I lived off-grid up in the mountains for 4 years, here’s what I learned:
1. Solar panes are not enough.
2. Chores are good for your soul.
3. Winter is brutal, be prepared.
4. Keep the pantry stocked.
5. Off grid is overrated, community is more important.
Just sold my house, bout to build a new one, doing most of it myself.
I got 4 kids at home my wife and I homeschool.
I co-own a construction company with 20+ employees.
I train 6 days a week running, biking or swimming + 2 days doing weights.
I don’t do well with idle time.
My wife found this old pic on the left.
I honestly didn’t even recognize myself but I recognized the shame and guilt I felt.
I was so miserable. Struggling with alcoholism and so much self doubt.
Nothing changed other than my decisions, found ways to make gains & kept rolling.
Kids today will never know how cool ESPN was before Disney.
Eating breakfast with Stuart Scott, would watch Sports Center sometimes twice before school.
Colin Cowherd on ESPN radio was prime. Listened on ride in every day when I got a car.
It was all sports and humor. No woke
Yesterday I ran a 5:50 mile. First one ever under 6 min.
8 years ago I was pushing 300 lbs, too fat to enjoy any physical activity and too ashamed to get my butt on the trail or in the gym.
There is no quick fix for fat and lazy, change starts with the power of your decisions.
Old Me: 100 lbs overweight, no self control, struggling with alcoholism
Friend: .....
New Me: Lowest weight since HS, looking strong, training 3-4 days per week.
Friend:”You look good dude, just worried that you’re lifestyle isn’t sustainable”
Seriously bro? 🤦♂️
At the Mariners game. Guy behind us is yelling at the top of his lungs.
It’s annoying but really bothering my younger son. I’m thinking great gotta deal with this jerk all night.
Out of nowhere he shows up and hands my son a baseball signed by one of the M’s.
He’s like “I
Wife got up at 5AM to go lift in her friends garage gym.
I can’t tell you how proud I am of her.
At one point, I thought we were done. Depression had its hooks so deep that I feared it would take her forever.
God is bigger than our depression and by his grace we’re still goin!
My brother is trying hard to get me to move out near him in Texas.
I have been look and there’s a lot of really nice land out there.
But damn, where do you get views like this in Texas?
Yesterday my wife took our 11 year old son to the public library to get his library card.
The librarian told him his account was private.
She/her said he needed to give permission for his parents to have access to his account. He’s 11.
These people are creeps.
I was a big dude. I told myself that I carried the weight well. I was tall and had broad shoulders, so 290 was ok.
Fact was, I was miserable. It hurt to bend over and tie my shoes.
I used to google before and after photos of people’s fitness transformation, I needed proof it
Just spent $3800 on a whole beef for the year.
750 lbs hanging weight. Local farm up the valley.
Paid $5/lb and seemed fair for this local market. What are you paying per pound for your beef?
Meet Korban, walked up to a project and asked for a job about 5 years ago.
He was 18, working as a hotel maid. We had a project next door.
He said “I need a man’s job. I saw you guys building and I decided I wanted to do that. So here I am”
Hired on the spot. He’s killin it.
Sat in my truck for a min before entering the gym today to gather resolve.
Illegal state mask mandates are back.
I was prepared to cancel my membership if they forced one on me.
I was the only one maskless, nobody said a word but the guy who fist bumped me and removed his own.
How zombie proof is your house?
This 22’ sliding barndoor closes off the downstairs, making it totally secure when the owners are away.
This is still the coolest project I’ve gotten to build, but we have another container home lined up for this fall. It will be equally awesome.
I know some guys who refuse to watch their own kids. Their wife never gets a break from parenting.
This is the weakest beta move ever. Dont care what job you got, moms work harder.
That said, after she gets away for a day or two, I get a fresh perspective on how awesome she is.
Student loans were crushing me. My excuse to turn to booze to relieve the pressure.
It made things worse. I spiraled into the worst, 300lb version of myself.
Things changed when I took ownership. I hustled & did hard things. Paid off my loans & got healthy.
Kill excuses.
There was a time I thought I would never do a pull-up again. It hit me how fat I was, hated it.
