It's not a book where I tell you how not to be a superwoman because I am still figuring it out myself. You can call it a continuation of my self journey that started with Lies Our Mothers Told Us. I call it building community, sharing our lived experiences. The bottom line is :…
Wow! An Indian male politician has not only addressed the elephant in the room but broken it down so everyone would understand. The elephant in the room?
Women's invisible labour at home - unpaid caregiving.
Brava!
In India, women do not loiter; their relationship with public space is purely functional. Their relationship with the public space is strictly utilitarian – going from point A to point B, often accompanied by a male chaperone.
#NotOk
Amitabh Bacchan is 77. Shifted to hosp w/mild Covid symptoms. Varavara Rao,also 77, a much bigger icon, is being refused med attn in jail despite worsening condition.Why? 'cause the former is a govt lackey & the latter an adversary?
#FreeVaravaraRao
@hrw
@amnesty
@UNHumanRights
SOS:
#VaraVararao
is seriously ill. Called up wife Hemalatha today, has been hallucinating about death of his long gone parents. Person with him in jail told family over phone that VV is in
#verybadshape
. Delirious. Unable to walk or brush teeth!
#RT
for urgent hospitalization.
The
@Uppolice
arrested
@sadafjafar
on Dec. 19. She posted three Facebook lives from a protest site. Throughout her videos, she makes it clear that the protesters were women and young children. The arson and violence was being carried out by hired rioters.
Trolling
@RahulGandhi
has been a national pastime for years now. Especially for attention seekers. That he has remained unfazed & decent through it all riles said attention seekers even more.
Update2: Sadaf was brutally beaten by the police, reportedly by a male police officer. She was beaten with a baton, kicked in her belly. She is bleeding internally and needs medical attention immediately. Raise your voice for her release. Retweet with
#ReleaseSadafJafar
Unpopular opinion: Women don't come back home from work - they come back to another oppressive workplace.
An 8 hour day should be followed by rest & leisure.
Shame on men who glorify this exploitation as love just so they can continue to laze around guilt free.
*toxic newsroom alert"
#longthread
I have worked twice in Indian newsrooms. Once in the early 2000s and one recently. Sorry to report nothing has changed in the two decades. These newsrooms are as toxic as ever. Incl the othering of women esp senior journalists.
“I know enough women who are totally patriarchal, who are totally anti-women: who do nasty things to other women, and I have known men who have worked for women’s rights their whole life. Feminism is not biological: feminism is an ideology”.
#KamlaBhasin
Sadaf is one of the most strongest women I know. She's a humanitarian, she doesn't stay silent in the face of injustices. She is an insipration to every one of us. We do not need people like her to be silenced. We need them to continue to lead the fight.
#WhereIsSadaf
How ill mannered are Indian men? This guy next to me is half leaning into my seat. I had to ask him to sit straight. And he's looking at me like I abused him or something! Indian men need a finishing course in how to behave in public. So annoyed!
Last night we went out for a quick bread omlette. It was around 2 am. As we waited for our food, a couple of policemen came by&started throwing their weight around. "It's navratra, why are you selling eggs?"
What next?
Surprise home checks for non-veg in our fridges?
This will be an ongoing thread on high-paying writing opportunities collected from various sources. Below are mostly specialized publications that pay really well. Good luck!
#PitchToThisEditor
The nastiest and loudest voices against
#RheaChakraborty
.
Sisters. Ex girl friend. A female super star who calls
#Rhea
a “small time gold digger, druggie”. A female anchor. Congratulations,
#Patriarchy
! You have done it again. Pitted women against each other successfully.
She's nowhere near the protests, she's asking the media to show the faces of the rioters, and yet she's arrested, her family not informed. Her whereabouts have remained unknown for two days now. Her young children are alone and scared.
#WhereIsSadaf
@myogiadityanath
?
I have a collection of TIME covers that goes as far back as the 1920s. Today I get to add one of my own to it & this is so special because it chronicles a critical juncture in our country's history&the role women played in it.
#100_Day_Farmer_Movement
#100DaysFarmersProtest
Pls! Pls! Pls! Don't ever use the goddess analogy for Indian women. Like ever! That's where all the hypocrisy and misogyny stems from. That's the facade behind which all the ugliness lies.
