Players: Enjoy your HS playing days. There’s nothing like playing in front of a crowd of your community members, friends & family & playing alongside classmates. The sense of community & school pride is unbeatable. Relish it; rejoice in it; respect it. It’s over before you know.
Parents: You’re raising a child, not an athlete. Focus on their character & work ethic. Teach them respect, hard work, how to be a good person. Hold them accountable. Teach them that they will never get what they don’t earn. Strong, well-rounded kids find success much easier.
Players: You want to honor Kobe? You want to respect the game you play? Go practice today like he practiced. Go play games like he played. Prepare like he prepared. Compete like he competed. Love the game like he loved the game. Your best-every time! That’s the ultimate tribute.
If you have a former coach who you can still call, Snap, Facebook, text, FaceTime, etc. then you had a coach who put you first & created lifelong, caring relationships with players. That isn’t always the case, so consider yourself lucky & keep those relationships close to heart.
Players: If D1 schools aren’t reaching out to you, you may not be a D1 player & that’s ok. Don’t be married to the level. Be married to the right fit for you. Stay in the gym. Keep getting better & then use the game to cement your future. College degrees don’t say D1, D2 or D3.
Players: Your athletic career is most likely temporary; your character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player you are. What are your habits? Are you grateful, humble, honest. Do you care for others? Be someone people respect on & off the court.
Seniors: You have one season of HS sports remaining. Please don’t take a single opportunity or day for granted. Work hard. Help others. Be present & live in the moment. Cherish your teammates & coaches. Make memories for a lifetime, because the days will come & go all too soon!
Parents: It’s not your job to raise a professional athlete. Focus on your child’s work ethic, character & respect. Teach them passion, hard work, how to be a great teammate, & how to own their mistakes. Teach them how to overcome & believe they will never get what they don’t earn
Players: Which player are you?
Bad players don’t take much seriously.
Average players take games seriously.
Good players take practice & games seriously.
Great players take academics, nutrition, warm-ups, ind. work, weight room, conditioning, film, practice & games seriously.
Players: Want to avoid being benched? Then:
-Put your team 1st
-Don’t whine about playing time
-Have great practice habits
-Respect others
-Accept your role
-Always give 100%
-Keep mental errors to a minimum
-Play hard
-Have good body language
-Lose your ego
-Encourage teammates
Players: Your athletic career is very temporary; character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player. Are you kind, trustworthy, compassionate? Do you help ppl? Is your word more than just words? Be someone people respect as an athlete & a person.
Players: You better really love the process. The average D1 player spends 3,000 hours on their game in 4 years. Only 4% of that is actual game play! College level ball isn’t for the weak. You need mental & physical stamina, toughness, & a willingness to work. Are you that player?
Players: If your coach holds you accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of coaches accept their players doing whatever they want, whenever they want with no consequences. Discipline, responsibility & accountability are life prep! If your coach cares that much, respect it!
If D1 schools aren’t reaching out to you, you may not be a D1 player & that’s ok. Don’t be married to the level. Be married to the right academic fit for you. Stay in the gym. Keep getting better & then use the game to cement your future. College degrees don’t say D1, D2 or D3!
The best player on a team isn’t always the player who scores the most. Sometimes it’s the player who has a high IQ or a diverse/versatile skill set or a player who is unselfish & coachable or who knows their role inside & out. Basing “good” only on points scored is a big mistake!
HS Seniors: Brace yourself for your season of lasts. Last bus rides. Last big rivalry games. Last home game. Last year of laughter, tears, cheering & memories of competing & winning & losing with this group of teammates. It’ll never be exactly the same. Enjoy every last moment!
Parents: Encourage children to communicate directly with their coach. It’s a skill they will need for a lifetime, so help them develop it now. They need to learn that parents can’t fight their battles for them & that 3rd party communication won’t get them very far in this world.
Parents: Encourage your child to communicate directly with the coach. It’s a skill they will need for a lifetime, so help them develop it now. They need to learn that parents can’t fight their battles for them & that 3rd party communication won’t get them very far in this world.
Players: Signs that coaches know when you aren’t all in:
-Always have excuses
-Doesn’t listen w/ ears & eyes
-Shut down when coached
-Doesn’t communicate
-Bad body language
-Only does required work
-Pouts when subbed/benched
-Doesn’t know the system
-Doesn’t cheer for teammates
Players: Your coach’s job is to coach you. That means praise when you’re doing it right & correction when you’re not. Don’t get defensive or talk back over the correction. Listen to understand. It’s how you get better. Welcome accountability. It helps you in the game & in life.
