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5 months

I aspire for my X account to be a good resource for both men and Women to use when working on an FLR. It should never scare either away. Instead, it should illustrate the possibilities while embracing the realities.

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@docile_sub

2 months

What does submissive confidence look like? 🧵 Often I see submissives that are too afraid to do or say the wrong thing, to share a perspective and to define their limits. Perhaps they see themselves as an accessory in a dynamic instead of an active participant 1/5

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@docile_sub

1 month

The scariest part about telling your unknowing partner that you're submissive is not knowing how they will react. Will they be disappointed, intolerant, ridiculing, dismissive or disgusted? Or, will they be accepting, supportive, emboldened, welcoming or curious? 1/3

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@docile_sub

2 months

Submission hits hard when the interaction isn't "fun". Sometimes a stern correction sounds exciting from a distance, but it's very real in practice. I lay my ego down. I focus on being receptive and patient to the lesson being taught. There is no fight or flight.

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@docile_sub

2 months

I received a great reminder yesterday that even though W/we're among family, the expectations of my role in the FLR do not change. I am to do as I'm told.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Tease and denial is an amazing tool for refocusing submissive energy back on the Domme. It's also a very powerful show of Dominant strength. Don't underestimate it.

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@docile_sub

2 months

A 🧵for the Ladies If You're considering a FLR, one of the biggest advantages is making immediate corrections in the relationship with Your partner. Prior to a FLR, I found that it was common for disagreements to form and persist. Causing damage over time. 1/4

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@docile_sub

1 month

Mistress is always patient easing me back into the dynamic after a business trip. The focus is typically on rest first. Once I am rested, showered and fed the FLR D/s elements are slowly reintroduced. This helps me to adjust much more easily and without resistance.

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@docile_sub

2 months

W/we talk a lot about building FLRs that are loving, exciting, rewarding and fulfilling. I don't think I've heard "sustainable" used when describing a FLR. W/we need to build FLRs that are designed to endure through difficult times, just as well as the good times.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Submissive confidence, to me, is about practicing showing vulnerability. Showing the side that can be shaped and molded. Putting myself out there and accepting that risk. Occasionally being corrected, but not withdrawing entirely. Realizing the beauty is in the vulnerability. 5/5

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@docile_sub

2 months

Let's talk about submissive shut down. Let me start by saying that I asked permission from @The_Ms_Michelle before posting about this topic. I don't want to present it as neglect. I sometimes experience this feeling and sharing it is meant to help O/others. 1/7

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@docile_sub

4 months

What if marriage, by design, required the man to submit to the Woman? 🤔 "to love and obey" Would this make marriages stronger?

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@docile_sub

2 months

A message for the men. The Domme's we chat with are amazing people but can burn out just the same as us. One of the best things we can do to avoid this, is to avoid overcommunicating. We can show a lot of submissive maturity and respect by carefully communicating. 1/3

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@docile_sub

3 months

Vanilla Hot Take: Men unwilling to try cooking is embarrassing. We are talking about a core skill that you need in order to take care of yourself. It's also a way to save money, eat healthier, attract a partner, provide for your family and possibly unwind. Get in the kitchen!

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@docile_sub

24 days

My recent poll results showed domestic service is a large theme in FLRs. What are some other non-sexual forms of submission within Y/your FLRs?

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@docile_sub

21 days

I feared this level of submission. I feared that my sexuality would be forgotten, that my Mistress would not understand what I was giving and letting go of. The uncertainty was overwhelming. Letting go was 🗝️ to O/our FLR. She has grown ever since and W/we both get better daily.

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@docile_sub

2 months

I have seen Dommes get frustrated by the blank slate submissive that has no defined limits or no depth. Maybe the sub is also too concerned about engaging with a Domme because they may be corrected. In my experience there is a deep level of vulnerability in sharing 2/5

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@docile_sub

2 months

... Or will They understand and consider my perspective? Every thought can carry that risk. My goal in life is to "fail fast". I'll make mistakes quickly and move on from them, learning along the way. I bring this approach to my submissive side 4/5

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@docile_sub

1 month

W/we had a beautiful maintenance review this morning. It's always a great way to connect and stay open with each other.