Conflict with
#Pakistan
will:
1. Shift pre-election narrative from
jobs & farm crisis to national security.
2. No accountability for intelligence failure over
#PulwamaTerrorAttack
3. More distress for the common Indian esp in Kashmir.
#masterstroke
I have burnt many bridges - domestic and international - over the last 21 yrs. It's cos of a thing called SPINE. I don't care about the names they call me - that's part and parcel of not being a sheep.
I once watched a clip of an i/v of Ranbir Kapoor&Katrina Kaif when they were dating & where he insisted on answering for her. After a while, exasperated, she called him out. Making fun of a female co-star's anxiety - his wife's pregnancy - the dude is a poster boy of sexism.
But I am still tweeting this out because I was not angling for an apology to satisfy my fragile ego. I am not a man. A wrap on the knuckle won't make this systemic problem go away. Indian newsrooms need to run their own gender sensitization campaigns.
After the implementation of the NRC in Assam, 1.9 million people were found to be lacking papers for citizenship...69 percent of them were women.
@kavita_krishnan
@suchitrav
@ForeignPolicy
#journorequest
I am looking to connect with journalists who work with human trafficking in India or those who might want to. This is with regards to a fellowship. Watch this space for more details on how to apply etc etc in the coming days. Pls also RT in your networks.
All I want to say is that I have roamed the aisles of this bookstore on countless afternoons. Sometimes I even imagined my book being displayed there. That day is apparently here. ❤️
@Bahrisons_books
@AlephBookCo
So according to
@sonalikulkarni
Indian women are lazy, entitled, aggressive and demanding. They don't want to work& want to get their lifestyles funded by their partners.
Am sure she'll next say:
Streets are safe but Indian women lie cos they want to stay at home and chill.
Whenever I went to visit my late gran in law Mahasweta Devi, she would be writing simultaneously in 3 writing pads. One could be a novel, the others probably short stories or articles. She made it look so effortless. It's not I realize as I stare at three thick files on my comp.
And if you are a male editor reading this and you consider yourself an ally then pls do know that being an ally means taking more proactive stands than just giving a stern talking to the perpetrator. It's no deterrent.
#threadends
And yes I do also have three major international awards to my name, hundreds of bylines in some of the world's most prestigious publications. At 23,I was the youngest editor&producer at BBC World Service in London. I also worked many years as a correspondent for TIME magazine.
I'll continue to highlight mistreatment of women journalists in Indian newsrooms through my own experiences as a warning to my peers&for women who will come after me. I urge other women to spk up too. If you don't, you are doing a disservice to women who will come after you.
There were times when I wanted to give up. Writing a book while being a full time freelance journalist&mom + the Covid yrs was brutal. But I am glad I didn't&here it is.
(book out on July 5..You can pre order here : )
Cover design by Bena Sareen.
Urgent request: My father is admitted in Fortis hospital in Kolkata. We need two units of O+ blood. He needs an immediate transfusion. Can anyone help pls? My DMs are open. Grateful for any leads.
@seagullbooks
When you don't segregate your garbage - someone has to go through your stale leftovers to scavenge for the stuff that can be recycled. It's someone's job but we can help make that job somewhat dignified. Segregate dry and wet waste. Don't wait for an official diktat to do so.
(Translated by Iqbal Abhimanyu)
सदफ ज़ाफर को लखनऊ पुलिस ने 19 दिसम्बर को गिरफ्तार कर लि��ा है. वे प्रदर्शन स्थल से फेसबुक लाइव प्रसारण कर रही थी. अपने वीडियो में वे ये दिखा रही थी कि वहाँ प्रदर्शंकारी महिलाएँ और बच्चे थे, और आगजनी और हिंसा संदिग्ध, बाहर से भेजे गए लोगो द्वारा
And then yesterday this guy began sending me bizzare msgs. Gaslighting me. Saying I self destructed. That I would be nowhere. I don't know what nowhere for him is but I'm 45 and I think I have achieved enough in my life without ever resorting to bullying team members.
Look at the tone of the msgs. And the apology msg. These men don't even know how to treat women colleagues with respect. They treat them like they treat the women in their households - with open or hidden disdain.
Woman card because I asked his boss if they would have treated a male journalist with my kind of credentials this way. Of course not. They never would. He apologized to me and made the other guy apologize too ( that's why I am leaving his name out).
