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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 months

If you aren't talking about coercive control, you're not talking about domestic abuse 👇

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

I've been single for 15 years and can categorically confirm, unwanted singleness does not cause violence 🤦

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Samantha Billingham

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Hey @Depheruk you very kindly donated a £40 gift voucher to me when I was at rock bottom. I now have a part time job and would like to give £40 to someone else who might be rock bottom. How do I make the payment? #payitforward #BeKind #BeKind #grateful #Thankful #blessed

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Samantha Billingham

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I just wanted to share some personal news with you all. As many of you know, I lost my job in the early 2000s as a Legal Secretary due to domestic abuse. Humbled to announce I am now an Administrative Assistant at a local Firm of Solicitors. My life has gone full circle!

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Samantha Billingham

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You may have seen a tweet floating around whereby @Depheruk sent me a £40 ALDI gift card when I was at rock bottom several months ago. I contacted the team, asked for help and received it within two days. I felt guilty asking a charity for help but I was in desperate need

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Samantha Billingham

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If I hadn't have had the courage to ask @Depheruk for help, I wouldn't have played a part in raising awareness for his charity or raising much needed funds for those who definitely don't deserve to be there. Thank you James for all that you do ❤️ #BeKindAlways

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Samantha Billingham

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It's ok to be at rock bottom and it's ok to ask for help when you need it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever. What isn't ok is others making me feel like 💩 for being in that position in the first place. #itsoktonotbeok #BeKindAlways

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Samantha Billingham

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A day or two ago I transferred £40 back to @Depheruk to say thank you for supporting me in my time of need and now, hopefully my money will be able to help someone else in need. I was blown away at the number of kind people who matched my £40 and others who have made a donation

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Samantha Billingham

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I now have a part time job but by no means am I rich or rolling in it but paying it forward back to @Depheruk was something I wanted to do but under no circumstances did I expect the overwhelming positive ripple effect that it got - raising over 2k for the charity 🥹

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

I was so tired and didn't go to bed with him, one night. My punishment, was him walking into the bedroom to show me that he had killed the bird I had recently brought him for his birthday. Domestic abuse is more than a bruise. #MTAB

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

Several months ago, a friend was sent a message describing me as a disgusting person who couldn't wait to leave a job to sit on Twitter to beg for money. Yes it was a long time ago no I didn't say anything about it at the time but my point is, words stay with you for a long time

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Domestic abuse isn't all about cowering in the corner of the room, your hands covering your head. It's about, arriving at work every morning without fail, smiling saying good morning to all your colleagues without them having a clue what abuse you have endured on the way to work

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Just out of curiosity, how many people who can see this tweet has been impacted by domestic abuse at some point during their life? ❤️ #domesticabuse #awareness

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

Why didn't you just leave? I did. I went to a safe house. He found me. He told me how much he loved me. How he would never hurt me again and he was so sorry. I went back. Don't assume that victims don't try & leave because, trust me, they do. They really, really do.

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

The first man in Scotland to be convicted of rape for secretly not using a condom. Stealthing is the intentional removing of a condom during sexual intercourse or not using a condom without the consent of the sexual partner.

Former Brad Pitt body double is the first rape conviction by 'stealthing'

Luke Oscar Ford was asked to wear a condom by a sexual partner but didn't and has now been convicted of rape after she realised.

www.dailyrecord.co.uk

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Samantha Billingham

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6 years

Ex abuser split open my lip in November '06 whilst I held our 10 month old daughter in my arms. That was the last time he ever hurt me. Since May '09 I've been raising awareness, educating & supporting others #lightattheendofthetunnel #domesticabuse #survivor & voice for many 💜

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Samantha Billingham

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5 years

*Deep breath* Most of you know my daughter is my 🌍 she's going through a tough time at the moment through bullying & a build up of other things & is self harming 😪 She thinks no one likes her 😪 Would anyone be willing to send her a card or tweet to show people do like her!

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

As a survivor of domestic abuse and a person who chooses to stay single, I'm often branded a "man hater" because of how one person treated me. This could not be further from the truth. I'm still blamed for my actions but the abuser never has been!

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Emma Pattison was killed because of her success and now Nicola Bulley has disappeared into thin air because she had "significant issues" victim blaming at its finest. Women still aren't having much faith in the police at the moment, are they?

