People with ADHD tend to "freeze" when making big transitions, like getting ready in the morning. They can see time moving, but the task seems so daunting, they can't make themselves start.
“People with inattentive ADHD are not lazy, stupid, unwilling, or oppositional. They have a biologically based challenge with attending to the task at hand, and their brains tire more quickly.”
Revenge bedtime procrastination is an onerous name for a simple (and common) phenomenon: putting off sleep in favor of “me time” activities — often involving Netflix, social media, and next-day exhaustion.
I realized that doom piles have always been a part of my existence. Whether it was a messy closet behind a closed door or a school locker full of crumpled-up papers, doom piles were always there.
"The ADHD wears you down but it’s the secondary psychological impact that hits you the hardest. You get judged by your friends, colleagues, teachers & relatives as being weak in character. And you don’t know if they are right. Eventually you believe them."
"The way ADHD often expresses itself in girls — excessive talking, poor self-esteem, worrying, perfectionism, etc. — is seldom read as such." - Maureen Connolly 👉
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
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“I wish the world knew that ADHD is neurological. It isn’t behavioral. And it isn’t just a matter of trying harder. You would never tell a blind person to just squint harder. Stop thinking my child just needs to try harder. He is trying hard."
"ADHD is a deceptive term. The words imply a deficit of attention. But instead, we pay attention to everything. When you don’t have ADHD, dopamine & norepinephrine create a filter. Without that filter, I see all, I hear all, and I can’t focus only on you."
Did you know?
#Bipolar
disorder and
#ADHD
share 14 features in common. This means that even a well-trained clinician could easily misdiagnose ADHD as bipolar, vice versa, or miss that both disorders are present.
"My ADHD diagnosis actually was a relief. It felt good to finally have answers and to let go of some of the shame and guilt I had, thinking I was a massive screw-up."
@danidonovan
Researchers have ignored the emotional component of
#ADHD
because it can’t be measured.
Yet emotional disruptions are the most impairing aspects of ADHD at any age.
Arguably the greatest American gymnast of all time, Simone Biles has been open about her ADHD. And we love her, and other celebrities, for helping to normalize the condition.
Though teachers may recognize that students with ADHD forget to write down assignments, lose completed homework, and need fidgets to improve focus, many educators are frustrated and confounded by not-so-obvious ADHD behaviors when they inevitably pop up.
“I wish the world knew that ADHD is neurological. It isn’t behavioral. And it isn’t just a matter of trying harder. You would never tell a blind person to just squint harder. Stop thinking my child just needs to try harder.”
ADHD is not caused by poor parenting or too much sugar, and it is not synonymous with laziness. Most adults with ADHD, in fact, work incredibly hard to devise coping systems to compensate for symptoms.
“No one had told me that my ADHD accounted for my hypersensitivities, obsessions, lack of motivation, and sleeplessness. No one told me that visible hyperactivity only manifests in 25% of children and 5% of adults with the condition.” Read more: 👉
"People diagnosed with
#ADHD
later on in life, like I was, wear the scars of a lifetime of judgement from failures you could never explain. It’s genuinely traumatic."
"Those with ADHD don't have a shortage attention. They pay too much attention to everything. Most people with unmedicated ADHD have four or five things going on in their mind at once."
"Girls with ADHD & anxiety or depression are much more likely to be overlooked in the classroom because they exhibit symptoms in a different way. Unlike boys with ADHD, the girls suffer silently, their self-esteem sinking as they fall through the cracks."
#ADHD
is not caused by poor parenting or too much sugar, and it is not synonymous with laziness. Most adults with ADHD, in fact, work incredibly hard to devise coping systems to compensate for symptoms.
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@JenLRossman
: ADHD isn't always “hey look a squirrel“ Sometimes it's “hey look a squirrel I should really stop what I’m doing & look up the etymology of the word squirrel & hey when did it become dinner time did I eat today why am I suddenly an expert in all things squirrels“
"If people with ADHD are consistently found on the cutting edge of human innovation... why do we continue to accept the words deficit and disorder as part of the definition?" What do you think?
