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I was gisting with my mum, and she said one of our neighbors offended her and she would like to discuss it with her.
I told her when you got there, to use the "I" statement she said
She said what do I mean 😏
😂😂😂😂
What "I statements" sound like:
1. "You never listen to me."
"I feel unheard when I share my thoughts/ feelings. I would appreciate it if you could listen to me."
2. "You're making me upset/angry."
"I feel upset/ frustrated when certain situations occur. Can we talk about it and find a solution?"
"I" statements are a communication technique used to express feelings, thoughts, and opinions without blaming or attacking the listener.
They begin with the word "I" and describe the speaker's personal experience, rather than making assumptions about the listener.
3. "You're always so busy."
"I feel like we don't spend enough time together. How about planning more fun things to do together over the weekends?"
4. "You never help with the kids/ household work."
"I feel overwhelmed with the housework. Let's figure out a way to split the
5. "You don't care/ you're so insensitive."
"I feel hurt when my feelings are not considered. I need you to acknowledge my thoughts/ opinions/feelings."
Using "I" statements can help us with expressing our feelings and needs while also taking responsibility for our own emotions
They are also effective in increasing empathy & reducing conflict.
This is NOT "chemistry"
it's emotional unavailability
You can't stop thinking about them, they're always on your mind.
(Because they're breadcrumbing you and you're emotionally starving and malnourished)
I admire people who are careful with their words, and who think before they speak. it shows they care about others' feelings.
I appreciate those who are sensitive to how others might feel and speak kindly.
I believe we should all do the same.
the chores."
4. "You're always so critical of my work."
"I feel like my work is not being appreciated. I would appreciate it if you could recognize my efforts."
Hello Everyone,
I'm grateful to everyone that reached out during these trying times. I want to inform everyone that the hip replacement surgery was successful and I'm recovering fast. It's a painful process.
I'm grateful for the support always. Pray for me, please.Thank you
For ten months I have been at home recovering from surgery, I'm still in the process of getting my leg to walk with physiotherapy, and all this time I have developed a new skill which is Writing, My recovery process is taking much time than I thought, I don't want to lose my
In 2016, I got admission into Federal University Of Oye Ekiti, with the hope of studying Psychology, I have gotten a lot of material online and offline in preparation for my first year, I got a call from the office of the registrar, on getting there, he said that I can't
For the first time in Two Decades plus I was able to open my Two laps at the same time. I was able to sleep on my back with my back touching the bed.
This recovery and rehabilitation process is long, but I'm grateful to God and everyone here and beyond.
During this time last year two days into my new age, I wept bitterly, uncontrollably I don't know why but in my mind it keeps coming, God, I can't continue to live in pain from age six till now, I'm going into a new age, please help me I was like this till my
My name is Ajibola Bamgbose
I'm a Conflict Analyst I guide leaders, teams, and individuals to reimagine conflict and communication with proven strategies and techniques.
I create content that will help individuals and organizations improve their knowledge of
I am thankful that I get to see another day filled with your blessings, may you guide my steps.
It hasn't been easy to surrender to your will but I stand on your word that you make all things beautiful in your time.
Forgive my impatience, my doubt, and my lack of faith.
🥹I NEED YOUR HELP 🙏🏿
Dear Nigerians, I need your help and it’s really URGENT.
Pls RT!
My name is Bamgbose Ajibola Eunice, a graduate of Peace and Conflict Studies, FUOYE; A corp member serving at Ibadan South East local government.
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#AjibolaSurgeryCampaign
Going to the hospital today for a checkup, and I feel so emotional,
Today makes it exactly 5 months ago I had my Total Hip Replacement Surgery.
To everyone from the beginning, till date, you all are God-sent.
Thank you all for the prayers, and financial support.…
20 years in pain. Yes, I decided not to give up on myself but how long can I withstand the pains?
Sleepless nights, several drugs, still unease everywhere.
Dear Nigerians, I need your help
Kindly help me retweet and donate... 1/2
Most of us don't know how to apologize in the right way, and it has cost some a lot, what can we do differently when apologizing?
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The Five Apology Languages
Oya come make go 🫠🫠
You don't have to understand people's experiences to be kind.
Kindness doesn't require logic,
it requires grace.
I'm grateful to everyone here and beyond.
This gift of life I don't take it for granted.
Behind the scenes from yesterday's Physiotherapy session.
These past 6 months have been draining, we have prayed, wept, and endured, a lot of sleepless nights, but we are grateful.
Special thanks to my mother
I would pick my mother to be my mother again in any and every lifetime.
The one I posted is out of stock but got another one from the same time brand HP, Elitebook with the same features as the one I posted.
The one I posted was 255k the one I got is 250k. Including the delivery fee.
The total amount was 255k.
Thank you so much, we are grateful.
For ten months I have been at home recovering from surgery, I'm still in the process of getting my leg to walk with physiotherapy, and all this time I have developed a new skill which is Writing, My recovery process is taking much time than I thought, I don't want to lose my
When
@TundeAhmedTunde
posted on the group that they are extending
#KeepOgunClean
to Ifo Local Government, I loved the initiative but I couldn't go due to my present situation, I spoke with
@PappieJay18
and some few friends, and my mum said she will be representing me. Thank you
Good day
@DONJAZZY
I pray this tweet gets to you, I need help!