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Samantha Billingham

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5 years

Appalling headline @NewsdeskBCNW 2 women each week in England & Wales are killed by a partner or former partner. It's about power and control, he is a perpetrator not a "lovesick roofer". If he loved her why would he throw her against a wall! #DomesticAbuse #coercivecontrol

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Samantha Billingham

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4 years

Hi @HarrietHarman can we use the term #DomesticAbuse please because when you say domestic violence people who are coercively controlled, psychologically, sexually and financially abused but not physically hurt don't know they are a victim #domesticabuse #DomesticAbuseBill

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Samantha Billingham

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5 years

@DudleyPolice Sad to see that you are minimising sexual assult. The young girl might not be physically unhurt but psychologically she is scared for life. A complete lack of understanding and comments like this is just one reason why this type of crime goes under-reported

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Supporting victims of domestic abuse is my passion and priority. #DomesticAbuse let's cut it out together "Cut It Out: Training for hairdressers to recognise the signs of domestic abuse so victims 'know they are not alone' | ITV News Central"

How a conversation with a hairdresser could help victims of domestic abuse | ITV News

A domestic abuse survivor has launched a campaign in Halesowen to train hairdressers and stylists to recognise signs of domestic abuse in clients. | ITV News Central

www.itv.com

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Samantha Billingham

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8 months

X (formerly known as Twitter) isn't the same as it used to be and I'm not sure who is following me these days or who can see me. Let me know if you can see this post. **Picture in the hope you can see me**

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

9 months

For everyone seeing tweets talking about domestic violence, please remember, domestic abuse is more than physical violence alone. It's about power and control, where a perpetrator will do all they can to gain that power and control over their partner. #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

My dad is now making me an Ovaltine because for the last week I haven't been sleeping well. I'm 41 years old and he really is, simply the best 😍💙

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

Leaving an abuser is often harder than staying in the relationship #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

Thank you to @BBCNews for covering this story. One key message from me, it's ok to not be ok & it's ok to ask for help, it doesn't show shame, it shows strength. @Depheruk @Matthew_Wright @vicderbyshire @MichelleDewbs @sounddelivery #BeKind

Single mum helped at rock bottom raises £2,500 - BBC News

Samantha Billingham said a group sent her a supermarket voucher when she had no money for food.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

9 months

Domestic abuse is not caused by stress, alcohol or any other external factors. Perpetrators are the ones who choose to use violence and control against their partner. Perpetrators choose to abuse, no one chooses to be a victim.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

8 months

Today is the day I leave my day job with excitement in my heart and a little bit of fear too. It's now or never 😍 To deliver public talks to raise awareness and knowledge of coercive control and domestic abuse via events, training and media sources

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

4 months

I've said it before, I'll say it again and I'll say it until the end of time. If we aren't talking about coercive control then we aren't talking about domestic abuse. Domestic abuse is more than a bruise. Domestic abuse is about power and control.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

I am a survivor of domestic abuse but it was only when I left the relationship I learned how controlled I had been. Like many, I accepted and tolerated his behaviour as normal #DomesticAbuse #SODASam

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Has someone that you know, a friend or family member perhaps, ever said, "oh but I'm not a victim of domestic abuse because I'm not hit" Domestic abuse is about power & control; isolating you from friends & family, humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

For me, looking back the abuse started the first night we met. I opened up about how close my mum & I were & how much I loved my job. 2 weeks later we moved in together, a short time after that I was isolated from my mum & sacked from my job when he locked me in the flat 🚩

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Just to make it extremely clear, I am fully aware that females are perpetrators of domestic abuse. The work that I do raises awareness of coercive control and domestic abuse because domestic abuse knows no boundaries and anyone can be a victim.

Men can be victims the same as women can be perpetrators, writes Sam Billingham

Growing up with three older brothers and a loving father, one thing that sticks in my mind quite vividly is the fact that I can’t remember seeing them cry or show emotion.

www.expressandstar.com

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Please, stop minimising domestic abuse by saying "domestic incident" it's disgustingly dangerous! 🤬

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

We don't fall in love with an abuser. We fall in love with a caring and charming person, who to the outside world looks like the perfect partner. Once we feel safe, relaxed & when we have fallen in love with the caring & charming person, out comes the abuser. #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

