Author. Editor & writing instructor for the Veterans Writing Project. Navy vet. Wife, mom. Opinions are my own & I have plenty of โem. She/her. Standing w/๐บ๐ฆ.
Some thoughts on the damage to or sinking of RF Ship Moskva. A ๐งต.
The crew of Moskva were naval combatants engaged in a war of aggression against a peaceful nation. Congratulations are due to the Ukrainian coastal defense forces on successful elimination of a major target. 1/
@anneapplebaum
All this. But, please, โincredibly brave men AND WOMEN.โ Some 50,000 brave women make up more than 1/5 of Ukraineโs armed forces. They, too, endure bombardment and artillery fire.
@JDVance1
Oh, FFS, J.D. What an asinine take. Many of the enlisted sailors & Marines I served alongside during my 20-year naval career had college degrees, too, from A.S. to Ph.D. Utterly disingenuous anti-elitism, too, since you went to Yale. But do go on.
Tracing members of a group of 200 enslaved people through deed records of a wealthy white family in Southside VA. It's one thing to read about chattel slavery in secondary sources, however excellent, & another entirely to track specific people in a set of primary sources. 1/
compared to what the peaceful citizens of Ukraine have endured at the hands of Russian soldiers.
But I also heard the voices of Moskva's crew today. And the voice of the sea, reminding that something is bigger than us all, something that does not recognize friend or foe. 13/
@mm_kaufman
From my experience w/my own dad, who got a GED in the Navy & used his GI Bill for flight lessons: That rant is probably not about you at all, and NOT b/c he thinks your life is "directionless." He's probably displacing his own feelings about not finishing college & 1/
There is a maritime tradition that dolphins are the souls of sailors lost at sea. When Kursk's reactor compartment came to the surface, a pod of dolphins came with it. They stayed w/the reactor compartment all the way up the river & right to the pier in Murmansk. 11/
"To the ladies" (men drink standing, ladies drink to the bottom) & "To those lost at sea."
I'm not fluent in maritime law, but there is a longstanding tradition that there is a duty to rescue even enemy combatants who are adrift at sea if they cease hostile actions. 3/
I sometimes hear the crew of Kursk in my dreams. Tapping on the hull, hoping someone would hear them. Speaking to me in bubbles of the air that eventually ran out on them.
I'm not sorry that the Ukrainians damaged or sank Moskva. What the Russian sailors endured is nothing 12/
to offer assistance w/SAR efforts. For 4 days, while we hardly slept & stood by to send the necessary messages to start SAR efforts, we watched in increasing horror while the Russian gov't fumbled around & refused all offers of help. 7/
Those things are the same on every ship. No matter what flag it flies.
I can't speak for every sailor, but I think most of us know that the sea is bigger than us all. In storms, & when a ship is on fire or taking on water, the sea does not discriminate between friend & foe. 5/
If you've served aboard ship, you know what fire at sea means. You know what flooding means. You know you might be the person who has to dog the hatch to preserve watertight integrity of the ship, knowing that some of your shipmates will perish as a result. 4/
I was assigned to the US embassy in Moscow in 2000 when a torpedo exploded on the Russian submarine Kursk & sank. More than 20 members of the crew survived, trapped 350 feet below the surface. We & allies w/rescue equipment immediately reached out to Russia's MoD 6/
When I joined the USN, I trained to enable US & NATO naval forces to sink Soviet ships & subs, & to shoot down their aircraft.
And when I was an asst naval attachรฉ in Moscow, at diplomatic events w/our Russian counterparts I always drank exactly 2 of the traditional toasts: 2/
All handsโ118 soulsโwere lost.
A year later, the Swedish naval attachรฉ & I attended the panakhida, the Orthodox memorial service, for those lost aboard Kursk. Afterward we met with some of the families. The fathers of some of those lost had been submariners. They knew 8/
exactly what their sons had endured. They didn't want the bodies retrieved: "The sea is a fitting grave for a sailor," one told me. He knew what the condition of the remains would've been after a few days, weeks, months. 9/
@meaganmday
If you really want a sauna hat, order from the St. Petersburg store in Brighton Beach. They have a good selection & can probably order what they donโt have in stock.
