I am DONE with desperately searching for mid thigh shorts before my daughter goes on some Christian youth trip. If they can wear bathing suits they can wear whatever shorts they want & there’s nothing wrong with their legs. Those packing lists are such such pious posturing.
The Bible really is quite clear about patriarchy. From creation (which tells us about God's good will), women are explicitly made in the image of God. That's revolutionary.
OK, worst sermon I’ve ever heard was a Christmas sermon.
1. The wise men set their sights on what they wanted & followed through.
2. You can too.
3. Like, if your goal is to get that BMW.
What if God loves your body? What we've turned "your body is a temple" into a shaming mechanism, as though it were your job to be good enough, healthy enough, to MAKE your body into a temple? What if "your body is a temple" is, instead, a gift of grace?
Just remembering how we got a call from the daycare when our 3yo daughter told the class Santa Claus gave dowries to save women from forced prostitution.
#happystnicholasday
A generational lament: parents taught to worry about drugs and sex, while we missed the looming dangers of mental illness, isolation, cynicism, body hate, and ennui.
My 1st year teaching, while I was lecturing on the trinity, a student stood up & asked "where are your kids right now?" Window into life as a woman teaching theology.
Currently refraining from telling the other moms in the college freshman parent group that their kids do not want them to arrange their rooms for them. Clap for me.
I fought my calling because I was afraid no one would marry me. This is a description of a world where sex/gender are so bent by sin that young women are frightened of God’s claims on them. Window into life as a girl.
A thing I think about a lot is the great harm being done as US Christian publishing exports rubbish resources to the world, rubbish resources full of US problems & US assumptions.
Pro tip: you can believe the whole classic, historic thing (Incarnation, atoning cross, bodily resurrection, infilling of the Spirit, return in future glory, etc) and still be kind, rational, justice oriented, etc. No need for a false opposition here.
Theology of the body: 1) bodies are good 2) female bodies are good 3) all humans, not just female humans, are called to see each other as family, not meat.
I don't know about dry January but here's my hot take: the history of Christian abstinence from alcohol is not just the sad, crazy, embarrassing, legalism that it's hip to pretend that it was. In other news, alcohol damages lives.
original sin does not erase created goodness, & even total depravity doesn't mean humans aren't good. It means we're totally unable to save ourselves. Just gonna keep repeating this stuff.
This seems like a legit thing to do on Christian twitter, so, the Joneses are facing some hard things, & we need courage & strength for the journey. I'd be grateful for your prayers.
And, an oft repeated point, "don't show flesh" aimed at girls and NOT boys paints girls as objects of temptation, boys as uncontrollable lust monsters, & girls as people who don't feel desire. As if desire were only male to female.
When a camp packing list tells me to avoid prestige brands to equalize the kids, maybe I’ll listen. I’m over how long their shorts are & I’m super over making a teen girl worry about it.
Humans who are learning sanctification have to be learning to look at each other with love, not lust. Telling people not to look doesn't fix lust. Retraining the way we look through the power of the Spirit does.
Would you rather be considered “liberal” in a “conservative” space, or vice versa? I used to think I had an answer to this question, but life is complicated.
I find it discouraging that folks can argue that Barbie is seriously anti-male. Either this is disingenuous or people are really, really bad at reading/interpreting. Both possibilities make me sigh.
Theology of the body mixed with feminism: 1) body shame for girls is a huge thing 2) body shame contributes to disordered sexual behavior & eating 3) body shame contributes to misogyny & objectification of women 4) policing women is a big thing with lots of bad stuff attached.
Fellow humans,
I do not like fall. It makes me sad. I don't eat or drink anything pumpkin. I buy summer & winter scented soaps & skip the fall ones. I do not own decorative gourds, though I once was tempted by a decorative fox.
Just in case you needed to know you're not alone.
I usually don’t engage this stuff, but that whole Grudem keynoting the women’s conference business would really be funny if it weren’t a whole world that real women actually have to live in.
I can’t look at any more of the Josh Butler stuff this week. It’s too sickening. Just remember, even if you’re not worried about abuse, p*nis worship is idolatry.
Son and I visited a prominent Catholic University. I was not surprised at the downplaying of and negative assumptions about Catholic identity, but I was surprised at the extent of it.
I’m struck by how frequently someone on the rise and fall podcast will describe Driscoll as immature. While it’s not untrue, it seems like an apology, as though his age were the problem. Plenty of young men and women show maturity in the Spirit, are consistently kind and wise.
Dear some people (most of them men), a woman might ask questions because she's interested in what others have to say, & not because she has no answers. This is called conversation.
