Sex work has raised my standards, not lowered them. If I'm getting paid hundreds of dollars an hour to be adored, pampered, and spoiled, why would I go out with your sweatpant-wearing, leave-me-on-read ass for free
If paying a woman for sex makes you uncomfortable it's not access to sex that you don't like, it's having to agree to a woman's terms for access to sex
Some sex workers have degrees, some do not. Some have doctorates and some never finished HS. What I know though, is that every single sex worker I've ever met is intelligent beyond belief, knows how to hustle better than anyone, and works harder than most CEOS. Respect 🙏
Sex work has been the most feminist act of my life because for the first time I am in control of my body, my sexual energy, and I have power over how it's given and the profit I can make over my labor. I am so thankful for the opportunities it's given me.
Intimacy is more than just sex. It takes a lot of work and skill to read a stranger. It takes a lot of work and skill to make someone feel at home in a strange environment. It takes a lot of work and skill to undress someone's mind and heart.
Sex workers don't owe you reasons why they won't see you anymore. They don't owe you responses to inappropriate emails, and they don't owe you forgiveness. Any entitlement you feel to a sex workers time is not their problem, it's yours. <3
Just finding out about the horrible horrible loss of a SW at the hands of a violent client. Please don’t turn this into a teaching moment. It wasn’t bad screening, it was a bad person. Create space for us to mourn. 💔
The fact thatFETLIFE, an adult site, is now also abandoning sex workers makes me so ill. A platform that was designed to give space for the spaceless and give marginalized folks a place to make community without judgement; shame on you for turning your back on us.
historically; women asked for jewelry as a gift because it was valuable, easy to carry, and easy to sell. It was an insurance policy for someone who wasn't allowed to have her own money/bank account.
Jewelry, historically, made us feel safe.
A client broke up with me recently because he had found someone he really fell in love with and he wanted to honor pursuing that relationship, which meant no longer seeing me. He was so apologetic about it but i was delighted. Even if I’m sad to no longer see you, that doesn’t
Price does not correlate to quality. Some of the best providers I’ve met charge half of what I do, and some of the worst are double my rates. High-end doesn’t necessarily always mean more expensive; pick a person based on their personality, not just their price point.
Let's normalize providers being able to have partners, have spouses, being pregnant, being parents
(and normalize seeing them regularly throughout all of that)
Sex workers hold a lot of trauma in their bodies from working in a marginalized industry as well as the trauma and emotional/physical needs of clients. Show your respect and appreciation with gifts, money, and GCs this holiday season <3
SW Affirmations:
-I am a luxury
-I am worth the amount I charge
-Clients are lining up to book me because I am one of a kind
-I manifest wealth through my successful business
-I deserve designer handbags, but I will not be buying them for myself
-I will be in a will
Just got asked by a hotel whilst doing pre check in documentation upload whether or not I consent to a background check. For a HOTEL. For ONE NIGHT. Getting real tired of all this hyper surveillance.
This dress is on my gift list and it would be a real shame if I couldn’t horrify my extended family wearing it for our annual Christmas candle lighting….. 😉😉😉
I take all my own photos and in the past couple of months lots of people have asked me about how I do it... would you guys be interested if I posted a tutorial on self-photography for SW?
You should be paying your provider every time you meet; whether that's the first time or the 5,000th time. If you start to get feelings; that's the sign to give her more, not want a free session 'for old times sake.'
Respect that your affection took a lot of work to earn. <3
SW forms of foreplay:
-Sending deposit promptly
-Well-written, thorough introductions
-Filling out booking forms fully
-Sending items off our wishlist
-Showing up on time
-Showering immediately
Always remember to eat dessert first 🍰🍰
DC: November 7-8, 14-16th
San Francisco: Dec 5-7th
Seattle: December 20-22nd
*On vacation November 17-21st, Dec 1-5*
@fesshole
Emotional and sexual care is still labor. This just means that you acknowledged that her blowing you costs her effort and energy and that you were willing to perform an act of service/care in return.
Providers: if a client of yours has your dream job, do you ask them for advice or help for breaking into that industry?
Clients; would you help a provider who asks for professional guidance in your field?
sex work, the commodification of women's bodies, objectifying/oversexualizing the female body etc, I found Chloe Cherry's take a little alarming. Her stance on sex work being way safer than waitressing is frankly mortifying, and doesn't speak of the immense amount of privilege
Today I learned that the CIA ran an LSD sex-house in San Francisco. They called it "Operation Midnight Climax” where CIA agents used hookers to lure in unsuspecting johns from North Beach bars, then dosed the men with LSD and observed them through a two-way mirror.
Sex work is a form of therapy but sex workers are not licensed therapists. We can be supportive but remember we are people like you; and it's unfair to dump all of your trauma on us. We are companions, not saviors.
Clients; what did you initially want to get out of your experience with a provider, and has that expectation changed over the course of your relationship with SW?
Being someone's first companion is such an honor and privilege. I love helping someone super sweet enter a world where they can feel loved, affirmed, empowered and intimately connected <3
her success has afforded her. Not everyone goes into sex work because they thought it would be fun. Not everyone goes into it with safety barriers in place to prevent them from getting harmed. Not everyone goes into SW and makes good money. Not everyone has had the privilege of
What is your favorite sex memory? Mine is having sex with someone for the first time next to an open window in the rain and sticking my hand out to catch the raindrops <3
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Thank you for saying this. It’s so easy to throw SWers under the bus instead of just seeing these sort of comments as what they are; hateful misogyny !
Ways to make a provider happy besides trying to give them an orgasm:
-Fill out booking forms
-Paying deposits
-Being respectful
-Being on time
-Tipping
-Buying them gifts
I just want you guys to know that I paid off the last of my private student loans today. It feels like such a huge weight has been lifted off my chest. I still have loads left in FAFSA loans etc, but still, this is a huge victory and I wanted to share it :')
Clients who work in finance: what financial advice can you give to sex workers for best riding out the coming recession? (Tips beyond “save your money…” we know that one already 🙂)
One of the most toxic phrases to ever exist is “I was only trying to help you”
If someone politely declines your help and your response is to be mad, you really need to examine your reasons you were trying to intervene in the first place.
So, because you love my job performance you want to offer me a permanent position?? And it's unpaid?? Where do I sign up??
(stop asking sex workers to date you for free because you like them)
Sex workers supporting other sex workers is awesome. This is a community, not a competition. There's infinite numbers of dicks, but only a miniscule amount of tolerance for toxic behavior. <3
As you get older, you realize that you’re not always right and there’s so many things you could’ve handled better, so many situations where you could’ve been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.
Work-facing accounts can still be genuine. Not everything that I tweet about being sex-positive is just for finding clients. I like to be genuine and positive on this platform because we don't have many other avenues to be honest about our experiences with our work.