Planting a beautiful garden in a pile of shit (ALS). Mama to 2 little loves, wife of
@ebencathey
. UIUC, VU & Peace Corps alum. Autism consultant
@VanderbiltU
Behind the scenes of an ALS photo shoot:
I’m leaning against the railing so I don’t fall over. I can’t smile on command so Eben’s whispering inappropriate jokes to make me laugh
But maybe we nailed it?
#ENDALS
#endMND
I started to fall and then my husband caught me
And then he sang “if you fall I will catch you I’ll be waiting…time after time”
And with him…this hard life with
#ALS
feels doable
I’m 41 today 🤯
Normally not mind blowing but 4 years ago I was given 2-5 years to live so I didn’t know if i would meet today
I’ll fight for many more birthdays and not take a single digit for granted
#endals
I can’t properly do my makeup or hair anymore, and my smile has gotten crooked from ALS/MND, but I got a haircut and was feeling cute so here I am, imperfectly me
#endals
#DisabilityTwitter
#mnd
Happy 8th anniversary to my dream man. Half of our years have been in sickness, half in health
It’s not the love story I envisioned, but when diagnosed with fatal
#ALS
4 years ago we began to rewrite our story
🧵
It took me 7 tries and max concentration
I wanted to scream because it’s so hard to write with hands weakened from
#ALS
Then I was frustrated that I can’t even physically scream
But, finally, I did it. And I’m proud of it.
Every night the 3 of us watch a show (on a Pokémon kick right now). It’s my favorite part of the evening. Despite not being able to walk or talk very much, I feel almost like a “normal” mom in these moments
But can we
#endALS
already? It shouldn’t have to be this way
So grateful to have walked my kiddos to their first day of school. The atmosphere of excitement, nervousness, sadness…all of it I got to experience against all odds and I will cherish it forever ❤️
Had a fall yesterday that, while a minor injury, resulted in a sad scene of me lying in a pool of blood while my small children comforted me
This is why I fight to
#endals
: so no children are put in this impossible, terrifying situation
Five years into my terminal illness of
#ALS
i hopped on a plane to Mexico City to celebrate my hubby’s 40th, drank mezcal cocktails, and got my first tattoo
Cheers to living y’all
The most helpful advice I got upon being diagnosed with a 100% fatal, degenerative disease:
✨Don’t grieve that which
hasn’t happened yet✨
Applicable to so many situations beyond
#ALS
Sometimes I crop pics to momentarily look “normal” how I did before
#ALS
rendered me paralyzed
Anyone else try to temporarily escape their reality in this superficial way?
A gal with a terminal illness, her walker named Coco, a drink station for Cardamom Palomas, and 4 of her best friends coming over
Not today ALS. Not. To. Day.
At my last clinic visit I learned I gained 8lbs, bringing me to 140, the most I’ve ever weighed
After spending a lifetime wanting to be thin I’m finally embracing all the curves and squishiness because I am ALIVE
F U ALS
Upon learning we have 2-5 years to live, we wait 5 mos to receive a social security check with an ALS diagnosis because of a “mandatory waiting period.” ALS doesn’t wait.
370 members of Congress, a vast majority, want to change that.
@speakerpelosi
, Call the vote!
Had a much needed ladies night last night
I can’t cut my bangs or paint my nails anymore so my girlfriends did it and I feel SO good
Cocktails, delicious food, and a rom com later, I am refreshed and grateful for friends like these
#ENDALS
#endMND
Thankful to be alive, breathing unassisted, and that my husband has a job & health insurance
The pandemic and ALS have shown me that those things I once took for granted are big big BIG things
Happy Thanksgiving! ❤️Evan, Eben, Mae, & Reuben
Yesterday was a rough day. I was fed up with all the things I wish I could do but can’t
This morning my 4yo gave me a trophy for winning a race (unclear what kind) & my 6yo proclaimed me the best mom for showing her how to use emojis on my phone
Here’s to a better day today
Another day I am so happy and lucky to be here for: my baby is 5 today!!!
Reuben brings unbridled joy and humor to our life every day. I wish you wonder and love always, little one ♥️
For my birthday, dear friends threw me a surprise party at a dreamy plant store. We ate, drank, laughed, and bought 🪴🪴🪴
It was magical and a reminder of all the love in my life worth kicking
#ALS
ass for ♥️
I can’t put up lights due to ALS but I can shop online and order ppl around to execute my vision with the best of ‘em
Merry Christmas from us and the Peanuts gang!!🎄❄️♥️
It’s not the life, or love story we had planned. In fact, I often think “how the #*!$ is this happening to us?!”
