just came across this Kingsnorth quote from 10 years ago, could be a doomer optimism manifesto!
“I’m increasingly attracted by the idea that there can be at least small pockets where life and character and beauty and meaning continue. If I could help protect one of those from
I went to a fancy collage with a few of these types. Rich kids whose parents raised them middle class. Made them share a beater car, never gave them an allowance, made them work. They were among the most down to earth people.
Huge huge benefits to raising your kids like this.
@RizomaSchool
upper-middle class zoomer here: my parents had me buy a $2k car for sale on the side of the road as my first car
it was a piece of junk older than me & a great financial decision
these kids want an intact culture, with moral causes of right and wrong, with extremely ritualistic and traditional folkways like dance that lead to cohesion and belonging.
They've done a bunch of mental backflips to get there but that's what they want. Revealed preference
When I was on my youth travel sabbatical I met a lot of these guys. Mostly sad, lonely types who would corner you in a hostel and make you listen to them talk because they were so starved for attention being totally without any real relationships.
Idk it's easy to make fun of this but there is a lesson in here that people with the greatest access to getting totally subsumed by the machine are choosing luddism, working with their hands, creating something physical. I think it's good and should be modeled.
I find myself doing a double take at tv and movies from 15+ years ago before every single person had botox and veneers. You can see wrinkles! Teeth have various shapes. People look human. Uncanny valley now, it's gross. Cyborgs.
ive been saying this for almost a decade but the fact that anyone goes to india for peace is a complete western psy op the whole country is a constant assault on the senses even in rural areas
This specific home, and this specific wisteria plant, where I did a work exchange in 2009, changed my whole perspective about what kind of life I wanted to live.
I am just now finding out that there is a brain worm among liberals involved in ecological restoration work where they have a deranged view of "native" versus "invasive" species and literally have a good/evil thing going on with them, when it's actually more nuanced
It's because no one holds their babies. As soon as they're born they put them in some kind of seat or crib almost the entire day. It's extremely sad. Babies should be on mom's body basically as much as humanly possible.
Patrick and I got married ten years ago today. Back then I still mostly believed in emotional connection as the driver of marriage health. Something like: love is sustained by your interest in the other's personality.
After ten years, my thoughts could not be more opposite.
A friend of mine who is never wrong about financial stuff just converted all his net worth into productive land, a herd of cattle, machines built before 1940, an orchard, a vineyard, Soviet era weapons, and 15 log cabins. 😳
I worked my ass off when my kids were little to care for their needs and make sure they were securely attached and now I am having the time of my life as a parent and enjoying the fruits of my labor. It is just hilariously fun every single day.
It's funny that anyone thinks infinite travel is some kind of goal. Some travel, yes. Infinite travel? Nah. Just like people think they would be happy with infinite time sipping drinks on a beach. It's actually not great after like a week lol.
The quickest path to becoming a high-value man:
1. Do not get married
2. Avoid family creation
3. Vasectomy in your 20s
4. Lift consistently
5. Eliminate all sedations
6. Learn Game & Networking
7. Play to your strengths, build wealth
8. Resist easing up on your focus
When you work alongside someone, constantly struggling toward the same ends, you build an emotional attachment deeper and stronger than anything built around something like "hot" or "good personality."
It's not marital love as co-consumption, it's marital love as co-production.
marriage lesson: I know there are chores he doesn't like to do. Instead of just whining at him endlessly to get him to bend to my will, I just do the stuff he doesn't like. And he does the stuff I don't like. And when we both don't like something we suck it up and do our parts.
Aw man I just had lunch with a friend. Basically an anti-globalization lefty gen Xer, who has been living off grid for the last decade. And wow is he confused about what the world has become.
Imagine being in a time capsule the past 10 years
I'll try to sketch it here.
Read James' piece! Genuinely don't know many thinkers right in his specific niche who can think about geopolitics outside of the frame of team sports, and who take deglobalization seriously.
@solveig283
the sad thing is these people just keep being told "trust the process" and yet we live in a society where we have the equivalent of dopamine injections and of course the kids are choosing this with no boundaries or discipline
My oldest turns 9 tomorrow and this is the first birthday I have ever felt deeply emotional about. I cried today just remembering a moment in a grocery store when she was 1 year old and she just sang the whole ABC song and I didn't even know she knew the song. I never taught her.
@RizomaSchool
@tallsnail
I don't exactly know- my research has only skimmed his work on Identity /Identity crises
But Here's a snippet from an excellent historical-recap - highly recommend reading the entirety
It may seem unromantic to build a marriage around shared work, but I assure you there is nothing more powerful in a relationship than "we built this *because* we fit together." The whole we made, out of our love, is greater than any individual part, and it will last beyond us.
Ooo boy, I am nervous writing this tweet.
I have been working on a 12 week homesteading incubator course the past few months. Pulling together all the smartest people I know to teach about risk, resilience, and community. It's ready now!