My ex perpetrator threw me across the living room from the kitchen because I made too much noise when I put the frozen chips down and he thought I was being "funny" with him 🚩 Existing with a perpetrator is like walking in a minefield #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Hey @Twitter I talk about domestic abuse, I raise domestic abuse awareness and I sign post victims of domestic abuse to specialist services because when I was a victim, no one did any of those things for me #domesticabuse #DomesticViolence #DV #coercivecontrol #reachingin

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

My ex perpetrator absolutely loved his mother and his nan. He would even help the little old lady next door but he would always abuse and control his partners 🚩 #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Domestic abuse is a cruel and complex crime that can affect anyone. This abhorrent crime leaves physical, mental and emotional scars that can last a life time. Coercive control is domestic abuse.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

I'll keep talking about coercive control & domestic abuse because many men and women don't know they are a victim until it's too late. If you change your behaviour because you are frightened of how your partner will react, then you are in an abusive relationship 🚩

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

Just watching some old episodes of GP Behind Closed Doors with @DrAmirKhanGP and dad says, he's a nice bloke. We can't argue with that dad because yes he is 😍❤️

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

I strongly believe that the one thing that we can all do for victims of #DomesticAbuse is raise awareness Thank you to @theJeremyVine for giving me the opportunity to talk about my experience of coercive control You can listen in from 32:48

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Samantha Billingham

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4 years

You can always tell the lucky people who have never been a victim of #DomesticAbuse because they are the people who ask, why didn't you just leave? #YouAreNotAlone

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

@TheEpicYeeter41 @vicderbyshire It happens everyday to victims, it's society that doesn't see it everyday

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

The best achievement for me in 2022 was paying back £40 to @Depheruk after James and his team sent me an @AldiUK gift card. Many kind and generous people matched my £40 and I helped raise money to help support others at rock bottom ❤️ #grateful @bbcwm

Single mum helped at rock bottom raises £2,500 - BBC News

Samantha Billingham said a group sent her a supermarket voucher when she had no money for food.

www.bbc.co.uk

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

That is it. That is the tweet and it's an important one. Domestic abuse is more than a bruise. It's about power and control, not physical violence alone.

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Samantha Billingham

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11 months

If you are saying, oh I'm not a victim because I'm not being hit but your partner is monitoring your movements, reading your text message, isolating you from friends and family, telling you what you can and can't wear, then you are a victim of domestic abuse. #CoerciveControl

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

I was a victim of domestic abuse, in an extremely controlling relationship. I am now a survivor of domestic abuse, using my lived experience and authentic voice to be a voice for the voiceless. Founder of SODA, raising awareness, reducing isolation and supporting others.

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Domestic abuse isn't always about cowering in the corner with an abuser standing over you with a clenched fist. Sometimes it's a look, glance or stare that instils fear into you. #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

Not all abusive relationships involve physical violence. Just because you’re not battered and bruised doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Many men and women suffer from emotional abuse, which is no less destructive. #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Until we have a serial domestic abuse register in place and a robust and stronger punishment for perpetrators, we should stop asking, why don't they just leave Victims are dying because the system is failing them #DomesticAbuse

Murderer who pushed wife off tower block has killed three of his partners

Theodore Johnson pushed his first wife, Yvonne, from the ninth-floor balcony of their home in Wolverhampton

www.birminghammail.co.uk

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Samantha Billingham

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5 years

For years I have been frightened to cook a Sunday roast through flashbacks of "getting it wrong" Today I cooked a chicken roast for my dad. He just said, I couldn't have better in a restaurant. Same again next week! #Survivor #domesticabuse

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

As a victim of domestic abuse, my safety mechanism was always freeze - unable to move or act against a threat. Society often believes that a victim of domestic abuse "must have said something" to provoke the abuse. That is completely untrue.

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Ever wondered why rape victims don't report that they have been raped? This is utterly heartbreaking 💔 and absolutely devastating Why is it that professionals never "learn from this" and why aren't they held accountable?

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Dad has brought me to A&E, I've been referred to the Crisis Team ❤️ #MentalHealthMatters #mentalhealth

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Samantha Billingham

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8 months

If domestic abuse is as easy to identify as society believes, how come no one knows that the perpetrator is the perpetrator? "Oh not him, he helps the little old lady across the road" "Oh not her, she's lovely" Why do we expect only victims to be able to identify perpetrators?!