But we are forging a new way to do life together and I keep growing more in love with you. Happy Valentine’s Day
@ebencathey
💞💘💝
My neurologist asked for feedback (awesome) on how their team was doing. So I said:
Don’t use the words “yet” and “still” e.g., “Can you write still? Do you drool yet?”
Omit these words and the meaning is the same. With them the focus is on inevitable decline.
❤️Ev
May is
#ALSAwarenessMonth
but for people living with it, awareness is every month, every day, every minute
Aware of:
Muscles wasting away
Losing independence
Breathing decreasing
Voice disappearing
Lack of treatments
Time running out
#endALS
We got dolled up for a wedding
I miss dancing at weddings, talking to people
A newfound joy at weddings? Interacting with drunk people, it’s really entertaining and they do all the talking
Holding space for fellow ppl w/ ALS, as today can be hard…maybe not being able to eat the tasty food or sing the songs or do a thousand other things. Grieving the “you” you thought you would be today (I know I do) 1/2
It’s hard to describe what it’s like simultaneously preparing for death and holding limitless hope...but sort of like gravity both letting you fall endlessly and the complete lack of it allowing you to float freely
#endals
#HR7071
I was feeling apathetic about voting for so many reasons:
I’m not in a swing state, I’m dying from an incurable disease,the system is flawed, it’s hard for me to go out, breathing is harder w/ a mask
But it’s my duty to exercise my right to vote so vote I did. And it felt good
Dear
@US_FDA
, when delaying the
@AmylyxPharma
decision by 3 months did you consider that
#everypointmatters
?
One point is the difference between my children having a mother and…not
It’s painfully simple, for a drug that is safe and effective
This. Guy.
@ebencathey
works full time, cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids and me. It is hard. I wish it wasn’t so. He does it with unreal grace, patience, & perseverance. He & all cALS deserve an end to ALS, too.
Pictured: partaking in crucial self care
#caregiverawareness
Believe me, I’d rather not be tweeting about my bathroom use. I’d also rather not have a fatal disease or be disabled
But here I am. If an injustice happens to me, it’s happening to many others. If we don’t speak up, nothing will change
2 years ago my doctors probably wouldn’t have believed I’d be giving my 40lb son a horseback ride today.
But here I am (slowly) (and awkwardly) doing it.
And it’s probably a good thing he is wearing that helmet 😂
#endals
#nurown
#axeals
#iamals
I look at this picture & feel so much gratitude for what I previously took for granted
Holding a cup & drinking
Turning book pages
Driving a scooter
Cracking up
Nature
And most of all, people I love dearly who don’t shy away from the hard stuff
#ENDALS
Every morning I drink an experimental drug made of gold nanocrystals ✨✨✨Surely something so fantastical will slow the havoc ALS wreaks on my body?
*please don’t let it be placebo*
Never thought I would be 40 w/ a fatal illness while raising young kids...but here I am
Overwhelmed & humbled by support from friends, family, strangers. Grateful for our dear friends that created this
I’ll repay in acts of kindness as best I can
♥️Ev
“I love you you’re my best friend” - Reuben, age 3
He says this about a dozen times a day. Could there be a more beautiful string of words?
I’m going to fight to stick around as long as possible to keep hearing these words 💚
#ENDALS
Every day I make decisions: to focus on what I can do,be grateful, enjoy my time. I’m mostly happy
But make no mistake: ALS is devastating. It has devastated me & those I love. It’s cruelty is relentless & I make space for rage, which we need more of in this fight
#ENDALS
My maemoo on her first day of first grade. I feel so grateful to be here to see it, and ride in a golf cart to drop her off. A proud, teary mama over here 🥲♥️
This is the most powerful thing I have ever seen. If you do one thing today, watch
@bsw5020
and
@sabrevaya
testify before Congress about the urgent needs of the ALS community
Get angry with us and join a movement
@iamalsorg
Thank you for prioritizing accessibility
@DisneyCruise
! 5 years into my
#ALS
diagnosis, never in a million years did I think I’d ride a water slide above the ocean but you made it happen. I was able to make memories to last a lifetime with my kids 💛❤️🤍🖤
Imagine knowing HOW to swim, WANTING to swim, but your brain can’t communicate to your muscles to execute this
This is
#ALS
and it’s maddening
Yet being in the water with my favorite ppl...is amazing
#endals
@sabrevaya
@bsw5020
I absolutely hate having ALS... but, and this may sound weird, I feel lucky to have it at a time when you two are leading the fight and giving me so much inspiration. Will 💯 support y’all however we can, always
.
