what they are doing to
@AOC
is not just designed to shame her. it is designed to shame all young women into thinking they should not/could not run for office—that old videos or pictures or rumors of them would surface, that they could never dress/act/speak unimpeachably enough...
this is your yearly reminder that it is incredibly rude to ask a woman (especially a woman who is not your INTIMATE friend) any variation of any of the following:
*when she is gonna have kids
*when she is gonna get married
*why she is single
thank you, have a civil 2018.
this doesn’t just extend to politics. it is designed to intimidate us into thinking that we similarly will be attacked/undermined if we try to assume/wield power in whatever field. protect & defend
@AOC
, protect & defend the future for all women.
i will never forget what i learned watching lupita nyongo in us or florence pugh in midsommar or the entire freaking cast of parasite. and howard ratner seems to me like a person i knew & loved & struggled with. prizes are ephemeral; art lives.
she has a name she has a name she has a name: Emily V. Gordon, now a multiply-award-nominated screenwriter. it's HER body & HER illness. the least you can do is put her name in the headline, if you're going to make a "moment" of her life. thanks 👋🏼
(paul & i stand on top of our building’s roof, enjoying the sunset)
me: oh shit, you can see directly into that apartment! look, that lady’s watching footloose
paul: .......what are we gonna do?
me: about what?
paul: she has motion smoothing on
me:
paul: should we go over there??
a movie so rigorously intent on not allowing its audience escape into sentiment or self-congratulation, that turns a mirror instead, asking us to look at ourselves and think..... that the person who made that film might ask the same of us while accepting an award for his work...
it's been 10 years this week since RUBY SPARKS was released. tonight Paul & I are having dinner with Jonathan & Valerie, who directed it. I guess because I'm feeling grateful & nostalgic & in disbelief that a decade could have passed, here are a handful of memories:
I have thrown away
the unread New Yorkers
that were in
a pile on the floor
and which
you were probably
saving
for absolutely no reason
Forgive me
they were from 2015
so dusty
and so old
so this is a weird thing to tweet, but I guess it's a weird world: please don't send fan mail for Paul or me to our home address. we won't answer it or sign pictures that come here. our privacy is important to us; our address got put online against our best efforts to protect it.
honestly fucking laid low by how many movies from the '80s & '90s are filled with male character actors & movie stars who STILL work...and then like one woman i've never/barely heard of, presumably because she "aged" "out of" "her attractiveness."
I don't like to talk about our kids publicly, but I *do* wish film twitter could hear Paul re-capping the movies he saw in Cannes for our inquisitive four year old child
the five movies i saw in college (age 18-21) that made the biggest impact on me, long term:
1. PARIS IS BURNING
2. ETERNAL SUNSHINE OF THE SPOTLESS MIND
3. WHEN WE WERE KINGS
4. MEDIUM COOL
5. LOST IN TRANSLATION
(your turn.)
1) rape is not sex.
2) when one person has all the power AND something that the other person badly needs, it is very hard for the other person to truly give consent.
3) "everyone" does not include me or anyone i know. and i know a lot of actors. so.
my february:
no twitter
no heels
no makeup
no press
bake bread
make soup
sleep late
go to bed early
read novels
take care of my body
therapy
see the hockney exhibit
see the stephen shore exhibit
see friends
prepare for next project
cry
build fires
write
....i think part of the horror of the film is that it makes us face that face that the people on both sides of the wall are human. it might be easier (on ourselves) to think that they are not.
my favorite christmas carol is my mother softly saying “oh god” in reaction to mistakes being made during the technical challenge in the great british bake-off
every biography of every artist should have to include a detailed account of whether they had to negotiate childcare, and if so who took care of the children/how/what hours/etc
ok let’s play a game. what is the historical event/person you want someone to make a big epic movie about, except they never will because it would cost 100 million dollars & like three people would go see it?
we cried when
@Criterion
made this offer. i'll never get over it. with an essay from the inimitable
@MarkHarrisNYC
. on blu-ray & dvd, with interviews with our designers, editor, composer, cinematographer, and more:
My sister & I both knew girls in school who were killed by boys with guns who felt rejected by them. There is something extremely fucked up in our society that this keeps happening. The very least we can do is stop romanticizing these killers as 'lovesick'
i'll add this: no straight cis man will ever understand what it feels like to be a woman, and be screamed at by a man. women carry with us the epigenetic & culturally enforced understanding that we could potentially become targets of male rage & violence at any time.