मानवतावादी हैं, अन्याय के खिलाफ चुप नहीं रहती, हम सबके लिये प्रेरनास्रोत हैं. हम उन जैसे लोगो को खामोश करने की साजिश को कामयाब नहीं होने दे सकते, बल्कि उनके संघर्ष को आगे बढाने की जरूरत है. आप सभी ये पूछेँ कि
#WhereIsSadaf
और उन्हे जल्द से जल्द रिहा करने की मांग करे.
But the passive aggressive vibes continued unabated. And I decided to step down to secure my own mental health as it was triggering past trauma. It was getting stressful. I don't work well in hostile environments. No one can. Or should.
फैलाई जा रही थी. वह टकराव से दूर रहते हुए ही मीडिया से गुहार लगा रही थी कि हिंसा फैलाने वालो का चेहरा दिखाए. इसी बात पर उन्हे गिरफ्तार कर लिया गया है, उनके परिवार को सूचना नहीं दी गई. उनके बच्चे अकेले और डरे हुए हैं. सदफ मेरे परिचितो में सबसे बहादुर महिलाओ में से हैं.
I don't need certificates from men who have a quarter of my achievements. See the screenshot of msgs from his mad rant below. I am not revealing his name for a reason that I will write down below.
Dear Mr. PM, instead of trying to cash in on chaiwallas and chowkidaars for political mileage and vain posturing, it would have been great if you had actually done something to improve their conditions. Like for eg. Enforced the implementation of minimum wages. (1/5)
That Ram Sita ki jodi is still used to mean an ideal married couple is telling of our attitude towards women in India.
Ram - who makes Sita walk on fire to prove her purity & then abandons her when she's pregnant & later takes away her children is the ideal Indian husband! 👇
I struggled with this for a while but I will come out and say it. The
@nytimes
has a very problematic work culture. I have been burned by their editors before and yet as a freelancer, you learn not to take these things personally and pitch again.
#JournoRequest
Are you a woman between the ages 19-60 who have battled/battling the costs of being a woman (imposter syndrome, perfection, mental load etc etc)? If you are she or know someone I can talk to --- I would love to hear from you here. My DMs are open.
This is workplace bullying &women face it way more than men across the world. Needless to add it happens mostly to senior women professionals. Harassment in the workplace has different names and we need to talk about all of it. Please talk about workplace bullying.
Job applications for reporting positions should not ask for sample pitches. Pitching is a lengthy process - it involves a lot of time and research and original thinking. It involves a reporter's time and effort. It's not free & that labor needs to be respected.
#freelancegyan
"She's currently only WORKING as a homemaker" - says Che; instead of the usual "she's just a housewife". So proud of this new generation who are learning new ways to talk. Housework is also work - and it must reflect in the way we talk about it.
Lies Our Mothers Told Us was rejected by every publisher in town apart from
@AlephBookCo
. Really thankful that it went to them & through
@PujKrishnan
. She knew immediately what I was trying to do in the book. She saw the book as I saw it. That's a gift every writer deserves.
I had recently joined
@News9Tweets
as a part-time consulting editor and my experience there was bizarre and toxic. From the word go they would try to work me over and beyond my hours - which I politely refused. Asking them to respect my hours.
Why is this even an issue, again? It's Pakistan's wish who they want to nominate for the Nobel. It is
@shahfaesal
's wish if he thinks it's a good idea. Is it troublesome because he's a Kashmiri? Just give
#ImranKhan
the Seoul Peace Prize and be done with it!
Watching
@shahfaesal
defending his statement that
@ImranKhanPTI
should be nominated for
#NobelPeacePrize
on
@BDUTT
show. He went into such contortions to defend himself. Pathetic. My advice to this intelligent young man: weigh your words.Unscripted terrain is treacherous.
The image below is not something to be proud of - it is a stark reminder how the world continues to fail women.
Just flowers and chocolates won't cut it no more. Recognize her needs & the round the clock unpaid care she provides.
Share her load. Set her free.
#mothersday2024
I didn't want an apology. I wanted action to be taken against a systemic problem so that it didn't recur with anyone else because younger women are often reluctant to take these issues up fearing for their careers and rightly so.
