My move to Dallasāŗļøš¤āØ As a single mom Iāve ALWAYS wanted to relocate but I couldnāt just go home and āsaveā because that wasnāt an option for me! So I use to be like HOW tf! Am I going to be able to do this, but I did it ! I LOVE IT HEREāŗļøāØ
@SomaKazima
Ask him why he did what he did, he will begin to express himself to explain that heās upset, & THIS is where the teaching/correction opportunity comes in. Then you explain to him that you know/understand he wants his chips & that itās ok to be angry but thatās not how we behave.
@SomaKazima
Then you explain that if he behaves this way he wonāt even be able to have them at all, then explain that if he listens & is patient that he may have them at a different time. My son is 3 & use to throw things, he barely do it no more because now he talks to me about itš
@zxsmithh
I be sooooo disappointed being approached by a young tenderoni and he fine. I have to start the conversation with age these days because baby Iām not in my 20s š and they think Iām telling LIESš
@thatsjustc
Def had a friend tell me she stopped being friends with me and ghosted me due to envy and we were childhood friends and the friendship ended in our early 30s blew my mind she was a beautiful soul, I couldnāt understand š
@BlackTzedek
@LAURENLDAILY_
@angiemartinez
Absolutely if we canāt evolve and grow together then we will eventually outgrow one another weāre mirrors for one another to learn from even at our worst ā¼ļøāØ
@Chai_raytv
@theGALtoFOLLOW
@SomaKazima
He can clean them up lol itās not a problem and if he donāt itās also not about to be a major issue either because consistency is key š my ego donāt be bruised everytime my toddler is experiencing emotions tho but thatās me.
@__Fantasia
@SomaKazima
Exactly sis We donāt call our kids bad around here and I always speak life over my babies and my toddler be running around talking about IMMMM THE BESSSST BOY EVER damn right ! š what you speak over your children is what they believe and embody ! As well as our own behaviorš„
@SomaKazima
Now weāre just working on how he speaks to me now that he knows how to express himself. I donāt feel disrespected because I understand heās learning & Iām teaching/correcting him by also being the example of patience & displaying emotional intelligence myself in my response š«¶š½
@THEEBlackleftie
He canāt fathom the idea of a partnership ššššš and is upset that this man values his wife and that theyāre a teamššš this the only way I want it š„
@Davidcs_AW
@NirobiTexan
@nicisdope
@Heav_Precious
if you have no peace within alone then others around you eventually suffer the consequences of you not being able to attain that for yourself. You eventually will take advantage or not even be able to appreciate the peace someone else brings. Itās only a temporary fix anyhowāØ
@Davidcs_AW
@NirobiTexan
@nicisdope
@Heav_Precious
We should have peace within ourselves and then naturally we want to be surrounded by those who allow us to maintain that sense of peace too. Energy vampires donāt have peace but feel entitled & feel itās the responsibility of others to keep them happy, because they arenātāØ
@OBEY_elREY
@cliff_ohio
Thank you and period . It takes ton of patience & days you walk away because itās not always easy but i would rather walk away then abuse them because theyāre not listening. Theyāre processing Shit too and I just let my son cry sometimes then when he done he come talk & listenš
@Trinirudegyal_
I will say that Iām glad he was comfortable enough expressing himself says a lot in a good way but yes he should have said ok bud itās a joke sooner š„¹
@rai__johnson
The only thing Iāll say about this is he chose to provide those children with a life of love, because apparently their mother was selfish and it honestly seems as though they will be safer w/ him. A home w/negligence will have more of a negative impact in their development.
@thisdudeandwife
@raphousetv2
Everything but the real reasons ā¦ because emotionally intelligent and available men who have dealt with their issues donāt like mean women only ones who are the opposite of such. Doing the work in ourselves help us connect with healthier partners āØšš½
@TheRealDrePapi
My sons are learning boundaries as well as self control. You respect those and donāt do anything without clear permission and invitation. Regardless of how you feel or want.
Iām all for everyone learning & taking accountability but there needs to be more discussions on the gaslighting that takes place when people constantly tell people to choose better, understand that if youāre running around mistreating people. You also may endure consequencesāØ
@zenjayg
They donāt want the child to have no possibility of guidance because of the āmomā š itās strange .. I know so many people who ended up with either great father figures instead of without or 2 because their father was still present. Our community so hurt .. the projections wild
@shtoopidTHICK
Iām more irritated that the little girl is just watching, like people arenāt paying any attention to the behavior theyāre displaying this is not coo. I hope she knows thatās not ok or normal .. š„ŗ
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
Itās been 4 years now and I actually have no desire no malice or anything just acceptance and Iām so different now And have such an amazing tribe everything happens as itās designed based on our growth and individual journeys š«¶š½
@nu_mindframe
THIS! Til you learn to sit in those moments & allow your own feminine energy to nurse your wounds this is hard. Because you have to be self aware & also disciplined enough to choose something that is for your highest good while resisting urges that are a detriment to yourselfš„¹
@raphousetv2
I know everyone saying itās not her responsibility but if the only other option was me or child protective services???? Iām def taking my niece or nephew have yāall ever heard of the SYSTEM!! That Shit gon be way worse than the damage already being caused. I canāt imagine ā¦
I promise the gym was my first introduction to doing things I donāt necessarily FEEL like doing but having too in order to get what I want. Starts adding that same discipline & being ok in discomfort to other areas which made me stronger!
@ronivixx
@flawl3ssNBr0wn2
Itās her moms fault sheās failing ā¦ quiet as itās kept if your child is failing and you donāt know BEFORE the grades post letās just say youāre not doing your due diligence ā¦ thereās time to help them before they fail.
