many judges had said they would just stop marrying people so my father was waiting for this. "I'm gonna be the marrying man!!" he crowed. "Hell if you can buy a bowl of marijuana in Colorado a man should be able to marry another man."
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my father is a municipal judge. In 2013 NM made gay marriage legal. In protest, every judge in his county stopped performing ALL marriages. Except my dad, who bought a rainbow bow tie and had me rewrite his vows to be gender-neutral. Here he 9 months later at his 80th ceremony.
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(the town my parents live in is the VERY FIRST town in NM when you drive south on I-25. So people from Colorado wanted to come down to NM to get married, of course, as it wasn't legal there yet. My father made this possible and much easier for many, many people.)
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also I should note this was, like, a controversial thing at the time. People were mad my father chose to do this. One guy told him at morning coffee he was going to come and "see what you're up to" and my dad said he'd have him held in contempt if he tried to disrupt things.
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my father married one of my close high school friends to her girlfriend, they came from CO specifically for this. (unfortunately it didn't last) All my queer high school friends were like "oh yeah that makes sense, your parents were always the "cool" ones about it."
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(what that meant in the 1990s was that my parents taught me that queer people were human beings worthy of being treated the exact same as everyone else, which was quite radical at the time lol.)
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anyway we have this joke in my family that we have a family motto: you can't just let people get away with things. Which makes me unbearable sometimes, I know, and has played out in many ways in my life (and in the lives of my family) but it basically means: do what's right.
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my dad has really been through it the past few years: he's had a TBI, brain surgery, COVID (twice), and cancer. But he's still fighting.
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anyway since this is a hit tweet and you are all here support New Mexico's Transgender Resource Center
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Twitter is sometimes magical, y'all. You can't tell me any different. Check out this whole thread!!
@misskubelik
He did the most amazing thing for us that day. When nobody else in our families accepted us, he did, he showed up to the court house even though he'd just left for the day.
We drove from Denver straight down and we were so worried when they'd told us that he wasn't there.
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@misskubelik
I LOVE YOUR DAD. Please tell him that I am a big, big fan! "I'm gonna be the marrying man" is so fuckin wholesome
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@LeninsPetFrog
yes 100% this is why I remember THE EXACT PHRASE because I was like "dad. man come on." 😂
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