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T. R. Okuna

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1 month

When I was 16, we tried to incite our pops against mom because we felt she was being too strict. He called a meeting, said, "I met your mother long before I met you guys. You will leave this house & it's she that will remain here with me. So shape up or ship out."

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When the marriage is top priority, the children thrive by association. But when the children come first, the home falls apart. People who grew up in stable two-parent households tend to understand this better.

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My last relationship taught me that there are people who are sincerely predisposed to the simple life: To sleep & wake up to their partners; to go to their small job & its trifles; to raise kids, to go to church on Sundays. & later die as quietly as they lived. And that it's okay

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1 year

I've dated long enough to know that there are 2 kinds of women: Those who watch reality Tv, and those who watch crime documentaries. Pick the crime documentary junkies every time.

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4 years

My big brother brought his gf home last year. She was an immediate hit. Said little, laughed much. A Master's degree student & banker. She would join my mom & her sisters in the kitchen. My old man would call us (me & my brother). This is what he had to say:

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1 year

I got new neighbors. Very noisy girls. I unsuccessfully asked them to lower their music severally. Unsuccessfully informed caretaker. So today, I'd had enough. I put on Spotify, tweaked the Sony system to 100, & left. My phone is ringing like nonsense. Unsuccessfully.

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14 days

It's the knowledge that I could be alone if I wanted. But I picked my person, because of a value/connection I could not find with someone else (or alone). And that sustaining that value demands responsibility on my part. That I made the decision to be with her. It's not a prison.

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For the men that don’t cheat …. What’s your secret? 😕

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T. R. Okuna

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6 months

Back in campus, I was so broke I pretended to be vegan because I could not afford beef once the whole semester.... I had a very close female friend, one of those artsy, dreadlocked tomboys from wealthy families. One time she invited me to her room, and they were cooking beef...

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9 months

Fundamentalism. Especially in the educated, middle-class circles. Dating was once a curiosity-driven, gracious affair. Now it is a trauma-informed, rigid vetting system. You don't get the benefit of the doubt. No clean slates. No grace: just caution. And we can't agree to

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What’s the worst part of dating in this generation?

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1 year

Just got home & switched off the music: it's so quiet I can hear the sausages I had digest in my tummy. I'd even forgotten we had crickets chirping at night. Now we wait for tomorrow: Lessons will be learned Episode 2.

T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

1 year

I got new neighbors. Very noisy girls. I unsuccessfully asked them to lower their music severally. Unsuccessfully informed caretaker. So today, I'd had enough. I put on Spotify, tweaked the Sony system to 100, & left. My phone is ringing like nonsense. Unsuccessfully.

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T. R. Okuna

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11 months

So let me tell you how I lost my job after 4 months back in 2018. I had just been employed in an NGO & my boss was a White lady called Ms. Charlotte from Florida. It wasn't long before she took a liking to me. She'd tell my colleagues he wants them to "have initiative like T."

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1 year

@MuliFrank Nope, me & him are on excellent terms. I just spoke to him. He said he understands. He was wondering what was wrong coz it was unlike me. When I explained, He's told me he won't get in the way of justice.

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1 year

LADIES & GENTS, I tweet this from my balcony. A balcony I haven't sat on in 2 months. WE WON!!

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@XivTroy

1 year

I got new neighbors. Very noisy girls. I unsuccessfully asked them to lower their music severally. Unsuccessfully informed caretaker. So today, I'd had enough. I put on Spotify, tweaked the Sony system to 100, & left. My phone is ringing like nonsense. Unsuccessfully.

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1 month

I think what that conveyed was that: 1) He did not appreciate us going behind her back. 2) They were husband & wife 1st, before they were our parents. So we needed to learn our place. 3) Any issue affecting the family must be addressed in the open. No incitement.

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2 months

I recently had to let a woman I thought I'd marry go. We had everything going for us: Both loved reading, nature, teetotalers, & fitness enthusiasts but, I got tired of not being trusted. Always being accused of things I didn't do, trying to mend insecurities I didn't cause.

