan
winter!
It’s funny how many people have opinions about how you should breastfeed your child. It’s really hard so perhaps keep those opinions inside your head? BF parents are working immensely hard to juggle everything and we can’t get it perfect every time.
@Momademia
I think the most beautiful moment of my life just happened. My toddler literally sang herself sweetly to sleep. I sat alone in a dark room listening to the baby monitor, crying because this is the kind of life moment you just can’t manufacture.
@Momademia
Two grant rejections so far this month 🥶 and counting....! Worried all ideas I come up with are not good/uninteresting.
@Momademia
I know a need a thick skin to be a PI but do you ever care any less?!
#AcademicTwitter
#NewPI
I have decided that sleep wise teething may be worse than the newborn phase despite the existence of Tylenol/motrin. 😩 Poor little bebe is definitely sensitive to teeth and mama is TIRED
@Momademia
Caffeineeeee is needed to function this week! Oh wait did I say wks I meant yrs
Friendly reminder it is unnecessary to remind pregnant people of your personal opinion that 'birth is disgusting'
I think people forget they are all born?!
I'm really looking forward to meeting my baby and birth is a pretty crucial part of that process ♥️🙏🏼✨🤦🏻♀️🤰🏻
@Momademia
This was before I saw the news this morning. It's hard to put into words what I'm feeling. I know I'll never stop fighting for my daughter. She deserves healthcare and equality.
@Momademia
Please...Vote to support women's reproductive health! Vote for better gun safety measures!
What's the worst thing a mentor ever said to you?
I start: "maybe it's better if you don't do a PhD and get married and have kids instead". Rumors said the guy married a former grad student and pushed for the department to hire her as a professor.
#AcademicTwitter
@Momademia
Sometimes you just need an in-home spa evening to relax! Nothing cuter than babies in their baby towels 😭
I can't really comprehend how fast she is growing - its like >speed of light...now I'm back at work just staving off mom guilt and focusing on the journey!
@Momademia
My daughter is happily breastfeeding (with decreasing frequency dictated by her) after her second birthday and I consider it a huge achievement, glad it worked out this way in light of the divorce transition. Worth every single second of having to pump.
@Momademia
🍼
Hadn't done laundry bc you know... Newborn life is NUTS and I'm back to work now, so grabbed a random pair of jeans in the laundry room (in our basement) only to discover while sitting in my office I'm 99% sure the cat peed on them and I smell like urine. Send help 🤦🏻♀️
@Momademia