FIVE THINGS to ask someone before dirty talk:
1. Three names you like to be called
2. Three names you DON'T like to be called
3. Three words for your genitals
4. Three physical compliments you enjoy
5. Three non-physical compliments you enjoy
BDSM *can* be healing.
That doesn't mean it needs to be healing to be valid.
You do not need to justify your kink as "healing" or therapeutic for it to matter.
While BDSM can be therapeutic, but is it never, ever a replacement for therapy.
I truly do not think that most people understand that for a professional. 90% of worship is only enjoyable for the person doing the worship. Don’t get it twisted. Ask yourself “who is this REALLY for”
What do you think Rosie the maid did to deserve this?
Also, what do you think
@AdahVonn
did to George Jetsons body?
Tune in this week to
@DomConLA
to find out!
Only placing emphasis on BDSM as healing is harmful to SW.
It can create unfair pressure and/or expectations or dilute kink to be seen as palatable only when it's viewed as a form of therapy.
I’m moving apartments after 7 years in one spot & starting to go through storage.
I have a ridiculous amount of sex and kink odds & ends. Therefor I will become SEX TOY SANTA.
If you need any kink costuming, harnesses, and a few toys sprinkled throughout I am making donations
Writing an article all about prostate and the URGE to say:
“Careful when exploring this area. That’s where a lot of people store their fragile masculinity.”
Why do you think so many artists and creative types are attracted to this industry?
Kink is entirely customizable and we get to create a bunk of wacky shit different from the previous day.
Why the fuck did I not think of this sooner.
Hello world.
@YesMissShayla
and I are available for doubles. I will wrestle you and beat you up. Your punishment is being her porcelain throne. You will be verbally tormented the entire time.
You will love it. We will love it.
I just finished a wrestling session with a tag team mother-daughter duo and it was PRECIOUS.
When the daughter put the client in a choke the mom goes “that’s my kid!” Beaming with pride.
The fact that my birthday is 6/9 means I am exactly where I am supposed to be in life.
Support my fitness (or squirting) endeavors by wishing me a happy birthday with a gift of your choosing.
Today’s
@DomConLA
is so nourishing. Feeling inspired to continue creating resources and spaces for the community. Proud AF of the tight knit NYC community representation
*after seeing the Barbie movie*
Me: But now I want a Barbie movie where there is no plot and we just get to enjoy Kens as second class citizens who live for Barbie
My boyfriend: Isn’t that just Domination?
Me: No, in Domination it’s still *about* them in some way.
Because THESE amazing women guided me through the pandemic virtually with their wisdom, expertise and sassy brand of humour - to meet in person after two years was like being in Times Square when the ball drops!
@DomConLA
Today is my BIRTHDAY. Yep, 6/9, because of course it is.
You know what would be the BEST present? Supporting any of my events, online classes, merch, etc...
The more you support, the more I can do and create for YOU!
Domming 101 was the first class I ever created and taught. 5 years later she’s gone through a ton of work and revisions and she’s more accessible than ever online
Join
@YesMissShayla
and I
OCTOBER 10th to realize how in reach domination can be to you.
DEPOSITS ARE NOT JUST FOR SW CLIENTS
Can’t tell you how many no shows I’ve gotten for coaching calls, people who PROMISE they’ll repay with another card if I refund the one they didn’t want to use to purchase & watch a class.
There is a reason this is an industry standard.
Sex/BDSM/any situation where we are inherently vulnerable are excellent places to provide aftercare. Sex is where we are vulnerable, both physically / emotionally. It is the behavior afterwards that could validate or invalidate an entire experience.
@math_magazine
@AmandaPicotte
NYC pros looking to gain some fetish wrestling experience:
inspired by a triple I had
@missxreena
and
@NyXXMachina
in on, I can do real-time training on one of my regulars during our session on the 26th.
If you’re interested in learning some chokes, reach out!
Who’s to say the patriarchy doesn’t WANT TO be pegged?
Who’s to say the patriarchy wouldn’t consensually get pegged?
Pegging isn’t inherently emasculating nor submissive, so why do you automatically treat it that way?
#PegThePatriarchy
(cc:
@lunamatatas
)
I have some free content, some is pay-what-you-can, some is competitive w market rate, some is what feels good for me.
You cant determine my value because I determine my value.
If you dont want to buy my products/attend an event, don't tell me about it. Just don't buy it/go.
Announcing DomCon Los Angeles
⚜️ 2021 Public Class Presenter ⚜️
Lola Jean
@lolajeandotcom
Public Class & Time:
Sun Aug 22, 1:30 – 2:30
“Verbal Domination”
🎟
💻 Website:
An example of stating your boundaries when clients make attire requests:
"I session usually in a sports bra and shorts. I can take *some* attire requests but I do not wear lingerie or bikinis due to the physical nature and closeness of the session"
Once a year we dust off our carnival games, take our funnels out of storage, and bring together Brooklyns best and weirdest.
One night only. There will be games.There will be squirt.
This time we dance on a Thursday!
SEPT 21ST
Doors at 7pm
Show at 8pm
People on the internet trying to neg me: “Your parents must be so proud”
Me: “Actually they are, but I don’t base my self worth on my parents approval.”
Wrestling for Lovers made it to the Post!
“Jiu-jitsu coach LT Hawk and professional dominatrix Lola Jean have combined their disciplines into a class”
Check it out in our 5 part video series OR wait for the return of our PLAYfight PLAY party next year 🤼
It’s my last weekend as a Brooklyn resident before I become Nyack, NY official and I’m rounding it out with a Brat class at
@HitMeUpNYC
on Thursday and performing at Foreplay for
@houseofyesnyc
on Friday.
I’ll be back regularly & hosting events. Can’t get rid of me that easy!
*at a play party, with someone I played with*
Him: I didn’t realize you were that kinky!
Me: Most of my friends are into needles & I know someone who ate their own flesh… so I consider myself tame.
Kink is subjective.
There will always be someone “kinkier” or more “vanilla”
autoresponders and pre-filled text responses changed my booking process but most importantly my sanity.
This week
@YesMissShayla
will whip your inbox and communication skills into shape for BDBC on
@7DODomination