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3 years

By 35, my old man had no degree. He had a wife & 4 kids. By 42, he was seated in a lecture hall in North Carolina, US, for his first master's class. By 45, he was lecturing his own students in campus. Life has no formula - only purpose & tenacity. Know your race & run it.

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3 years

Every man must simply learn to be alone. You will not die. Learn to bring yourself joy. Tame your sexual urges. Have more than just alcohol as a hobby. It makes you calmer, careful & intentional. Once you make peace with yourself, you'll never have to pay a dime for company.

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1 year

I think choice is overrated. Two children will be born today. One in the squalor of Kibera; another in the opulence of Beverley Hills. Both are heirs, only one inherits adversity, as the other inherits splendour. Should the former fail at life, do we fault him?

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6 months

... I hadn't eaten beef in over 2 months and the aroma was killing me. When food was ready, one of the friends went to serve me beef only for my friend to shout "NOO! Don't serve Troy beef, he's vegan." I literally cried back in my room that night. Hard days, man! What a life!

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1 year

For a guy who gets home latest 7:30 pm, today I'll get home at 10:00 pm. If nothing changes, we try again tomorrow, and the next day. And so forth. I wonder why they are calling when the volume is still at 50% on the computer. Tomorrow, we tweak it up by 10%

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1 year

I remember courting a beautiful girl in campus. She wouldn't say much, if anything. After 2 weeks, I figured she wasn't interested so quit. After a week she came to my hostel quite upset livid at what she termed mixed signals. I said I was tired of carrying our conversations...

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2 years

Maybe I am old school but I would like it if my woman joined my mother & sisters in the food preparation process. The same way I would join her father & brothers in erecting the tent. It's not the act, it's the symbolism. Europeans call it gender roles; we call it community.

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3 months

Not a thought process; more of an epiphany. Something unexpected they do that leaves you gaping. They decide it for you. I'll tell a little story of my experience: Me & A came from the same village. We'd been dating about 3 years. She worked & schooled in the coast...

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3 months

I’ve always wanted to know, as a man what’s the thought process for one to say this is the one I’m marrying. This has really disturbed me for some time now.

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6 months

@_unofime As real as they come.. I am not kidding. 1st & 2nd years in campus were excruciatingly rough on me. But it taught me hustle. I was selling everything, and anything. Could have sold you too if you were standing shakily

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3 years

Don't succumb to the cynicism of the broken. Work hard. Love a woman. Call your friends. Say thank you more. Exercise. Learn more than you rage. You might scar, but that's how you'll learn. Apathy is stagnation; currency for the uninspired.

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6 months

I'd hoped she'd forgotten. Turns out she hadn't. And she really thought she was saving me, beaming with pride at her coming to my rescue, when my stomach was literally punching me. I'd come so close. Painful night that one.

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3 months

The reason I say men are their own problems is this: 1. Men mock men for getting cheated on. 2. Men mock men for getting abused by their wives. 3. Men won't develop other critical values - or front anything but money to women & then claim women only love them for their money.

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4 years

One day the world comes tumbling down. And you'll turn back home, hoping to find your partner's outstretched arms, only to run into an empty hall. Yes, you'll rebuild. But you need not have to if you struck a balance. Believe me. You don't want to be alone on a stormy night.

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3 months

Let me give you an experience I had for context: Some time back, I was seeing someone who is in - relatively - the upper echelon of public service. She had an interview for a new job. We are driving - a few days to the interview - & she receives a call.

T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 months

The reason I say men are their own problems is this: 1. Men mock men for getting cheated on. 2. Men mock men for getting abused by their wives. 3. Men won't develop other critical values - or front anything but money to women & then claim women only love them for their money.

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10 months

There is a silent pandemic. One that is yet to erupt because of the stigma around it. But very soon, will. You all know it. You all experience it. If not you, then vicariously, through a relative or friend. There is massive joblessness in Kenya. We are just concealing it well.