I have lost 100 lbs, gained 10 back in muscle in 8 yrs since. I had still been too afraid to try. I didn’t want to fail again.
I just knocked out 16. Another strength training win.
On the way to the hospital, when my wife went into labor with our second child, I stopped at McDonald’s drive through.
Not that guy anymore and blessed she’s still with me.
I had a wake up call and I knew I could not lead my family down that road.
Now I lead them up mountains!
2013: Drunk. Running from my responsibilities. Hurt to tie my shoes. Would get hot sweaty just breathing. I was a slob.
2021: In control. Meeting responsibilities head on. Doing hard things intentionally. Hitting the gym, trail, bike and slopes.
Best part, I feel fantastic!
We live off solar power on a mountain.
My homeschooled daughter is taking guitar lessons from her teacher some 600 miles away.
She’s talking via high speed Starlink satellite internet on a chrome book that cost less than a load of groceries.
Technology can be so amazing.
I was 10 years old when my dad quit his 2 jobs of Garbage Man by day, Gas Station Manager by night.
Started a small construction company in Oregon. It failed.
Moved to WA, and he started another. Never gave up and that company is now 21 years in biz.
Blessed to work with him.
Woke up to find out
@ZachHomol
is kicked off
@Twitter
?
Zach brings men together
Zach helped me get my temper in check
Zach showed me tools to control my emotions
Zach inspired me to stop being a loner and build community
Zach is a friend, a good man and should be on
@Twitter
9 years ago, 28 years old, I quit my corporate construction job to partner with my dad and build custom homes.
In that 9 years we’ve built 56 custom homes. No two the same.
He’s close to hanging it up but we’re on a roll now, I think we got 100 together.
Getting a reputation for building on some of the most difficult properties around.
Used to be frustrated that we weren’t getting easy jobs, but it required us to develop the skills needed to build anywhere.
Now that reputation is winning us the best jobs we’ve ever had.
What happened to counterculture ?
Where are the punks rockers? The underground? The defiant youth?
I feel like it’s me to be honest, a dad of 4, loves my wife, trying to live a natural healthy life.
This feels radical in today’s culture.
When I first moved up to the mountain, my new neighbors were some pretty seasoned and salty men who’d been up here for a few decades.
They told me I couldn’t call myself a true mountain native until I lived up here through 3 winters.
Going on my 4th winter, still off grid.
My 4 year old wants to play Simon Says with his older siblings but he calls it Science Says.
Child yelling Science Says hop on one leg. Science says spin in circles. Science says close your eyes.
Thought it was funny until I realized we all been playing that game for 18 months.
Double chin, gluttonous, no self control and looking for a pity party anywhere I could find one.
What changed?
I wanted to enjoy life, I made the decision to go and do things I wanted instead of hoping for change.
Lost nearly 100lbs, gained confidence & joy. Just move baby.
@zachhomol_
When I was 7, playing “eye spy” in the car, I told my mom there were angels all around us.
Seconds later we T-boned a truck that pulled in front of us, going like 55 mph.
I had to be life flighted to the hospital for internals, mom and siblings took the ambulance.
Still here!
Up at 3:30 to go run up a mountain.
I made a friend recently through church. Guy just retired from the Marines.
Dude is a badass, so when he invited me I jumped at the chance.
This is the only time in my life I’ve been in shape to randomly do a half marathon with 2 days notice
I’m a builder, have 25 employees, do about $5M/yr in custom homes.
2020 had me done. Tank empty. Biz partner left after getting us sued on a failed project. Personal life on the rocks.
Finishing ‘21 as one of my best years personally and in business, appreciate you
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Putting my boys to bed last night, I tell them they need to stay in their room.
“Mommy just got home from a trip and we’re going to spend some time together”
My 5 year old goes “oh like romance stuff”
The kid gets it.
My daughter want to open a bakery called “Bake My Day”
She’s in baking class at homeschool co-op. Making cupcakes, scones and cinnamon rolls already.
She’s 9 and she’ll be a business owner before most people graduate high school.
I will 100% finance it. I love cinnamon rolls.
As a young dad I struggled with immature & non-constructive habits.
I realized I had to put these behind me or watch my children repeat them enthusiastically. They copy everything I do with 10x the energy.
