6 years ago on this day I married a man I had only known for 8 weeks... It was the craziest thing I had ever done! If I am asked to it again I would do it in half the time.
Alhamdulillah for a blissful 6 years of marriage. We will build empires together In shaa Allah! HWA
But if we are being honest with ourselves, there is no way Muslims will accept a Christian-Christian Ticket in Nigeria. We shouldn’t expect from others what we cannot do ourselves. People voted along religious lines to prove a point.
My first cousin was butchered yesterday in Oyo state (Ibadan). He is alive but badly injured. None of our family members herds cattle. They haven't heard since they relocated some 85 years ago.
This is totally unacceptable. You cannot make everybody a criminal.
If nobody is saying it let me say it. KADUNA-ABUJA trains are failing. In the last week, the train stopped over 5 times and refused to move. Passengers spent hours (4-5) waiting for a replacement train.
@ChibuikeAmaechi
who is pocketing the maintenance money for our trains?
Went for my Covid vaccine today and the guy was telling me I don’t have to do it. If I just want certificate they can do it for me, I just have to give small something.
Nigerians are the death of Nigeria.
I feel really sad for some Northerners that don't understand their rights as citizens. You think there is a justification for picking someone up because they insulted a public figure? The Queen and past presidents of this country that have been called all sorts or names -
My mum got married after she finished primary school. It was the typical Fulani tradition and even that primary was a battle. She later went back to secondary school after having 3 kids, completed secondary school, did a diploma in computer science and later a degree after her
Y’all, please tell the class the times your mother has done things (not related to being a mother) that stood out to you.
I’m really tired of the fuckass cooking conversations.
My family members living within Yoruba communities have all left their homes and are in hiding. These people do not even know anything about herding cows or farming. They are just normal people going about their businesses.
Do not punish everybody for the crime of a few!
I am going off Twitter for a while. It is not just the abduction that’s hurtful, but the hypocrisy from some northerners benefiting from power is even more hurtful.
Allah kar yasa musamu abunda zai hanamu ganin gaskiya kuma mufadeta.
BREAKING NEWS: Arewa men should note that they are getting nothing like the women of the last 20-30 years. Women these days don't stay in oppressive marriages.
For your own peace of mind, treat your wife right!
Divorced women do not deserve the stigmatisation we are melting on them. Some of these women were dying in these marriages and even leaving required a battle.
I will give her free Netflix subscription for one year. The idea that girls should stick to men because they want somebody monetary is not good for either parties. If you are not too angry to do her bad belle, please send her details 😂
This girl suddenly told me to leave her alone last night. I did what she said, and I later modified my Netflix login information. This morning, she sent me a text message, saying, "Sorry about yesterday, banney. It was period cramps." Nace ko haihuwa zaki gin bama kallan Netflix.
Living in Nigeria saves you kids issues. Everyone has a life and help is cheap and there is family around to help too. It does take a community to raise a child. One of the things I seriously miss about Nigeria is the help with childcare
Update: I just spoke with a pharmacist now who is treating wounded people. He explained that they have the situation under control but need food. We are going to send them money to arrange for cooked food and expect video evidences.
#SaveAK9TrainPassengers
😭😭😭
The woman with the 4 kids and her husband 😭😭😭. One as young as 2, in this condition.
@MBuhari
this is not beyond the government, please rescue these innocent souls.
I never get involved in Marriage conversations. It is the one thing that God can test anyone with. I never feel like I am in a position to judge anyone for staying or leaving. What is between a husband and wife, only God knows!
#SaveAK9TrainPassengers
The abductees are sick, their children are sick.
@MBuhari
what are you doing to get these innocent people out of this?
@ProfOsinbajo
Your classmate is calling on you to come to their aid, why did it have to come to this? 😭😭😭
The Executive Governor of Osun State, Senator Ademola Adeleke has directed immediate establishment of a support desk for Osun tech innovators and entrepreneurs to access the recently launched 618 USD tech fund by the African Development Bank (AFDB).
What is amazing to me is the way people think northerners didn’t go to school or are not intelligent. The fact that they don’t leave Nigeria in troops doesn’t mean they aren’t intelligent or cannot speak as much English as you.
Alhamdulillah! I am a proud mummy today. My child got the best GCSE result in her school. She only had 6 months to catch up because we relocated. I couldn't be prouder🥹.