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4 years

Old man stood up to go. He had a church meeting. We'd stay quiet for a long time after that: me and my brother. Another day in my old man's house: another lesson.

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4 years

I look back & I realize that sometimes we unintentionally impose our visions onto our partners. Never asking what they wanted & deciding whether we can meet it. In my quest for ultimate success, I slowly but surely choked the life out of us. I gained the world, but I lost us.

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2 years

Kenyan women, please learn basic romance ethos: 1. If I invite you to my place, or out on a date, and you turn it down for one reason or another, it is your duty to recommend another favorable date. You can't go quiet and say I was not intentional. Intentionality goes both ways.

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4 years

"Sooner or later, the blinding fog of worship goes & people seek to go back into themselves. If you don't plan for that, you will inevitably be the object of their derision & anger. They will fight for control. A happy person, makes a happy partner: Makes a happy mom, happy dad".

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4 years

"Therefore, to avoid that, determine what she loves doing. Push her towards that. Commit resources to it. Let not the beginning & end of her life revolve around you. It is for this reason, I pushed your mother back to school even after she had given birth to all of you"

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2 years

I have friends whose future I never doubted. They were smart, driven, & beautiful. And then somewhere along the way, something snapped. They got married to wrong people; some got sick; others turned to crime; & some just stopped trying. It is so hard to understand life sometimes.

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1 year

Bullseye! I understand.

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4 years

"It is probably in your own interest to extend as much regard to your partner's growth as you extend yours. Because at some point, this idolization of you will end & she'll need something to go back to. If it's not there, she will take it out on you..."

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5 months

I have an uncle who is quite tiny back in the village, yet not the biggest of men will fight him. One time, he fought someone for 3 months straight, every time their paths crossed: in the market, in the field, on the farm. The man had to come with his parents & chief to apologize

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1 year

Living alone successfully as a man: 1. Do the dishes as you cook. Drink tea, wash the cup. Done with Ugali, clean the tin. Nothing is as demoralizing as bundled, dirty dishes. You'll be eating twice a week & spending a fortune on outside food if you don't do dishes.

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T. R. Okuna

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4 years

8 years ago, I met a girl on a Riverside Shuttle from Arusha to Nrb. After 3 hours of deliberation, I gathered courage & introduced myself. I said "Hi, my name is Knight, on a bus". She said "Hi Knight, I am damsel & you're late": I couldn't help but laugh, I'd met my soulmate.

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T. R. Okuna

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4 years

Unlike me, she didn't want the world. Didn't want the fame. Didn't care for the money. Not like I did. And in my oblivion, I would wake up at 3:00 am. Sleep at 11:00 pm. To get her all the good things I thought she needed. But instead, I was taking away everything she needed.

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1 year

Lessons will be learned.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

There are partners who don't want eccentric fame/wealth. They want money, but just enough to keep you guys comfortable. They may support you in your pursuit of the world, but they aren't a mini you. You'll gain the world, & lose your heart. I held the world, but I was empty.

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5 months

I'm in a restaurant this evening when a young couple walks in. They are 2 rows from me & they order fish. But the girl struggles to get past the bones so the dude picks them off & passes the flesh onto her plate until they are done eating. Romance is so simple. We complicate it.

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T. R. Okuna

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2 years

To send 150/= through M-Pesa, you have to pay 6/=. To Withdrawing it, 27/=. That's a cumulative 22% fee on the money sent. Comparatively, PayPal charges 4% max: Payoneer 3%; World Remit 2%; Wave 1%; Western Union 6% max. M-Pesa is the face of abuse of monopoly power.

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4 years

And back then the question that I would ask myself looking at her was; "how could you be satisfied with so little?" I attributed it to a lack of vision/mediocrity/ignorance. In such moments we forget that these people are adults like us. That they also have their visions.

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9 months

To guys who are applying for university, or going to university - especially those from poor backgrounds, like us; who will not experience career guidance, like we didn't; to whom education is everything, like it was for us, here is a tailored treatise for you. 1. Do not pick a

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4 years

He said: "This is at the center of couple power struggle. That one partner, or both, get disillusioned - by unmet expectations: Things they set out to do for themselves, but failed to achieve. Either because they were obsessed with other's welfare, or because they got lazy".