Parents: You’re raising a child, not an athlete. Teach them respect, hard work, how to be a good person. Show them what character & work ethic are. Hold them accountable. Teach them that they won’t ever get what they don’t earn. Strong, well-rounded kids find success much easier.
HS Seniors: Get ready for your last first game of the season, last bus rides, last big rivalry games, last home game, last year of laughter & tears & cheering & memories of winning & losing with this group of teammates. It’ll never be exactly like this again. Enjoy every moment!
Players: Stop making weak excuses!
Working Hard: Your Choice
Skipping Workouts: Your Choice
Eating Bad: Your Choice
Good Grades: Your Choice
Arriving on Time: Your Choice
Getting Better: Your Choice
Making the right choice is up to you. Don’t use your bad choices as an excuse.
Players: Your athletic career is very temporary; character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player. Are you kind, trustworthy, compassionate? Do you help ppl? Is your word more than just words? Be someone people respect as an athlete & a person.
Parents: Let your kids be coached. Let them get used to coaches holding them accountable. If you save your children from discomfort, you often keep them from realizing their own strength & ability. Let them grow their character so they can become confident, independent adults.
Players: You want to instantly be tougher? Keep your mouth closed when being coached. Be able to take criticism without feeling the need to answer back or give excuses & fix your body language, but U must work at it. This is a mental toughness skill & it takes deliberate practice
Parents: You’re raising a child, not an athlete. Focus on their character & work ethic. Teach them respect, hard work, how to be a good person. Hold them accountable. Teach them that they will never get what they don’t earn. Strong, well-rounded kids find success much easier.
The best player on a team isn’t always the player who scores the most. Sometimes it’s the player who has a high IQ or a diverse/versatile skill set or a player who is unselfish & coachable or who knows their role inside & out. Basing “good” only on points scored is a big mistake!
Players: If your high school coach holds you accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of high school coaches accept their players doing whatever they want to do, whenever they want to do it w/ no consequences. Discipline, responsibility & accountability are college & life prep!
If your coach holds you accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of coaches accept their players doing whatever they want, whenever they want with no consequences. Discipline/responsibility/accountability are life prep! If your coach cares that much, you’re lucky so respect it!
Players: Treat everyone with respect. That D2 coach you just blew off could be at your dream school next year. Be grateful that any coach is reaching out. Lots of players would love to be in your shoes. Talent is one thing, but an athlete who’s humble & respectful is next level.
Your coach’s job is to coach you. That means praise when you’re doing it right; correction when you’re not. Don’t get hostile or defensive, shut down or talk back. Listen to learn. Listen to understand. It’s how you get better. Accountability will help you in the game & in life!
Players: Every moment you spend with your teammates competing on the court, in the locker room, on the bus & during practice are times that will never be duplicated in your life. All too soon it comes to an end, so cherish the moments of accomplishment, camaraderie & friendship.
Typical college basketball pre-season player schedule:
6 am Conditioning
7:30 am Breakfast
8-12 Class
12 Lunch
1 pm Therapy/film
1:30 pm Individual skills
2:30 pm Weights
4-5:30 pm Pick up
6 pm Dinner
7 pm Study Hall
Make sure you love the game. It’s more than picking up a ball
Mentally Tough Athletes:
-Learn from failure
-Never give up
-Limit distractions
-Make wise choices
-Face adversity
-Put team 1st; self last
-Compete
-Easily hit their “reset button”
-Have internal motivation
-Never give up
-Have passion & drive
-Start fresh after mistakes/losses
Players: Your coach’s job is to coach you. That means praise when you’re doing it right & correction when you’re not. Don’t get defensive, shut down or talk back. Listen to learn. Listen to understand. It’s how you get better. Accountability will help you in the game & in life.
Players: Be great without being high maintenance. Show up on time, wear the right stuff, be coachable, support your teammates & give 100% every time you play. High maintenance is hard. Coaches love low maintenance players who buy into the process. You’re what makes coaching fun!
If you have a former coach who you can still call, Snap, Facebook, text, FaceTime, etc. then you had a coach who put you first & created lifelong, caring relationships with players. That isn’t always the case, so consider yourself lucky & keep those relationships close to heart!
Players: Your coach will always use the best players, those who can help the team win. That’s their job. Your job is to work, compete & be the best you can be. Life is full of competition. Don’t whine about it. Let it motivate you. Competition never goes away. Use it to fuel you!
The point of HS sports isn’t getting a college scholarship. It’s learning cooperation, respect, loyalty, communication, being a good person & working with others in good times & bad. If a scholarship comes from that, great. But either way, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience!
