This is Chelvan, Mark’s husband.
Mark passed away at home on Wednesday. Family and friends are all struggling with how unexpected this is.
Mark touched so many lives with his kindness, warmth and humour. ❤️
RIP
Mark Chelvan-Stanmore
6 October 1963 - 13 March 2024
#SayingGoodbye
Yesterday (2 April) we Celebrated the Life of my beautiful, beloved soulmate Mark.
On behalf of Mark’s Mother Alison, sister Sue and partner Ian, thanks to all the friends who attended yesterday’s ceremony -you all surrounded us with a circle of love ❤️
Thank
#WearingBothRings
Grief has so many different aspects - I still can’t believe my Mark was with us 10 days ago.
This week is going to be very intense - but through this all I draw on our memories - “our life” - such as Mykonos last October celebrating Mark’s 60th Birthday -
Thank you so much
@waitrose
#KingsCross
🙏🏾
Mark was a regular - some evenings and every Friday.
Antoinette recognised me and we cried together as she remembered Mark and his kindness (specifically his use of one of his vouchers to buy
@guardian
every week).
Thankful for the
#LegalAidLawyer
#Refugees
#BarristerLife
Our second date was at
#balanssoho
in October 2001 - “our table” was available today - I decided I needed to dine alone with Mark’s spirit as my guide- and with the power of the Cosmos -my waiter was the same gay Kosovan
#refugee
who
“Two Weddings, and a Memorial”
Will be Celebrating Mark’s life at
@TheInnerTemple
next Monday 10 June, on what would have been our 18th WeddingAnniversary…
(Civil partnership, 10/6/06, Marriage 10/6/15)
Will be joined by family and friends to celebrate his life, his values,
MANY PRETENDING TO BE GAY?
Am “deeply disappointed by the lack of legal accuracy” in
@SuellaBraverman
speech (and subsequent interview).
Honoured to have contributed to providing the facts on
#UK
#AsylumClaims
- the majority of sexual identity asylum claims/initial decisions
#PupillageAdvice101
From my first six supervisor: “Prioritise your personal life ..”
My advice to all pupils “If you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend/non-binary/gender-fluid OH get one, if they survive pupillage you with you…”
#20thAnniversary
#OnTravels
Just asked my
@uber
driver to change the music channel from “clubbing” music to classical (asked from
@BBCRadio3
but he could only find
@ClassicFM
) - I must be getting old …
Looking forward to time away from
#London
and spending time processing …
#ArrivedHome
at around 1:30am - as I opened our front door I was greeted with a wave of the calm holy incense from Mark’s 31st day ceremony on 13 April - Mark’s spirit embraced me as I returned to our home. I said thank-you.
Also greeted by a pile of post neighbours Jewlsy and
Exceptionally saddened and shocked to hear about the sudden death of
@JonathanCoopr
-my thoughts and condolences to
@KevinChilds101
, family and friends and colleagues at
@DoughtyStIntl
-for many of us
#LGBT
+Lawyers Jonathan was a mentor and shining light …🏳️🌈
#RIP
(pic via DST)
Honoured&delighted to have been nominated for this
@BritLGBTAwards
-I use the law as a vehicle4change - positively changing lives, and saving lives. This has been quite a year for those seeking sanctuary in the UK. Am blessed to be representing
#QueerRefugees
@33BedfordRow
🌈 🙏🏾
You nominated LGBT+ Human Rights Lawyer
@S_Chelvan
as a Top 10 📂 Outstanding Contributor to LGBT+ Life 📂 category at the
#BritishLGBTAwards
.
View the full shortlist at 👉
Judgment will be handed down on Wednesday 15 November in the ‘Rwanda Appeals.’ UKSC 2023/0093, UKSC 2023/0094, UKSC 2023/0095, UKSC 2023/0096, UKSC 2023/0097, UKSC 2023/0105:
#SilverAnniversary
-today marks 25years since I came-out to my
#mother
-was initially a pleasant experience (weightoffshoulders), but the following day I was told to leave home-since then we have rekindled our relationship-it has taken time-
#life
is a journey, not a destination.
Why is it when you are going through the
#grieving
process, in your mind … you belt out every word of each song at the top of your lungs, but due to the pain, you still can’t breathe …?