Self control is worth copying, the cold helps me build it. 7 min today.
Walked out to get in my truck after work, this teenager across the street was waiving me down.
He’s like “hey I’m try to load up this couch but don’t know how to use this thing (ratchet strap). Can you help me?”
I played it cool, but I had been waiting for this my whole life.
Had a nice sunset dip this evening.
30 pounds of ice in 100 gallons of water.
7 min in the water. Was exactly what I needed to cap a hectic day.
Nothing brings stillness like the ice.
It helps me be the husband/dad I wanna be, building control over reaction and emotions.
My wife still loved me when I was overweight and out of shape, but I often ask her how. I was a slob.
Here she’s pregnant with our 2nd and I have a matching belly. My God, I was miserable.
Being/getting in shape has made me a better husband and father. And a better lover 🔥🔥
As a young man I wanted only 1 thing.
I was married 2 weeks after I turned 24, we had our first son 1 week before I turned 25.
I didn’t have all my shit together. Made lots of mistakes, acted a fool plenty of times.
But nothing will push you to be your best like being a dad.
Country life: on our dirt road last night, neighbor I dont know well stops me.
Quick intro then he goes on about the clouds and climate this & that.
Then I ask if he ever heard of weather modification.
Looks at me for a sec then asks “do you wanna come over & smoke some weed?”
I am determined to get a six pack this year, yes for vanity sake, also for a stronger core in general.
I’ve been stepping up my plank game, going 3 sets of 2,3,4 minutes. Stepping times up each week.
For those of you who have abs already, what are some of your go to exercises?
A little windy on the mountain, still worth it. I used to be 80lbs overweight, getting drunk every night, depressed and too out of shape to do the things I loved. That life sucked. Hit my first jump last night in over 12 years. Stomped it. Do hard things, they reward you.
When my wife was going into labor with our second child, I stopped at McDonald’s on the way to the hospital.
That was the biggest I ever got, pushing 290. Eating garbage, feeling like garbage.
Feel so much better at a healthy weight, being an active fun dad.
No lie is worse than the ones we tell ourselves.
In 2014 I was so overweight that my wedding ring no longer fit, had to get a new one.
Told myself it was ok, I wasn’t to blame, it just happens as you get older.
My whole body was swollen from alcohol abuse. I hurt all over.
I am fired up today! 8 high school athletes showed up to the group weights program I have been running.
The original 4 said “coach we recruited”.
Positivity is contagious. We are building strong men up in this weight room.
Fed can say whatever they want about inflation but to build a house you have to use someone like me, a contractor.
I can tell you for a fact that since 2014 the cost to build a new home has more than doubled.
Best way to save for a house is in assets. Cash won’t hold anymore.
Meeting a new customer today, she kept looking at me weird.
Finally she asks “so how old are you”
I tell her 35, she goes “wow, you look 25”
Sure beats being taken for mid 40s in my late 20s, 100lbs over weight.
Cut the booze, moved off-grid w/ chores, started lifting heavy.
Guy on the left was:
-full of self-doubt
-looked for external sources of inspiration
-wished he had energy to be a fun dad
Guy on the right is:
-full of energy and confidence
-does fun things with his kids & is present
-knows he has power of choice
Decision is the difference
This kid is going to be a master carpenter some day and that’ll just be one of tools in his chest.
7 years old and already a hard worker.
Trying to build this home more intentionally with my sons, taking the time to teach & show them how and why we build things.
Potential client: “our contractor went out of business, will you give us a quote to build our house”
Me: provides estimate
Client: “that’s 3x what our first contractor told us”
Me: “the one who went out of business?”
Client: “….oh….yah”
This version of myself is dead. I loved to be comfortable, sit/chill, eat comfort food and drink booze until I couldn’t feel the self loathing.
I have to kill this alter ego of myself every morning, hopping into that cold water and slaying comfort. No gains are made in comfort.
Just had the best billing month for my biz. Around $500k grossed.
Beginning of the year I was ready throw in the towel from stress alone.
On a Hail Mary I DM’d
@zachhomol_
to get coaching.
Best decision I ever made. Helped me get on track mentally, spiritually and physically.