He also told me some of the family members had gone out on the escort ship to lay a wreath at the site of the sinking when the reactor compartment was raised & towed back to Murmansk. 10/
@mm_kaufman
dissatisfaction w/the direction he wishes he'd had the sense to take with his OWN life.
Not long after I graduated w/my BA, Dad was told he'd hit a glass ceiling & was denied a promotion into middle management b/c he didn't finish college. His supervisor told him it was b/c, 2/
@mm_kaufman
and he absolutely does NOT get to be the arbiter of whether or not you have succeeded. I hope he finds a way to decenter his own feelings about his life so he can celebrate the wonderful things you're doing w/yours. Warmest wishes for healing. 7/end
Yeah. Mistakes happen in war, but Iโm tossing the BS flag on this one. Iโve worked w/IDF officers, & the IDF is WAY too competent to โaccidentallyโ hit an NGO convoy that had shared movement intentions & was clearly marked. 1/
Mistakes happen in war, but itโs hard to call 3 strikes happening over multiple kilometersโparticularly after WCK disclosed their movements to the Israeli military prior to departureโa โtragic accidentโ
This was either a massive breakdown in communication, or it was intentional.
If your response to the deaths of Marines (and soldier and sailor) in Kabul was something like โTil Valhalla, brothers,โ check your assumptions from now on. Two of the Marines killed were women. Semper fi, sisters. Iโll see you standing guard at the pearly gates someday.
@mm_kaufman
The hurt you're feeling is real and valid. But what your father said to you absolutely is NOT. It sounds like you're making the world your oyster, in YOUR way. You don't owe him anything but a sincere "Thank you" for any help he provided toward your educationโ 6/
If youโre a woman & were able to continue your military career after becoming pregnant, hereโs the trailblazer who made it possible. She will be interred at Arlington on Monday w/full military honors.
@mm_kaufman
HE deserved the diploma. (Spoiler: he didn't "pay for" my degree. I had max student loans, work-study, & scholarships. Family contribution covered a small fraction of the bill. Oh, and I EARNED my degree w/hard work & study!) 4/
@cenglishross
@lordgarmad0n
@ffmichelle
Ohโso THATโs what they were doing down there! I could feel them jostling around in my abdomen. Like a shoving match. Was back at work full time 5 weeks later, had to pass the Navy physical fitness test after 6mos. The curl-ups were terrifyingโwas afraid I might pop open again.
Active duty folks: This is a good time to check in w/your personnel of Middle Eastern & South Asian heritage. Since the US & Iran are making ugly faces at each other & spoiling for a fight, your troops may be getting harassed behind the scenesโ 1/
@mm_kaufman
He did the same to my sister a couple of years later, & my folks gave her NOTHING after her sophomore year. She cleaned office buildings in NYC at night to pay her "family contribution." It enraged both Sis' & me for years. So hurtful. So diminishing & dismissive. 5/
@SGMtheMan1
This is coded language for talking about abortion. Stop. If I get an abortion itโs not going to infect you, your elderly mother, or a dedicated health care professional putting her life on the line every day in a COVID ward. The hypocrisy is not where you think it is.
I seldom say anything publicly about the Israel-Palestine situation because of the demands from good people on both sides of the issue for unquestioning adherence to some kind of ideological purity that 1/
In light of what is happening to
@PatDonahoeArmy
right now: a little ๐งต on what Inspectors General do in โseniors cases,โ for folks who have never had contact w/service-level Inspectors General. My twilight tour was 3 1/2 years at the Office of the Naval Inspector General. 1/
A thread on an elephant in a room: abortion & the military. Discussed gingerly in closed military womenโs forums, but I havenโt seen it out on Twitter as a leadership issue and maybe it needs to be. 1/
Military attachรฉ selectees on the first day of the โDress for Successโ block of the attachรฉ course, in which theyโre told to wear what they believe is โappropriate civilian attire for a US Embassyโ to class instead of their uniforms.