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2 years

Having a partner you can talk to - really talk to - is a special kind of therapy. Someone you can be honest with: trusting their level-headedness. Without concealing anything for fear of censure, or panic. To be listened to: To be told "we'll find a way". Nothing is better.

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1 year

I interact with old men a lot. Many successful, a few troubled. Yet something is almost always common with them: They do not recall specific happy, or sad moments. They only remember their responsibilities. What they had to do, what they did, & how it impacted their communities.

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3 years

Your parent is your parent. We all wanted a life that was better: vacations, bling-bling, & cars. Education is all we got; we are grateful for it. Parents go broke. Parents suffer emotional turmoil. For as long as a parent keeps trying, they must be afforded respect.

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1 month

@Nicolarunsit @svmmevr Well, he did throw us under the bus for sure. When he was listening to our plight it felt like we'd won him over, coz he kept nodding. Vigorously too. And humming the supportive "hmmm" - encouraging us to spill more. Then we get to the meeting, & it's a totally different pops.

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4 months

We're in a period of unprecedented deceit & opportunism. If you find someone to love you; who is patient & kind with you; is honest & seeks after your welfare: please do not be difficult. Do not let your ego get in the way of a good thing. A good thing has never been more elusive

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3 years

The ages of 23 to 30 are a sentence for many. They are emotionally, & mentally exhausting. Many will suffer their worst heartbreak. One will be moneyless with responsibilities & bills. Moments of deep sadness will hound you. Don't panic, you're evolving. You're finding a balance.

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2 years

Out here people are still holding hands, they are still going to church together... still taking their kids for soda & chips afterwards: They are still praying for each other. They don't know the latest car models, but they know who they are walking with when the sun rises.

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4 years

Bourgeoisie KOT is wondering why the average Kenyan isn't alarmed. They say: "Kenyans are so stupid. They are not self-isolating". We aren't stupid bro. This is the life we live every day. No healthcare coverage. No promise of food. State apathy. Welcome to the party. Grab a seat

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1 year

Horny men really messed the Kenyan massage industry. Nowadays they touch your neck for 2 seconds, then rush to your privates. They don't even ask if you are saved.

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1 year

Messi's greatness is in his talent, but Ronaldo's greatness is in much more Ronaldo is the face of every child and man defying the odds. By the age of 5 Messi was playing for his father's team. By the age of 8 Ronaldo was sweeping the streets with no father in sight.

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4 years

It bothered me that she didn't want to expand her botique It was doing well, but I am the kind of man who doesn't know when to stop. I want the world. But at some point, you are going to have to stop & let your partners be. And that if you must proceed, you'll have to do it alone

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4 years

"Either way, underlying self-disrespect creeps into them & they become fragile - increasingly sensitive. Words that didn't mean much previously suddenly become a source of conflict. Those partners feel like you can see their self-loathe and that you are insulting them..."

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4 years

As a kid, I watched my father mumble to himself a lot. He would do it anywhere & anytime. On the road, in the church & sometimes in the house. My mother hated it. She thought it was obscene. And for years I didn't understand it either. Until I grew up.

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4 years

If you were raised in a Christian household back in the 90s & early 2000s, you'd recall these songs (Videos: Courtesy): 1. Munishi - Namlilia Malebo

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4 months

Of all the lessons I have learned in love, with serious women, this is the most critical: If you say you're going to mow the lawn, mow the lawn: Don't say you will mow the lawn if you don't intend to do it. Almost everything else can be forgiven, except unreliability.

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3 years

20s and jobless is hell. But 30s and jobless is its father. To be jobless in your 30s is to be voiceless. It is a dark vortex of misery - a constant battle between depression & anger. When you're not hiding, you're sleeping - or pretending to. 30s & jobless is a hard, cold place.