The Kaduna-Abuja road is filled with bandits and kidnappers and is useless. Now you are making our trains useless. Why wouldn’t these trains be maintained for goodness sake? And I am sure there is a huge maintenance budget somebody is sitting on.
Update: conflict resolution currently on-going. The governor is around, the representatives from the Hausa community and the representatives from the Yoruba community also present.
We are also looking for hospitals not on strike to take those with gunshot wounds.
@DrJoeAbah
Yes, they are different. But many residents of Aso Rock believe it is one of the most secure place in the country, considering proximity to Villa. A robbery in Aso Rock is thus a cause for concern.
This divorce issue is very complicated. It is easy to say things arent working and jump out of a marriage.The question I keep asking myself is what exactly works in this world the way it is supposed to?From your job to your business,people are frustrated.Marriage is not different
We cannot fundraise our way out of insecurity. It is such a difficult situation where one doesn't even know what to do, but truly our security forces must do the job of protecting lives.
@NuhuRibadu
@Bellomatawalle1
@Mohammed_Badaru
Please what are you doing to bring back the
There is 0% protection for Muslim women in Nigeria when it comes to divorce. Women & their children unjustly divorced are left without justice in our community.
I am really pained at how the life of the average Nigerian means nothing. They kidnapped 5 girls, the family had been fundraising on the internet to pay the ransom, but no security force said anything or seemed to be doing anything. They have now killed one of the girls, God
In our schools, we are not safe, in our homes we are not safe, on the road we are not safe, in other places too we are not safe. What did the north do to deserve this?
#SecureNigerState
#SecureNorth
#FreeKagaraBoys
Northern Nigeria's revolution that needs to happen now is an increase in employable skills and economic stability. A region constantly focused on marriage and having more children (regardless of Life and Kayan daki) without a corresponding increase in economic activity -
A Northern Nigeria revolution that needs to happen immediately is 'A janye lefe kuma a janye Kayan daki da Gara'. It will mark a new milestone for marriages in the region.
Let new couples start thier lives based on their realities not that of their parents.
@OkunolaFaruq
Governorship and presidential operate at different levels. Kaduna did Muslim Muslim and won too. This one too will win. But there is a clear message being sent
I love the fact that Islam allows me to retain my maiden name. It makes me feel so confident when people call me by my husbands name and I correct them.
Wonder what if feels like to change names with every change in husband 😩
Girls kidnapped in KD released within 24 hours. No new clothes, or speeches or press conferences. They shouldn't have been kidnapped in the first place. But for the efficiency, I stan Sir
@elrufai
There are some amazingly, incredibly, God-fearing Arewa men out there. Some of them push their wives to succeed even more than the women push themselves.
When you meet them you wonder how people like that exist within the current landscape. Pray to have those rare breeds.
So this tweet is a response to people saying the north will remember and vote along religious lines in the next election too. It isn’t a standalone tweet
APC had to major enemies in this election
1. APC government performance, leading to losses in the North
2. Muslim-Muslim ticket
They had one major advantage
1. An egoistic and delusional opposition that weren’t ready to use APCs weaknesses as Strength
APC is in a serious dilemma sha. PYO will be a hard one to sell, plus Atiku is more popular. Then BAT will do a Muslim-Muslim ticket, which is not feasible. Votes will be spread out thinly, and Peter Obi will take a good chunk, of people that don’t like any of the major parties.
I have many WhatsApp messages from people whose shops were burnt at Shasha, they have nothing to start with.
My cousin's husband is taking her & 5 kids back to Kontagora where they have never been because he has lost everything.
The victims should be compensated.
Update: The Yorubas reached out and promised they only want peace. They also promised to protect the Hausas in their various houses. Some people that still have homes have been escorted back to their homes. They are still in a refugee state as many people are living together.
Alhamdulillah for a wonderful year in my life 🎉🎉. It has been one with a variety of ups and downs and a lot of self-love and self-care. I wish to go back to some old habits today and will probably do a blog post. Haven't done one in 8 years 😂
Even after a peace agreement some notorious people are not allowing this agreement to remain. It shall not be well with anybody that wants to burn this country!
@AA_Ibrahim1
@ChibuikeAmaechi
And keeping quiet will not solve the problem. There is evidence that when we come together and call out incompetency something might be done. That is what we are hoping for
She was a tenant in a Yoruba person house, the only Hausa tenant. They burned the whole house because of her. Those people are crazy, we shouldn't classify them as sane people.
