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I want every married monogamous heterosexual man to understand something: 99% of the time your wife will have 99 dudes desperate to bang her for every one woman willing to bang you. Monogamy benefits you, first and foremost. Choose wisely. -A poly woman
A childhood friend has 4 kids, and her husband asked for an open relationship earlier this year. Now, his logic was that she looks different, but y'all, so does he. It's been 25 years. Anyway, she agrees to the open marriage and he instantly has a girlfriend. She was heartbroken
MasterCard made up with OnlyFans for one reason: Reporters refused to simply repeat evangelical groups’ lies this time and actually listened to sex workers and real trafficking victims. That’s what changed since Kristof got played and MasterCard and Visa dropped Pornhub.
@MsBlaireWhite
Which is none. The vast majority of rapes go unreported. Police don’t investigate most of the reported rapes. Prosecutors don’t take most investigations to trial. And most trials don’t result in jail time. Hope that helps!
OnlyFans wants to focus on becoming "mainstream" by moving away from adult content. Sex workers called it early. Patreon made the same choice. Platforms use swers then dump us once they no longer need us. Just another way in which our society is fundamentally sex-negative.
I've built quite a few web properties in my day, and building something like OF is the easy part. The HARD part is getting people to USE it, and
#sexworkers
did that for OF. AND... if OF does phase out adult, SWs can do it again on another platform.
Never trust anyone who wants to “abolish” sex work. Sex work will never go away. It can only be stigmatized and criminalized and made more dangerous and damaging as a result. If their solutions make us less safe they’re not honest actors.
A sincere thank you to the reporters who did their jobs this time. Here’s a good rule of thumb: When reporting on any issue privilege the perspectives of the people most likely to be negatively impacted. Focus on the marginalized, not the loudest or most “respectable” voices.
Lost both my maternal grandparents this morning to COVID. Apparently they died within an hour of each other, unaware, at separate hospitals. Sounds like my grandmother got it from her hairdresser and passed it on to my grandfather. Please for the love of God stay home.
0 children have been sexually assaulted at a drag show. Literally thousands of children have been sexually assaulted at evangelical church camps. This isn’t and has never been about protecting children.
Earlier this year, the Southern Baptist Convention acknowledged they spent years protecting over 700 ministers and church workers who were credibly accused of sexual abuse.
2nd largest Christian denomination in the U.S—and nobody is discussing it.
Yesterday,
@GregAbbott_TX
signed HB1540 into law, making it a FELONY in Texas to hire someone to have sex, either with you or another person. Be careful Creators, porn production is now a felony in Texas.
This is such a boring take. Tech didn't ruin SF. SF sucks because our city government is incompetent and works on behalf of homeowners, full-stop. There's plenty of money in our coffers. We just don't have the political will to spend it on real problems.
MasterCard still plans to require porn sites (but no one else) to pre-screen all content before posting. This makes zero sense (Facebook has more CSAM than any porn site), will hurt sex workers, and is clearly about appeasing evangelicals. Keep the pressure on MasterCard to stop.
It's interesting that there are whole genres of literature and subreddits where straight women describe, in great detail, the male behavior that makes them want to have sex and yet the average man seems to be looking to... other men for this information.
I first applied for an affordable housing voucher in 1993.
I finally got a call back in 2004 to tell me my son who just graduated high school couldn’t be on my lease.
Today in 2022 I finally got a letter telling me I made it to the top of the waiting list. I have no words.
Totally expected. Same thing w patreon and tumbler. Platforms get rich off sex workers and then boot us. Luckily there are alternatives like mygirlfund, AVNstars, manyvids, etc.
Thread: When we talk about why Gen Z is going trad and why people aren’t dating and getting married we need to talk less about “sex-positive feminism” and “hookup culture” and more about the economic and cultural realities of modern heterosexual coupling and marriage.
Diversity training, ban the box laws, and affirmative action are all tactics which are supposed to combat racism but which the research shows at best don't work and at worst have racist outcomes. How do bad ideas for combatting racism get and remain so popular?
