10 years ago I met a disabled little boy in a respite children’s home in Leicester. Only it wasn’t a respite for him, it was his home and he’d lived there for 3 years. His foster mum who he’d lived from birth died suddenly when he was 3 and he never ate or drank again. 🧵
So. Just had a great review for our 17 yr old foster child. They’ve agreed we can adopt him. ❤️❤️❤️. We’ve not been blessed having our own children but we will have adopted two now and they are my children and I love them, so we have been blessed.
#fostering
#adoption
🧵
We’ve made some amazing memories and he’s touched so many lives, but mostly ours. Non-verbal, can’t walk unaided, severe learning disability, but brimming with love, life and happiness. Thanks for an amazing decade son, looking forward to the rest of our lives together. 🧵
Finally adoption happened. This was the day we were formally matched. 4 years after we’d originally applied, 6 years after he’d moved in. We carried on creating happy times, we were in the paper and on the news!🧵
He moved in in the January, 9 months after first meeting him. In the March, just 6 weeks after moving in with us, he was eating so much his feeding tube was removed and we went to Spain on holiday. Thank you to the amazing
@LPTDianaservice
🧵
He melted my heart when he came home with a device to help him talk and wrote this. He also walked a mile for sports relief having never walked prior to meeting us. He struggled on our wedding day but was beautiful. Adoption was on the way! 🧵
Getting to know him was the best thing we ever did. He was just full of happiness, laughter and he was mischievous - right up our street!
This was his 10 birthday where we’d made him a cake, bought him pizza and got him a remote control car. 🧵
Somedays he was poorly but even now will fall asleep on the floor when he’s unwell. I took him to the Villa and he discovered talcum powder… and washing machines… 🧵
We were allowed to have him for Christmas and it felt like such a privilege! He got to meet my family and we went to Birmingham Christmas market. We re-established a relationship with food, slowly. We’d asked to adopt him already…🧵
Just months after the wedding, I had a really bad car crash where Ady was hurt too. Adoption brakes, firmly applied. His recovery was quick and his cheekiness was soon back! 🧵
No one ever really reads my tweets so didn’t expect this.
My wife and I saw a story on the news about Adrian needing some weekend fostering. We rang and hadn’t lived together long enough so had to wait a year.
It took a year after that, to be approved. Our social worker came to visit and said they had a child they thought we would be suitable for (We both had a background of working in the learning disability sector)
She said they had a video of him and my wife said I know “he’s in a striped top” video on, 10 seconds in there’s our boy. The house we lived in had an open staircase which they didn’t think was suitable so we moved home. At this point it was just 1 weekend a month.
@EmmalouSheppard
Bacon sandwiches, fish fingers and ketchup (not all together). It took time, sat at the table as a family, when he ate, praise, cuddles and kisses. When he didn’t eat, same! The home said his not eating was an emotional response to the death and he ate again because he was happy!
He had one overnight with us and the social worker came to say they thought they’d found a family for him. We were devastated after she’d left and went out to the car to ask if we could be considered to have him permanently too.
My child is non-verbal. 5 years ago, he was given a communication device at school, within 3 days he found his voice, brought the aid home and wrote this. I love him.