So far with the help of Nigerians, we've raised over a million naira, and I want to get this surgery done as fast as I can to ease me this pain.
1016809170 (Vbank)
Please help me quote tweet and tag
@DONJAZZY
I feel it is never too late to post this, one of my highlights for this month.
Just like yesterday. Thank you for maintaining this smile even though you've been through a lot.
My Biggest Congratulations are around the corner.
I'm grateful to God.
To you all ❤️🙏
Reflecting this morning and I am grateful to Jehovah for giving me individuals, friends, acquaintances like you in my life during these difficult times.
Thank you all for always coming through for me.
I don't take all your kind gestures for granted.
I'm grateful
It's time to rewrite and learn to embrace conflict as an opportunity for growth and understanding.
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The body wants sex. The heart wants love. The soul wants peace and the tummy wants eba and okra. 🥺🙃
Some posted this some days ago, I have been thinking about how to explain the most common, and unspoken type of conflict, which is INTRAPERSONAL CONFLICT.
Here you have it!!
Hello, good people. 🙂
Please Read!!!
We started this campaign for me in September and I'm very grateful for all your means of support to this day. Thank you! However, we are yet to make the total completion of the amount needed.
Sometimes, I forget to thank the people who make my life happy in so many ways.
Sometimes, I forget to tell them how much I do appreciate them for being an important part of my life.
So thank you, all of you, just for being here for me.
🫂❤️🤗.
I'm happy to announce that we’ve achieved the First Stage.
God is faithful. 🙏🙏🙏
With gratitude and appreciation to you all. Special thanks to everyone and my team.
We are grateful for all the donations, support, retweeting, and tagging.
My name is Ajibola Bamgbose
I'm a Conflict Analyst I help leaders, individuals, and organizations thrive in conflict by understanding themselves and others better and by guiding them to reimagine conflict with proven strategies and communication techniques.
Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
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Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
Tough times are temporary.
I just wrote a thread on How remote teams can communicate and resolve conflict.
Will you read it?
Let’s have 10 people type YES, and I will drop it tomorrow morning.
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I'm so proud of you for doing your best to be okay. I'm so proud of you for waking up every day and trying. I'm so proud of you for being here today because I know some of your yesterdays were hard.
I don't know what you're going through but you are going to get through it.
Some weeks ago, I was in an X-space, and someone asked me
"What are the ways to soften an argument or conflict"
Examine this questions.
1. Can we pause here and take 5 minutes to breathe?
2. What you're saying makes sense. I didn't think about it this way earlier.
Many Thought On My Mind,
When I Want To Upload This Picture.
I'm Just Scared Of Uploading My Full Pictures.
Why??
Because Of My Leg.
This Is Me.
We Move.
My Nysc Journey will be over soon by Feb 2.
I'm here to thank you all for your support and generosity.
Please I still need your help,
No amount is small.
Gratitude is my Attitude.
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UBA Bamgbose Ajibola.
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Thank you all.
Nine days after the surgery I started feeling a burning sensation around my feet, I complained they said it is normal, a crazy sensation that I can't describe. The physiotherapist recommended putting my leg inside the ice block which was effective, day and night.
I'm grateful to
@kishii
my physiotherapist.
God will continue to bless you, The journey to my recovery has not been easy but you have been so intentional from day one till now.
To everyone who has been supporting me financially to continue physiotherapy, I'm grateful.
For…
6. Preventing Escalation: Unresolved conflicts can escalate and negatively impact individuals, teams, or even entire organizations.
Addressing conflicts early prevents the buildup of tension and potential damage.
I had my first private session of physiotherapy on Friday, it was intense, and I'm glad I was swift about getting a private physiotherapist as advised by my doctors.
It is very expensive but for me to walk normally, and heal it is vital for my recovery process,
When I was growing up, I got easily attached to the opposite sex, a lot of them in my head, 😂😂. Especially that one who knows Mathematics well, because my calculation skills are nothing to write home about, as time went on, during my senior secondary school years,
I can't do all these exercises without music.
Abi make I give up ni 🥺🤔
Hey You, Stand up and continue.
Your consistency has helped you to this stage.
🙏💪🙌
When life feels a little slow and certain things seem somewhat out of reach, I hope I never lose this belief that everything good will come.
I hope this seeming delusion of mine keeps me grounded.
I hope I find happy stories to remind me that good does happen because it will.
Thank you so much sir, For your consistency in helping our community (Fuoye).
You are a blessing to me and many others.
Jehovah will continue to bless you more.
@olumuyiwaayo
I'm thrilled to share that I've been invited by
@SNG_HQ
to speak on
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12 communication rules that can save your relationship.
1. When you want to convey something difficult or sensitive, try writing it down using the right words + sleep on it.
2. Always address issues early or as they come up to avoid built-up resentment.
Today is one of the special moments in your life.
@aro_tm
I remember vividly how you called me last year on September 1st, that I need to do my surgery, and how I said we can't afford it. You gave me several suggestions. You plan it out and God makes it come through.
Communication skills are a continuous learning skill, but I have observed that some ways of communicating kill relationships,
Let us talk about them 👇
Stonewalling:
Shutting down refusing to engage in conversation by becoming unresponsive or giving minimal, or vague response