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
This is a huge change in thinking. A feature of ADHD that was ignored for 50 years now is rapidly becoming one of the defining features of the syndrome.
You’re not weird, cold or rude. You have ADHD. Your brain focuses on the connections and relationships between things more than on specific bits of information, so you are likely to drift away from a single thought into a complex web of feelings and ideas.
Demand an end to the ADHD medication shortage by submitting comment to the FTC and HHS, and by writing letters to your representatives, the DEA, and the FDA. Use these templates to get started.
"People with ADHD are naturally curious, impulsive, chaotic, sensitive, and playful. When we try to live contrary to who we are, using untold energy attempting to be something we’re not and frankly never will be, that hurts us."
ADHD may mean chronically setting the best intentions and falling short. Friends and family say you should know better or work harder, but you are already doing what you can.
Such negative feedback takes a toll. Here's the antidote.
You’re not weird, cold, or rude. You have ADHD. Your brain focuses on the connections and relationships between things more than on specific bits of information, so you are likely to drift away from a single thought into a complex web of feelings & ideas.
The estrogen loss during menopause triggers intense ADHD symptoms that severely impact quality of life for many women. Learn more about potential interventions and treatments in this free resource from ADDitude.
ADHD expert Russell Barkley, Ph.D., has famously said that ADHD is not a disorder of knowing what to do, it’s a disorder of doing what you know — at the right times and places.
The way ADHD often expresses itself in girls — excessive talking, poor self-esteem, worrying, perfectionism, risk-taking, and nosiness — is seldom read as signs of ADHD.
"Most ADHD traits reflect two extremes on a single continuum. For example, it’s impossible for me to focus on something boring or tedious, but I can zone in and lose half a day doing something I love."
People with inattentive ADHD have difficulty sustaining focus, following detailed instructions, and organizing tasks & activities. They are easily distracted by external stimuli, and may leave projects unfinished. These are symptoms, not personal defects.
No one likes rejection or feeling like a failure. But for people with
#ADHD
, these feelings can be debilitating — and may manifest as either crippling sadness or uncontrollable rage.
"The
#ADHD
nervous system is rarely at rest. It wants to be engaged in something interesting and challenging. Attention is never 'deficit.' It is always excessive, constantly occupied with internal reveries and engagements."
People with ADHD get distracted because whatever is in their focus in the moment cuts off other, weaker messages. This can happen in mid-conversation, when a word triggers a thought that leads a person to another subject entirely.
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
ADHD implies a deficit of attention. But instead, as you know, we pay attention to everything. When you don’t have ADHD, dopamine and norepinephrine create a filter. Without that filter, I see all, I hear all, and I can’t focus only on you.
"My work for the last decade suggests that we have been missing something important about the fundamental nature of the ADHD brain... My goal was to look for the feature that everyone with ADHD has, and that neurotypical people don’t have. I found it."
Yes, the ADHD brain is wired to overreact and to feel emotions intensely. But you are not your ADHD reactivity. Here, learn how to change your reactive, habitual anger responses with thoughtful, soothing responses.
"To all the people out there who are living with ADHD: You are not lazy. You are not a disappointment. You are incredibly gifted. You are valued. And our world wouldn’t be what it is today without different minds like yours."
Undiagnosed women may live their whole lives being called ditzy, spacey, chatty, lazy, selfish, and dumb. This is unacceptable. It is critical we understand what ADHD often looks like in girls and women.
"ADHD may give me many good qualities. It may set me apart; it may make me who I am. It may help me out sometimes. But sometimes, ADHD just feels like a disease. It screws me up. It keeps me from doing things that neurotypical people do without thinking."
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
"If you're a young person being called weird or different, I'm here to tell you that your critics do not count. Their words will fade. You will not." Here's why we love Trevor Noah, Simone Biles, Emma Watson, other celebrities and famous people with ADHD.