seems worth noting: jessica walter also talks in that interview about how rare a role lucille bluth has been & what a boon "arrested development" was to her career. the men in the room are quick to jump on board--"for us too! for all of us."
we have a wonderful nanny. also my parents moved in for a few months--twice--to help while we were both filming on opposite sides of the country/world in 2020 and 2021. I keep telling Paul to talk about this in interviews, because men so rarely get asked about childcare. anyway.
paul dano playing the riddler and speilbergs father, writing a riddler comic, writing his next movie all in the same year...AND being a father on top of that literally how does he do it
paul and i have only been parents for a year & four months and we have employed at least a dozen women over three continents in that time, all of whom have made it possible for us to do our jobs; this is not to mention our family & friends who have pitched in. the debt is immense
Now streaming on Netflix is maybe top 3 completely overlooked and snubbed films of last decade; Paul Dano and
@zoeinthecities
‘s masterpiece Wildlife (2018).
Carey Mulligan should’ve been nominated and it’s a travesty she wasn’t.
petite maman has a runtime of one hour twelve minutes and for that duration it took me out of myself and somehow restored me to myself. also it made me cry? but in the good way? which, after the last month, felt like a balm. anyway. i recommend.
in 2012 a journalist on the RUBY SPARKS press tour took me down for wearing a Hello Kitty bandaid. she implied it robbed me of any feminist bona fides. still makes me mad. but it’s 2018 now boo, i will fight for your right to wear whatever you want, fuck anyone who says different
my brain keeps getting caught on the fact that for the next few years, most new movies & tv shows will have been written pre-pandemic, and therefore be set in a world where covid-19 didn't happen, aka we're about to get a whole lot of science fiction.
endlessly proud of paul, carey, our cast/crew/producers/team--and the film we made. it has been paul's absolute dream to show a film at cannes. we are honored & thrilled to be here. 🖤
#wildlife
if I could be put in charge of any IP and do whatever I wanted: a LITTLE SHOP OF HORRORS movie, Paul as Seymour, Betty Gilpin as Audrey, Richard Kind as Mr. Mushnik, Bobby Cannavale as Orin Scrivello DDS, Keenan Thompson as Audrey II. and dream big, Todd Haynes directs it.
watching RESERVOIR DOGS for the first time and in this scene where mr pink & mr white are arguing, and mr orange is bleeding in the other room...look at the jugs on the counter👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼and how they are divided in the frame by the chair
"What do you do?"
"I'm an actor."
"Act-RESS."
"😶"
"What would I know you from?"
"I have no idea."
"What have you been in? List some things you've been in."
"No."
"Seriously, what have you been in? I know your face."
[Lists things I've been in, dying inside]
"No. Nope. No. No."
Just watched
#ToAllTheBoysILovedBefore
& loved it. It reminds me of the best of what spoke to me in the best of John Hughes's movies. Plus sisters. Plus a more diverse cast onscreen than many movies. And you can watch it TONIGHT on
@netflix
💗💗
give me your pettiest nagging complaint of the moment, the one so small compared to the trouble in the world that you're too ashamed to put anywhere else
having re-watched NETWORK & SUNSET BLVD in the last few months, i feel strongly that we have collectively underrated william holden as an actor. thank you.
ahem: my mom told me not to buy new summer pjs for the baby, but just to cut the arms & legs off the baby’s old long sleeved pjs, and you know what, she was 100% right
i'm all for solidarity & visible protest but there is definitely at least one man in that room wearing a
#TIMESUP
pin who is the exact opposite of an ally
me, casual: i respect how tom cruise is going to ride the mission impossible franchise until he dies
paul, not casual: the day tom cruise dies we are going to go into MOURNING. as a NATION. it will be the first worldwide blackout. on that day, earth will not be visible from space
In the absolute terrible stew of this time, I keep coming back to this thought: that my life to date would have been much happier (and more expansive) if I had been more comfortable admitting what I didn't know. "I don't know" can be an open door, but it's a scary thing to say.
SHE SAID premieres at NYFF today, and I want to say one thing beforehand: one of the many things that made me want to be a part of telling this story is that it depicts two working mothers making the (usually invisible) effort of balancing their home life with their work
women have to be stronger than men. life requires it of us. our bodies require it of us. the system requires it of us. the strength of other women humbles me. they make me strong.