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@docile_sub

24 days

Public confession time! I made two mistakes today. 1. Failed to empty ensuite garbage after being told. 2. Stove left on after cooking. Both are repeat offences and I know better. I will be corrected for both and be grateful. Thank You @The_Ms_Michelle for Your patience.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Opening up your thoughts to a Domme can be very difficult if your first thought is getting on Their bad side. Instead, I try to look at it as displaying trust. Even threads like this get me thinking about the feedback I'll receive. Will I offend a Domme? 3/5

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@docile_sub

3 months

Mistress mentioned writing an infraction in Her "book". Is there punishment book that I wasn't aware of?! How many infractions are in there?

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@docile_sub

1 month

I feared rejection. Sharing this with my wife was difficult. I didn't want to complicate her life with nonsense. I barely accepted myself. This is familiar for those that have had to walk in those shoes. All different stories, with different outcomes. 2/3

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@docile_sub

1 month

Try to avoid comparing your level of submission to other subs. Everyone has different relationships, dynamics and commitments. In my case, I primarily work from home. This allows me more time to serve throughout the day plus more privacy for U/us. 1/3

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@docile_sub

2 months

I have learned over this time how much pleasing my Domme is tied to my own mental well-being. It really isn't about my own pleasure. It's feeling the connection that I am making and seeing Her enjoyment. It gives me a satisfying feeling of fulfillment and confidence.

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@docile_sub

5 months

Be the sub that other Domme's compare their subs against.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Things I've learned in 20 years: -Focus is on Her -Her patience is not taken for granted -Her love is resilient -She will be there when I need Her most -Her Dominance can't be limited for it to thrive. -My submission and vulnerability must always be present for Her. 1/3

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@docile_sub

1 month

With Mistress feeling sick, I reprioritized my day. - Kitchen Cleaned - Took Her out for brunch - Vacuumed - Prep'd Dinner - Walked O/our dog - Laundry

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@docile_sub

3 months

I propose an International submissive Day. It would make sense for it to fall on February 29.

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@docile_sub

1 month

Catch 22: Wanting to be the best good boy you can for your Domme, but wanting to be treated like a bit of a bad boy that needs some correction. If my training has taught me one thing, it's that there is zero tolerance for bratting.

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@docile_sub

1 month

It would have been easier if my wife was familiar with female led relationships at the time. If other Women had made it more common and trailblazed. This world needs Female trailblazers to lead the way, and to embrace FLRs and male submission. 🤔😉 3/3

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@docile_sub

2 months

I didn't understand the level of responsibility that I should have taken prior to a FLR to resolve issues quickly. But I also didn't have these same tools that a FLR brings. This single area has made O/our FLR much more enjoyable than prior to having Her in the lead. 4/4

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@docile_sub

2 months

I think the moral here is that men need to feel that they have something to lose. Too much security and taking their partner for granted causes relationship damage. O/our FLR presents constant risks and rewards dependent on behavior. It keeps the relationship as the focus 5/5

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@docile_sub

4 months

I had practically no money when I met @The_Ms_Michelle . I only had some cash from winning a fight tournament. With it I bought Her a meal. Since, we have built a life together and come out the other side debt free. I know, if I had nothing, She would be at my side, lead in hand.

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@docile_sub

7 days

I don't consider myself a "foot" guy by any stretch. However, when Mistress requests a foot rub after my own extended denial, I'll worship those feet with every fiber of my soul. Thank You Mistress. I hope the foot rub was enjoyable.

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@docile_sub

9 days

Submissive consistency in a 24/7 dynamic is difficult to maintain. The are so many variables that make a submissive mindset lose focus. It takes a lot of practice and determination to stay the course. Also, bouncing back from issues is key.

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@docile_sub

3 months

It's a weird thing chasing submission instead of orgasms. So much of it relies on the feedback from your partner. There's so much subtlety. I see why it's agonizing for subs often and why it can be frustrating for Dommes learning the ropes. It's often hard to explain the need.

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@docile_sub

3 months

There have been so many little things that I have maintained through my Mistress' illness. All of them were to demonstrate my devotion to Her and my commitment to our FLR. They're not always easy, but as W/we come out of this period, I want Her to know that I will persist.

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@docile_sub

3 months

I believe that men are at their best when they are pursuing a woman. When they conquer her, they get lazy. As subs, never stop pursuing. Don't expect to conquer.

