The first and last time my father flogged me, he thought I had stolen his money. We already established a relationship where I didn’t need to hide anything from my parents so I was shellshocked. When he found it later he knelt down and begged me until he cried to forgive him
When my grandfather died my grandma couldn’t find a quiet spot to sit in the house. Mourners rolled on the ground before her, wailing and dreading her silence. When she saw me she was relieved ‘come and take me from these people,’
Lol. I am so happy when i see tweets like this because it means some of you have been untouched by this thing and seriously? Bask in blissful unknowing. I genuinely love it for you.
The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives is one of the best Nigerian novels of the last century. The language, the readability, the levels of meaning...that book is a classic and will be read decades to come
‘They want me to cry as the widow of a dead man but I need a quiet place to think. To think of my friend.’ So I took her hand and led her out of the house. She and I were weird like that. I don’t know how to make my loss important enough. Grandmothers die. But she was my friend
@VEEARTIST_
@akweah
Because of colonialism. Your grandparents would be able to honestly tell you the precise moment and why African hair became a problem in the society
Then we went out to eat meatpie in savannah chumchum. I think he sensed I had potential to be unforgiving & he feared I’d start keeping things from him after changing our dynamic. Seeing him cry melted my little bitter heart 😂 & set a very high standard for men in my eyes
My entire bloodline is wiped out in both directions and I feel anchorless like air. My only consolation is that I am next by natural order. That is my only peace. And I hope to live in fullness of the parents & grandparents gone before me.
Lawyers in Nigeria wear wigs because Louis XIV had syphilis that made his hair fall out. As a remedy he covered up with a powdered wig and this became a fashion norm jn Britain where our legal system comes from
A nonranked list of important contemporary African books
1. For what are Butterflies Without their Wings by Troy Onyango
2. Vagabonds by Eloghosa Osunde
3. Nomad by Romeo Oriogun
4. Dust by Yvonne Owuor
5. Clinical Blues by Dami Ajayi
6. Rumbling by Sihle Ntuli
7. Kwani? vol 7
Because there is no fucking sustainable industry for ballet in Lagos. After empowering the institution what next, invent customers who want to watch pirouttes by the lagoon?
Why does the west think plucking talent out of Africa is always the way to do things? This child clearly attends a school that teaches phenomenal technique so why not idk, empower that institution instead of removing their finest?
So the rape culture in ABU is this severe! A lecturer was raped in her office last year by other lecturers? O god I am sick. I am so fucking sick. Jesus. So this is why you people didnt want Fakhuus and Maryam to come talk about the consent panel. O god o God
Romantic date- na for mountain hike. Secondary school reunion- mountain hike. Public holiday you go jam 3 other hike groups ontop one mountain. Haba, so na the plan be this?
It's scary to break ties with toxic parents until you realize a lot of them disowned their traditional worshiping parents and moved to cities and into schools on scholarship without blinking
@fatiabubakarr
a very huge issue. returning won’t soothe this loneliness because the Nigeria you left is already dead. The drastic degradation that alters the face of the country every single week intensifies the loneliness of many who return because the country they left is no more
@JLG1017
@eugenegu
@Mattison
@NYTMetro
Exactly. If she isn't punished in some way and/or he doesn't get counselling this event will shape his comfortability around women, especially white women
The problem with this 'able body youth' thing is last time I farmed was in 2016 & my farm was burnt to the ground on Christmas day by gun toting fulani herdsmen who raped and killed people living in the village close those villages. I am 'able-bodied' but I am not safe
Turning 29 in 2weeks! 4 years ago i was terrified of this age but now i am so eager to cross into 30. Celebrate with me; an impossible live has stretched so far. I will create a playlist. You can buy gifts for me here
The person who did the music score for Prince of Egypt clearly had mortgage or ransom to pay because what was intended as children's cartoon had no business being that layered and excellent. What was the reason?
TJ Benson (
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@tjbenson_
) is a writer and visual artist whose work explores the body in the context of memory, migration, utopia, and the unconscious self. His short story collection We Won’t Fade into Darkness was shortlisted... (1/2)
A few African Books that altered my brain
1. Collective Amnesia by Koleka Putuma
2. Kintu by Jennifer Makumbi
3. Stars of the New Curfew by Ben Okri
4. One More Tale for the Road by Chuma Nwokolo
5. SSDA: Migrations Anthology
6. This is our chance by James Ene Henshaw
You deserve to know what it is like to finish a manuscript, that tedious thing that has changed form so many times since you began & seems will never perfect, you deserve to come to the end of it.
I remember crying after being called a woman by a relative because I was babysitting his children 8years ago. This year I was discussing cartoons with them when he called me a woman and boy when I tell you my heart swelled with joy and gratitude. What a complement! 😭
“You act like a girl” “ you act like a woman” . That used to get to me, until I realized that taking it as an offense was a huge problem as well. Why would I be offended because my mannerism fit the script of something I am half of?
Abolish entry fees for photography and writing competitions. If an org cannot afford to exist they shouldn't do so on the backs of young entry-level artists fighting to find their footing. Beginners need support & nurture, not tax
The cover for my new novel is almost complete, saw it and flipped. I will soon become the author of TWO published books! This will soon become a tj stan account
Thinking about the jewellery I've created in the past four months at Tsav and the people I've made happy (myself especially). There might be a whole new world waiting behind a whim, just on the other side of an ordinary door. Stay curious, pursue wonder always...
Rewatch your favorite shows. Relisten to that song you play over and over again. Break out that savings & eat your favorite meal. Call in sick if you can. Sooth yourself. We lost yes but look at us, look how we marched, waited, bled, hoped. Have we ever been this alive?
Slumflower has been tweeting this and journalist have been roasting her on international media for being classist/gold digging, etc. Thank goodness a man is seeing this too
Sha remember that as they redeploy these sars officers to other police departments, that as of september the police can legally collect your phone for inspection.
What is clear to me in this whole thing is that Nigerian parents don't parent their male children. No morals nothing. They wait for the society to do so and the most severe punishment a Nigerian society can mete a rapist is to make him marry and live with his victim
@N_athan10
Lmao no, he gave me pocket money and I had my savings from happy christmases and birthdays I got from family friends. He hid the money in his shoes and forgot it there until he was going out in the evening. I was fuming!!!!!!!!!
@akwe_sera
@jules__isabell
@joneswyht
I was so mad why was she aswering his ignorance? Statistically females are more likely to be victims to why is it their responsibility to educate the gender statistically likely to be the abuser? After his second reply i shook my head
The first and last time my father flogged me, he thought I had stolen his money. We already established a relationship where I didn’t need to hide anything from my parents so I was shellshocked. When he found it later he knelt down and begged me until he cried to forgive him
'and if you're watching this and you're worried about me using my kabuki brush to contour, worry about yourself and your tax returns'
President Chidera
'When they were young and still shared dreams, the younger brother woke up from a nightmare and whispered to the elder "I saw the future"
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