genuinely hate the fact that this finding is framed as โbisexual dominanceโ when we โdominateโ absolutely nothing but numbers. not resource allocation, not support, not literature or theory, not even visibility and representation
personally seeing elliot page talk about how his encounters with bisexual women (olivia thirlby, kate mara) improved his self esteem & relationship with self is making me very very happy
Yโall jst because ur non-binary does not make u queer especially if in your day to day actions there r no result in possible harassment/endangerment of actually being queer . U move/act like a straight person an thatโs lovely we love allies๐
It was *never* about "saving the tomboys" or "preventing the erasure of lesbians"
It was *always* about policing how lesbian women dress, act, and talk about and define their sexuality
This is the anti-trans movement in action
Reactionary, dishonest, and homophobic
yeah some bi women make the โim attracted to all women & 4 menโ jokes,, it is actually v easy to make misguided jokes like that when
โข u r not immune to comphet
โข u r sold the belief that wlw relationships r utopian
โข u hold resentment for patriarchal misogyny
โข u r told+
seeing other marginalised ppl be this hateful and bigoted against a marginalised group always confirms to me that some of u would be raging fascists & bigots if u werenโt marginalised
what the fuck is to be celebrated about liking men, a default route women are expected to follow๐ด to be proud of your bisexuality โ kissing mens asses and centering them. thereโs a word for het women who also โcelebrateโ males and youโre not gonna like it either
it is horrifying, if unsurprising, that queer ppl online have gone from making โharmlessโ bi girls with boyfriends jokes to endorsing active erasure of bisexual lgbt activists
reading this book is actually so fascinating bc so much of the โfake bisexualโ accusations a few decades ago was โbi women r rly just lesbians who r cowards & wont admit itโ & now it is โbi women r rly just straight who fake their sexuality to seem quirkyโ
i think itโs important to realize that even when bi women date women, they r treated as untrustworthy by virtue of being bisexual. so many lesbians w this mentality have admitted that even when the bi woman is dating THEM, they โfearโ that she will leave them for a man
Rainy Studios โย Fujin Elder God - ็พๅฐๅนดใฎ็ฅ ๐ณ๏ธโ๐
"Bi women have heterosexual privilege"
"males are violent, abusive, perverted, horrible"
"Bi women want to be shrills for males and gaslight lesbians"
"You have the choice to pick women but you prefer males"
This doesn't sound like textbook exclusionary beliefs at all./s
I hope they had a lot of fun happily dancing and singing together in a safe space, without being sexualised and objectified by cishet men.
this video merely shows how nudity isnโt inherently sexual, how womenโs bodies arenโt inherently sexual objects!
even if the privilege bullshit was true, the fact that u see blatant examples of queer ppl perpetuating the vilest, most dehumanizing misogynistic rhetoric against bi women & justifying that as queer ppl being โa little weary of themโ is sick and disgusting
saying bisexuals โdeserve their own labelsโ to justify harassing them to not use labels like butch-femme is so disingenuous,, itโs like kicking out someone from a house they also built by saying โactually u deserve ur own houseโ
a lot of the animosity towards bi women (with bfs) in the queer community is rooted in the belief that they have Chosen heterosexuality over the persecuted homosexuality, hence chosen the โeasy, safeโ life over the difficult one
yeah i think it is when you all choose to deliberately look the other way when bisexuals are doing worse wrt poverty, education, physical & mental health, abuse & asylum seeking compared to gays & lesbians. also trans ppl can be bi and do worse than LG & het trans ppl
idk is it biphobic to acknowledge how many bisexual people have an easier time maintaining a certain heteronormative privileges despite being bi? Like specifically over L, G and Tโs?