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10 months

Life is a game of inches. Back in 2020, I went to a certain town on a work errand, which lasted a week. On the last day, I finished in the afternoon, got my ticket, & went to while away time in town, waiting for my 5:00 pm flight. While there, I passed by a cybercafe...

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1 year

@a0bwogo Thank you. This will be tomorrow's menu.

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4 years

@tablefotu An old woman is always uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in a proverb (Chinua Achebe)

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4 years

We are grown now. Ring people up before you show up at their doorsteps. And keep the visits to a minimum. As an adult, learn boundaries & self-sufficiency.

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1 year

I have a theory on why men are increasingly abandoning their families, purely as an inquiry into the mind of man: Men inherently crave order. They work with established systems. It's why football appeals to men, why they find it hard to multitask: They are methodical...

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2 years

Men don't love men (peers). Men respect men. That's why in war men would rather have their friends by their sides. Not their kids; not their wives. When men love something, they shield it from death. When he respects it, he keeps it around himself for the day death knocks.

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4 years

You're a man, learn these values: 1. To cook for yourself. 2. To do your own laundry. 3. To go to the market. 4. To mold a hobby outside of women, alcohol & drugs. 5. To tame your sexual urges. For as long as eggs is eggs, no woman will take advantage of you!

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1 year

I recently visited a friend. He lives on his family's farm - miles & miles of tea - which had been in their ownership since independence. His was only one of the 5 houses there. The others belonged to his siblings. After a meal, he drove me around until we got to some tombstones.

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3 years

My house will have a DNA test. It has nothing to do with insecurity; nothing to do with mistrust. But everything to do with prudence. I have seen & heard enough to act like an ignorant man. If I must raise another man's kid, it must be of my own volition. The old world is gone.

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9 months

To those who keep bashing individuals reading novels in matatus: readers don't read them for, or against, you. Your inferiority complex is self-imposed. If your attention span is TikTok & Obare's BNN material, stick to that. A book should not scare you that much.

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3 years

We celebrate absurdity. Brag over hurting people. Grown men wanting to be bad boys. Old women jostling to be bad bitches. And doing the most, to hurt each other. No, I cannot relate. I care for kindness. I practice honesty. I love laughter. I'll never partake in that loony circus

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4 years

Nairobi traffic jam is too slow today. But that's the least of Kevin's worries. His work contract elapses in a month. He's behind on his car payments. The bank sent an email last week. Again: "How will I survive?" Kevin revs his Subaru up. The jam is moving. It'll be okay.

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3 years

2019, I attended a church service along Ngong Rd. There was a section for youths, adults & kids. I had gone bald so decided to huddle with the adults, youths had mohawks. Service is good: Pastor says adults move forward for prayer, I move forward solemnly, hands behind my back.

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4 years

Eligible 30-year-old bachelors PREFERRING 23-year-old women is NOT a condemnation of their older agemates. When you LOUDLY preferred older men through your 20s, none of us wrote threads lamenting your condemnation of us. Let men VOCALIZE their preferences in peace.

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3 years

WhatsApp status can tell you a lot about an individual's personality.

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3 years

Lessons in Nairobi: 1. DON'T. LOOK. LOST in CBD! Just go around 50 times like your fellows. Most of them are lost too anyway. You will find the place eventually. Whether you find it with your phone & wallet intact, depends on how you look. .

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4 years

People grow up; priorities change. Friendships wilt; love dies. You can't flog a dead horse into a leap. Learn to let people go without resentment. Use that hurt as a challenge. To work on you. To break glass ceilings. You'll find them again, or better.

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4 years

I hope that Nairobi relationships are not the only relationships you'll get to experience before settling down. These are not relationships; they are experiments. A competition of who does less; Who called last? Who paid last? 1 foot in, 1 foot out. I hope you get to be loved!

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T. R. Okuna

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3 years

20s is hard, 30s is hard, hell, 50s is hard too! Age has no bearing on the quality of life you live. You could suffer all the way to death. You could ball all the way to death. You could be mature at 20, a buffoon at 50! Just take your opportunities, & bear your burdens well!

