While news is still coming out about the death of Nex Benedict, I would like to remind people of another major ongoing trans news story. Yesterday, the first ever federal trial for a gender-based hate crime started in South Carolina.
@GalaxyBrainOrgy
@EuphoriTori
not feeling comfortable with your boyfriend being that level of feminine: fine, sure. to each their own.
your boyfriend’s femininity making you feel like less of a woman?? there’s some shit you gotta think about and work through.
@LilithFromTBOI
@WeHateThese
you can literally access the same assessments that professionals do for free online. if i’ve taken like 5 we’ll known autism assessments and they all suggest i’m autistic, plus i meet the DSM criteria…why is it wrong for me to find community with people who are like me?
@sailorsunshin3
@isawken
my fiancé just said “yeah, i bet there are greebled cubes at eeby deeby, that’s where i’d keep my greebled cubes” and i just really want to go back to a normal timeline
@LilithFromTBOI
@WeHateThese
not being able to afford the official piece of paper shouldn’t prevent anyone from putting a name to their struggles. figuring out that i’m autistic has made my life easier even without official documentation or accommodation just because i know what’s happening now!
@hiyahydra
@jakki__AK
someone only starting to misgender you after they find out they’re trans (ie they’ve been gendering you correctly for a while already) isn’t a “everyone makes mistakes” kind of thing though.
let boys and men have positivity challenge. i’m tired of seeing “ew, men” or KAM on any and every post about post it’s for men and boys or about loving men, as if allocishet men are the only ones who exist. as if trans and non-binary men/boys aren’t trying to feel like we belong.
@federalfarmers
@dieworkwear
how on earth did you get from “things are generally within walking distance” to “you are literally not allowed to drive and must stay within your walkable area”?
@SonoraReyes
if i hear “theydies and gentlethems” one more time i’m gonna riot. cis people keep trying to force us into the binary!! do they not realize the point of being non-binary is…that we are NON BINARY??
@M1SSI0NL0G
@resilientAvery
maybe they don’t need to experiment? if they’re happy then who cares? labels and identity are so personal and complicated, no one is being hurt by someone just using they/them pronouns and not changing anything else.
@RejamRejam
@RyokoAnimation
@ContraPoints
i’ve had this happen to me and i’m not even on T lmao. i don’t even look particularly masculine, transphobes just like to pretend they can tell your AGAB
@GrumpyBaldDude
@yungmagenta
@kaxley
the attitude of “it’s not gonna happen so it’s just a waste of time to work toward change” is honestly probably part of the reason things aren’t changing.
@Sai0sen
@bisexyshitpost
“says that they’ll never date men again (as if it was a choice)”
it…it is?? you can’t choose your attraction but you CAN choose who you date???
@Sideways440
yeah, it’s so weird. people are acting like LMM as an artist having a distinct style is a problem as if i can’t pick out Sondheim after hearing 5 seconds of a piece.
@val_eigen
@KatysCartoons
gender expression is always a choice. expression and identity are not the same thing. even if you choose to express yourself as your AGAB, you are still trans. being trans is not a choice.
@GrumpyBaldDude
@yungmagenta
@kaxley
supporting unions, supporting workers on strike (including donations and boycotting if requested), contacting representatives, various activism activities
if bi women were abused by cishet male partners (as you seem to be implying) then the rates of ipv would be similar to those of straight women. but they’re not. bi women face more ipv than straight women or lesbians.
@digitallylina
@oknolisten
@arakkisuperstar
boundaries dictate your behavior, not the behavior of others. for example, “if you defend CNC, i will block you” is a boundary. “you cannot express yourself this way” is a rule, not a boundary. you don’t get to dehumanize someone because you don’t like something they said.
@biberrypanic
i ID as pan and i hate that “hearts not parts” crap. there’s nothing wrong with either and people need to stop shitting on each other when we should be standing together
@TerribleJokes3
@JennyENicholson
Sure, when it comes to stuff like whether pineapple goes on pizza. My gender identity isn’t an opinion we can disagree on. LGBTQ+ rights aren’t something I can agree to disagree about. Her mocking people for putting pronouns in their bio is actively making life harder for people.
@CatboyMillenium
@DarkSunFemme
can we not do “bi girls are just faking for attention”? even to bi girls who are shitty? that’s just perpetuating biphobia.
@JMWhit6
@_celia_bedelia_
even if there was a visible fetus, why in the HELL would you ask a strange woman to help you look through the tissue to find it??? a STRANGER??? i don’t even think i’d ask my husband to do that, jesus
@LilySimpson1312
later in the thread she claimed that the security guard was a trans man. which…how would she know that? did he announce he was trans before demanding to see her junk?