I think I'm ready to talk about the Fort Hood Independent Review Committee report. This is the 1st of what will be either 2 or 3 threads. Might take a couple of days to get it all out there.
PART ONE: THE "CULTURE" HAS TO CHANGE. 1/x
Now Iโm PISSED. I asked Hubs to take 2 weeks leave b/c he is NOT essential personnel at the Pentagon, & theyโre still asking him to come in 3 days a week. Now DoD requires everyone to provide their own fabric masks. Wonder what REALLY OBNOXIOUS PATTERNS of quilting fabric I have?
An ask for you, Twitter friends. Those images of SGT Gee w/babies are moving & worth sharingโbut Iโd like to see you give equal air time to SGT Johanny Rosario Pichardo, whose life was equally valuable. And please write her name correctly. Itโs not hard.
LTC Vindman did the same job for the Army in Moscow & Kyiv that I did for the Navy in Moscowโexcept I did it reasonably well, and Vindman did it brilliantly (the Davis School at Harvard! Damn, Skippy!) 1/x
And my mad respect goes out to General Donahoe, who tried to make his beloved Army a better-led force w/higher moraleโand on balance, MORE than succeeded. Iโd follow him to Hell & back, & maybe even sing a round of that silly song about rolling caissons on the trip. 23/end
I'm a former naval officer who spent 20 years on active duty, and I would gladly sign that discharge order. The Navy doesn't need willfully ignorant officers.
Good evening, Twitter. Because itโs Womenโs History Month, hereโs a (long) thread on Dr. Mary Edwards Walker (1832-1919), the only woman awarded the Medal of Honor to date. Thanks to
@JimLaPorta
for the inspiration! 1/
@mm_kaufman
and I quote, he "wasn't 'degreed.'" Dad fell apart. Mom was holding onto my good diploma for me, & he made her Xerox it. He took a copy, whited-out my name, typed in his own, & told me that since he "paid for" my degree 3/
On Army-Navy day, a shout-out to the former ENS who commissioned at USNA 4 mos after I commissioned at Navy OCS, & who told me she deserved more respect than me b/c sheโd โbeen in the Navyโ 4 yrs already & had held a brigade-level staff position.
Pleased to be able to share a little good news today! I've signed a (nonfiction) book contract with the wonderful folks at
@UnivNebPress
for the story of the Golden Fourteen, the first African American women to serve openly and officially in the US armed forces (
@USNavy
, WWI).
Achievement unlocked tonight: MFA in Creative Writing. Grateful to the fam for support; so proud of colleagues in my cohort; & mad respect for my mentors & the rest of the faculty who put up with me for so long.
This is a thread that will explain the implied poor Russian Army truck maintenance practices based on this photo of a Pantsir-S1 wheeled gun-missile system's right rear pair of tires below & the operational implications during the Ukrainian mud season.๐งต
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So today I went to a memorial service for a friend from church who passed away last fallโa woman whoโd served as an Army nurse in Vietnam.
@KaraDixonVuic
wrote a little about her in Officer, Nurse, Woman. PatriciaโPatโwent to Vietnam in her early 20s. She 1/
PSA: Recruiters, do NOT post your recruits' ASVAB scores & PII on social media. Do you tweet about their medical evals from MEPS? Their SSNs? Their PFT scores?
I'm so pissed off at that post, I could chew up railroad spikes and spit them out as thumbtacks.
@halbritz
@SecArmy
Oh, FFS, SecArmy. You just gave me tomorrowโs thread. Also, please have your speechwriter see me for the correct definitions of a few termsโlike โpolitical,โ โpartisan,โ & โnonpartisan.โ
@Angry_Staffer
This should trigger an in-depth inspection of the unit he worked in, infosec at the facility, & the performance of the command security manager, the SSO, & his chain of command. Also an audit of their hard copy & electronic classified holdings. This went on much too long.
@BrandonFeltman
@UticaEric
@Fligherferhire
Mine absolutely loved it! We always had SO much fun with it. And it didnโt hurt their understanding of things like geography and time zones, either.