@Fly_Nashville
there is not an accessible bathroom in concourse A or B & access is restricted to other concourses. So I had to use the men’s restroom with my husband, which is degrading. It is unacceptable to have one stand alone accessible bathroom for an entire airport 1/3
It wasn’t until I was grieving ALS that I realized the stages of grief are not linear
Instead denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are in one of those huge spinning bingo balls getting plucked out at random and my card has all of them
One of my neurologists said the other day “don’t get me wrong, it’s never a good time to have ALS, but there are more promising developments happening now than ever before”
Regardless of if those impact me directly, this is the kind of thing I love (and need) to hear!
#endals
When ALS is cured,
@RepMikeQuigley
along with
@bsw5020
and
@sabrevaya
will be a BIG part of the story of how it came to be
Cannot thank y’all enough for your ferocious perseverance
Introducing: Celine ✨
She is a game changer. We now go on frequent family walks which is EVERYTHING to me ❤️🍁🍂
Inspired by:
@bsw5020
’s sleek ride and the sheer power and grace of
@celinedion
#endALS
Y’all. It’s this remarkable man’s birthday!! Here’s wishing him a year full of IPAs, tank tops, music playing, cuddles, SPORTS, & raucous times with those he loves
You are the super (human) glue that holds our family together and I love you
@ebencathey
♥️
I used to think I would put drawings in kids lunches because I was a “fun mom”
Recently I did it because I realized I love drawing, I love my kid, & against all odds I’m able to hold a pen & draw so what the hell have I been waiting for?!
#ENDALS
I always knew I wanted to read the Harry Potter books to my kids. I couldn’t have imagined that I wouldn’t be able to due to ALS/MND taking my voice. So, my 6 year old daughter and I listen to the audiobooks, bonding in a new way 1/3
@jk_rowling
#endMND
#endALS
“You can believe the diagnosis but never believe the prognosis”
- Deepak Chopra
I am not fixated on the 2-5yr average ALS life expectancy because the mind is a powerful force
Grateful the neurologist who diagnosed me at Hopkins doesn’t believe in giving timelines either
💛
The
#Nurown
trial included:
- 14 trips to MGH
- 1 pelvic bone marrow extraction
- 3 spinal injections of drug or placebo
- so many spinal taps I lost track
- countless blood draws
Do I know if I got the real thing? No.
Would I do it all over again? YES.
*ACCESS IS HOPE*
May is
#ALSAwarenessMonth
I’m glad it exists but gawd it’s tough having a month where the horrors of it (which I try not to focus on) bombard me on social media
But I want everyone not in this unlucky club to pay attn to the horrors
and take action by supporting
@iamalsorg
I grappled w/ posting about my fall. But I’m in this to not only share the positive & uplifting, but the low points, the raw humanness of life, that give rise to richer joy
Thanks for being along for the ride - smooth countryside drives & car crashes alike
💞ev
Our flight was canceled along with thousands of others on
@SouthwestAir
so we drove 14 hours to the beach (NOT easy with ALS)
Here is our crazy crew of 8 making the best of it at Buc-ees, which I am now obsessed with
@bucees
Can we stop accepting & chuckling about how dry most neurologists are?
If you are working w/ vulnerable ppl going thru unimaginable degeneration, that’s not acceptable
Why not teach skills in listening, compassion, & speaking positively in med school & beyond?
- ALS patient
Flashback in honor of
#LouGehrigDay
to the time I took a bus while pregnant with a 1.5 year old ON MY OWN to the
@Cubs
World Series parade
Yes it makes me a little sad that I can barely walk now due to ALS, much less go on such an adventure...but damn I’m glad I did that
I’m grateful I was in the Nurown phase 3 trial. But I went thru an awful lot - lumbar punctures, spine injections, bone marrow aspiration, blood draws, flight & hotel costs
And it may have been a placebo
@Cylebo
I believe in Nurown. When can I expect access?
@BrainstormCell
One person living with ALS and two widowed by ALS
Truly the worst club with the best people
Always a treat to see
@nicolecimbura
and Staci
@BWayneGal
♥️♥️♥️