1. the assumption that bisexuals are not โimmediately clockableโ as gay is so absurd given that gender performance is a big indicator of it & not all bi ppl perform gender in congruence to their assigned gender
@LinguistReborn
being able to be in a straight relationship / not immediately clockable as gay is a privilege; alienation from the queer community because of biphobia is marginal and not a systemic issue sorry maybe 10% of gay ppl max don't fw bisexuals
the false idea that a marginalised person canโt or doesnโt contribute to oppressive structures is literally the biggest lie people like this have fed themselves so that they can continue to spout the most disgusting rhetoric imaginable with a clean conscience
iโm sick of people on this app acting like victim blaming bi women is just โmean tweets by lesbiansโ actually i think anyone who blames victims should walk into a volcano
you have to be a very gross and unserious person to come and tell me that bi ppl should have โhumilityโ on a tweet thread where gay ppl are calling us vile & misogynistic things
@bisexualarchive
I think bi people should have humility with this discussion. Many gay people have had the experience of a bisexual partner using them as an experiment, to piss off parents, or leaving them to live heterosexual lives when the social ostracization and other costs become too much
this is so funny bc just yesterday i was skimming a study which discovered that simply using the label โbisexualโ increases a womanโs chances of experiencing violence
i love the word bisexual so much i love being bisexual so much there is something so liberating , so right, so loving & accepting about the term i love it
peopleโs attitudes towards bisexuality is so revealing of what they actually think about peopleโs relationship to sex, about abuse, about enforced binaries, about polyamory, about women, about men & their patriarchal power even
disability discourse is a lot like bisexuality discourse bc what was actually said is parodied into oblivion & then non-disableds/monosexuals frame the parody as a serious argument (that was never made in the first place) & make bad faith rebuttals to that
for those of u seething & frothing at the mouth at this simple tweet, demanding to know why bi ppl need resources allocated for them, iโve already answered this question a gazillion times & itโs abt time u ppl started using google
thinking about how bisexual women are the largest group of queer women & the most likely to experience sexual violence across all sexual orientations & how this makes it an inherently feminist issue yet most women are unwilling to engage in any good faith discussion focused on it
i think at some point we have to stop acting like โinvalidation onlineโ has no meaning & no effect on queer ppl when online spaces r sometimes the only spaces they can feel free expressing themselves safely
@Tcoren1
yeah a common (idiot) move by researchers is clubbing bi women & men into one group while separating gay men & lesbians,, other times they group all queer women together & all queer men and also make trans ppl a separate category
Martin is bisexual. It says so in the tweet you're literally quoting. Mae Martin isn't a lesbian regardless of who they are dating.
And Elliot Page is a man.
This is all very hard for GC Cultists to understand.
really needs to be studied how white ppl have weaponised this sentiment to evade all culpability even when it comes from groups of ppl within the same marginalised class as them
all of you biphobes may be โqueerโ in the technical sense but your politics are anything but queer. many of you are some of the biggest endorsers of the cisheteropatriarchy
happy
#blackhistorymonth
to all black bisexuals who celebrate in february, especially black american folks! (i know the black british community celebrates in october) โ here is a black bisexual voice sharing their thoughts on the colonial history of biphobia, have a read!
THREAD - Bisexuality and multi genders attraction in ancient Africa or why biphobia is rooted in white supremacy and colonialism
It's officially
#BlackHistoryMonth
so let's start by educating them white queers/monosexual queers cuz Iโm tiiiired
โdescriptions of biphobia sound exactly like heterophobiaโ ure right, when i describe bisexual ppl having to be in a second closet as lesbian or gay just to access community & social support, it sounds exactly like heterosexuals ๐
these people are nasty. what makes you even contemplate the gender of the person a lesbian cheated on her bi partner with except raging biphobia and lesbiphobia? denial of an imperfect lesbianโs lesbianism & demonising bisexuality as inherently unfaithful.
i need bisexuals on this app to educate themselves more.
i cannot emphasise this enough but to give language to ur unique struggles & oppression, u need to do the reading or otherwise u will continue to use sentences like โbi women who date men get invalidatedโ which offers +
been thinking abt how statements abt how bi ppl โcant take a jokeโ after we respond negatively to obviously offensive jokes is so reminiscent of the way men make offensive jokes abt women n then claim we are too sensitive for reacting negatively lol
also, yโall will spout biphobia as โjokesโ everyday on this app but somehow this is the joke where u decide to draw a line huh? learn to take a joke, i guess?