Players: If your coach holds you accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of coaches accept their players doing whatever they want, whenever they want with no consequences. Discipline, responsibility & accountability are life prep! If your coach cares that much, respect it!
If your coach holds you accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of coaches accept their players doing whatever they want, whenever they want with no consequences. Discipline/responsibility/accountability are life prep! If your coach cares that much, you’re lucky so respect it!
Teach kids how to lose. Losing doesn’t mean quitting, pouting, blaming or tantrums. It doesn’t mean “feel good” trophies. It means you have some work to do. It means coming back tomorrow & trying again. You can’t be a great winner without knowing how to lose & learning from it!
HS Seniors: Brace yourself for your season of lasts. Last bus rides. Last big rivalry games. Last home game. Last year of laughter, tears, cheering & memories of competing & winning & losing with this group of teammates. It will never be exactly the same. Enjoy every last moment!
Parents: Let your kids be coached. Let them get used to coaches holding them accountable. If you save your children from discomfort, you often keep them from realizing their own strength & ability. Let them grow their character so they can become confident, independent adults.
Parents: Teach kids that their relationship with their coach is THEIR relationship. They have to take the initiative to work out issues instead of depending on you to do it. Don’t intervene on their behalf unless it’s absolutely necessary. That kind of independence is invaluable.
Parents: Learning to fight through adversity is a skill that we as adults are taking away from this generation of kids. Fail & fail often. Failing is inevitable. It’s not a bad thing. It must be practiced. Stop trying to protect. Instead, teach them how to get back up & respond.
Players: You want to have a championship team?
-Show up on time
-Treat others with respect
-Seek uncomfortable positive growth
-Believe in each other
-Have great practices
-Drop individual agendas
-Uplift your teammates
-Put in extra work outside of practice
-Trust coach’s plan
Weight room myths:
-Messes up your shot
-Makes you big & bulky
-Makes you slow
-Makes you less flexible
Weight room truths:
-Makes you stronger
-Makes you more confident
-Decreases the chance for injuries
-Increases stamina
No more excuses. Get in the weight room & get better.
Players: If you want to miss workouts, do it. If you want to sleep in, do it. If you want to chill, do it. If you want to skip reps, do it. If you want to make excuses, do it. If you want to be soft, do it. Just please don’t act surprised when your competition kicks your tail!
Parents: You can buy your kids a phone; pay for college, a car. You can buy sporting equipment & uniforms, but you can’t buy their success. If they want it, they have to earn it. Success isn’t easy. It’s gritty & hard. The “price” comes with a lot of extra work, trials & failure.
Athlete’s Parents:
Support the entire team
Don’t compare their child’s abilities
Let the coach be the coach
Are humble/grateful
Let your child enjoy the game
Aren’t negative about the coach/other players
Help out where you can
Love your child through ups & downs
Leave refs alone
Players: Do you remember those teammates who shortcut drills, made excuses, & blamed others for their failures? Neither does anyone else. Make an unforgettable impression: outwork everyone, lead by example, take responsibility, & be kind & respectful to others. It’s that simple.
The Language of Successful Coaches:
1 I believe in you
2 I trust you
3 Your role matters
4 I appreciate your commitment
5 I’m here to help
6 I want your opinion
7 I’m teaching you tools to succeed
8 I believe in our team
9 I was wrong/ I’m sorry
10 Your future is important to me
Players: Real talk, if D-1 schools aren’t constantly reaching out to you, you may not be a D-1 player & that’s ok. Stay in the lab, keep getting better, & don’t be married to the level, be married to the right fit for you. Use the game, college degrees don’t say D-1, D-2, or D-3.
Players: Avoid these pitfalls:
1. Missing workouts
2. Being last in drills
3. Faking injuries
4. Running from competition
5. Whining about tough coaching
6. Needing to be motivated
7. Badmouthing teammates
8. Ignoring authority
9. Being selfish
10. Comparing yourself to others
The majority of HS athletes won’t play at the next level. The HS athletic experience should be built around what’s best for those athletes, not the few who are lucky enough to continue to play. Build your program to include all your HS kids. HS sports should be about HS athletes!
If your coach holds everyone accountable, you are VERY fortunate. A lot of coaches allow some players to do whatever they want, whenever they want with absolutely no consequence. Discipline, responsibility & accountability are life prep! If your coach cares that much, respect it!
Players: You want to instantly be tougher? Keep your mouth closed when being coached. Be able to take correction without needing to talk back or give excuses & change your body language. You must work at it. This is a mental toughness skill & it takes deliberate practice daily.