@dadollydee
@SomaKazima
And itās not a white people method itās called being healthy, emotionally mature, intelligent, in tune, a teacher , a nurturer and these same children whose feelings are validated, and receive correction without their spirits being broken understand consequences as well.
@shesamerihann
@BeWell360LLC
I get that but avoiding relationships still isnāt key, because even in therapy you wouldnāt know what to address until you are triggered by the circumstances that we come across in relationships. You know some issues but not all or how they may show up &thatās when therapy helps.
@285Slim
Wow smh this sick obsession with people treating children that arenāt theirs like theyāre gross is weird. good thing theyāre not wanting to help because they canāt. Maybe if theyād had mentors/guidance themselves theyād feel or be different men. Canāt pour from an empty vessel.
@shesamerihann
@BeWell360LLC
Thatās literally what relationships are meant to do, & suppose to do but too many of us are blaming others instead of seeing what the relationship teaches you about yourself .. a therapist will indeed tell you the same and most people need those too.
Never heard a Christian Leader say what I heard today. Sarah Jakes- Roberts said if you have to bypass the church to get to God thatās ok. Thatās powerful because people make it seem as tho itās not possible but its so possible & sheās separating religion from God & thatās KEYš„
Iām learning as a woman who used to be in her masculine in a lot of ways and also survival mode. Your relationship with God is also limited. Your ability to surrender, trust fully in God doing things vs you trying to be in control is major š
Iām starting to think people aināt ever did no healing work because of how yāall sound. If you have ever healed from anything or are healing you know itās not linear. Even once youāre better, doesnāt mean that youāre not triggered you just know how to process things unlike before
@taayanthony
@SiSi_Simply
Yāall donāt have no kind of conflict resolution skills, yāall think any reaction to conflict is appropriate. When itās not. There are several ways to handle this & this wasnāt it. As a parent you find out who the child is & then you report to the school to contact the parents.
@pepitapabla
@MartianMariah
I say all the time itās for people who didnāt know how to process their stuff and or how to control the power of their gifts
@nu_mindframe
This why itās so important to heal cause had she done the work she wouldāve been able to see through that. relationships like that can ruin you as well. And then if both parties havenāt done the work they just repeat the cycle. He went back to where he could. š
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
I tried, I def wanted to salvage the relationship until she told me the issue and then I accepted distance because youād truly never be happy for me š„“
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
She already had and I called her out on it and thatās how it all came out. It was some nasty energy and some shit I was like wtf is this about this isnāt about whatever youāre making it about itās completely something else š„“ and boom it was that ..
@taayanthony
@SiSi_Simply
No way Iām talking to children like this! But yāall talk to your own children like this and donāt see an issue so ā¦š«
The issue is people like that donāt even be genuine themselves, so how could they trust other people when they have their own hidden agendas? Thereās a difference between having trust issues because people have hurt you & having trust issues because youāre the one hurting folkš
@witchdctralex
I believe there are a lot of men who practice and we donāt know but letās get into men practicing without realizing that they are š« especially when it comes to using intimacy theyāre TAPPED. Blows my mind sometimes
Manipulating heart matters than telling someone how to respond to a situation you have created Is not fair, I believe when we see people react this can also be a consequence for how you play with peopleāØ
@Broccoli_Balboa
@raphousetv2
My thoughts exactly, he canāt do it himself but he put it out there that he no longer protecting him from others which is giving others the go to do what they want basically heās a goner š„“
@JoyyUnSpeakable
I def understand and validate the experience but the red glad is more about how the trauma if not managed, or processed & if they havenāt started healing they can be a very hard friend to have. Just like with anything we have to do the inner work to have healthier dynamicsāØ
@xThisNigga
@aqueensessence
@rachelkayw
Weāve got to stop thinking that our trauma somehow has made us stronger, I hear it a lot in our community almost as if experiencing it is the only way to have thick skin, when we have had to push & coping mechanisms. Everyone donāt even get to that point because itās TRAUMA.
@missmorn1ngstar
@TOOTTHEBARBER
You sound like meeeeeeeeee this is me I could be years in and thatās one thing I just donāt talk about , and just try to handle ā¦ you got a good oneš„¹š
@shesamerihann
Youāre triggered regardless but youāre not able to receive, understand, or anything because of your pain. Itās not easier itās just a coping mechanism that allows the cycles to perpetuate until we deal with ourselves. Thatās all.
@Trinirudegyal_
Awww that baby is the sweetest and he is tired of people messing with him but he was brave Iām so glad this isnāt real his little anxiety š„ I wanna hug him heās adorable
My healing journey allowed me to have compassion for others once I transmuted my own stuff. Itās not easy. Thereās so many layers to the things that cause the āmessā within. recognizing & working through your own stuff to get better you start to see others wounds clear tooš„¹
Iām all for everyone learning & taking accountability but there needs to be more discussions on the gaslighting that takes place when people constantly tell people to choose better, understand that if youāre running around mistreating people. You also may endure consequencesāØ
@Novareings
@CChrissyr
@ethereal_aura5
Iām like damn she poppin giving birth š lashes/ gloss and hair can be whatever even if those brows and lashes on pointš in the delivery room lookin like yasss š š cause we also can look like hell and the only thing cute is the baby š
Choosing people who love you for you when youāve experienced that cycle of fighting for people to see you, is the most healing experience ever š„¹š„
You really gotta choose people who you donāt gotta force to see you and understand you. You will spend your entire life fighting for people to see you and hear you when there are actually people out there who will willingly wanna choose you & youāll never have to do that with.