Sorry for coming off callous, I was screaming into the void. My son was a wonderful person and I am struggling with this loss. Don't judge a mother that is in more pain that you could imagine. My husband and I are wrecked Don't be mean
My son is being cremated today, his body will be at rest.
My husband has eye surgery in 2 hours. I have to be strong today. Trying to find strength to get me through
I felt strong enough to go grocery shopping for the 1st time yesterday and didn't I didn't cry. This morning I was an emotional wreck, hysterically crying and screaming. My son killing himself is too much to bear right now. I'm in bed, I miss him terribly
5am marked 2 years since me son killed himself here. There was the rifle blast at 5am, he was so bloody and his face was gone. I still remember so vividly when I was on with 911 and I reached and touched his knee and called out to him. His knee was still warm. I'm suffering today
I am not doing great so far today. My grief has snuck up and sacked me. The agony over Brian's death feels so strong. I sat in the dark where he killed himself and cried hard. I cannot seem to stop the tears. It's the second Xmas with a new tree. He's not here to see it
Today is the first day that I got out of bed and got dressed since my son killed himself. I've read some responses on his suicide. Most of you are the sweetest, kindest supportive people. There are others that are cruel monsters & should burn in hell, just sayin. Here's my boy
I was doing so well, was back to happy and productive until a bit ago. I am washing Brian's clothes one last time and ran across a shirt that I always liked on him. I remember him hugging me while wearing that shirt.
💔💔 He's dead, I miss my son and the tears are falling
A local fisherman in Costa Rica nursed a crocodile back to health after it had been shot in the head &released the reptile back to its home. The next day, the man discovered he had followed him home and was sleeping on the man’s porch. For 20 years he became part of the family!
Today marks 3 months since Brian took his life. 3 months worth of feeling so empty at times that I feel fragile. 3 months of missing him so badly I cry. Some family members are handling their grief better than others. Today is difficult for all of us
It's 3:30 in the morning, Hubby and I gave up laying in the dark. A year ago today at 5am will be when our son Brian shot himself .The noise of the rifle that woke us out of our slumber changed our lives forever. The loss still feels as heavy as it did a year ago.
My new pair of reading glasses arrived!
chose progressives over straight reading glasses or bifocals. At age 62, I chose the frames that I really liked regardless of what others might think of them on an old lady.
My sweet son Brian as a little guy on Easter many moons ago...My entire body hurts today, I feel weighted and suffocating, tears fall when I don't want them to. I love and miss you so much Brian that I can barely hold it together this Easter morning.
I called the mortuary to verify my son was cremated and they apologized for a *glitch* and said he hasn't been cremated yet, not until Tuesday!!! My son is still on a cold slab. Then they asked if I'd like to pay the bill now. So I paid the damn bill. I am beside myself today
Got the news that my sister is getting ready to pass soon. This is terribly hard. It's really taken me off guard after Brian's death. She is on a respirator is all I know. I'm crying a river
The new room is finished!!!
It is much easier for me for the first time to be in this room, especially the bathroom and not instantly think of Brian's suicide. The negativity is gone
I lost you 4 months ago , you left so violently that it's taken these four months to remember how to breathe again. My darling son I miss you with my entire being. It's changed our family's lives in so many ways that our former lives are hardly recognizable. I love you Brian
This is a friend of Brian's who came over and replaced the bathroom subfloor after Brian killed himself. He cried over Brian. I found out that Jesse killed himself shortly after he installed that subfloor. I feel like died Because of Brian 😥😥😥😥😥RIP Jesse C.
I'm calling the mortuary to ONCE AGAIN see if my son is being cremated today. If they say *glitch* again, I'm going to lose my shit this time!! So please say a quick prayer for my son that he's going to be put at rest today. Thank you my friends
I talked to my oldest son this morning and he's bringing my granddaughter to stay here for a week while he's out of town working. She'll be here sometime this weekend!
All the walls that I built to stay strong after Brian killed himself have crumbled and I'm caught in a painful flood of tears. I can barely hang on, it hurts so bad, my precious mother's day baby is dead.
Here is a picture of Brian with our Eclectus Dean not long before he killed himself. As a mother, I see a sadness in his eyes that I didn't see or notice in person. I wish I had, maybe he'd be here today
Good morning everyone. I had a good cry yesterday over losing Brian. What set me off you ask? My shop vac in the bird room. Brian bought it for me long ago & the memory of him saying
"Here ya go Mah, you won't have to work so hard now".
I have a smile today and intend to keep it
The first holidays are coming since Brian killed himself. I feel there is a tsunami coming in the background. How can I handle this sadness and pain. I see it coming, it's black and painful, I cannot stop it from coming. So far I've been able to stave off the tears, but I'm tired
I had a long conversation with my oldest son. He's coming out to help us out with some repairs to the house. He's bringing my 10 yr old granddaughter too! That puts a smile on my face! I have something to look forward to. This is my sweet granddaughter
Husband home from eye surgery, he is comfortable and in good spirits. He's glad it's over. Me and our son J are keeping him company and we will get him anything he wants.
King for a day 😄.
After 30 years my husband knows just what to do when I'm feeling low...he takes me for some good old fashioned retail therapy. It won't bring my son back but at least I have some new house clothes that are soft and comfy.
A very difficult morning already.
Today is the day we empty out the big storage bay and finally deal with my son Brian's stuff and some boxes of our own. Theres ALOT of stuff. I have to do this. I have to be strong today. Please send me some good vibes ok?