#adoption
#learningdisabilities
#weplayedallnight
Massive shout out to the amazing
@EMASNHSTrust
crew who came out to us this morning. COVID in the household & little man struggling with breathing. Extremely scary. They put on music & lights 🚑 for him & were all absolutely lovely. He’s okay and we’re going home soon🙏
8 years ago today I spent the first birthday with Ady. He was 10. I remember leaving the children’s home crying, because I wanted him to be at our house in our family. 8 years later he’s now a man, I love him with every fibre in my body and he’s now my son. 🍺 on me. 🥳 🎂 🎉
Two GCSE’s and a level 1 diploma people might scoff at. I’m proud of him and he’s going to keep going and achieving. Plus, he’ll be the most popular person in the pub when he’s a qualified mechanic. He’s going to do some work experience next year if we can find him somewhere! 🧵
So the most amazing thing has happened. The family of Ady’s original foster carers have got in touch. We’re going to meet. 🥰 but they’ve sent some wonderful pictures I have to share. He was loved, so much. ❤️
10 years ago I met a disabled little boy in a respite children’s home in Leicester. Only it wasn’t a respite for him, it was his home and he’d lived there for 3 years. His foster mum who he’d lived from birth died suddenly when he was 3 and he never ate or drank again. 🧵
and got in to college. Realising that he could achieve and is now doing a course he wants to do and is in the top 3 of his class. It was amazing to watch him realise he could achieve and get those qualifications and get onto a course and do something he wanted to do. And today;🧵
He moved in six years ago. School attendance was 26% and that was so he could get a hot meal. He had an awful start to his life, saw things no child should see and remembers a lot too. He is a wonderful young man, fiercely loyal and protective and from the 1st minute he’s 🧵
I loved this guy so much. He was beautiful and annoying but had to have surgery yesterday and we got the awful news from the vets this morning that he wasn’t going to make it. Already missing him and would happily have him being annoying forever now. 😢
He was kicked out of secondary school in the first 6 weeks. They said he wouldn’t get any GCSE’s and wasn’t worth the effort. The amazing team at Leicester Virtual School got him back in education and we finally found a wonderful school for him. Last summer he did get GCSE’s 🧵
10 years ago today Ady moved in. It was called a “two week trial”. They turned up with EVERYTHING 😂. The staff knew, we knew, it was meant to be forever and it always will be. 10 years of making us laugh every single day, he has made us so happy. ❤️
10 years ago I met a disabled little boy in a respite children’s home in Leicester. Only it wasn’t a respite for him, it was his home and he’d lived there for 3 years. His foster mum who he’d lived from birth died suddenly when he was 3 and he never ate or drank again. 🧵
I knew then we had to do our best and let him know we were always going to be there for him. Trust is difficult in Children Looked After. Today he’s seen that when we tell him we’re going to do something he can trust that we mean it and that’s important to us and him. 🧵
never had a problem with Ady. Saw past the disability and was kind. We tried for a Special Guardianship Order, but this was knocked back after we’d all had a difficult time and they didn’t think he was interested. When they told him he sobbed and was devastated. 🧵
🧵 Today is World Suicide Prevention day
so I've spent the day going round all the
stations
@leicspolice
delivering doughnuts
to say thank you to officers. It's a very
difficult part of their job and I don't
underestimate the toll it takes on them.
#WSPD2022
Ady and me had a great day at the football. He loved the streamers before kick off.
#avfc
having a meal with mum before heading home to Leicestershire. All this plus rice, chips & naan for £20 🥰
Foster kid just gave me this for my birthday. Never called me dad before. Lump.
#fostering
#leicester_news
thanks for the opportunity. Today and always.
I have worked
@leicspolice
for 6 years & today is one of the proudest moments of my time here. There was an awards evening about problem solving & I came runner up for my real-time suicide programme. I am amazed people voted for me. Help is close
@lifevssuicide
@LeicesterSams
@TheOfficialHRH
@AcornsHospice
That’s world class. Thank you for donating to them. I’ve matched your donation. My child has severe disabilities and it’s fear I hope to never realise that he’d be in their care.
When I first met Ady we were told he’d never walk. Within a month of him living with us he’d walked a mile for
@comicrelief
(raising £1k). Yes I wince at the bit at the end, but he didn’t fall over! And what doesn’t bring us down, makes us stronger 🧵
5 years ago today I passed out at the wheel with the car in cruise control and had a 120mph impact crash. Grateful for the care I, my boy and the people I hit received from
@EMASNHSTrust
and
@Leic_hospital
. I’ll never know what happened but I’ll never forget that day.
Definitely one off the bucket list today. Got to present at a national conference about my work on real time suicide surveillance. Had some amazing conversations throughout the day too. Thank you
@NSPA_UK
for giving me such an opportunity. 🙏 😊
#nspaconf
Woke up this morning to find that I am a published author. Text my mum and she was proud.Thank you
@tandfonline
for giving me this.This is a study of the framework
@leicspolice
put in place to learn from suspected suicides, known as Real-Time Suicide Surveillance. Link;
7 years ago I spent a birthday with a boy in a children’s home. Now he’s 17, adopted, the best thing that’s happened to me (wife isn’t on Twitter) and he’s made us a family. Love this child with all my heart. He makes every day that’s tough better.