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@docile_sub

4 months

@The_Ms_Michelle I know they don't look perfect, but I tried my best. I can redo them when we get some new nail polish. I'm happy to take You on a shopping trip🛍️💅💳 Let me know if further correction is in order.🙇

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@docile_sub

2 months

Women building up other Women is an extremely important part in the FLR world. My 🪙🪙

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@docile_sub

2 months

🧵 Over the years my patience and respect has naturally changed with @The_Ms_Michelle . When we first met, She was clearly out of my league. I had to be very careful to be patient, respectful and the best I could be. Once we were married, She noticed a shift in my attitude. 1/5

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@docile_sub

1 month

*She grabs me* Her: "I might not be feeling well but you know I can turn you on whenever I feel like it and send you back to work, right?" me: 😳🥹 "Yes Mistress" Light tease and denial can send a strong message to a sub.

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@docile_sub

3 months

Mistress Michelle has been feeling a lot better and Her energy is much higher. It sounds like She has some plans today for a review and maintenance. I was working really hard this weekend so I'll see if it pays off. Regardless, I'm happy to see Her feeling better.

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@docile_sub

2 months

A 🧵 Encouraging Dominance in Women is sometimes more about focusing on vanilla aspects of Their lives. Things like self-confidence, self-worth, decisiveness, security and emotional fulfillment can be great areas to focus on. 1/4

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@docile_sub

1 month

I dedicate today to @The_Ms_Michelle . W/we both worked so hard to get to our goal today. I couldn't have done it without You and I kept working hard for You. I hope achieving our goal brings You more freedom in Your life and the comfort, security and rest You need. ❤️❤️❤️

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@docile_sub

2 months

I have learned as a sub that I have a role in protecting my Wife's Dominance. There are things in O/our vanilla world that are meant to break down Women. It might be work related, relationships, institutions or interactions online. I have a part to play in dulling those forces.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Missteps in an FLR offer the best opportunity for growth in the dynamic. Early on, the FLR is seen as the "carrot". It offers a reward for a healthy and happy relationship. It is seen as the first thing to be taken away in times of trouble. 1/3

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@docile_sub

20 days

I have really come to love the connection that chastity brings. I feel like I am working on something for Her in every moment. It helps my submission to be more responsive as a result. I have begun to miss my cage when She gives me a little free time. I'm still processing this.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Shaming men isn't my vibe. I'm here to make the argument that some men are worth ❤️ but need the strong direction from the Woman in their life. We need to be held accountable to stay on track. We need to remember how to use our ❤️. Women can help us to never forget.

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@docile_sub

2 months

As W/we entered and matured a FLR, these disagreements were handled quickly. I became much more receptive to Her concerns. My patience increased. She had the benefit of getting quicker improvement from me as a partner. She even added physical deterrent as time progressed. 2/4

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@docile_sub

3 months

I've been putting on a brave face and trying to keep my composure. However, beneath the surface, I am absolutely aching for my Mistress. She has me right where She wants me and I am very vulnerable for Her. I think it's best for Her to know my desperation.

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@docile_sub

3 months

In an effort to improve on slumping submissive performance, I offered a foot rub to Mistress when Her feet were cold tonight. I would rather take steps to improve on my own in this moment than to require correction. This would just consume energy that She needs to conserve.

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@docile_sub

3 months

A quick update! Mistress has decided to make O/our dynamic much more strict and regimented. Today was a very full day for me. She was happy to see me not tire out due to the increased load. We'll see where tomorrow takes U/us. Let U/us know if Y/you have any questions.

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@docile_sub

1 month

It's my turn to pour energy back into @The_Ms_Michelle for the next few days as She feels a little under the weather. I'll do my best and work really hard for Her.

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@docile_sub

4 months

A lesson, that I learned in time, was to always thank my Mistress for anything and everything She gave me. Sex doesn't always end in an orgasm for the sub. I learned how important it is to thank my Domme for the experience, regardless of the outcome. She has tested me this way.

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@docile_sub

3 months

Chastity/Chocolate Analogy 🧵 Sometimes chastity is hard to describe to those unfamiliar. @The_Ms_Michelle is well versed and W/we continue to grow. Imagine as a woman you crave chocolate often. Your partner notices and wants to use this to spice things up a little. 1/4

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@docile_sub

2 months

At this point in O/our FLR, it is clear that Her concerns are immediately addressed. In turn, She takes the time to listen if I have concerns. She makes it comfortable for me to respectfully discuss any issues I am having. As a man, I feel that I wasn't really good at this. 3/4