i love when u call a biphobe a biphobe and they go โiโm literally bisexualโ like did u leave ur brain at home? i call a misogynist a misogynist even if she happens to be a woman, hope that helps!
itโs not โmisandristโ to call other WOMEN vectors of disease & tainted by โman residueโ what the hell is wrong with you, & no we wonโt acknowledge garbage that is used to stereotype us, & harm us, especially when there is NO proof that bi ppl do this disproportionately
@bisexualarchive
I don't agree with the misandrist stuff about sleeping with men tainting you with STDs, but I do think bifolk should be able to acknowledge there are lots of bifolk who do treat it as a phase, experiment, or just sex before settling down hetereonormatively
les4les gotta be the most unserious controversy to date because imagine saying youโre for the lesbos and some bitch coming up to you like โwhat about MEโ
itโs important to interrogate internalized misogyny & homophobia but doing so w/o acknowledging that a lot of bi women are overcompensating for being told theyโre traitors & dirty for liking men isnโt going to accomplish anything
As leader of the bisexualsโฆ when are we gonna interrogate our internalized misogyny/homophobia instead of calling people that acknowledge real patterns biphobic?
Yk damn well youโve seen women say โI hate menโ โAll women are my type but Iโm picky w menโ then only ever date men
gay people will tweet questionable things about bi ppl that gets retweeted and liked enmasse by straights then go โwhy canโt u take a silly intracommunity joke!โ
my only take on the bisexual definition discourse is that if your defense against biphobia aimed at bi women is that โnot all bisexuals are attracted to menโ, then youโre throwing those of us who are under the bus
many gay people who ID-d as bisexual before coming at as gay have some weird propensity towards trivialising bi experiences & demonising/villianising us
nobody is systematically denying the existence or historical influence of bisexuals in order to silence and oppress them by calling her a lesbian LMFAO
there are intercommunity and interpersonal dynamics that make it possibile for other queer people to ostracize, marginalize and abuse bi people
being forced in the closet or to pretend to be another sexuality is a form of ABUSE and the response is โwell ur still aliveโ ?? gross
the constant cycle of โbisexuals need to get real problemsโ vs the denial of said real problems (rape/fetishisation, poverty, lack of access to support, poor education etc, all being worse than for gay ppl) when they r actually brought up is just hatred of bisexuals, thatโs it
this is such a typical bisexual experience โ compulsory heterosexuality and compulsory monosexuality are such deterrents to our realisation of our bisexuality
Billie Eilish tells Rolling Stone about her song โLunchโ and realizing her sexuality:
โI wrote some of it before even doing anything with a girl, and then wrote the rest after. Iโve been in love with girls for my whole life, but I just didnโt understand โ until, last year, Iโฆ
remember when i told girls to go into their manโs phone and type in grindr in the app store and see if there was a cloud next to it and i got called biphobic ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
some sapphic account: bi gf x lesbian gf
absolute ghouls: i would rather d13 than date a disgusting, man-tainted, STD spreading bihet wh0re. les4les only!
itโs really telling of how ppl genuinely think of bisexuals as either gay or straight bc i canโt imagine this much vitriol over a marginalised woman joyfully accepting a part of her sexuality in any other circumstance
a prominent queer acc laughing at the mention of biphobia shows how stupid, ignorant & bigoted many queer ppl are,, itโs no surprise that the canadian PM mentions biphobia when the national statistics of canada re: poverty, education, food insecurity etc are so damning for bi ppl
every time a sapphic couple is hate crimed, PSA tweets start circulating about how bisexuals should shut up & stop trying to insert themselves in the conversation or trying to make everything about them
so I'm about to have a take: the idea that bi women like men in some unique or queer way just feels like denying that str8 women have interiority or their own desires. it's the "not like other girls" of man-liking
need bi women having an identity crisis (understandable) to realize that neither publicly hating on your bfs nor putting them on a pedestal will help. being normal about them while investing some time getting to know other bisexuals & learning bisexual history will help