The “stranger danger” myth persists in large part because we still cannot as a society admit the reality that the vast majority of child abuse is perpetrated by family members.
@LPNH
“Wokeness” is not a real problem. The Civil Rights Act is good, actually. Trying to out-racist the GOP is neither a winning strategy nor a morally defensible move. Do better or sit down plz. You’re making libertarians look even worse, somehow.
Notorious SWERF Mackinnon can’t make it two sentences without lying. Porn does not desensitize the average consumer to violence. In fact, porn consumption has correlated to decreased violence against women. Shame on
@nytimes
for publishing
John Cooper of Christian rock band Skillet strongly condemned Cardi B's Grammys performance and likened the ceremony to Hitler's propaganda: "If you go back and you read some of Hitler's speeches ... that's what's happening right now on the Grammys".
It becomes less mind-boggling when you realize moral panics are never about protecting the vulnerable. They’re always primarily a pretext for authoritarian homogenization of society and distracting the masses to help leaders escape accountability by scapegoating the marginalized.
What's mind boggling about insane conspiracy theories about systemic child sexual abuse, is that there have been several institutions that have been guilty of just that. The Catholic Church, Southern Baptist Convention, and the Boy Scouts all had massive child sex abuse scandals.
Reporting on OnlyFans without interviewing sex workers (particularly sex workers of color, trans sex workers, low-income sex workers, etc.) is journalistic malpractice send tweet.
Libertarians could have spent the last 30 years fighting to elect justices who would protect bodily autonomy but we supported fascists who like tax cuts for the wealthy. The gap between libertarianism the ideology and libertarianism in practice is just gut-wrenching.
If 30 armed cops in full tactical gear with ballistic shields were too afraid to confront one gunman with an AR15, maybe we shouldn’t be tolerating an occupation by armed thugs who aren’t here to keep us safe.
Andrew—Author of America Rises On Substack—Wortman
If 30 armed cops in full tactical gear with ballistic shields were too afraid to confront one gunman with an AR15, maybe we shouldn’t be putting AR15s in the hands of civilians.
There’s no safe place on the internet for sex workers as long as banks & payment processors put special rules on our platforms & kick us off without warning or recourse. Make a living wage in crypto & the feds will kick down your door for money laundering. This is bigger than OF.
@MattWalshBlog
You realize your critique applies to all work, right? How does it feel to let your discomfort around sex make you sound like a Marxist?
How about this: Adults should be free to engage in whatever work they choose. Even if it makes you uncomfortable. Because capitalism.
In 2021 we’re leaving behind:
1. Stigmatizing sex and porn
2. Rescuing sex workers rather than extending labor protections
3. Using state violence and stigma to make sex work and porn dangerous
4. Blaming sex work and porn for deeper societal problems
5. Sex and porn censorship
Do people realize that streamlining dense housing construction will also cut out 99% of the graft and corruption? An efficient housing market doesn’t require bribing officials. It just requires buying land and conforming to objective and clear zoning and building codes.
It’s pretty universal that watching people have sex is hot and watching people eat is gross yet we’ve normalized eating in groups but stigmatized fucking in groups. Make it make sense.
I am not mad about a 49 yo having sex with a 19 yo or whatever. I get the appeal. I don’t, however, necessarily personally understand the appeal of hanging out with a 19 yo.
Alabama the state has fewer homeless people than SF the city. Why? A trailer rents for $300/mo. The average SS check is $1500. Most homeless qualify for SS or disability. This is a political problem, not a money problem. Legalize trailers and you could end homelessness.
Today sex workers across the globe are protesting dangerous financial discrimination and exclusion. Please sign the petition and share the link with the hashtag
#acceptancematters
if you think sex workers deserve access to banks and payment processors:
My first for
@BitchMedia
! “The real sexual abuse epidemic isn’t men in vans holding women at gunpoint. It’s the men in our homes, our churches, our schools, and our workplaces. It’s men like Gaetz, and the ideologies of abuse that they promote.”
