Quit my PhD yesterday! Pretty proud of myself. It wasn’t easy but I wasn’t sure I was going to survive another few years (literally) and I knew my baby needed his mommy alive so it’s what I had to do.
I finally typed up an explanation for withdrawing from my PhD that I shared on my Instagram and my Facebook with my family and friends so I figured my new Twitter family deserved to see it too
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@sarahkcomedy
My dads a farmer. His hobby is roping… all of the related things are too expensive… so I bought some clay and I’m making him an ash tray (he doesn’t smoke just an ode to old school elementary gifts to parents)
I have to say I’m in awe. When I made this post, I didn’t know that I was going to get so much support. Yall have no idea how much it means to me!! I’ll be reading through all of your comments soon.
I gained a bunch of new followers recently so I figured I should re-introduce myself. I’m Jade! Phd student at UF studying plant-microbial symbiosis w/ scRNAseq tech. I love science, nature, my fiancé, my pup, and my lab! I’m also interested in mental health advocacy. 👋🏻😁
First poster presentation ✅ Had a great time talking about my research at the UF Genetics Symposium 🧬🐊 best part was putting my poster in the hallway of my lab!!!
I can’t believe we are only 95,000 views away from 1 million views on something I said!!! And not just anything I said, but like the most personal thing I said. Thank you all. I love you all.
Quit my PhD yesterday! Pretty proud of myself. It wasn’t easy but I wasn’t sure I was going to survive another few years (literally) and I knew my baby needed his mommy alive so it’s what I had to do.
@symbiobotanist
This is repulsive. Way to completely derail your life. I don't know why you are looking for positive feedback for your lack of ambition. What a poor example you are setting for your child. Truly shameful.
@Femi_MORE
Good luck on your journey! Don’t concern yourself with what other people think or with other peoples paths. You will forge your own path and it will be successful no matter where you end up.
It was this mentality that kept me in it for so long. One day I realized money meant nothing if I was so unhappy with my life. I actually quit on the day my research was recommended for a huge federally funded grant. But how could I continue to let money influence me to suffer?
My son isn’t eating again and I can’t stop worrying but of course there’s a lapse between my PhD healthcare and Medicaid so we have to go to the dr uninsured. America is so great
@ATinyGreenCell
At first I regretted not quitting sooner, I mean I’m 3 years in! But there’s so many people I never would’ve met. I never would’ve been at the state of the art UF hospital for my emergency c section, my preemie boy wouldn’t have had the same care in New Mexico.
What really highlights the difference between industry and academia is how
#PAG30
doesn’t have a lactation room but Bayer will pay to ship breast milk of lactating employees when they have to travel for work. Which do you think supports women in stem more?
My Reddit was full of comments like this on a similar anonymous post. It really hurt until I saw all of the support you guys gave me on Twitter. Thank you for being louder than the critics.
@symbiobotanist
your proud to be a quitter? you better finnish so your kids can know by seeing hard things can be done dont give up. how you going to tell your kids life is hard but you can do it when you quit yourself? theres not much strive to be better than parents only be just as good.
@kevin_wambani
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you know that in their darkest moments I’m sure your lab mates thought of you with love and appreciation. At least I always did for my lab mates.
@AskAboutAnimals
@FieldInclusive
Phd student but I have to mention. For women, making sure we always have access to a private place to potty and it is pointed out to us without having to ask.
@hagtimes
@rannnda
I’m covering my tattoo in Farsi so I feel you. We all make mistakes, don’t be too hard on yourself if you choose to keep it or cover it
@ATinyGreenCell
I never would’ve met the great scientists I met, and had them listen to my ideas, I never would’ve felt like one of the greats… and I did. I really did for a second feel so on the edge of knowledge. But it just wasn’t for me. And I’m so glad to be free.
A couple days ago, a Carolina Wren built a nest in my bird house and abandoned it the next day. A beautiful reminder that it is okay to start something you don’t finish. It is okay to leave for something or somewhere that’s better for you.
@possumkilljoy
Thank you so much for recognizing my deliberate choice to share. Its scary but it feels like what I’m supposed to do. I remember feeling so alone in my struggles but if I’d seen I wasn’t alone like I see now, I would’ve felt so much more empowered and safe if that makes sense.
Blown away by the beautiful campus & fan-girling over my favorite symbiosis scientists. It’s been a great first couple of days to my first conference
@UWMadison
@25NASNFC
#25NASNFC
@JeremyMCarr
I don’t think I’ll ever go back to graduate school. I had it all a perfect advisor and interesting project funded with a good stipend. I had a supportive lab, super smart lab manager, and all my lab mates were my best friends. It still wasn’t enough… idk what would’ve been
I bought my wedding dress! So grateful to my lab for bringing these amazing ladies into my life. Their support has shown me how a wedding can represent more than the love of a couple, but also the love of a community.
#WhiteMagnoliaBride
@frerardsrs
@KhanStopMe
The moons gravity pulls the tides but the moon moves around so the pull is stronger than other times aka high tide and low tide
Today my mom paid for my wedding 🥰🥹 its going to be on a yacht!! I am so blessed and grateful. Together my mom and I struggled for most of my life but now we have made it and we are enjoying life ❤️ she is my best friend
Now this is just me being silly, but sometimes I wonder if we all actually have ADHD or if we just need to stay at home mom to make us lunch and schedule our doctors appointment and pay our bills on time
Absolutely incredible time at the
@25NASNFC
I can’t stop raving about the beautiful campus, the exciting knowledge I gained, and the new connections I made with scientists in my field.