Today's ๐งต is on just a few of the many women who demonstrated exceptional moral courage in pushing back against outdated cultural attitudes about women's military service, often publicly & sometimes at great personal cost.
@SecArmy
needs to learn from the examples they set. 1/
Been married to this guy 25 years today. Couldnโt have picked a better partner! (Not our wedding photo; this was at the Marine Corps Ball at the US Embassy in Moscow in 2001.)
Women veterans are invisible. A nice Southern gentleman professor (who did not serve in Vietnam) came by our table, looked at the books, & said, โItโs just amazing what these men go through.โ MEN. Note: one of the books was Itโs My Country Too.
While the early records of the white family's migration from England to Tidewater VA & then to Southside (on the NC line) are murky, by 1802 Charles Senior (1763-1823 or 1824) is doing well enough to buy more than 1,000 acres of land on the north side of the Roanoke River, 2/
Just got my little green Army women, and LOOK AT THEIR HAIR! Short at the collar; in a bun; and a braid!...which does not adversely affect her performance in combat! Am sure sheโll tuck it down the back of her blouse when thereโs a break in the action here on Tupperware Hill. 1/
This was an issue when I was on attachรฉ duty. My boss, a Navy captain I thought of as โGlad-Hand Bob,โ told me at 1st mid-term counseling that I needed to be more vivacious & aggressively friendly in approaching our foreign counterparts, all of whom were men, at social events. 1/
As someone who has actually had to litigate โflirtingโ in court more times than I can remember, let me say this:
Most of the time, the person who characterizes the behavior as โflirtingโ is assuming something that wasnโt actually there.
@JimLaPorta
A sea story thread. So by year 19 of a 20-year career, I'd seen a total of maybe three EEO complaints filed. In every case, a (white/male) CO decided the perp was "just joking around" & they & the plaintiff should "shake hands & be shipmates." 1/
This is your morning reminder that trauma survivors do not owe anyone their stories, their advocacy work, their time, or their headspace. Their only obligation is to their own self-care and healing. Thank you.
@ashtonpittman
This week in our quiet MD suburb somebody posted on NextDoor that a Black woman in a black car had been at local mailboxes, urged folks to watch out for "suspicious activity." (Most of our contract mail carriers are Black women who drive their own cars.) Not just in MS!
Good morning. An aspect of internalized misogyny in the military is believing that b/c you did something exceptional you ARE exceptional, & that other women who did not (or will not or cannot) do that thing are therefore weak, lesser than you, & don't belong. 1/
there are more than 200 enslaved people credited to him. Some were brought there when, late in life, he married; they were part of his first wife's dowry. In 1814 that wife (Harriet) dies, probably either giving birth to or of complications from the birth of a son, Eaton. 4/
well-watered by small streams & Butcher's Creek. He adds acres on the south side of the river, & one of the men he enslaves runs a private ferry which augments the family's income from the crops of tobacco, wheat, & corn the enslaved people raise. On the 1820 census 3/
Recently had occasion to assist an estranged Navy spouse whose sailor brought a floozy side piece home from deployment & who was maliciously declining to provide his spouse & child w/benefits to which they are legally entitled & which he is legally obligated to provide until 1/
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@McCainJack
โฉ, I keep running into your grandfather in the National Archives! Certainly knew how to take care of his sailors (this file clerk had been an enlisted mess attendant in WWI).
This morning a friend, an ANC nurse in Vietnam for 2 very rough years, passed away. Some of her final health issues were probably from exposure to Agent Orange when she cut clothing off wounded soldiers.
Be thou at peace, dear one. Thank you for the gift of your friendship.
Iโve been contacted by members of our voluntary military who say they will quit if the COVID vaccine is mandated.
I introduced HR 3860 to prohibit any mandatory requirement that a member of the Armed Forces receive a vaccination against COVID-19.
It now has 24 sponsors.
