there should be a "take your friend to work day" so we can actually see what our friends do all day and meet the characters from all their work stories
i’m a strong believer in the power of “granny hobbies” to improve your mental health (and detox from digital everything)
reading, knitting, gardening, crafting, cooking, baking, board games, sewing, birdwatching, playing cards, drinking tea …
working theory:
if you get even just a taste of the potential of building something of your own before age 25, it’s very hard to go back into the “traditional”workforce and stay there
You need 2 types of people to keep early-stage startups from stagnating:
- someone who’ll shamelessly sell the product before it’s fully ready to be sold
- someone who’s embarrassed by this and will push to improve the product faster
no one learns new things faster than someone who needs to apply the knowledge right now; so if you want to learn fast, commit to something asap that requires it
if you’re an ambitious person that doesn’t live around similarly ambitious people, the
#1
thing you should do is start sharing your thoughts online where other similarly ambitious people hang out
we can learn a lot from kids:
- default happy
- only eat when they’re hungry
- curious about everything
- not afraid to ask questions
- no ingrained prejudices
college dorms are wasted on the young. you don’t appreciate what a rare and awesome living and social experience that is until you can’t have it anymore
classes smart people should be required to take (part 2)
- how to actually think less
- how to make decisions without having all the information
- how to not turn a hobby into work
- how to separate what you want from what you think you should want
- how to accept failure
- how…
there only two kinds of issues:
skill issues
will issues
many supposed skill issues are actually will issues and many will issues are too often explained away by external factors
we don’t talk enough about the difference between having “friends” and having a “friend group” — having a cohesive group of friends is a lot different than having all 1:1 friendships that you can’t easily mix
the answer to other people’s problems can seem so clear to you because you’re not burdened by their past or future, you’re firmly rooted in their present (something that’s very hard to do when facing your own problems)
one of the most impressive things is when a person has the same close friends for years, like for decades, because you know that took extreme care, commitment, and compromise along the way
people should take “identity sabbaticals” — run away to somewhere no one knows you and start a new life with a new social identity, for about 6-12 months
working theory:
most people want more friends not because they are lonely but because new relationships help them more fully express and expand their evolving self
there are only two kinds of work:
- work you run away from
- work you run towards
life is spent earning the privilege to do less of the first and more of the latter
one of the biggest relationship unlocks is learning the difference between what someone tends to be appreciated for and what they really want to be appreciated for
your biggest achievement should be something nobody can take away from you, which means it shouldn’t be something someone else had to give you in the first place
getting really into something (like obsessively into that thing) makes everything else easier — earning respect, making money, making friends, finding a spouse
there should be after-work extracurricular activity programs for young adults who live in big cities to meet people, pick up new hobbies, and eat tasty snacks
the solution to loneliness isn’t a product, it’s increasing your own surface area of social serendipity
a few ways to do it:
- choose to live in a city and neighborhood that has enough of the kinds of people you enjoy talking to
- make leaving the house and walking around the…