I identified 6 kinds of people on Twitter (excl trolls)
1. Genuinely nice&kind
2. Literal (dont get sarcasm)
3. Unnecessarily confrontational cos some "how to get more Twitter followers" article told them to be so.
4. The explainers
5. The mansplainers
6. The advisers
I am extremely envious of all the people who are joining fancy news teams across the world. I have not been offered a job in the last one decade! Now I have written it down - I am feeling sorry for myself. Send love pls.
Finally
@twitter
labels this appropriately. And I agree with
@SaketGokhale
there should be a mechanism to ban accounts that repeatedly share misleading and dangerous content.
LinkedIn bs of the day : some dude giving big gyan on how with great planning a child need not derail your career. He was back at it 6 months after his child was born. All thanks to my wife, he says..Bro doesn't see the irony. What about your wife-was she able to do the same?
Women will never be truly free till they stop imagining/planning their wedding alongside their education. Never hear men say they've been waiting to do this/that for their wedding. But women do it all the time & there's no doubt men stand to gain more from marriage than women.
Methinks these two are the most adorable beagu babies out there and I am not partial at all. 😛 what you got fellow
#beagle
parents? Show me your Beagle babies.
@beaglefacts
We had no power for three days or mobile signals. We were locked in. When services were restored I came back to a strangely hostile newsroom. No one would interact with me. The guy I reported to won't acknowledge me or respond to my emails and msgs. This went on for two days.
What is a woman's sixth sense/intuition? and why most men don't have it? It is probably because men grow up free. Women grow up fearing everything around them. Obv their senses are sharper. Women's sixth sense is just a reflection of an inhabitable world made by men, for men.
“The women of today are the thoughts of their mothers and grandmothers...They are active, capable, determined and bound to win. They have one-thousand generations back of them... Millions of women dead and gone are speaking through us today” ― Matilda Joslyn Gage
This is such a wonderful review.
"This book reminded me that before being a ‘mother’, my mother is a woman who is subjected to subtle patriarchal oppression of family, which no one talks about because it’s ‘invisible’ to us.."
The remote gig - although it paid peanuts - suited me because I was based in Uttarakhand for a while - researching a couple of stories for other clients. But owing to the Uttarakhand disaster over the dussehra break, I couldn't work for a few days. Duly informed everyone.
At the
#DelhiBookFair
today. Glad to see crowds in every book stall. Was also heartened to hear Lies was selling very well - and as an attendant told me "readers are coming and asking for it by title - that doesn't happen often." I am pleased as punch of course 😆
The workplace is made for men
It is extremely hostile to women unless it's the so-called "feminine jobs" sector (beauty, life style, caregiving)
I consider myself strong & resilient - but I have been constantly pushed out of workplaces too. (1/2)
During which I sat doing nothing. Wondering what the hell was happening. It was then that I got in touch with this man's boss asking what was happening. He assured to look into it & later informed me that it has been fixed.
Pls read the post below👇
I had the CCTV video of the incident that happened with me too. But even though my neighbor was extremely aggressive with me - I chose to treat the video as proof for the cops rather than use my reach to make him viral. I was angry at his behavior…
Signed some copies
@Bahrisons_books
today. While there, three people who had just bought the book came up to me to get their copies signed. That was a lovely surprise. Thank you everyone for buying, reading, appreciating and showering so much love on the book.
@Raksha_Kumar
NDTV for me would always be
@PrannoyRoyNDTV
. I watched him mesmerized as a kid. His erudition as attractive as his modesty. I wanted to become a journalist to work at NDTV! Maybe he will find yet another pathbreaking institution. I sure hope he does. 🤞
On Apr. 24, I was illegally detained in a meeting room by
@EFEnoticias
India bureau chief and a woman he claimed to be a lawyer. They intimidated and threatened me with dire consequences if I didn't sign an arbitrary termination letter.
@DelhiPolice
@SushmaSwaraj
@SwatiJaiHind
I learnt a lot at
@BBCWorld
. But the racism and sexism in those newsrooms can break you for life or help you grow a thick skin. I was deputed to Europe World Today as a producer as an emergency stand-in one evening (This is in 2000)
It's not unconditional love. It's unpaid slavery & abject cruelty..Whoever is glorifying this - be very ashamed of yourself. A mother is never off duty? And you take pride in that? Shame on everyone who thinks this is about frigging love!