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Stop being ignorant about domestic abuse, it doesn't happen because of Christmas, covid or a bad childhood, it happens because abusers choose to abuse #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

After escaping my perpetrator I set up my a support group called SODA SODA raises awareness, reduces isolation & supports those who have experienced #DomesticAbuse by offering online & one to one support I'm a columnist for the @ExpressandStar & I'm a proud @EIDAorg Ambassador

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

8 months

When I was a victim of domestic abuse, all I wanted was for someone to tell me it was going to be ok, someone to listen to me & believe me. Believe the disclosure, listen to the victim & hear what they are telling you. Be there for the victim when they need you.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

14 days

I have 15.9k wonderful followers but not sure how many can actually see me 🤔 Let me know if you can see this post. #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #Awareness #advocate

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

Love watching the old classic @emmerdale episodes with @dominicbrunt @Reallisariley 😍😍

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 months

Domestic abuse is not caused by stress, alcohol or any other external factors. Perpetrators are the ones who choose to use violence and control against their partner. Perpetrators choose to abuse, no one chooses to be a victim.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

I've have not watched the trial. It's making a mockery & minimising domestic abuse in its entirety. Long after the trial has ended, those meme's, tweets & status will still be there for all survivors to see. This trial has completely minimised domestic abuse. #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

The one thing no-one prepares you for is life after domestic abuse. The good days, the bad days, the victim blaming, the control from Family Courts, the lack of belief from everyone. The lack of self esteem, the learning to live again, how to stop living in fear #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

So tonight was the first time I've been out to a pub for at least 20 years. I kid you not. No looking over my shoulder, no worrying about what I'm saying, what I'm doing or who I'm speaking to. I loved every single second of it ❤️ #DomesticAbuse #Survivor

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

8 months

I am supporting male victims of domestic abuse day 2023. Are you? @ManKindInit #MenYouAreNotAlone

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Disclosing to someone that you are experiencing domestic abuse takes so much courage. Saying I believe you makes that courage so worth while. #DomesticAbuse #YouAreNotAlone

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Domestic abuse doesn't only happen behind closed doors. It can happen when sitting on the bus, riding in a taxi on the way to work or having a night out with friends. It's about power and control, not physical violence alone. #DomesticAbuse #awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Coercive control and domestic abuse is hidden in plain sight. As a victim of domestic abuse I expected professionals and people to be able to see it and ask me if everything was ok. That day never came. If only one person asked me the right question.

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Verbal abuse is a form of mental abuse that is designed to undermine a person and how they feel about themselves. Abusers also use this type of abuse to help maintain a level of control or power over the person being abused.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

9 months

If you aren't being hit but your partner constantly turns up unannounced at work, bombards you with calls & messages whilst you are at work or prevents you from getting to work, then you are in an abusive relationship. Coercive control is domestic abuse 🚩

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Samantha Billingham

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8 months

We blame victims for their own experience, rather than holding the perpetrator accountable. It's important that we work to change this narrative and create a culture where abuse is never tolerated, victims are believed and perpetrators are held accountable. #DomesticAbuse

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

If you can see this tweet PLEASE give it a RT ❤️ I run an online support group for those who have experienced, or who are experiencing domestic abuse Would you consider RTing for me please @Depheruk so I can support those who might need it 🙏 #DomesticAbuse #youarenotalone

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Samantha Billingham

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4 years

When I left my perpetrator, I had social services visit me to see if I was a good mother, i had to do an 8 week domestic abuse awareness course & was told if I went back to him I would have my daughter taken away He split my lip open whilst I held my daughter I was the victim

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Samantha Billingham

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7 months

Just a reminder that alcohol, financial pressure and stress do not cause domestic abuse. They are excuses used by perpetrators to justify and minimise their behaviour. Christmas isn't a magic time for everyone but you aren't alone @womensaid @ManKindInit #Christmas2023

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Samantha Billingham

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7 months

Just out of curiosity, who can see this post? 🤔

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Perpetrators of domestic abuse are always in control because they know how to control their temper in front of their mothers, employers, the police, social services, CAFCASS. Domestic abuse is about being in control, not losing it 🚩 #domesticabuseawareness

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Samantha Billingham

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3 months

Domestic abuse changes a victims behaviour, ie they stop answering calls or they stop socialising. No one ever realises it's because of the perpetrator & victims are blamed. People look at the signs of the behaviour but not the cause & often not believing the cause when revealed.

