CEO + Co-founder, Fresh Starts Registry. 2x Founder. Single mom. Changing the world one brave decision at a time. Everyone is worthy of support. We got you.
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When a long-term relationship ends, the material remnants make it harder to let go. That’s what inspired sisters Olivia Dreizen Howell (
@thedigitalyenta
) and Genevieve Dreizen (
@thegenevieved
) to set up the Fresh Starts Registry.
@KJezerMorton
reports
I’m at the playground listening to a man mansplain his wife about burning calories and why she isn’t losing weight and I’m about to tell her she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen, so get ready.
Question: if you were not raised Jewish (in any way shape or form), did you see Fiddler on the Roof at any point in your life? School productions count. I’m trying to see something here.
As someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship for years, I want to remind you that when your partner picks on the way you dress, look, eat, move, speak, laugh, live…with intention to hurt you, it’s not okay. And it’s not “just a joke.” It’s meant to cut you down.
I commented on IG that it’s easier being a “single mom” rather than a “married single mom” and woooooboy the attack on me. Dude, I know what it’s like. Having agency over my own life as a single mom is freedom for me. Married single mom life is heartbreaking and painful.
For anyone watching season 3 of Love is Blind, please know it’s not okay for your partner to make you feel less than about the way you look. It’s manipulative and mean. You don’t have to stay with a partner who makes you feel bad about the way you look. It’s not YOUR fault.
I'm calling it now: TikTok is going to change the divorce rate. Women are speaking up! They are realizing what they thought was "normal" in their marriage is NOT OK. A revolution is going to happen. The divorce rate is going to skyrocket in the next decade. Because of TikTok!
And this happens slowly, over time: “You’re eating that?” “You’re going out in that?” “You look weird in that.” This builds up over time to break down your ego and humanity. It strips you of you. But it’s “just a joke babe!!” But it’s not. They are doing it on purpose.
I’m gonna say it again: we are hugely lacking play-spaces open all hours of the week with spaces for parents to work. A play-space with wifi, tables, coffee, and a large window into a gym with counselors. I would pay a lot for this. Drop in, they play, you work and socialize.
And for the record, this can also happen in friendships and sibling relationships! And work people! This is low key abuse and they KNOW. They’re boiling you slowly in hot water. Over time you start to think less of yourself. It’s a very clear tactic.
@ambernoelle
When my high school boyfriend who was a pro tennis player broke my heart, I created t-shirts to sell that said “love means nothing in tennis”
it just took me an hour to get one client's IG post up. why? writing copy, finding and branding the image, researching the 10 shops' IG accounts we mentioned in the copy, hashtag development, getting it into IG to post, adding alt text, etc and then sharing to stories. one post!
And, this behavior is SO SO deeply ingrained in our culture that women (speaking from experience here so calm down) don’t understand that this is NOT OKAY! It’s bullying. It’s cruel. And yet it’s so accepted in our culture.
If you ask anyone who has survived psychological and emotional abuse, they will tell you it starts with these types of comments. “I’m just being sarcastic babe!!” It only gets worse over time. They are testing you. To see how far they can go.
I think the quiet part said out loud here is that married single moms aren’t in healthy marriages — so, its EASIER being a single mom than being a single mom AND in a toxic marriage. See that? Yeah.
I commented on IG that it’s easier being a “single mom” rather than a “married single mom” and woooooboy the attack on me. Dude, I know what it’s like. Having agency over my own life as a single mom is freedom for me. Married single mom life is heartbreaking and painful.
Ohhh noooo all the angry men coming for me. Cool.
Divorce is a blessing. It saves lives.
Stop it with the “lifetime commitment” - this isn’t a LL Bean sweater, it’s your life. And the narrative of divorce as a lifetime commitment is a tool for control over women. Byeeeeee!
1. Prenups are an act of love.
2. We need to stop villainizing divorce. Divorce is just a transition of a relationship and 50% of first marriages transition to divorce and THAT IS OKAY.
3. No one should be shamed for contemplating divorce. Come on, do better.
real talk: is anyone else just so completely and utterly burnt out from everything and can barely think about setting goals for 2022?
(because, join the club if you are!)
@prntgdcolonized
No, on the contrary. I’m so fucking amazing and will only give my time to someone who is 110% worth it. Otherwise mama got shit to do!! I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t add to my life.
nothing brings me more joy than referring people to possible jobs. we keep a database of women in social media, pr, website, design, etc - so reach out if you ever need anything! we don't ask for anything in return ever. just love to see it happen!!
i have a real question: when did we expect SMMs to be graphic designers ALSO? When I started this a decade ago, I was a copywriter who taught myself SM strategy, but had very little design background. And now it seems like every job application requires SMM to know EVERYTHING.
Can we please make a list of romantic comedies / romantic movies where the lead actress is size 12+ (has curves, etc). I’m curious what we’ll come up with here!
I think we need to have a very serious conversation about the fact that social media managers and/or strategists are NOT implicitly going to ALSO create the content - whether it’s static, graphic or video. I’m seeing a lot of confusion around this and we need to talk about it.
normalize replying to a meeting request with, "I have anxiety, can you please let me know what this meeting is regarding?" let's stop causing unnecessary stress for people with anxiety.
Saying "divorce is not good for the child," is weaponizing the fear and love a mother has for her children to keep her in a toxic marriage. And, it's click bait.
Stop weaponizing the concept of "ruining your child with divorce" to keep women in convenient marriages.
We cannot have a conversation about screen time and children without talking about capitalism, feminism, societal pressure to have children, and the loss of the village and community for families. It’s all intertwined.
Is there a safe space for female founders raising capital to talk to other female founders raising capital about life, business, etc? It’s such an emotional process and I wish I had a support group I could trust with my emotions and business stuff.