@SGPatrols
Thanks for this. Our foster daughter who left in difficult circumstances is back in our lives now, and has a child and I think that’s been really good for other foster children who know we won’t reject them, ever. I’m now a foster-gramps at 35! 😂
Thank you so much to everyone. A gruelling experience. He is better but has a high heart rate, not covid/sepsis/pneumonia but a chest infection which had developed intensely and rapidly. I was devastated yesterday but people’s love on here made me feel much better. Thank you 🙏🤞
Please say a prayer for Ady. Unknown what but being queried for covid/sepsis/pneumonia. Has had dexamethasone. Ripped cannula out. Oral antibiotics, Intravenous; steroids, antibiotics and haloperidol. Still not asleep despite being given 4 different doses of sedatives.
This guy is my world. Finding memories of him I’ve already forgotten. I am so grateful we fostered. And adopted. He made me and my wife a family. 🥰
#Adoption
#fostering
#autism
#love
Massive thanks to the
@AVFCFoundation
&
@pmiah9
for helping me to achieve a life ambition. Also, a massive massive thank you to the people who sponsored me. Was a bit too cold for my villa top but I did manage a claret hoodie!
We’re home. He’s still very unwell but after 2 positive covid cases on the ward yesterday they feel he would be safer at home. We agree. Massive thank you AGAIN to
@EMASNHSTrust
@Leic_hospital
for your wonderful care and compassion. (And my bed) Thank you all for the love x ❤️
Thank you so much to everyone. A gruelling experience. He is better but has a high heart rate, not covid/sepsis/pneumonia but a chest infection which had developed intensely and rapidly. I was devastated yesterday but people’s love on here made me feel much better. Thank you 🙏🤞
Back in A&E
@Leic_hospital
(we’re going to be okay) again, touched by
@EMASNHSTrust
compassion. Coming in with people, doing their handover then going back to wish families all the best.They don’t have to do that, but compassion is great. Also touched by the understanding the 1/3
In what has been a really tough 24+ hours I’m reminded by the beauty of being a parent and having a family. He makes the darkest days happy ones. Always. ❤️
Please say a prayer for Ady. Unknown what but being queried for covid/sepsis/pneumonia. Has had dexamethasone. Ripped cannula out. Oral antibiotics, Intravenous; steroids, antibiotics and haloperidol. Still not asleep despite being given 4 different doses of sedatives.
I have no room left in me for any more trauma. Please pray for him. All began on his birthday and he’s got worse every day. I’m a wreck. Oxygen as low as 84. 🙏
6 years ago today Ady moved in. It’s been the best 6 years of my life. I couldn’t contemplate a world without him, he makes everything magical. Had some amazing support through the years as the journeys not always been easy but we’re happy now 🎉
#fostering
#adoption
6 years ago I had the first birthday with you since we met. 6 years later your my son and I’ll never spend another birthday apart from you. Happy Birthday Ady. Thank you to
@AVFCOfficial
for his birthday card. 🎁 🥳 🎉
#fosteringthenadoptionthenforever
@Depheruk
What you’re doing and who you are is perfection. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not valid. Delete, breathe in and remember you’re a really good person with a massive heart. We all know that. You are trusted mate
7 years ago, I had an awful car crash. It changed my life. The pain I’d caused those who I hit and Ady, sat with me internally, for a long time. But I’ve had some great support and it sits ‘okay’ with me now. Ady’s grin as he finally left hospital is what makes things better.
@GE_1970
@SCynic1
Thank you so much for your kind words. I didn’t think anyone would see this but the love I’ve received from people has made every day of the last ten years worth it.
@InspGadgetBlogs
Know the pain. He had gastroenteritis. I was convinced he was gonna die. I did not know what to do with myself. Cried myself to sleep. The bond is sensational.
15th birthday to one of our foster children today. It’s been a tough few weeks for him as it always is. But we love him and always will.
#happybirthday
#fostering