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@docile_sub

2 months

Overall, sharing it with Her helped us grow a little bit more in O/our FLR. The areas that W/we are working on are no longer easily visible on the surface. They are the things that we tend to hide in deeper thoughts. Thank you Mistress for Your support. ❤️ 7/7

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@docile_sub

2 months

This can lead our Domme's to feel like conversation dispensers. There have been too many Women that get worn out from this and need to log off for a while. I think we can do better and communicate gracefully. Avoid exhausting these great Women. 3/3

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@docile_sub

12 days

I've been getting excellent direction from @The_Ms_Michelle as we work to improve O/our diets. Diet control is a really interesting thing in a D/s dynamic. I find it easier to stay on track if I consider it a part of O/our FLR. I also love supporting Her in this respect.

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@docile_sub

3 months

Mistress made it easy for me to submit today. I felt Her energy, almost like She was picking up the leash again. I knew immediately from Her body language that She was telling me, "It's time for you to follow Me again." She was strict but loving. 1/2

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@docile_sub

3 months

It's been a busy day. I'm falling behind on my chores but I have a lot of time to catch up tomorrow. 🤞 @The_Ms_Michelle is doing well and got the medical attention She needed today. We're both hoping for a quick recovery.

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@docile_sub

2 months

@The_Ms_Michelle It has been a privilege to be there for You when You needed me most. While I had a few struggles, I am blessed to have gone through this by Your side. ❤️🌹

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@docile_sub

3 months

I really like this quote: "the best way I could describe it is that FLR is not just about the husband doing housework or acting a certain way. It is also just as much about the wife enforcing the standard." ~Fiona's Tawse - FLR Henry

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@docile_sub

2 months

@The_Ms_Michelle I am so lucky You reached out and snatched me up. My life has been so rich with You in it. I am lucky to be able to pour in all my love and energy into the amazing Woman You are. Having You as the lead in my life has made me so successful as a result. My ❤️ is Yours, always.

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@docile_sub

3 months

Femdom is filled with submissive symbolism IMO. CFNM = Vulnerability Chastity = Trust/Acceptance Impact = Humility Restraints = Surrender Protocol = Reverence Collar/leash = Ownership Can you name more? What is the Domme symbolism?

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@docile_sub

2 months

This year has brought a sobering reminder and test about focusing on Mistress' core needs first. This has been a focus on needs like health, security, trust, companionship, support and enduring love. FLRs get put through this test occasionally to test our resilience 1/2

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@docile_sub

3 months

I will be paying closer attention when my Mistress speaks. I know better than to be distracted in Her presence. 🥺

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@docile_sub

2 months

A funny memory from last night. @The_Ms_Michelle was very fired up. She went into the bedroom to unwind. Wanting to help the situation, I joined Her shortly after. As I came in I asked if I could help. I offered to undress and crawl into bed. This seemed to lift Her mood. 1/2

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@docile_sub

4 months

One of the best quotes I heard about submission when trying to educate Women was that "men want a safe place to rest their heads" Teaching Women to embrace a vulnerable male and accept his submission. It's difficult to submit without feeling safe. Thank You @AlisaCoaches

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@docile_sub

2 months

As we chatted in bed, I mentioned what it was like seeing Her Dominant side expressed for O/others to see. I said, "I simply can't contain You" She laughed about it. She's still laughing today. It's that sense of power and ferocity that Women rightfully need. 2/2

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@docile_sub

18 days

As a submissive; what feelings do you experience if you are to provide Her an orgasm, but denied an orgasm yourself? Is your perspective of your Domme altered?

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@docile_sub

2 months

I am so lucky that when I first learned to do laundry, Mistress wasn't correcting with Her canes. I shrank so much of Her clothing. 👚

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@docile_sub

2 months

Remember that it might be in their DMs or on their posts where we can show this restraint. This was one area I made an early mistake with @The_Ms_Michelle . As we were getting into an FLR, I was very excited to talk about it. The topic can easily dominate interactions. 2/3

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@docile_sub

1 month

When I see a Dominant characteristic of @The_Ms_Michelle pass into O/our vanilla life, I get so excited. I really think the D/s world is a great place to practice character traits that W/we struggle with in the vanilla.

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@docile_sub

1 month

I didn't have a term for this but it is the style that I pursue. Being proactive and able to serve my Mistress however She requires is a privelege that I happily give to only Her. Thank You Atomic Goddess!

