I don’t know anything about dating, have barely ever done it. But I am married to the coolest person I’ve ever met.
So some friends asked for advice on finding someone like that, and I said, LOL why not.
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Graph of decision quality among professional Go players. A sudden increase after AlphaGo. It is not only because they are learning from the AI. Players are suddenly inventing new moves at a faster rate too!
If you want to master something, you should study the highest achievements of you field.
What if we take this approach to raising and educating children?
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I can't strongly enough recommend setting off 20 hours a week to work on a project that forces you to learn and grow. It is not that hard to find 20 hours--you are awake some 110 hours a week!--but it adds up in a surprising way if you keep at it for 3 years.
It is tempting to think that so many people read books back in the day, but whenever I look up a great book that was "a sensation" when it came out in 1834, or something, it is always like "it sold 2000 copies!!"
The internet makes me blind to the scale of things. If I write a blog post that is read by 2000 people that feels like crickets. But last night we had 200 people come to the opening of a new exhibition at the gallery. It was overwhelming.
Ok, so this is interesting: it seems maybe the quality improved not after AlphaGo, but after the release of open source versions. Because they allowed players to look under the hood and understand the strategy. Just seeing the AI moves was not enough.
~150 years ago Swedish workers and farmers got really into teaching themselves new stuff.
They ended up building the world's most comprehensive system of non-compulsory education, an important factor behind the success of Scandinavia.
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there's this feeling which is the opposite of audience capture - this feeling when you find a group of people who give you permission to be more and more illegible and spontaneous
i love that feeling
It is hard to describe how moving it is that there are people who want to support my writing financially. 355 subscribers to be precise. If ~100 more were to pay, I could quit my job and write full-time. That is crazy. I will at some point support my family by writing!
Escaping Flatland is such a joy to read. It's the first newsletter I've been a premium subscriber to.
"You just have to grab hold of what awakens a sense of loving curiosity within you" - on having ideas
Thank you!
@phokarlsson
There is a parallel here to cognitive apprenticeship theory, ie the idea that the reason cognitive skills are hard to learn is that we can't see them so you should externalize them for students. For humans to learn from AIs, perhaps making reasoning explicit is needed.
Reading Tarkovsky's diaries and it fascinates me that he is focused on making more money - it is not something that bleeds through in his films. While working on Solaris: "Now I must earn as much as possible so that we can finish the house by the autumn."
Writing the blog has made me much more agentic and changed my life in many ways. I felt afraid this would put me out of sync with my old friends (and it did to some extent) so I invested myself in making them more agentic, too, and it worked!
Been thinking about how I get good blog ideas. Short answer: a lot of input, tons of notes, then I look at the mess and ask what is most surprising and useful to me? then I unpack that. then I ask the question again. and prune. and then again. an example —
The 2-year-old gets really upset if don't read to her for hours each night but she doesn't really understand the stories so when my wife and I want to talk we hold books in front of our faces and speak. in. that. weird. book. voice.
When I write, I often worry that I'm not getting my points across, or that things will be misread—but the most pleasant outcomes are when readers find things in the essays that I didn't put there. Essays as a space to think in, rather than a knowledge transfer. Giving up control.
I'm looking for examples of: small communities that were formative for multiple people who went on to do extraordinary work *and* was designed with this in mind.
The Apostles at Cambridge fits the bills. What else?
Editorial meeting with my wife. Discussing a 6000-word essay draft.
She: "I don't care for this. Why should I?"
I give pompous reasons.
"No. Tell me why you care."
Less pompous.
"Try again."
Has cathartic personal insight.
"Good. Throw this out and write that instead."
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First, adults put a lot of effort into curating an exceptional milieu for them.
The children had access to highly skilled adults, whom they could observe and talk to.
They were taken seriously.
They had massive libraries. Etc.
my favorite new tech is that I can now read 17th century essayists and whenever I feel confused and upload a picture of the page to Claude and ask, "What means??" and I never have put the books down from cognitive overload again
Talked to someone who hadn't read the user manual for Twitter, so here's the TL;DR:
you use it as your notetaking app, saving thoughts you like
reply to ppl who's thoughts you resonate
when you've replied to each other a bit: go to dms
after some dms: do a call
be friends
Half an hour to midnight, the 6-year-old realized she couldn't read, which she had decided to learn in 2023. She refused to go to bed until she had finished a book. We made it at 3 in the morning. And now, 2024.
been on reading binge of great essayists recently and have two take aways, 1) they used to write some great essays back in the day, 2) i think we will write even better in my lifetime
@visakanv
You're entirely right that it is a good idea to just get on with it as soon as possible. (You have no idea how hard it will be. But you are absolutely right about how it will unleash you.)
