So excited to share the cover of my new book: WE WILL REST! The Art of Escape.
Inspired by vintage hymnals, prayer books, and abolitionist pamphlets, We Will Rest! is a modern sacred object, medicine for a sick and exhausted world.
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I wish the rest of 2020 was just called off for work, schooling and capitalism was halted and everyone had all their needs taken care of and we could all just rest, nap and daydream. Pushing and grinding during a pandemic feels inappropriate and traumatic.
Reminder: we are not resting to recharge so we can do more. We are simply just resting. We are resting because it’s our divine and human right. It’s not connected to more output.
I need y’all to get this.
My first salaried job outta college. My dad's advice: "Your salary includes all the benefits. Take every single paid, sick day, vacation. Don't work late unless they pay overtime. Even then be picky. Get into a matched 401K. Don't be loyal to a job. Keep your resume updated."
In solidarity with people still wearing masks. I’m never stopping. Truly don’t wanna breathe y’all’s raw breath ever. At airport and it’s packed. I’m the only one in mask.
Social media has made non-Black people think they are a part of the Black community. There are no boundaries anymore. They know our slang/language, our dances, our hair secrets, our inside jokes and I hate it so much.
Since y'all are obsessed with productivity. Sleep is productive. Sleep science tells us that when we are sleeping our brains are doing very productive things. Our bodies are regenerating. You can check sleep off on your to-do list if that helps you process things.
Someone close to bell hooks shared with me that she liked this Ministry and would read our IG posts in her last months on Earth. I feel like I can retire knowing this. I’ve done enough. Deeply honored.
You don’t have to be healing everyday. You don’t have to be checking off goals everyday on a to do list. You don’t have to be hustling and “building” everyday. You don’t have to push everyday. You have the right to just be. You were born to experience leisure, joy, and rest.
We must begin process of grieving what we had Pre-COVID. It will never return. This rush and desire to get back to "normal" is part of the grieving cycle. It's called denial. When must find a way to grieve so we can see the power, beauty & opportunity to craft something else.
We must stop expecting the same level of energy, work output, engagement and productivity from people during this global pandemic. Chill. People are deeply grieving, ill, tired, on the edge, worried and have anxiety. Calm down with your rushing & requests.
Ignoring our grief makes our souls exhausted. We live in a country that truly does not believe in grieving. It's just move on from every loss, disappointment immediately. Of course you are spiritually tired.
You are exhausted because there has been no space to grieve. Acting like everything is normal and pushing the toxic idea of "pushing thru and getting back to "normal" will have us in spiritually and physically exhausted.
Sometimes quitting is an option.
We need to normalize the idea of stopping, letting go and moving on. Don't be a martyr to prove a point. Quit. Then rest.
You can really, really love the work you do, see it as a calling, be super grateful for all the opportunities coming your way, AND still need a break and be exhausted from it.
We still haven't grieved the pandemic. We just keep going and spiritually we are feeling the results of ignoring our trauma and disconnecting more and more.
So many people I know are hanging on by a thread mentally and financially. The grief folks have endured over last 2 years of pandemic, combined with the trauma they already had from living in a capitalist nightmare is a lot to handle.
I miss that moment during beginning of the stay at home orders when we all accepted with grace schedule delays, late email responses, work obligations. It felt like grind culture was stumbling a little. Things are back to full force, yet COVID-19 is still raging. So strange.
I take a Nap everyday for an hour. I say no to 90% of things asked of me. I wake up late. I take month long sabbaticals from work and technology regularly. I have literally pushed back against the notion that you gotta be grinding to be successful. I'm a testimony.
I like wearing masks in public. It gives a sense of mystery, feels protective spiritually, and I don’t think strangers need to have the pleasure of seeing my face anyway. 🤷🏾♀️
Rest is not just naps. Rest is anything that slows you down enough for a mind body connection. Rest is daydreaming, walking, slow dancing, meditation, prayer, hot baths, sipping tea slowly, birdwatching, deep eye contact, etc. etc.
Y’all gotta chill a little. Capitalism hates you. No matter how hard you go for if, it still hates you. Find joy. Take rest. You are enough without completing another thing on your to-do list. Unravel some.
The amount of anxiety our bodies went thru in 2020 is unmatched.
And it continues. Please find a way to decrease your output in some way. Demand moments of rest for yourself. Sleep more.
I'm ready to die on this hill: Collective Care will save us. Self care can not exist without Collective Care. Self Care has been co-opted by a capitalist wellness industry. Collective Care is about thriving.
Burn out as term is being used by corporations and institutions like it’s a normal and benign state. It’s not. It’s deep trauma showing up in our bodies due to the violence of grind culture.
Assume everyone who has survived this far into a global pandemic is exhausted on some level. Can you decrease output more? Can you lay off requesting things and unnecessary calls and emails? Can you take a nap? Can you put your phone on DND? Just generally move slower.
Reminder: you are extra tired and deeply exhausted because you are living thru a pandemic, race war and civil war and capitalism is an engine and white supremacy is demonic.
This is exhausting.
Anyone: "I'm feeling really low today. My grief is overwhelming and I am having a hard time seeing the light."
Toxic positivity culture: "You got this!!!"
Don't do this. Begin to cultivate the gift of holding space for yourself and others without skipping over the grief.
Self care has been co-opted by the capitalist wellness industry. The self care I see promoted over and over again is really not radical or connected to community at all. Just more toxic individualism, consumerism and capitalism.
Your children don’t have to be bosses, CEO’s or entrepreneurs at 7. This is not the flex y’all think it is. They can have ease and be children before jumping into capitalism full time.
Why do people say, "I'm sorry" when they start to cry when getting emotional? Don't do that. Don't apologize for being a human being. It's beautiful to be engaged with feelings. Cry away. Do we need a Crying Ministry? A wailing wall?
When someone shares something with you, try not to immediately get into solution based advice, fixing it, interjecting your experiences. Try to let it be silent for a minute. Listen for the beauty or horror of the words. You can not solve everything. This is not a bad thing.
So many introverts do not like participatory retreats and I wish y’all could understand this. I am one if these people.
Not everyone wants or needs to play the ice breaker games, journal together, etc.
I’m also sick of everyone being a brand, podcast host, tik tok star, internet lecturer and meme creator. I basically miss life before internet when folks were just regular folks living and figuring it out. 😫
Dreaming of a world that includes justice for all those sleep deprived, exhausted and caught up in the hustle and shenanigans of white supremacy and capitalism. May you navigate 2020 from a liberated rest state. May all of culture slow down.
Please ignore the grind culture agents who will be out here this week screaming about what you gotta accomplish in the last few days of this year. Stay alive. Focus on rest.
Y’all keep saying y’all are burned out like it’s just a normal thing that is unavoidable and part of living. It is not. It is trauma showing up in the body. It is not simply a regular part of life.
It illuminates our lack of community care, and the violence of grind culture
Unpopular opinion: there are too many workshops, round tables and conferences in general. We are overstimulated with outside information and have very little connection to our inner compass and knowings.
Please have elders as friends. Expand your friend group. I have a 70 year old friend and whew the wisdom I get over coffee dates and phone calls. Don’t let these memes be your only knowledge.
The way Andre 3000 of Outkast has removed himself for grind culture and the insanity of music bizness to float around is truly a master class.
No social media, no press, no Hollywood events, just playing his flute, traveling and I’m sure he makes art all day. Brilliant.
Advice to creatives, artists, dreamers: Focus on developing laser focus. Don’t be super attached or focused on what others are doing. Create a portal for your mind. Go there. Don’t compare your work. Get off these fraud social media sites sometimes. Rest a lot.