Alright, I’m just gonna say it: TikTok is going to change the divorce rate. Women are finally seeing they’re not alone and don’t need to put up with weaponized incompetence. I’m calling it now. Watch and see. The rate will raise, because women deserve better and now they know.
@CartoonsHateHer
Anything anti-formula. I get that it’s so culturally ingrained to push breastfeeding but formula has been around a long ass time now and people act like it’s poison.
Alright, FEBRUARY! New month, new opportunities! If you’re a freelancer - and you’re looking for new clients, respond to this with your website, short bio, and contact info. Let’s get your name out there! 👋
1. Prenups are an act of love.
2. We need to stop villainizing divorce. Divorce is just a transition of a relationship and 50% of first marriages transition to divorce and THAT IS OKAY.
3. No one should be shamed for contemplating divorce. Come on, do better.
One person DM'ed me saying that him & his wife discussed getting a prenup mandating that if they ever contemplated divorce, they would donate 80% of their net worth to encourage them both to work out any issues they were having.
Wow.
Not going to say who it is because he shared
OKAY, so I've decided that everyday for 30 days I'm going to shoot my shot and reach out/contact someone/do something to move the needle in my life - who wants to do this with me?
#shootyourshot30days
Alright. I couldn't not do anything. I started a Slack for female identifying founders and freelancers to have a safe place to land. Rules are: must be kind. Must lift each other up.
Writers, creatives, founders, journalists, entrepreneurs: DM me and I will send the link. 💚
I'm just gonna say it: it is NOT okay to expect social media managers to excel at their job and not provide them with the content they need (esp after they ask and ask). It's setting them up to fail and doubles their work (that they're prob not paid enough for to start with).
I commented on an IG post that “life is easier without kids 😂😂😂” and now the comments are rolling in “how could you say that?!” I didn’t say better, I said easier. We are allowed to say parenting is hard. It is hard.
unless you are hands-on in social media management, i truly just don't think people realize the sheer length of time it takes to do mundane tasks. tagging, linking, checking tags, adding graphics, searching GIFs, etc. and most of this can't be scheduled. it takes time, people!
i'm just saying, now would be the ideal time for a female founder to launch the perfect social media app. who wants to invest a few million into me and some of my gal pals to get this going? i'm not really kidding. we ride at dawn.
My son’s teacher told me today that he’s a “safe harbor” for new students and I cried. Sure, they should learn math and spelling, but..being a kind human? That’s everything.
I want to teach a course called “how to hire a social media manager,” because wow. No one seems to know what they’re looking for, how to handle it, or pay, or anything. This could be taught!
i got a DM today from a woman seeking a divorce who is a SAHM and her husband won't let her access their money. i am PLEADING women to start making SOME money. ANYTHING. even if it's $5 a week. you need to have some money to your name. I KNOW it's hard, but it's critical.
Hey love, you made it through the week and I’m so proud of you. Now, put on soft clothes, grab a snack, cuddle up and take a breath. Your only job in this moment is to just exist. You are so loved and so wonderful. I’m so glad you’re here with us.
I asked my divorce attorney for the final invoice I owed her.
3404 dollars and change
Well, I told her I’d start to like making payments and this is what this woman sent me. I cried.
I would have never gotten through that divorce without her. She helped save me. 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I’m gonna keep saying this: stop blaming women for “choosing” these men. 99.99% of the time these relationships don’t start off this way. It’s a slow burn into emotional abuse. Egos are destroyed in the process. People are dehumanized. Stop blaming women!
It absolutely blows my mind that a husband wouldn’t stuff his wife’s stocking. I don’t want to blame this on the ladies but like… what else are y’all lowering yourselves to accept?
@JohnIsBuilding
My advice as a solo mom with 2 companies and 2 kids:
- meetings only between 10-2
- nothing scheduled on Fridays and Mondays
- plan for a solid 2 hours of work after bedtime
- do something creative and listen to music every day
- walk as much as you can
- give yourself grace
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maybe with people using dating apps less, libraries should hold old fashioned mixers so single people can meet each other and talk about music and books and have local music play and local food places show up. bring back third space meeting opportunities.
But where’s the movie about the mid-sized curvy single mom with messy hair and a great smile who drives a Subaru and is late for school events and falls in love with a man who worships the ground she walks on? I want to see that movie.
for anyone hiring a social media manager, this is *not* part of what we do:
manage, maintain and update website copy and content, managing relationships with web developers, tracking and reporting website analytics
that's a different job 🙂
(saw this on a job posting)
just a friendly reminder that the digital marketing world is tiny, so be kind and treat people well. your reputation gets around fast in this community.
Just called Apple to make a Genius Bar apt cause my laptop won’t turn on and when the woman asked how my Christmas was, I started sobbing. She told me I was loved and that 2024 would be magical for me. So, thank you Apple Store woman. ❤️
Alright! New month, new opportunities! If you’re a freelancer in SMM, copywriting, website, any marketing - and you’re looking for new clients, respond to this with your website and contact info. Let’s get your name out there! 👋
Etsy is cutting 11% of the staff, and "Chief Marketing Officer Ryan Scott will leave the company. His responsibilities will be assumed by Raina Moskowitz, Etsy’s chief operating officer."
These are two very different jobs, no?
@clhubes
So, here's the thing no one talks about: because most kids are so different than each other, you actually have to learn to parent each kid as if you are a completely different parent for each child. Yes, there are guiding principles, but...each kid requires a different skill set.
@thejordanariel
I feel the same way about people posting bathtub kid photos. We don’t need to see it. No one does. Also, it’s not safe! Is anything private anymore?