@UWMadison
#25NASNFC
@hkatemacpherson
I’m so so so proud of you! You have no idea. My mom is a dr and she went through school while I was a kid so I know just how grueling medical school can be.
Welcome to Jades latest series:
6 Days of Maternity Conference Fashion.
Day 1: wrap skirt & white button up. Can’t go wrong with classics you already own. Make sure to pair with comfy shoes
Tell me how I got “excellent” on every review section from every reviewer for the NSF GRFP and still didn’t get it or an honorary mention. It’s okay, just knowing the reviewers were excited about my work is enough to keep me motivated.
On Wednesday we got married! On Friday we found out we are having a baby! Sunday I was admitted to the er for severe dehydration due to morning sickness. I still haven’t unpacked from the wedding
I got my very first invitation to speak at a conference (and a big one at that!). I’ve never felt so successful in my life to be honest. I’m really excited to share my work and give my first conference talk!!! Any advice for this newbie?
So I’m in a PPD treatment study where we make a song because making music rewires your brain. Super cool right?!
But I need to think of a genre for my song and I’m such a music slut i mean enthusiast that I can’t think of just one genre. Folk punk? Bubblegrunge? Indie rock?
Say hello to our new boy Duke! He was slated to be euthanized but Second Chance redirected him to their foster program. So grateful to have gotten such a sweet mellow boy as a companion for our baby girl Bean.
During my grad school interview I knew exactly who I wanted to be, who I was, what I wanted to do, and I had over 100 thriving house plants. Now 2 years later there’s less than 20 survivors hanging on by a thread and I can’t think of one thing I know with certainty.
@GarysGravy
It wasn’t impulsive or careless. I contemplated it nearly everyday for 3 years. Your tweet was far from encouraging??? The easy way out would’ve been to keep people pleasing and torturing myself for a degree I no longer wanted, which very likely could’ve ended in my suicide.
What are your alternate universe professions? Mine are maternity ward nurse, psychiatrist, investigative journalist, psychologist, K-12 teacher, private investigator, and homesteading mother of 10.
@manes
@crispycrise
@_Eric_Reinhart
It happened to me and many people I know. All childhood trauma victims. I believe it is less rare than we have evidence for because of the stigmatization associated with sharing childhood trauma experiences. I recommend reading Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse (2000)
While I am grateful for every opportunity I’ve had since starting my PhD, I would truly give it all up to have my cat back, even just to have the last year of his life where I was really there for him instead of pushing him away when he wanted to cuddle because I was burnt out
My kitty passed away in his sleep today. I got him as a kitten 11 years ago as an emotional support animal for my severe depression in high school. last year was the 1st year of my PhD & kitty was very sick. I honestly feel like he waited for me to be okay before he passed on.
@CaprioloSidra
@AcademicChatter
Applied to the GRFP & did volunteer research that turned into a paid gig. I recommend both of those highly as they prepared me for my PhD. I also made time to really commit to my yoga practice and I rec doing that for a habit that you want to cultivate and continue in school
The student loan thing is so fucked that my grandma who worked her whole life and raised 6 kids is still paying for her student loans!!! Makes me sad and angry
Writing personal statements can be a draining experience, from hyper-analyzing the value of my accomplishments to constantly doubting my word choices. Today is a bit different. I am feeling proud of how far I have come since I wrote my first personal statement.
Unconventional things at my wedding: for the ceremony, I bought clutches instead of bouquets for my bridesmaids so they have something useful to hold! Same price thanks to Black Friday.Also I’m donating my centerpieces to a local hospice after the reception :)
The other day I used chatgtp to make a caption for my first renaissance fair: “living in the past but making memories for the future” chefs kiss copy paste post
I’m choosing not to feel guilty for having time to plan my wedding during my PhD because it means I have a good supportive advisor and lab that allows me to continue living my life even as I pursue a PhD. But I have to remind myself that a lot because the guilt is innate
Congratulations to Matias Kirst for being awarded the title of Distinguished Professor! This title recognizes Dr. Kirst’s remarkable accomplishments in the field of forest genomics and quantitative genetics, both nationally and internationally.
@AutopsyBae
I feel like I may be judged by some but I’m going to stay home with my son while my husband supports us. He took a step back in his wildlife conservation career to have a more flexible job while I was in school. Now we can move anywhere & our parents are helping in the mean time
@AmyGDalaMD
Bad tweet. My mom had me during spring break in medical school. Her class mate who had been an L&D nurse for years delivered me in her apartment. She was protecting herself from the extremely high rates of c sections in her area at the time.
@Lala98808012
That’s a great question and it’s kind of hard to answer. I definitely came in with mental health problems already. It didn’t help with the way academia set up you kind of set your own goals,and they keep moving every time you get close. Maybe I’m too close to it to explain rn idk
For the first time ever I’m wondering if I really want to try and save the world with science or if I’d be happier just making enough money to have 2-3 babies. Why does this thought shake me to the core? Who am I anymore???