This might be me being privileged but I've learned: make it easy for others to understand what you need to keep growing as a person and you often get it. "I want to do *this* but I'm blocked on *this*." There are people for whom helping you aligns with their needs.
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Another nearly universal pattern is that they had a lot of time on their own. Time to be bored. Time to explore their own interests. Time to figure out what excited them.
Also, imagine the patience of my wife, Johanna. We have two kids and can't afford a car etc. But last year I was offered $200k/year to write for a startup and when I told Johanna, she said, "Why on earth would you accept that? You wouldn't have time to write."
"we estimated the time trends of decision quality only for the decisions that differed from the optimal AI decisions." which I take to mean that the graph above shows only the improved decision quality of moves that are not direct memorizations of moves done by AIs?
Also, I highly recommend
@erikphoel
's piece "How geniuses used to be raised", which is a sibling to this one.
(I did some of the research for that piece, and working with Erik had a big impact on how I think about these topics.)
The interests where they would grow up to excel were usually first encountered during these hours of solitude. Their passions arose like a wild hallucination induced by overdosing on boredom.
this is what essays feel like to me to. it is like I have a bunch of rooms that I go to and think in. and then, after a few months they either collapse or I get bored and publish them. ideally someone else can move in for a bit, like a hermit crab
An idea I've been finding very helpful: my draft essays are *places I go to think*. In particular, they create a context for me to think better thoughts. A coevolution goes on, between the quality of the ideas I can have, and the context provided by the essay
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Have you ever noticed this when interacting with someone who has a less accurate model than you: that it’s like they have a VR headset on and are fighting against monsters you know are not there?
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Another pattern, slightly less universal, is that they were tutored one-on-one. Usually at home.
When you tailor your instruction to a specific individual, you can progress much much faster than in schools.
I was talking to a friend who loves to learn and wants to write but who prefers to keep it private out of impostor syndrome. "You should learn in public," I said and made a list of arguments:
1. If you want to find work doing things that fascinate you, it is much better to
The title of the essay (Looking for Alice) is a reference to Gertrude Stein, who refused to label herself lesbian, saying she just liked Alice.
People get a bit annoyed at her for saying that, but it is great advice: don’t assume you know what you are looking for. You don't.
Over the last decade, more than 10% of all top ten hit songs in the US were written by Swedish songwriters. Which is pretty impressive for a country the size of North Carolina.
Where did all that talent come from?
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Over the last year, I read an unhealthy amount of biographies of people that to me are exceptional. I took notes about their childhoods. von Neumann, Pascal, Woolf, Wagner, Curie - and about 30 more.
What are the patterns in how they were raised?
I think of agency as a twin movement: inward to a deeper understanding of what makes you tick, outward to a more accurate map of the world that lets you chart a path toward the thing you want to manifest.
I asked them what would be their dream life and then I pestered and gave advice until they did it. The guy who wanted to build stairs, now builds stairs full-time in his barn; the unemployed dad has raised a seed round for his startup; the musician has released his debut album.
@sferik
I used to work in a school and would ask all 6 year olds, who just started, to provide questions. Why is the sky blue? Why don't water fall of under the earth? Why does it become winter? Etc. The 7 year olds had no questions.
So what I did was I wrote an essay about what I liked about our relationship, and asked her to proofread it aloud one day. And the end I snuck in a proposal, and when she read that part, I was like, yes, yes, sure I'll marry you.
Going into 2024, I’ve been thinking about priorities.
My natural tendency is to do things halfheartedly and out of habit. I find I can do better when I approach it like this —
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Crucially, a lot of the learning was directed at meaningful work. They weren’t just learning from exceptional tutors - they were apprenticed to them.
The apprentice-like nature of their learning becomes more pronounced as they enter their teenage years.
There is something heroic about artists who navigate the incentive landscape around funding and money while remaining true to their art. It is easier to drop out and be "authentic," or sell out. But that narrow path: that is where you get Solaris.
After my ten-week run of weekly essays, I can say this model remains correct. I get about four times as many new subscribers per essay when I do biweekly essays compared to weekly ones.
The return on a blog post follows a power law (how many interesting ppl it introduces you to, how many opportunities, how many subscribers). So it's better to do few but good pieces.
Looking for a job that better fits my skill set.
I'm obscenely nerdy about learning and education, and a strong writer. Currently manages a museum.
Do you know a remote position where I could provide value? Please DM me.