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Samantha Billingham

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1 year

Coercive control takes place repeatedly and continuously, without the victim knowing that they are being abused. The behaviour has a serious effect on the victim, causing the victim to feel fear. The perpetrator knowing the serious effect it will have on them. #coercivecontrol

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Samantha Billingham

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4 years

People are willing to report their neighbours to the Police for breaking the 'rule of 6' yet no one is willing to report their neighbour who is experiencing #domesticabuse What a f##### up world we live in

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Domestic abuse doesn't leave you; you learn to live with it It left me with an inability to make a decision. For example when my dad asks me if I want to go for a coffee I always reply, do you? If I made the wrong decision as a victim there were always consequences to pay

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

I'm not as strong as people think. I've been struggling. I've lost my way a little. I feel alone with a head full of negative thoughts. Tonight I sent a text to @GiveUsAShout This tweet isn't about feeling sorry for me but to say, there is help out there ❤️ #MentalHealthMatters

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

Ryan Giggs and Joey Barton both in Court for physically assaulting their girlfriend & wife, no uproar. @MarcusRashford missed a penalty, carnage & uproar. See where it's all going wrong? Call out #DomesticAbuse & perpetrators show our next generation it's not acceptable!

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

We need to stop blaming survivors for staying and start supporting them to enable them to leave. #domesticabuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

I didn't know what domestic abuse was until I escaped the abuser. It was only when I was handed that questionnaire I learned how controlled I had been for those 3 years when I existed with him. #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

Have really felt the Twitter birthday love today - thank you everyone 😘🎊🎁🎀 #birthdaygirl

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Samantha Billingham

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10 months

A victim of domestic abuse doesn't fall in love with the controlling perpetrator, they fall in love with the caring partner. They are in far too deep when they recognise the controlling perpetrator, making it extremely difficult to have the strength to leave.

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Samantha Billingham

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10 months

Making violent threats just before bed makes partners feel as though they need to sleep with one eye open and instil fear, preventing them from sleeping. Coercive control is domestic abuse. Domestic abuse is more than a bruise, it includes sleep deprivation too.

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Samantha Billingham

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2 years

I applaud #HarrietRobson for taking the biggest step in speaking out today. It takes a huge amount of strength to do that and by doing so you've given hope to others to do the same. I would rather shine a light on a survivor any day of the week and not an abuser and rapist

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Samantha Billingham

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3 years

He always said sorry, but he never ever changed 🚩 #DomesticAbuse #coercivecontrol #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 months

Perpetrators of domestic abuse use various tactics to control their partner; isolation, intimidation, threats, gaslighting, financial control, & physical violence. These tactics aim to instil fear, maintain power, and manipulate the victim's thoughts, emotions, and actions.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

A perpetrator doesn't have to hit you, for you to be a victim of domestic abuse. Coercive control can include but is not limited to, extreme jealousy, monitoring movements and severe intimidation. Domestic abuse is more than a bruise. #DomesticAbuse #Awareness

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

3 years

Oh my days 😍 I've just had a phone call from @bbcwm telling me that I am one of 3 finalists in the Volunteer of The Year Award. To say I'm overwhelmed is an understatement! To be nominated is amazing let alone a finalist, wow! Thank you to whoever nominated me! 😍🙏

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

6 months

A victim of domestic abuse doesn't fall in love with the controlling perpetrator, they fall in love with the caring partner. They are in far too deep when they recognise the controlling perpetrator, making it extremely difficult to have the strength to leave.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

4 years

Never once did I see my ex perpetrator, get angry, raise his voice, swear or disrespect anyone other than me. When the Police arrived, he was always calm #DomesticAbuse is not about getting angry or losing control, it's about being in control

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

1 year

If we aren't talking about coercive control, then we aren't talking about domestic abuse. Domestic abuse starts subtly, with power & control looking & feeling like love & care. Grooming, isolation & walking on eggshells are all 🚩 Coercive control is domestic abuse.

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

Just to point out I existed with an abuser in the early 2000. I escaped in November 2006 and set up SODA in May 2009. Since then I have been an advocate and ambassador for raising awareness for others since then #DomesticAbuse #Survivor

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

2 years

How are you? This was the one question I so desperately wanted someone to ask me when I was a victim of domestic abuse. I might not have answered truthfully but it would have planted the seed and given me the confidence to open up to that person ❤️

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Samantha Billingham

@SODASam_

10 months

We blame victims for their own experience, rather than holding the perpetrator accountable. It's important that we work to change this narrative and create a culture where abuse is never tolerated, victims are believed and perpetrators are held accountable.

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