Sometimes the working memory impairments of ADHD allow a momentary emotion to become too strong, flooding the brain with one intense emotion. At other times, the person with ADHD seems insensitive or unaware of the emotions of others.
Is there a relationship between ADHD and PTSD? Absolutely. A growing body of research has documented a robust link between the two conditions, suggesting that individuals with ADHD are at elevated risk for PTSD — and vice versa.
ADHD is NOT the result of bad parenting. It's also NOT a modern-day invention created by drug companies. And people who have ADHD are NOT stupid or lazy.
"Parents often get upset because their child with ADHD doesn’t 'act his age.' Well, he can’t. He isn’t there yet. Parents have to adjust our expectations and the metrics we use to measure our child’s behavior, social skills, and emotional regulation."
"People with ADHD are naturally curious, impulsive, chaotic, sensitive, and playful. When we try to live contrary to who we are, using untold energy attempting to be something we’re not and frankly never will be, that hurts us."
ADHD impairs time perception. The ADHD brain, locked in the present and oblivious to the future, is prone to hyperfocus, time blindness, and poor time-management skills.
Prior to discovering my hypersensitivity, I perceived my over-the-top emotions as a character flaw. My mom would say, “Why can’t you get on an even keel?” As a child, I didn’t have an answer. This added to my already-low self-esteem.
"Tough love doesn't work. ADHD is biologically woven into our DNA. It never goes away (though it can be managed). Telling us to suck it up and try harder is like telling a visually impaired person to see harder."
@LivingOutLoud_
When most people think of ADHD, they think: hyperactivity or inattention. Most don't think about intense emotional ups and downs — but this difficult-to-manage symptom, and has come to be understood by many experts as one of the hallmarks of ADHD.
The ADHD brain tends to think in terms of drastic polarities — motivated vs. lazy, creative vs. boring, organized vs. a mess. Your brain feels it must pick sides. But because we are forever changing and vacillating, this psychological tendency keeps us flip-flopping from day to…
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
When recording music became difficult for Adam Levine, he knew it was time to get help. Today, the rocker is very vocal about ADHD and reminds fans that they're not alone in the ADHD struggle. Read more about him and 15 other famous people with ADHD.
“You can’t judge if someone is ‘really’ ADHD based only on visible ADHD symptoms... Just because you don’t see the symptoms, doesn’t mean they aren’t there. Some of us just had to learn to hide them in order to make it in a neurotypical world.”
"The teacher and principal said to me, 'This is high school.' My answer to that is, so what? A blind child is still blind in high school. Kids with ADHD still struggle with symptoms in high school. They may require acommodations — even in high school."
“People with inattentive ADHD are not lazy, stupid, unwilling, or oppositional. They have a biologically based challenge with attending to the task at hand, and their brains tire more quickly.”
Hinshaw says girls are harmed by earlier, and more effective, socialization. They are trained from an early age not to make trouble, and to disguise mistakes and miscues. They turn their frustration on themselves, rather than others.
"The most misunderstood symptom of ADHD is emotional dysregulation. Particularly for women, this piece gets either downplayed or used to justify mood disorder diagnoses that aren't accurate.”
#WomensHealthMonth
#adhdinwomen
"ADHD is not caused by poor parenting or too much sugar, and it is not synonymous with laziness. Most adults with ADHD, in fact, work incredibly hard to devise coping mechanisms to compensate for symptoms."
"Inattentive ADHD means your brain is rubbish at choosing what you focus on. It’s not that you can’t focus at all. You can focus alright, just not always on what you need to. Sometimes the problem is when you get stuck focusing on the wrong things."
Nearly everyone with ADHD answers an emphatic yes to the question: “Have you always been more sensitive than others to rejection, teasing, criticism, or your own perception that you have failed or fallen short?”