@vkchopragw
@lexualcontent
@stu_tx
most low-middle class folks can’t (or can barely) afford ONE house. much less multiple properties with the intention to rent one of them out.
@AleMarieMaxwell
@eyeskewer
can you not infantilize autistic people? i’m autistic and trans. i’m also perfectly capable of consenting to medical procedures. most autistic adults are.
@The_Tater69
@shshshshfay
@abbygov
the aclu is currently tracking over 500 anti-LGBTQ+ laws in the US. we have politicians who openly call gay people abominations here too. what’s your point
@etajpg
@LilySimpson1312
literally all 3 things that she’s making fun of young queers for.
1- asexual people can, in fact, enjoy sex.
2- this seems a lot like mocking people for defending non-dysphoric trans people
3- sounds like biphobia; having straight attraction DOESNT invalidate your queerness.
@_trashville
@clewisreviews
the problem is that Evan is often treated as a totally justified and even heroic character by people who, i guess, completely missed the fucking point. the show itself doesn’t excuse his actions, but a lot of fans of the show do.
@dm_onthetrack
@dz_zebra
@SugarBombChar
bisexuals, specifically bi women, have higher rates of SA and domestic violence than any other sexuality. they’re also more likely to experience mental health issues and homelessness. but those issues get ignored so people can dunk on bi women for daring to date men
@storyjunkie
i saw this thread too. saying that transmascs are “claiming the oppression of women” is so gross. we are affected by misogyny. we are stripped of our identities and treated as women in order to oppress us. describing what we go through isn’t appropriating another group’s struggle
do you seriously not see the issue with calling an entire group of queer people “evil” because they called out someone perpetuating stereotypes about them?
@pushforgorilla
@mylovedes2
children do not develop autism after receiving vaccinations. that’s simply not a thing that happens. they may have started showing more apparent signs after, but correlation doesn’t equal causation.
@kindredklance
@astroviks
@RealityBent
@ohluminati
@lesbostruggle
ah yes. lesbians are definitely the ones excluded from pride. it’s not like many a lesbian has told me that i shouldn’t be allowed at pride because i’m in a het presenting relationship even though i’m not straight OR cis. it’s not like aces and aros are constantly bullied out.
@Rosathnea
@yawnnuh
“it hurts extra bad to be left for someone of another gender” - fine, not biphobic, talking about your own experience
“I FEEL LIKE ALL BI GIRLS SECRETLY PREFER MEN EVEN IF THEY SAY THEY DONT” - now we’ve swung back around into blatant biphobia and heteronormativity
@butchboyfantasy
@leather_butch
you took your personal experience and presented it as a generalization. i’m sure other lesbians have had similar experiences, and that’s entirely valid, but the wording of this very much feels like a rehash of “it’s just a phase”.
@Ehdonn
@mhdksafa
listen, i brought lunch from home often as a kid. there’s nothing less appetizing than a sandwich that’s been sitting in a room temperature lunch box for 3-4 hours with the saddest ice pack trying to keep it cold.
@SwipeWright
the same access to healthcare as cis people
the ability to live our lives without having to justify the spaces we inhabit
the ability to exist without being accused of being rapists or child abusers
the simple dignity of not having our community’s suicides used against us
@matrixman124
@thievingthots
@thomicks
i’ve reported GCs for saying literal slurs (which is explicitly a thing you can report someone for!) and just keep getting told they haven’t broken any rules.
@mute__spectre
@cyreejarelle
transmasc people seeing themselves in the story and the character doesn’t mean she IS transmasc. it’s not taking anything away for us to feel seen.
@_let_love_lead
@miaaaaatamiaaa
“A trans”? That’s super dehumanizing on top of your obvious disdain for your daughter’s orientation. Trans is an adjective, not a noun. I’m a trans person, not “a trans”.
@belle_joyeux
“millennials are refusing to grow up” bro we’re in our 30s and 40s. we are grown. recognizing that media made primarily for children doesn’t have to be mindless is not “post adolescent immaturity”
@LittleRubyBear
@IzntGoingAway
a couple of those hit really close to home for me. i constantly felt like a burden because i was so aware of how much it cost to care for me, and i very nearly got grounded for locking my door while getting dressed after a shower once
@kathrynbuettner
@SonoraReyes
this is still imposing a binary on nonbinary people. it genuinely feels like people who say this are saying “non-binary people that i see as men and non-binary people that i see as women”
@MugMana
@lydialunamoon
@KatyMontgomerie
maybe you should pay more attention to the news. in those states, hormones are being taken away from ADULTS, not just kids. that’s not a hypothetical, it’s literally what is happening.