#RIP
#Alzheimers
#Dementia
#IAmSoLoved
I am so lucky to be surrounded by a circle of love ❤️
Friends have gifted books I will be accompanied with for this next stage of the journey.
@pablo_neruda
“Dead Woman” has such perfect resonance - life goes on - only this chapter Mark’s spirit drives me to
I’m sorry
@SCynic1
- my reading of the tweet was the CT
@DavidPaisley
was subjected to was “my dad tried to beat it out of me instead”. Hence “people like my dad to abuse LGBT+ kids”. Conversion Therapy can be undertaken by family members/relatives
#BanLGBTConversionTherapy
This is sad. But it actually proves that conversion therapy did not happen.
As with so many other issues, Paisley seems to lack the intellect to understand the world around him.
#Amma
loved her time in
#Worthing
(1984-2013) - this is where she had her friends and social circle.
@chelvanstanmore
and I came down to the pebble/seaweed beach with
#85roses
& with our prayers scattered them into the sea-knowing her spirit is now in
#Nirvana
🙏🏾❤️
#RIP
#Amma
Important to separate Legal Facts from Political Rhetoric .
Thoughts and prayers with the victims of Wednesday’s Clapham attack suspect.
Thank you
@SangitaMyska
@LBC
for providing me with the opportunity to provide some legal context to the earlier Refugee claim.
@33BedfordRow
Why was the Clapham attack suspect granted asylum by converting to Christianity?
Immigration lawyer
@S_Chelvan
explains to
@SangitaMyska
the complexities of Abdul Ezedi's case with the Home Office.
Exceptionally honoured to have been appointed Legal Advisor to the MOU Coalition on
#ConversionTherapy
in the UK.Look forward to working with the orgs within the coalition.I am committed to
#BanConversionTherapyNow
as it constitutes an indefensible violation of human rights. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Dr S Chelvan
@S_Chelvan
has been unanimously elected Legal Advisor to the Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) Coalition on Conversion Therapy in the UK.
Read full article
#LegalAdvisor
#LGBTQ
+
#Protect
It has been a tough week - my father passed away on 2Feb (informed 6Feb) -now dealing with working through the maze of emotions - came home after having visited his last home to beautiful bouquet & message from
#no5Immigration
❤️
@No5Chambers
#estranged
#duty
#eldestson
#RIP
Celebrating our 17th Wedding Anniversary with a sunrise boat trip in
#Xochimilico
Floating Gardens
@chelvanstanmore
(Pic 3 Civil Partnership (10/6/06) and Marriage conversion (10/6/15)
@TheInnerTemple
)
(banner - gift/design by our tour guide)
#LastRights
-released my Father’s ashes into the Indian Ocean off
#Jaffna
(1st image) followed the beautiful spiritual Hindu ceremony in
#Keerimali
- (2nd image) with
@chelvanstanmore
bathing in the sea water -feel a sense of self and liberty having fulfilled my duty as his son
@DrSueMoss
#20years
🏳️🌈🎉🏳️🌈 20 years together this October (6/10/01)-Engaged 19 years ago (6/10/02) -CivilPartnership 15 years ago this June (10/6/06) (image 1) Marriage (conversion) 6 years ago inJune (10/6/15) (image 2)-20 year anniversary since first legal SSM
@chelvanstanmore
@S_Chelvan
The power of physically being present, and the power of human touch - my
#Amma
lives with
#Alzheimers
and
#Dementia
- today brought the past and present together, and we will always have these memories to treasure 🙏🏾
With all these tweets today regarding political change or international conferences - today I went to an appeal hearing and when the appeal was allowed - the look on the faces of my client and his partner reminded me why being a
#lawyer
changes and saves lives 🌈
🚨DEADLINE EXTENDED🚨 You now have until midday on Monday to respond to the government's
#GRA
consultation. This is a great opportunity to add your voice to support trans rights. It takes less than 15 minutes with our form
#ComeOutForTransEquality
@SuellaBraverman
interviewed by
@AnushkaAsthana
for
@itvpeston
continues to repeat highly inaccurate starlets on gay men, and women, gaining asylum solely on the basis of discrimination.
Reference to the original intentions of the framers of the 1951 REFUGEE CONVENTION