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

2 years

Ladies claim Kenyan men are not romantic. It's not true. It's our amenities (or lack thereof) that do not support romance. Your guy lives in Kinoo but you want evening walks coz you saw it in 'Midnight in Paris': evening walks where? Is it love you seek, or a sore throat?

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

8 months

Hierarchy of Relationships in the city: 1. One Night Stand: This is the lowest in the hierarchy. Being drunk is both a prerequisite and excuse. The sex is awful, involves exaggerated moaning to make up for absence of intimacy, & awkwardness the next day. Avoid. Use protection.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

2 years

Someone called my new Safaricom number yesterday. I'd received several calls before from individuals thinking I was a "Salome": So, I immediately told the person on the other end, "wrong number". He sighed, then whispered "I know. It belonged to my mother". Life can be painful.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

Publish a book in Norway, the government purchases 1,000 copies and distributes them to all libraries. Publish a book in Kenya, the government taxes your income, taxes the publisher, taxes the bookseller, and lastly, taxes the buyer. Another day in Africa.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

1 year

50 year old me after my mother serves my father the large piece of meat I had been eyeing.

Ochieng🦈

@its_fanuel

1 year

But at 25 haufai kuwa kwa nyumba ya babako

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

There are still good men. In the millions. Men with a sense of purpose. Men with a grasp of responsibility. Men who sleep late & wake up early, just in time to catch their dreams. Non-violent men. But you'll have to stop existing within trauma bonds to find them. Circles matter.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

I swear Nairobi roundabouts run on inshallah & audacity alone. Lanes you leave in driving school.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

Sex is just sex. It will never fill the vacuum of purposelessness. The sooner I learned this as a man, the sooner I stopped simping/'studding'. Try as you may, you will not sex that void away. There are not nearly enough pay-offs in sex for the male to warrant precedence.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

I grew up watching my old man read books on marriage. He'd underline a compelling phrase & wait for my mother to get home. He'd then show her the phrase & they'd smile knowingly. Later they'd pray on it. Relationships cannot be built on emotion alone; knowledge is paramount.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

Some of us actually like our women. Their presence in our lives is not an accident. We observed them, observed ourselves, & saw their purpose in our lives before we brought them in. We won't treat them like guesswork because nothing in our lives is guesswork.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

Men do not want sex, they NEED sex. Myles Munroe says a man needs sex more than a woman does because "he is progenerator (a seed carrier)". That's why he must not be kept waiting too long. Sex is his primary route to intimacy. If you don't give him sex, he'll seek it elsewhere.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

11 months

I never dated a woman whose house I feared sleeping in because I wasn't paying rent. I find such Kenyan talk irritatingly childish: a futile attempt at sanitization of poor judgment - and the projection of insecurity. You are supposed to date women whose houses you can sleep in.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

8 months

Women are doing well in Kenya. The SUV in front of you is likelier to be driven by a woman. The child in the international school is a single mother's. 80% of your office is most likely made up of women. Men fell off. And they only have themselves to blame.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

No relationship can survive a lack of communication. If you only talk to a partner when it is convenient for you, you trigger regressive competition. It might work for adolescents, they don't know what they want. But among adults, you are killing a good thing.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

When you are a brother, working hard to make something of your life & to look after your family; you have no reason to go around bent & apologetic. If you sell honey, say I sell honey. We will buy. We know you have a degree. We also know it's not an ideal world. Keep fighting.

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

3 years

I used to talk to people in buses. I don't anymore. See, one time, when I was heading home, I sat next to an old guy in a matatu. Old guy looked alright, soft-spoken, had a receding hairline so you know I'm thinking, "lots of wisdom here." The devil had been trying me lately...

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T. R. Okuna

@XivTroy

4 years

By all means, punch above your weight. Approach only the most beautiful among women, apply for positions that would traditionally be beyond you, and fraternize with people from older age groups, and from different countries. That's how you grow. Get out of the cocoon of inertia.

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