Sisters, a sinful world says otherwise. A sinful world acts otherwise. But God made us. God loves us. God has good work for us to do. And God is tenderly inviting us into redemption in Christ our Lord. Patriarchy is sin, & it's being undone in Jesus.
You were ministered to by clowns +3
Bonus: You were ministered to by puppets +2
Bonus: You were in a puppet ministry +3
Bonus: You were in a clown ministry +5
My high school principal asked me if I was going to college to get my MRS. I was a national merit finalist. Just a window into life as a smart girl. As a girl.
You made a bracelet with beads on a leather strap: black for sin, red for the blood of Jesus, white for being washed clean...+3
Bonus: You were not aware of the racially charged ways our culture thinks about black & white beads. +2
Every girl, every woman, is made in God’s image, a beloved daughter of the King, blessed with royal dignity, created for dominion and fruitfulness and witness, loved by the Son who poured himself out for her, intended for glory. Act accordingly.
Just pausing to recall a favorite comment on a student eval, “there was no way to get a good grade without doing a lot of work.” Another fave “was hoping this class would be more one sided.” Do you have any gems to share?
Imagine being a systematic theologian & having to live with the fact the Gr*dem is the bestselling “ST” of all time. Trying to learn humility & a fit sense of finitude here, but it’s a thorn for sure. Thanks for hearing my disciplinary whine.
Ok re: clown ministry: once, I watched clown Mary give birth to a loaf of Hawaiian bread. The loaf was passed amongst the clowns as it lived its Jesus life. Then a clown nailed the loaf to a cross. Then, the loaf came down & we were offered communion. Kid you not, friends.
Well, also:
Roman empire: You Christians are too inclusive. You keep treating babies & women & slaves like people, like citizens. You threaten the social order by putting Jesus above the Empire.
Roman Empire: 'You Christians are too exclusive. You threaten the social order because you won’t honor all deities.'
Modern West: 'You Christians are too exclusive. You threaten the social order because you won’t honor all identities.
At a very important interview, the person in charge asked me how my husband & children were coping with me working. Window into life as a woman (especially in Christian places).
You worried about whether Amy Grant & Sandi Patty were still Christians +1
Bonus: You worried a little about people who worried about that +2
Bonus: Breath of Heaven is still your favorite song +3
You highlighted your Bible +2
Bonus: you used two or more colors +3
Bonus: your coded highlighter system involved at least 4 colors +4 with additional pts for more colors +X
Bonus: you carried your Bible in a quilted cover made of floral fabric and trimmed with lace +4
Add 3 points for each statement which is true of you as an adult:
I'm really into the Enneagram.
I've converted to some location in the Anglican Communion.
I've discovered Reformed orthodoxy.
I've joined an anti-racist book club &/or committed to local, organic food.
A few additions: You read a Frank Peretti novel. +1
Bonus: You read them all twice. +3
Bonus: that got you pretty worried about the demons +4
Bonus: you participated in a Peretti inspired exorcism +5
I've counseled a lot of young people hoping to marry. Here's my advice: If you marry, marry someone,
1) kind
2) who loves Jesus
3) and wants to help you flourish & use your gifts for the kingdom.
Part of the power of the early Wesleyan movement came in the belief that women are full participants in the Christian life, seeking holiness and leading class meetings alongside men.
Went on a short term mission trip for which you were ill equipped +4
Bonus: wrote about it for your college admissions essays +5
Bonus: your all white group went to a community of color, & this made you feel really good about yourself +5
Just a few more thoughts on "revival":
1. An event doesn't have to be everything to be good; God works in partial, broken things.
2. If we want to know something by its fruit we have to give it some time to grow fruit.
1/8
2 pieces of advice re: staying in a church:
1: if the church is abusive, traumatizing, false: run away.
2: if the church is annoying in ordinary ways: stick with it; fidelity yields all kinds of fruit & there's no perfect churches this side of the kingdom.
I can imagine a variety of faithful developments in the church’s conversation about sexuality, & I can tell you with certainty that dunking on celibate people is not one of them.
NEW TENNESSEE LAW: As of today, a new law lets students report professors who teach concepts which promote political & social agendas.
What do you think?
I'd be very interested in contemporary modesty standards that were about wealth & slavery, but I don't see this happening (the early Wesleyans were on it, but...)
And--UNDER SIN--he will rule over her. It's not a stretch to call patriarchy a chief hallmark of life in a sinful world. The goodness of created gender difference is distorted into hierarchical difference, which denies the full imago in the woman.