Crypto is a small piece of the puzzle. I appreciate what
@SpankPay
is doing. But with so much regulatory uncertainty & small, vulnerable creators going to prison for paperwork errors while big banks like HSBC launder billions & get small fines it doesn’t come close to fixing this
There is no reason to force porn sites to pre-review and exclude social media sites, which have many times more CSAM. Yet that’s the rules. Anyway read this thread. This beautiful bitch is unfortunately right. The fight still has only begun.
Demands: Ban police unions; end qualified immunity; stop giving police military equipment; end civil asset forfeiture; legalize drugs; ban violence against peaceful protesters; delegate traffic, mental health assistance & wellness checks to unarmed bureaucrats
#BlackLivesMattter
Everyone wants to be “tough on crime” until it comes to corporate fraud, wage theft, corporate malfeasance, and tax evasion. Hmmm. Wonder what the difference is?
It's probable that most of the collapse in global fertility is explained by delayed marriage, now into womens' 30s, rather than factors like housing prices or childcare expenses (which don't influence our biology):
@bunnydelphine
People are being super moralizing and sex-negative. Yes, talking about consent is always good but also it’s pretty obvious you consented to this/it’s CNC. Don’t let the haters project their shit onto you. Kink is not a crime.
Some U.S. border patrol agents are so frustrated with Biden’s border policies that they are considering early retirement, while other disgruntled agents are buying unofficial coins that say “U.S. Welcome Patrol.” W/
@kristinacooke
and
@micarosenberg
:
“Toxic masculinity” doesn’t mean masculinity is toxic. Toxic masculinity is enforcing arbitrary and deleterious standards for masculinity through shame and other forms of coercion.
I’m noticing a lot of Men on the Internet going hard on the female virginity part of “traditional marriage” while staying oddly silent on the male breadwinner part.
@ComicDaveSmith
@reason
The idea that sex between consenting adults suddenly becomes inherently immoral because cash changes hands is without merit and is fundamentally at odds with a framework based on the idea that free exchange is, in fact, good
I guess I don't understand how police fight to keep cops' disciplinary and complaint records secret, investigate their own colleagues instead of having a third-party investigate, and still insist that we trust them.
Most people understand why someone would pay someone else to cook them a meal or give them a massage even if they could get these things from a partner for free.
When those people don’t understand why someone would pay for sex I wonder whether they’ve ever had really good sex.
1. Hook-up culture is a moral panic. The average American has btw 2-8 partners their whole lives.
2. Marriage does not solve rape. Until recently in most states it was legal to rape your property, I mean wife
The real lesson here is to avoid hook up culture completely and get married. I’m sure the girl did feel degraded afterwards. It’s a degrading thing to participate in that kind of culture. Marriage is the answer.
I am begging Gen Z to ignore the culture war grifters and look at the facts. Sex-positive feminism is incredibly fringe. Sexual repression is still the norm and is in many ways on the rise. Hookup culture is a myth. Feminism is a response to macroeconomic changes, not a cause.
I don’t want Kyle Rittenhouse in prison. I want him to have not picked up a gun and turned a protest deadly. And I want a world in which cops & judges treat unarmed Black Americans with as much care and deference as a white boy who just killed two people. I want CJR.
They could simply show up to city council meetings and advocate for more dense, affordable housing and it would actually reduce emissions while reducing poverty instead of creating it. No excuse for this.
Almost exactly a year ago, I wrote about a man in the DC area who was on parole & who begged climate protesters to stop blocking a highway so he could get to work. If he couldn't, he'd lose parole & go back to jail.
They refused. This is not the way to change hearts & minds.
Of all the lies purity culture taught me the one I’m most steamed about is that all straight men want to have sex all the time. Adulthood has been a massive disappointment.
Demand for feminine-coded labor (nursing, caregiving) is growing while wages for masculine coded jobs (agriculture, manufacturing) are shrinking. These kids are buying a lie that feminism killed the male breadwinner and if we defeat feminism every lady gets a breadwinner husband.