I have a foundation poured for an out building I’m making into a home gym this spring.
I got my equipment early though, good deal from my bro-in-law.
Asked my wife if it was cool setting it up in the living room. “Where else you gonna put it?” She replied. Love her.
#homegym
As
@mikeddonatelli
crossed the Ironman finish line, the announcer said:
“Michael Donatelli, you are an Ironman! A strong Ironman.”
And he is, dude crushed it today. Gave me so much energy every time we saw each other on the course.
I hated when my dad would talk to me in old folk sayings.
But now I’m always saying crap like: “don’t look a gift horse in the mouth” & “honey catches more flies than vinegar”
It’s a lot more fun to speak this way, maybe the world needs more Old Man Sayings.
Got any good ones?
Weighed in at 289 in the first pic, had just went to the doc for Gastrointestinal Reflux Disease or GERD.
Read the side effects of Prilosec he wanted to start me on. I decided that wasn’t me.
Weighed in at 184 yesterday. Haven’t had GURD for a few years now. Pics 8 years apart
Trying to demo and rebuild this lakefront cabin. No road in, might have to barge in equipment and materials to avoid tearing up the shoreline.
We build on some of the toughest sights around Lake Wenatchee and Lake Chelan, it makes the job a lot of fun.
My wife is a stay home mom. Her last paycheck came from nannying a few months after we married.
She homeschools our 4 children and is on the board of our local homeschool co-op.
I’ve tried to cover for her when she’s been w/ her sick grandma.
Her job is def harder than mine.
Customer dropped off a signed contract and took the liberty to knock 2% off my fee in blue ink and left their initials.
Maybe as some negotiating tactic but that kinda game doesn’t sit right with me.
It ain’t easy to turn dow a half-mil project, he knows it. Told him no thanks.
This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Which means it was amazing.
Do hard things, they come with rewards.
The amount of fear I had to push through to scramble and climb to the top of this mountain was no joke.
But I would not give in, I had to stand on the peak!
My recent grocery bills have been astronomical. 4 kids will do that tho.
Decided I need to start farming, raise some cows maybe on my 10 acres.
I found hiring a fitness coach to be life changing and a fantastic investment.
Anyone know a good ranching coach? Is that a thing?
I guess I am now a mountain guide.
Leading a group of men over this trail Saturday.
Buddy asked if I’d lead a group with him for his wife and her friends for her birthday in sept. That one will be interesting.
So you wanna hike the Enchantments? Hit me up!
Closed a land deal today. Figured I’d share the details:
Bought property 2 years ago with for $15k, put $3k down and the owner carried the contract at $300/month.
Decided to sell the property now that it’s a long term capital gain.
Closed today on the sale, $67k. Do the math!
Don’t be intimidated by the long road, it’s the only path that will take you far.
Exactly 8 years difference. 290lbs vs 190lbs.
I was tired of not doing fun things. I made them harder in my mind, neglecting my body and diet.
The difference is the choice to do the hard things.
This feels good! Time to buy new shorts.
My goals have changed from weight loss to building muscle. I’m trying to bulk back up a bit but I am pushing 100lbs of weight loss.
Eating 4K calories a day, 200g of protein, still dropping.
I remember the call, grace period was up & I owed $1800/month in student loans.
I tried to numb my disillusionment with booze. A lot of it. Got fat & depressed.
Then I decided to do something. I lost my weight and hustled flipping homes until I paid off my loans.
Action wins.
Our wives got us.
I had a new shirt hanging in my closet yesterday, wore it to work without question.
Kept it on after the gym, then to dinner with friends where we all realized we’d been duped.
Wives thought they thought they were so funny.
“I am losing precious days.
I am degenerating into a machine for making money.
I am learning nothing in this trivial world of men.
I must break away and get out into the mountains to learn the news.”
-John Muir
Putting the finishing touches on another lake house.
Decking, railings and siding getting buttoned up.
We’re almost to paint and hope to turn this place over to the owners to enjoy this summer.
That time of year again.
When I first saw
@zachhomol_
on twitter he was doing this cold work.
The first time I tried it I barely got 1 minute. That was a slippery slope into some serious personal development work.
Got in a solid 10 min barefoot snow walk today. Just starting!