I’ve had a lot of players reaching out wanting a few at home workouts. Being stuck inside is no reason to not get better and be working on your athletic foundation. These workouts can be done with your body weight around the home.
2 types of coaches:
Those who:
Coddle
Tell you what you want to hear
Don’t hold you accountable
Don't believe in you
Let you go through the motions
Those who:
Tell you the truth
Encourage
Challenge
Hold you accountable
Inspire
Demand excellence
ONLY 1 gets you ready for LIFE!
Players: One day those shoes, cleats, skates, skis, uniforms, etc. will be hung up for good. Whether you choose the time or not, athletics end for everyone. Sports don’t define you. Your character always will. Life will make you be a man/woman through its adversities every day.
Parents: Learning to fight through adversity is a skill that some adults are taking away from this generation of kids. Failing is inevitable & necessary. It must be practiced. You can’t protect them from it, so teach them how to get back up & respond. It’s crucial to success.
Parents: You’re raising a child, not an athlete. Teach them respect, hard work, how to be a good person. Show them what character & work ethic are. Hold them accountable. Teach them that they won’t ever get what they don’t earn. Strong, well-rounded kids find success much easier!
Parents often say “What will I do when I don’t have a practice/game to take my kids to anymore?” When you do something every week, every season, you don’t realize how much it’s part of your life until it’s not. Same is true for athletes. You can’t get this time back. Cherish it!
Parents: You’re raising a child, not an athlete. Teach them respect, hard work, how to be a good person. Show them what character & work ethic are. Hold them accountable. Teach them that they won’t ever get what they don’t earn. Strong, well-rounded kids find success much easier.
Seniors: Only 2 months of HS basketball left. After the last game, when you realize what the last 4 years, your teammates & coaches have meant, you’ll begin to miss it. Live in the moment; don’t take it for granted; enjoy the ride. These are some of the best days of your life!
No coach or trainer can force you to get better. You must choose to put in purposeful work. Practice before practice. Lead during practice. Then practice more after practice. This game rewards those who’ve put in the time. Getting better is a personal choice, not an obligation!
Players: Instead of telling teammates to work harder, show them how to work hard. Instead of telling them to have a great attitude, display one. Before you can lead them with your words, you have to lead them with your actions. BE the kind of teammate you want. Lead by example!
Players: Talk!! Hold each other accountable! BAD teammates never talk. AVERAGE teammates talk when winning. GOOD teammates talk often. GREAT teammates never stop talking! CHAMPIONSHIP teammates always talk about talking more... in practice, in huddles, at halftime, in time outs!
Bless the coaches who hold kids accountable for grades, conduct & behavior. Never doubt that choosing discipline over wins is the right thing. It matters. That example says that regardless of how good a player is, he/she will be held to the standard. That’s a powerful statement!
Every moment you spend with your teammates & coaches competing on the court, in the locker room, on the bus & during practice are times that will never be duplicated in your life. All too soon it comes to an end, so cherish the moments of accomplishment, camaraderie & friendship!
Studies show that playing team sports is a greater predictor of success for doctors-in-training than test scores. That’s powerful! Team sports are life lessons: leadership, commitment, respect & dedication just to name a few. Learn them & let them lead you to a successful future!
Players: College ball is tough. Coaches want to win & they hold you to a very high standard. They won’t hold your hand or accept excuses. It’s very physically & mentally demanding. It can also be one of the most rewarding experiences you ever have. You HAVE to be mentally tough!
Your athletic career is most likely temporary; your character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player you are! What are your habits/routines? Are you grateful, humble, honest. Do you care for others? Be someone people respect on & off the court!
Coaches: You can have an open door policy all you want, but don’t assume your players have the courage to walk through the door. If they do, treat their confidence like gold. Don’t use it against them. Instead, listen & offer guidance. Be caring & empathetic. Build a relationship
Long after the wins and losses, you'll remember your teammates & coaches; the bus rides & locker room talks. You'll remember how you had each other's backs. You'll remember the relationships & how you needed each other. And especially how fortunate you were to be part of a TEAM!!
Players: Don’t ever be that player who is too cool to go hard. The way you do anything is the way you do everything. Whether it’s a workout or a game, 100% is the minimum. Cool won’t impress. Cool won’t get you more playing time. Cool won’t get you better. Cool will get you beat!
Players: 2 types of coaches:
Coaches who:
Coddle U
Tell U what U want to hear
Don’t hold U accountable
Don't believe in U
Let U go through the motions
Coaches who:
Tell the truth
Encourage
Challenge
Hold U accountable
Inspire
Demand excellence
ONLY 1 gets you ready for LIFE!