@deportablediz
I don’t get it. You can still have evil individuals of any race, there just aren’t “inherently evil” races anymore! Imagine, the entire population of one race is not a monolith 🙄
@JulieConvery
@matchabunnii
@kattenbarge
why doesn’t it make sense? something being used for negative purposes by one group doesn’t mean it can’t be a good thing or useful to another group. sugar-free foods and energy drinks are very popular in ED circles, that doesn’t mean they’re not also helpful for diabetics
@2Sgayqueefcount
@dxxnya
20 year olds are also dying (and those who don’t die might still end up with lifelong problems as a result of the virus) but go off
@TimeIsAfterUs
@communlizm
have you ever spoken to a trans person? many of us have experienced something like this. some people get very angry when we’re open about who we are. we get murdered and assaulted over it, but you think getting kicked out of a bar is “incredulous”?
@arakkisuperstar
the difference is consent. for most people that i’ve known who engage in CNC as the top, they don’t just fantasize about assaulting people. they only like it when they other person is into it and consenting. people who like CNC can still be disgusted by actual rape
@IzntGoingAway
one that i’m not sure actually counts as abuse but definitely felt like it for me was constantly broken promises. the best example was one year my mom promised to give me a decent portion of her tax return to help me save for moving costs. she bought me ~$100 worth of jeans
@squidfgc
@CatboyMillenium
@DarkSunFemme
that’s possible. it’s also possible that she was and was just being biphobic toward the guy. a surprising number of bi women are biphobic to bi men.
@SneakyTransbian
@BankPads
@Rh3t0ricTV
@EuphoriTori
i don’t understand why the both of them shopping for clothes or makeup is time that’s supposed to be focused on her? like why are they both going shopping at a place that sells things they both would want if he’s not allowed to participate in the shopping??
@Metanoiacal
@The_Tater69
@shshshshfay
@abbygov
i’m defending people. the prevailing attitude toward queer liberation in a country’s government shouldn’t dictate whether the people in those countries deserve to live.
@pt35mm
@jasonintrator
anti-LGBTQ+ incidents quadrupled from 2020 to 2021, and are shaping up to be even worse this year. there were 7 extremist events LAST WEEKEND. this isn’t clickbait or exaggeration, it’s getting quantifiably worse. which you’d know if you actually read the article.
@RichardSkipper
@AyannaPrescod
you know that some shows, like Be More Chill and Heathers, were basically resurrected because of the increased attention afforded them by bootlegs right? the inaccessibility of theatre is a huge problem, and bootlegs wouldn’t be so common if they’d just release proshots
@madelynamiller
@ryanaboyd
That reminds me of this Reddit post I saw once. This person was a hiring manager and refused a job to a young guy because during his Skype interview, he could see his bedroom and it was “unprofessional”. People in the comments were like “hello that’s where his computer is??”
@PokesPartyTV
@CraigOrangeSoda
@Danny8bit
@ConnorEFallon
people willingly watch the life stories of real people who murdered other real people in cold blood. i think we can stop overthinking the cash-grab backstory film of an animated woman who wants a dog coat
@Naxela2
@basic_chanel
normalizing something that many transmasculine people experience is a good thing. trans people shouldn’t be ashamed of things they can’t control any more than cis people should be.
@IzntGoingAway
and then said that was all she could afford, and said that she’d given the same amount to my brother for a new computer but the rest went to bills. understandable! i wasn’t upset about it until i found out that she had actually bought my brother a $1400 alienware computer
@tangoix21
@DemonFaeShae
Tennessee is trying to ban dressing in clothes “meant for the opposite sex” and oklahoma is attempting to ban adult transition care. but sure, we definitely have the same rights as cis people.
@LisaMarieBoothe
do you realize that treating this as inevitable is going to be a massive disabling event, and will KILL the people who are already disabled? that you can catch covid multiple times? long covid could become the underlying condition that causes the second round to kill you.
@jimbobjones76
@the_nerd_skull
i was raised in the deep south. i thank the powers that be every day that my mom got out of organized religion and allowed her kids to be their own people. she wasn’t perfect, but at least she didn’t act like she owned me.
@AutSciPerson
i got in trouble ALL THE TIME as a kid for “having an attitude” when i was just speaking normally. i’m now hyper aware of tone in myself and others, as well as choosing words with agonizing specificity to avoid being misunderstood. i wish my parents listened to my words!
@GABAGOOLMODER
if you have a history of anti-Blackness, you don’t get to act surprised or offended if Black people no longer trust you. yes, it’s good to change your viewpoint. you still need to build trust with the community you’ve previously harmed, and it may never happen.
@StarNosedMoles
this reminds me of how i stopped IDing as pan a few years back in the height of the “pan is biphobic” discourse. i was so tired of being bullied for the word i used that i stopped using it for like two or three years. maybe that’s why i’m such a vocal supporter of bi lesbians now