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@docile_sub

2 months

I'm always looking for ways to be a conduit for @The_Ms_Michelle dominant energy. While I have ideas, I always want to know what I can do to help Her explore. My assumptions about Female Dominance, I think, are likely very different from a Woman's perspective.

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@docile_sub

29 days

It's been a busy day of yard cleanup, cooking and cleaning. There has also be a good balance of me time too (which is important).

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@docile_sub

2 months

...but my focus moved back to Her. As She has grown comfortable in that lead again, I again view Her as being out of my league. I remember how much I have to lose if I mess up. My patience and respect have returned to where they used to be. I try to impress Her more as well 4/5

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@docile_sub

2 months

I love this perspective. Often we think of submission as weakness even though it takes all of our strength to accept it.

Mistress Kay

@MistressKay17

2 months

Just to be clear. Maybe without the comment about the butt plugs😈 There's nothing incompatible with a strong and proud man being #submissive I'm really glad I found one. #FLR #chastity #keyholder

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@docile_sub

3 months

Perhaps W/we should look at submission or D/s as a sliding scale of characteristics (1-10). Servitude Emotional Connection Discipline/Correction Sex Financial Mental Continuity Sacrifice/Denial Etc. What other characteristics would Y/you include?

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@docile_sub

22 days

It was an insanely busy day here. - Tidied the ensuite - Washed and folded laundry - Went for a walk together - Picked up groceries - Made breakfast - Washed deck and furniture - Vacuumed - Cleaned up bedroom and dusted Now it's time for dinner and neither of us have energy.

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@docile_sub

2 months

Many men ask why their wife or GF won't dominate them. The key is consistently presenting your submission and vulnerability first. This is a huge step in earning a Woman's Dominance.

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@DaphneMentalS

3 months

Domination is to be earned, not dispensed.

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@docile_sub

2 months

An FLR can break down when the sub is no longer open to correction/criticism or the Domme doesn't feel that Her authority is respected. When W/we stay open and communicate W/we can better navigate the difficult times. It ultimately leads to healthy FLR growth. 3/3

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@docile_sub

1 month

@The_Ms_Michelle decided it was time for a pedicure. She had me take Her to the store to pick out and buy some new nail polishes. I'm always grateful to serve any way She sees fit. 💳🧎💅👸

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@docile_sub

14 days

I'm feeling a little under the weather today and Mistress Michelle is helping me feel better. I hate having to go to work sick.

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@docile_sub

3 months

A little CFNM to cheer Mistress up. It was Her idea. 🤭

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@docile_sub

3 months

Best advice I got from @AlisaCoaches Men; put your d*cks away. Put your kinks and fetishes aside. Show your partner what true submission looks like. Demonstrate to Her everything you can be. Be consistent and pay attention to Her. In time, She will begin to see FLR benefits

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@docile_sub

6 months

@DaphneMentalS Most FLR spaces are in fact male led. That's the start of the problem. There honestly needs to be more FLR spaces that are truly Female led. This better sets the tone and expectations of the environments.

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@docile_sub

3 months

I struggled with my submission today. There were too many distractions and too much negativity to stay focused. It caused me to be frustrated easily. I hope tomorrow will be much better after some rest. 😴

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@docile_sub

3 months

Deep down I really want my Domme to be proud of the things She does to guide our FLR D/s dynamic. I have to prove that they are effective and follow them closely. There's no greater reward than hearing Her gush about how successful various approaches have been.

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@docile_sub

15 days

I got a little too "cute" with @The_Ms_Michelle tonight. She wasn't having any of it. I'll have to be a very good boy tomorrow to make up for it.

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@docile_sub

3 months

Insanely hot! 🥵

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@docile_sub

2 months

Before @The_Ms_Michelle joined me here, to share O/our FLR, I had one basic task. To step into this FLR world and to honor and respect Her with every one of my actions and interactions. This helped clear a path, so that when She would join, O/others would see Her in me.

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@docile_sub

4 months

I want to seriously thank E/everyone that has helped make @The_Ms_Michelle first few weeks here pleasant. The internet is filled with negativity and misogyny and it tends to drive Women away. This little corner has been a bastion for Her and it aids positive growth. ❤️🙏

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@docile_sub

2 months

I really enjoyed the FLR Henry series of books. Thanks to @travellingkink for the recommendation. If I were to recommend one of them to a Woman curious about FLRs, it would be "Amanda's Cane". It does a great job of introducing the idea of a Female Led dynamic and regimen.

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