Just took a long hot shower and here I am today at age 62 with a fresh face without any makeup or filters. I feel good that I am showing everyone my naked face. Who else wants to show off their
#nakedface
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#nomakeup
#nofilterneeded
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My son's urn just arrived. I'm crying because this reminds me he's really dead. 😭 I have begun to wonder if I can take all this pain and sadness. Im not boo hoo crying just my tears just leak out of my eyes.
What a wonderful day with my son and granddaughter!
They came bearing gifts! I'm not used to all this love but holy cow I'll take all that love .
My son got me this, I've never had any of the kids buy me Mom jewelry and always wished for it
I don't know why but the image of Brian after he killed himself has flashed in my mind so many times today that the tears keep falling and I want the intrusive images and tears to stop. I did so well for a week, this is hard. My oldest will be here again Friday .
I can't wait
Brian was my belated Mother's day present in 1986. Born on monday instead of Sunday he was the most precious gift I ever was graced with. His big smile, his joy. He would be 36 tomorrow.
At 5am exactly 6 months ago you killed yourself with a shotgun in the bathroom. Our family is forever changed. The pain is there for each of us and we are each learning to cope. I love and miss you so much 💔
I am blown away at the attention. I'm jaw dropped.
I am in the process of following everyone back. I am also writing so many of you back on your comments.
WOW! JUST WOW!!
The Golden Plover is a bird that hatch with the power of camouflage fully activated. These fluffy birds match their mossy Arctic nesting site perfectly.
OMG! My granddaughter had a conference day and she's done so My oldest son and granddaughter are getting ready to leave to come here! More time with the people I love!!! What a blessing for me during this time.
This eye-catching corn is the brainchild of Carl Barnes, a part Cherokee farmer from Oklahoma. After breeding several ancestral corn varieties together, the results were vibrant; kernels ranged in hue from crimson to turquoise. His distinct strains have produced rainbow corn!
I'm very sad this evening. One of the older cockatiels died. She lived like a queen here, she was a gentle friendly girl. Marshmallow my love you will always be missed 😢💔
Yesterday morning I struggled tremendously over Brian killing himself. I cried alot. It's torture to go through these feeling again and again. I finished chores and went straight to painting something, ANYTHING just to get my mind to switch gears. It worked to immediately calm me
My son framed in the new bathroom, I say that because we literally made the bathroom a different shape to help me get over the fact that Brian killed himself in there
Our next door neighbors have been so very kind to us. They cry with us because they knew Brian, the whole neighborhood loved Brian with his big smile and always helping out. They gave us this band and they wear them in honor of Brian.
Just checking I'm with ya! I'm trying to stay busy as it helps to dodge my grief. So it's a day of dust and dirt for me. Yeah I cover my hair when I deep clean so it doest get dirty.
My daughter & my 2nd oldest son are traveling to meet to have lunch in the little town I raised them in to share the memories they had as kids about their brother Brian. Tomorrow it will be a year that he killed himself. This is the house we had. My grands are the kids in the pic
Dik-diks are found in the arid zones of East Africa . They have a bare black spot below the inside corner of each eye which produces a dark, sticky secretion. They insert grass stems and twigs into the gland to scent-mark their territories!
I worked hard cleaning today, sometimes its like therapy for me. Clean house and bird room. Now for Pizza and TV with son and hubby. The day turned itself around
Well, hells bells,
I'm at the ER , unbelievable pain in my kidneys. Hurts to move omg. I sent hubby home to keep an eye on the birds. I'll update when I can
Beekeepers in Alsace, France began noticing discolored honey throughout in their hives:For no apparent reason, all of their honey had turned blue and purple. The bees had been feeding on the discarded containers of M&Ms!
Yesterday turned into a sad day. Mr. Scruffy had a stroke with several seizures that left him paralyzed and has now gone over the Rainbow Bridge. I will miss him
I ordered this bead for my pandora bracelet in honor of Brian. When I saw it I immediately knew this is what I want to wear on the bracelet my oldest recently bought me
Baby is our Indian Ringneck she says Hello, HI Baby and Imma lucky bird. No clue how old she is. After 5 years we can reach in and pet her without losing a finger. Progress!
Wow wow! Hubby and I went to bed at 9pm and slept in until 7:30am! Finally we slept through the night. I think because our daughter sent this picture saying I'm taking Brian home. I felt a great weight lift off me that she now has the family photo albums but also a piece of Brian
I am still watching my granddaughter and we celebrated hubby's 60th.
Tomorrow my daughter is coming to meet her niece Evelyn for the first time and I get to hug my daughter. I have not seen her since 2008!
I want to thank everyone who have kept me upright since my Brian took his life. You've kept me alive, kept me hopeful that I won't be as damaged and hurt as I am right now. I wish I could hug each and every one of you ❤️
So the plan is we will have my hubby come along with us and I am going to visit with my daughter while they sightsee on the coast and then they'll pick me up to go home. 8 hrs of driving 🙄 she's worth it!
Brian's best friend traveled to see us yesterday. He helped us to find the big box of family photo albums in storage to take to my daughter for a celebration of Brian's life with all his childhood friends attending. We also carefully took some of Brian's ashes to send to her.
My son Brian loved to sing. At work he was called "Singing Brian " he ALWAYS sang. My heart swells with bursting love and the tears stream down. God I miss him so much, it was almost painful to hear his beautiful voice once again