Players: The point of HS sports isn’t getting a college scholarship. It’s learning cooperation, loyalty, communication, being a good person & working with others in good times & bad. If a scholarship comes from that, great. But either way, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime experience!
Players: You need to know this little secret: extra work will always be OPTIONAL. Whether it’s HS/College/Pro, no one is going to hold your hand & make you improve. You have to want to be great more than your coaches/parents want it for you. Take responsibility for game/yourself.
The best player on a team isn’t always the player who scores the most. Sometimes it’s the player who has a high IQ or a diverse/versatile skill set or a player who is unselfish & coachable or who knows their role inside & out. Basing “good” only on points scored is a big mistake!
Elite players:
Are early for workouts
Are self-motivated
Have a desire to improve
Have a purpose
Lead their team
Display a positive attitude
Make no excuses
Are physically/mentally fit
Consistently perform at high levels
Display personal/team accountability
Create ELITE habits!
Your athletic career is most likely temporary; your character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player you are! What are your habits/routines? Are you grateful, humble, honest. Do you care for others? Be someone people respect on & off the court!
Hold each other accountable! Talk! Talk! Talk!
BAD teammates never talk
AVERAGE teammates talk when winning
GOOD teammates talk often
GREAT teammates never stop talking
CHAMPIONSHIP teammates always talk about talking more... in practice, huddles, at halftime, in time outs!
Athletes: If you have time to learn a TikTok dance, you have time to shoot, dribble, swing, swim, throw, tumble, condition, jump, sprint, train, etc. Where do your priorities lie? What’s more important to you: social media & your social image or improving yourself for your sport?
Players: You don't realize that your body language is like a billboard. It screams everything you’re not saying. Primarily, it shows your toughness level & whether you can handle adversity. Keep positive body language even when things are hard. It shows you can overcome anything!
Players: The weight room does a lot more than just build your body. It builds character/mental toughness. It identifies weaknesses & reveals assertiveness. It creates leaders & shows who has drive & those who fake it. Through its grit, it reveals who’ll be successful & who won’t.
Players: Your body language toward missed shots, teammates mistakes, being whistled for fouls, getting your butt kicked on a play, being subbed out of the game, how you lose & handle any adversity tells coaches all they need to know. What’s your body language saying about you?
Instead of just telling teammates to work harder, show them how to work hard. Instead of just telling them to have a great attitude, display one. Before you can lead them with your words, you have to lead them with your actions. BE the kind of teammate you want. Lead by example!
If a player doesn’t play hard all the time, no skill they bring to the table can offset that. Playing hard is a prerequisite to playing. Period. Nobody succeeds by making half an effort. Make sure your players understand that laziness is unacceptable. Competing to WIN is a skill!
How Coaches Build Relationships with Players:
Learn about their lives
Hold them accountable
Be someone they can trust
Be honest with them
Be empathetic
Believe in them
Encourage growth
Teach life lessons
Support them academically/athletically
Listen to them
Appreciate uniqueness
Players: Have good body language no matter what happens. Coaches shouldn’t be battling & correcting it. Great body language impresses coaches of all levels. It says you’re confident, positive & willing. Body language is 1 of the best indicators of your character & toughness level
Players: You don't realize that your body language is like a neon sign. It screams everything you’re not saying. Primarily, it shows your attitude, intention & ability to handle adversity. Keep positive body language, especially when things are hard. It shows you can overcome!
Once you become a coach, it’s not about you anymore. It’s about your players & their dreams. Not what you want for them, but what they want for themselves. You’re there to help them go as far as they can to reach their potential. Not matter how big/small the dream, it’s theirs!
Players: If you think HS coaching & practices are hard & you can’t handle them, you sure won’t be able to tolerate playing in college! Lots of kids say they want to play in college, but few can adapt. Learn to embrace the hard parts now because college is a whole different level!
The value of sports is that they BUILD your character. The reality is that they will also REVEAL your character. Nobody’ll remember how many points you scored, but they’ll remember how hard you worked/what kind of teammate you were. Like it or not, your character is your legacy!
Let your kids be coached. Let them get used to coaches holding them accountable. If you save your children from discomfort & hardship, you often keep them from realizing their own strength, abilities. Let them grow their character so they can become confident, independent adults!
Players: Here is a list you never wanna be on:
-Selfish players
-Soft players
-Lazy players
-Pouting players
-Non talking players
-Excuse making players
-Individual stat loving players
-“Too cool” players
-“Practice sucks” players
-“Know it all” players
-“Answer back” players