This VAT thing is bringing to light a huge problem in the north; A lot of businesses are operating informally and hence remit nothing to the state government. There needs to be a huge restructuring for the states to start collecting these taxes.
Kaduna saw it earlier and acted.
Even before marriage, I was keen on the man I marry going into the labour room with me.
The empathy from a man that witnessed childbirth and the one just called to be informed that his wife has given birth is not the same.
My biggest fan is my husband. I don’t know how I landed the guy o, na God. He is a serious supporters club. The hardest thing is for me to mention that I want to do something, that means I can’t back out from it. He will keep pushing me till I do it. This is my Husbands
Governor that came but did not engage both communities. Did a tour of the market and left. These communities are having to sort out there issues themselves with no compensation for the victims that have no homes now.
UPDATE: Oyo State Gov Seyi Makinde in company of Gov Rotimi Akeredolu of Ondo State and Police Commissioner, Ngozi Onadeko, visited
#ShashaMarket
in Ibadan earlier today.
I had this discussion with my husband, but it doesn’t stop me from spending hours in the kitchen, and the amount of Thank you he says after the meals just make you want to do it again.
It shouldn’t be a by force thing. If women are appreciated, they will do it willingly
During Iftar today, discussion came to the point I was encouraged to marry a wife that knows how to cook. Examples of good cooks in the family were made.
I said: But it's not a woman's religious responsibility to cook. Why are we stressing?
Their facial reactions was glorious!
My team and I started this project 3 years ago. It was meant to allow merchants use a very simple device (that looks like square) to get simple transactions done. The terminal owner policy at NIBBS and CBN at the time made it extremely frustrating and we left it. Much needed now!
The truth is as bad as these killings are, if Northerners had considered all the killings of Northerners in the south recently as a war against the North, we would not be here today.
Punish criminals and offenders, leave the region out of it.
I thought our clerics will be decent enough to not make religion an issue this time. What has having Northern Muslims in the last 7 years in power done to the North apart from more deterioration and lack of political will to solve the insecurity issue? Allah ya kyauta.
The allegation on
@DrIsaPantami
are baseless. No evidence whatsoever from the US gov to back it up.
Only a video in Hausa that says the opposite of what people who do not understand the language are claiming it says
You want to accuse someone? Do it with your chest and evidence
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@AdunaCapital
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Northern Nigeria has:
-highest poverty rate in the country
-the highest number of out of school children
- highest birth rate
And currently going through
- ravaging insecurity
- student kidnapping
- more schools shutdown daily
Is there a future for the North?
Some of us are permanently displaced in Nigeria. We cannot run for office because we don't belong anywhere. Our states or origins do not know us/recognise us, and the states we have settled in for so many years do not recognise us too.
Lol! The making payroll bit. I bootstrapped a company for 6 years with over 30 employees and never missed a salary. This is mostly because I had to earn in other consulting gigs so I can pay my employees.
We really should appreciate founders and what they are doing through
Interviewed a founder yesterday that:
- Bootstrapped to $4m in rev as a hard tech company
- Doesn’t pay himself a salary
- Got turned down by 100 “early stage” investors before saying “fck it I’ll do it myself”
- Currently has 25 employees, about to bring on 5 more bc they need
One day we will talk about how marriage and children affect our spirituality. How you go from doing Tahajjud to barely able to concentrate in prayers. Some people will say but it compensates, however, personal spirituality has its place in our lives that our marriages can’t fill.
I have a different view about privilege than I did a couple of years ago. I was initially upset that people get to have things simply because of who they are, not necessarily because they are better than others.
My view changed when I understood that someone within the family
Nigeria's Budget: N13.6 Trillion
UK's healthcare budget: N116.5 Trillion
UK's education budget: N54.2 Trillion
Nigeria's population: 221 Million
UK's population: 66.6 million
And all the stealing is still inside the same budget, we are a very poor country I beg.
He can start showing that he has capacity by rescuing his classmate and others calling on him and his boss to do something about Ak9.
#SaveAK9TrainPassengers
This banditry will consume us all if we do not speak up and get decisive action from the government. No amount of wealth will provide security for your family members all over the north. This is not politics, our lives are all at stake!