Good morning to everyone except Jim Golby. I'd like to say a few things about emotionally abusive relationships this morning. First, emotional abuse is abuse. Full stop. 1/
I believe women. I have been in an abusive relationship, when I was younger. I will not engage w/any man outed as abusive if he hasnโt done sincere, earnest work to repair damage done, & demonstrated through words & actions that he has become a better man. IYKYK. That is all.
This is where we first see the enslaved, about 190 of them, named: in the estate inventory. Even the children of the enslaved are named. The executor assigns each a dollar value & divides them into 3 groups w/other property, making roughly-equal thirds. 9/
Woke up to news that one of my stories was accepted for publication in an upcoming themed issue of a journal I love. A nice reprieve from all the terrible things going on. May you all get a similar boost soon!
As a PS, should have said it up front: I need to thank all the senior enlisted women who taught me how to manage these situations compassionately & shared the tools in the toolkit. There were mostly no senior women officers around in these situations & the men just didnโt know.
โI had fought in World War II, and I once was captured by the German army, and I want to tell you the Germans never were as inhumane as the state troopers of Alabama.โ - Veteran Hosea Williams in Roy Reed, "Alabama Police Use Gas and Clubs to Rout Negroes," NYT (Mar. 8, 1965)
A few years later Charles Sr., now in his 50s, marries 23yo Martha from the south side of the river. A dynastic marriage: she's the daughter of a wealthier Tidewater scion & Revolutionary War veteran, 2 lieutenant governors of the VA Colony in her family tree. 5/
from worse before.
But all I could think about in the drive home was how much Iโll miss even the nasty little jabs about my house or my cooking or whatever if she isnโt with us next Christmas.
Dammit. 7/end
PSA: Today is NOT the day to argue w/me about sexual assault issues. I have training, experience (including being a survivor of assault & a victim advocate), and my red-headed hillbilly temper is pegging the meter over this West Point BS.
1/ I donโt usually tell my โAlive Dayโ story. It happened in โpeacetime,โ at least for the US, and less than 2 years later we were at war for real. My story seemed lame. But the Parkland shooting has brought it to mind again. This is why Iโm one of the
#VetsForGunReform
:
Anyway. Piecing all this together is so much different from just picking up a book about enslaved people in Southside Virginia and northeastern Mississippi. What became of little Charles, & his sisters Margaret and Mary Eliza, & their mother Lizzy? 27/
And her family's land prob runs right up against Charles's holdings on the south side of the Roanoke. Her dowry includes more enslaved peopleโperhaps as many as 30. Despite the age difference, theirs was a warm enough union to produce 3 more children, 2 boys & a girl. 6/
Baby Sis thought she was picking up a sweet little Regency romance at the train station. Nope. Period erotica. By page 24, the hero is humping the heroine from behind & sheโs panting. I havenโt laughed this hard in months.
@GwotThot
@USEmCee
I can't think of a scenario in which any SM who has sexually assaulted a shipmate is so valuable & irreplaceable that they merit retention. Clearly the "good soldier defense" is alive and kicking for some bizarre reason. So sorry.
Then Charles dies in 1823 or 1824, leaving Martha w/a stepson & 3 children, all under age. He gave her a legacy: if she didn't remarry, she could retain all the property and enslaved people, & his younger brother Alexander would run the farm for her benefit & the children's. 7/
And the winner isโฆ Jerri Bell
@JABell27
won the
@FairfieldU
Library Research Prize! She will be honored at a zoom reception tomorrow, WEDNESDAY, MAY 5, 3p.m. Eastern, at this meeting ID: 91311779880. I hope you can join us to congratulate Jerri on this special recognition.
In memory:
Sally St. Clare, gunner, KIA
Battle of Savannah, 12/29/1778.
โA beautiful, dark-eyed Creole girl" with "long, jetty ringlets.โ
Gender allegedly not discovered until after her death. 1/
On April 1, 1846, they are to be manumitted & given the principal & interest of a $150 fund to relocate, as the State of VA requires manumitted persons to leave the state w/in 3 years. The significance of the date may be the 21st b'day of the oldest of Clarissa's sons. 13/