It's kind of wild to witness in real time the shift toward religion. This has happened in various times in history, but I can't help but wonder if the limitations to "scientific rationality" of the pandemic and beyond has hastened this shift.
Joe Rogan, once a vocal evangelist of New Atheist talking points on religion, now yearns for the "just and righteous" Kingdom of God and believes the world "needs Jesus...for real."
That's quite a change, but his journey is emblematic of a wider shift in attitudes towards
How could anyone be hoodwinked by these white people deadlocked "all is love" hippie types? Have you guys ever been to an intentional community? They are all basically engaging in cutthroat machiavellian power politics, sexual abuse and drug use.
In South Korea, they've covered this protected bike lane with solar panels - cyclists are protected from the sun, isolated from traffic, and it produces clean energy.
We have so many solutions. Implement them.
#ActOnClimate
#Climate
#energy
#renewables
#GreenNewDeal
the whole "let my kids choose their own religion when they're old enough" thing is pretty clearly a universal failure.
without that guidance early on, people float around trying on whatever thing. it's actually really narcissistic in assumption: "what makes you FEEL good"
I don't know if I have any insights to share except that every thing you project perfection onto, just isn't. Reality is reality and every part of it has difficulties. And also that monotony sucks after a while.
@happy_at_home_
There's a lot of "trust the process" advice in these circles but when you get to a certain age you can't really get those formative educational years back
This hate-the-opposite-sex content mill is quite literally the forces of evil whispering in your ear to sow hate over love, resentment over contentment. They win when you lose! And for what? Views? Likes?
Now I think deep marital health is about being in the trenches, about getting things done together that you could never do alone, and grasping toward building a family legacy.
Just ten years in, what we've created out of shared purpose and intention is astounding.
I saw him at a crowded wedding. I've never seen someone so beautiful and charismatic in person. I spent all night trying to make contact. The reception ended and I just walked over. He probably knew I already loved him that first conversation. None of this is possible on an app.
Literally BAFFLED as to how people found love before dating sites and social media. Was settling the norm? Or did everyone just happen to be romantically compatible with the person sitting nearest to them in class?
No one wants to hear it because you all have daddy issues but if you were well adjusted you wouldn't need a leader, you could just start up different hobby groups, go to church, start going to the elks lodge, bring people baked goods and offer to watch their kids.
I am genuinely starting to get terrified that I won't be able to help my girls navigate their adolescence and young adulthood in this age of exploitation on the internet. Oldest is 8. Send tips!
To help me post partum, my husband never: woke up to tend to baby at night (he tried at first but quit when he realized he was useless at it), changed a nappy, gave her a bath, changed her clothes, washed a bottle. No baby care, no cooking me food, didn’t wash one dish or ever do
Instead of marriage and family as a sort of side dish to the main project of career, our goals were to center the family. Always asking: how does this choice advance our family project?
regular reminder that if you feel like it's normal to not even THINK about marriage or kids until 30 THIS IS BAD ADVICE DONT FOLLOW IT
your 20s should be spent dating to marry. If at all possible start having kids before 30.
What's actually happening here is that an entire class of women have been fucked over royally. Turned into wage slaves, ripped from their babies and they feel guilty about it so they write shit like this to assuage their guilt, empowering more exploited mothers to follow
1/ Breastfeeding isn't free — and it isn't a solution to the nation’s baby formula shortage.
The response to the shortage, which has shelves across the US carrying nearly half their usual supply in recent weeks, overlooks the high costs of breastfeeding.
Fundamentally being a parent puts you in touch with an experience of time that is otherwise forced out of our daily consciousness. And there are days, like your baby daughter's 9th birthday, where you see all the time at once. And you can't believe the tragedy and beauty of it.
First he can't make heads or tails of what environmentalism has become. Everything he and I got drawn into environmentalism for -- nature, beauty, functional ecosystems -- is not even on the radar of modern environmentalism. It's all self flaggelating climate anxiety.
People in my neighborhood are constantly putting stuff like this out on the curb and if someone doesn't grab it before the garbage truck does it gets thrown out.
Mass affluence. What a world!
like I guess they're literally ok with using roundup to eradicate species that are ecologically fine and not really aggressive because they are non-native (according to which date?!?) and there's this weird subtext wrt human societies
Not only do I plan to raise my kids with middle class values of thrift and self reliance and loyalty, I also intentionally chose to place them with peers who value these things. We could have moved to the wealthier suburbs and chose not to! Rich kids are bad influences.
I'm just realizing the extent to which all the "social issues" we teach our kids and young adults about are just pure doom and nihilism.
"Let's learn about why people are horrible, and in what specific ways."
I used to think this was righteous but now I think it's nihilism.
interesting to think that declining fertility/aging population in highly developed countries results in a moral shift from restraining adult behavior to make a society safe for children to a new morality all about unleashing adult freedoms to exercise every whim