Was passing by around Nasarawa today and saw a cattle herd eating from a maize farm, it looked so wrong, I felt for those farmers. If the herders do not know left from right then the government should step in to stop them from destroying peoples farms
Nigerian woman cries for help on Monday morning after fulani herdsmen destroyed her crops overnight at Nchetahu village, Kpatenvie, Bassa LGA, Plateau State.
Somebody shared this video of refugees currently at Sasa, apart from those that have left to other immigrant communities within town. Please we need more help & donations. Donate to
@Mubarack_Umar
&
@Waspapping_
UPDATE: 10 people killed, 70 sustained gunshots injuries & over 30 Northerners declared missing in a deadly attack on Sasa Market in Akinyele LGA of Oyo State. Over 6,000 Northerners mostly Hausas now refugee at the residence of Sarkin Sasa, Haruna Maiyasi
If any lose will pain me it will be KDs. The state has had really good development over the last 8 years and losing the governorship will be disastrous. Lack of continuity in our political system does a lot of damage. We saw it in Abuja
Being a woman is hard, being a woman that is a breadwinner for extended or nuclear family is incredibly hard, being a woman that is a Muslim in the professional world is challenging, being a black, Muslim Northern Nigerian woman in the professional world makes 99% of the odds
The day we start to disgrace public officials who steal our money instead of worshipping them is the day they will stop stealing. We are a society that has lost its moral fabric to materialism and money. Your respect depends on how much money you have, regardless of how you
I am pleased to announce that
@TTlabs_vc
just raised a $20m fund to help bridge the gap in Angel investment for startups & founders from Northern Nigeria. Thanks to all our amazing partners who came through for us 😁
If you have nomadic Fulani family members, please foster some of their kids out of the forest so they can go to school. The nomadic Fulanis are suffering from serious illiteracy, both religious and western.
It makes those kids easy targets for recruitment.
@Aysogzy
I don’t know about that Ayso, what I know is my own family has not even moved an inch from there they are and are not in any anyway involved in this. Should every Hausa Fulani person be punished for the crime of a few? Those that committed those crimes should face justice
A lot of people have lost their homes in this clash and are seeking refuge in houses of strangers as they have no family members in Oyo.
People need help to rebuild their lives. Most importantly they need food to start with. Please donate to
@Waspapping_
&
@Mubarack_Umar
Alhamdulillah for the man I am married to! For his mindset, for his fear of Allah in the way and manner, he deals with family. I am really grateful for the type of men Allah saved me from.
Had a great time speaking to
@GuardianNigeria
about how technology could be a game-changer for women in Northern Nigeria. I look forward to working with partners such as
@TechTanks
,
@StartupKano
and
@AltSchoolAfrica
to facilitate this discussion and provide guidelines-
When I call you then that’s the time I am prepared to talk, if you don’t pick up and call back later, I will likely not be prepared to talk at that time. I have talking moods!
This far-from-home movie triggered so many points in my life. How scholarship is a great opportunity for children from low-income families to get a better education. I remember when I wrote a scholarship exam with 600 other students from government schools in Abuja.
This Northern intelligence thing is the same thing black people used to or still get when white people wonder how you are black and so smart. What kind of myopic mindset is this?
I honestly don’t think people marrying shortly after dating someone were double dating. My husband & I were about to marry other people 2 months before our wedding, they were not ready, so we got married. We only met and dated for 62 days.
This is everyone though. Which man has loved a woman not because of something? Beauty, family wealth, intelligence/brain, her wealth, religious practices etc. Nobody marries the other person without a condition upon which they claim to love them as a result.
Marriage is about goodness to each other. You cannot force a woman to be good or submissive to you. This is part of the reasons we have very high divorce rate.
Be the best you can to your wife and you will be shocked how much she can go out of her way to do the same.
I have seen many cases where a couple starts from humble beginnings, 20 years down the line the man gets rich, divorce is 20 years wife and marries a “modern wife”. 20 years of commitment, with children. What happens to these women? Where is justice for them?
I know a lot of people that are not campaigners (actual voters) that voted for Buhari but are now more inclined towards Kwankwaso. This election will be interesting
The next thing I have to cleanse is my Instagram of Arewa blogs. There is absolutely nothing productive people talk about apart from marriage and constant abuse of women and those women living under it and saying Haka Allah yayi. My heart cannot take it abeg,every man for himself
Can we start a mass tree-planting exercise this Ramadan? It is Sadaqatul-Jariya, plus we get to do it in Ramadan. Tag any reliable charities planting trees around the country below 👇