"Sadly, the real world is not a friendly place for children with problems like ADHD. There are too many people who refuse to believe it exists, choosing instead to blame parents and kids for its symptoms."
High-IQ adults with ADHD seem to function well, but it comes at a high emotional cost. They feel burdened and exhausted, blaming their struggles on themselves, not on their ADHD. Here is a game plan for healing and hope.
ADHD is lifelong. Comorbidities are the rule, not the exception. ADHD doesn’t have a single precise cause. And girls and women have ADHD, too. These and other findings are supported by the last 25 years of research.
“I wish ADHD was understood to be a valid, nonlinear way of thinking. In the linear world that neurotypical people inhabit, ADHD is a deficit only because it’s not the way most people think & process information. There is nothing impaired with US."
“People who think ADHD means having a short attention span misunderstand what ADHD is,” says Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D. “A better way to look at it is that people with ADHD have a disregulated attention system.” Meaning: we CAN focus - quite intently actually.
"None of my teachers picked up on it. My parents never picked up on it. I was always just viewed as the kid who could never focus, who was hopelessly disorganized, who didn’t try hard enough, who failed to be what everyone wanted him to be."
Teachers usually look for hyperactivity, disorganization, or forgetfulness as the signs of ADHD before recommending an evaluation. But the way ADHD often expresses itself in girls is seldom read as such.
Though teachers may recognize that students with ADHD forget to write down assignments, lose completed homework, and need fidgets to improve focus, many educators are frustrated and confounded by not-so-obvious ADHD behaviors when they inevitably pop up.
Praise is especially important for children who have ADHD because they typically get so little of it. They get correction, remediation, and complaints about their behavior. They undergo testing, and are expected to feel grateful for constructive criticism.
"ADHD brains do not adapt as easily; they have their own rules of engagement. They are motivated by their search for optimal stimulation, rather than by what others label as important."
Research has shown that justice sensitivity, along with rejection sensitivity, largely accounts for the association between ADHD, depression, and anxiety.
"We’re quick to diagnose kids with ADHD without properly acknowledging the emotional experience of the condition. I wish I had understood earlier in my career as a therapist that anger & opposition can be a cover for shame & the fear of not measuring up."
Do you become overwhelmed or enraged by life’s unfairness and attacks on social justice? You may be experiencing the impact of a little-known ADHD trait called justice sensitivity.
"Behind almost every ADHD success story — including Michael Phelps, Ty Pennington, and Danielle Fisher — is a devoted parent (or two). In honor of mothers and fathers, let’s give credit where credit is due — and heed their ADHD parenting advice."
“No one notices my pain, my shame, how hard I try, or that I walk on eggshells every day trying to please others. But everyone notices my mistakes. I need you to be an encourager, not a critic.”
“Oversharing is a dangerous cocktail for people with ADHD and RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria). It is the absinthe martini of social situations — especially when we feel like we said something wrong, but we’re not sure what.”
People with ADHD tend to "freeze" when making big transitions, like getting ready in the morning. They can see time moving, but the task seems so daunting they can't make themselves start.
“People with inattentive ADHD are not lazy, stupid, unwilling, or oppositional. They have a biologically based challenge with attending to the task at hand, and their brains tire more quickly.”
Yes, the ADHD brain is wired to overreact and to feel emotions intensely. But you are not your ADHD reactivity. Here, learn how to change your reactive, habitual anger responses with thoughtful, soothing responses.
ADHD & SPD share fidgetiness & inattention in common. The big difference: If you take away the sensory overload of an itchy tag or humming florescent bulb, someone with SPD will change behavior. Someone with ADHD does not. ADHD and SPD can also co-exist.
“There’s no denying that those of us with ADHD were made different. We tend to be more generous, more loving, more funny, more creative, and more entrepreneurial. The problem, it turns out, is not within our own selves."
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"Anyone who exhibits the classic symptoms of ADHD will have difficulty with all or most of the seven core executive functions." - Russell Barkley, Ph.D.