I think our love language stems from how our parents loved us.
I usually do a lot of acts of service to my exes: cleaning their condo & running errands for them.
Realized this because my father just cooked me scrambled eggs after I casually told my brother that I want one.
Darating talaga tayo sa edad na ang gusto nating Christmas gifts ay food processor, air fryer, washing machine, wok, knife, containers, coffee mug, etc.
My 19 y/o pamangkin who grew up in a small and close knit community in Davao just described BGC as boring and soulless.
“Nice man ang place pero murag mafeel nimo na sad ang mga taw.” She added.
I’m proud. That’s a cultured girlie right there. Charot.
I lived under my uncle’s roof from Elem to College. And to afford my “own” space, I guess, is worth celebrating. I can’t watch TV unless they are around. 8 yrs after, meron na akong sariling TV (and aircon).
Reminding myself that it’s all about the small wins. 🪴
Ang sarap makakita ng LGBTQIA+ teenagers publicly showing their love. Saw this couple sa MRT today. ✨
We hate to admit it but homophobic and transphobic pa rin tayo as a country so it takes courage to do this.
Tuloy lang tayo bec our love is valid.
Happy Pride! 🏳️🌈
Went home around 7am today. Asked my father if he’ll cook breakfast. Hindi daw but told me if I want something to eat.
“I want corned beef,” I said. After 10 mins, it’s already cooked.
“Di ka ba kakain?”.
“Sayo lang yan,” he replied.
(Sry for the unappetizing photo.)
During pandemic, ang daming nagshe-share ng fake news about COVID sa GC ng homeowners.
As a palaban, kino-callout ko sila. After months, nag-resign yung homeowners President. At ako ang binoto to replace the position.
4 years and counting na akong HOA President. 😂
Barbie movie: About women.
MJ Lastimosa, a woman: Hindi ko bet parang school project.
Twitter folks who love Barbie: HAH? Baka di mo naiintindihan. Bobo ka. Etc etc.
Feminism: 0
Patriarchy: 1
The paradox.
Wait lang naman sobrang online bullying naman agad kayo. Nakakatakot naman mag ka opinion dito minumura nako ng iba sa ibang socmed ko only because I did not like a film? I liked Little Women and Lady Bird naman, why attack me if I say I didn’t find it as good. It’s just my
An example of Filipino toxic culture: when
@LloydCadena
confronted
@kyoquijano
by making a vlog about an issue that could be resolved in person. Improved version lang ng nagparinig at nag-tag ka sa facebook. Immature much?
Not a life hack, but in case you want to increase your ‘quality of life’:
- Look for a remote job
- Live in the province of choice
It’s simpler, quieter, peaceful, and budget friendly to live in the province than Metro Manila.
I can never see myself again to live in the metro.
(Using the tweet by Gelo as an anchor why specificity is impt)
Every time someone asks us “Kumusta?”, the usual answer is “okay lang”. That’s normal. But it would help to be more specific next time.
We can try these questions to illicit good answers:
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BF’s a yt IT guy. So he’s never seen that much film in his life because he spends his free time on video games.
I told him to watch a Filipino film with me. It’s his 1st time. We watched the trailer but told me to pick a diff one. But I forced him.
Ayun… umiyak sya. HAHAHA!
Monogamy is valid.
Open relationship is valid.
Throuple is valid.
Polygamy is valid.
Remember that these are relationship models. Couples can subscribe to a model that works for them.
If you can't understand a model, instead of striking a judgement, we can opt to read abt it.
It’s such a nice idea to have a partner that goes beyond romance and sex. To have a supportive and secure person who’s always behind your back. And after a long tiring day, there would be someone who’ll ask you, “what’s up?”
Nakakapag-rally ang ibang Christian groups regarding SOGIE. Pero di makapag-rally regarding mass killings, injustices, polygamy, corruption -- na mas highlighted sa Bible. 🤔
Assuming that something “happened” after… then this is a perfect example of gays thinking that other gays are trophies and objects. And congrats to you Sir, you are helping to move the conversation forward. Lol.
If you’re hesitating to post thirst traps because you feel that it’s out of your brand, think about what my good friend told me:
“Kung branding mo ay tali-talino at puso-puso, tandaan mo teh na di nakikita ang talino at puso sa picture.”
So post it.
2017 was the time I left the church because I can’t pretend anymore. I know I’m gay. 5 years after, I’m happier now.
Today in Bukidnon was a moment of reflection. I was reminded that if God hates gays so much, then why do I experience such wonders and peace?
A former friend who’s a hardcore Christian asked me, “How can I pray for you?” Told her I hope we win sa TAYO Awards. She never responded after that.
She messaged me again on my Bday and asked. I told her I hope she can pray for our Pride event. She never responded again.
“We need a community to discuss these ‘uncomfortable topics’ with.” - Janella Salvador,
@superjanella
We had an opportunity to sit together with Janella Salvador and asked her why safe spaces are important.
Talk to me about film theories and marxism charot!!! But seriously, it’s really hard to be attracted to someone na ang tanging natatanong lang sayo ay kumain ka na ba or ano ulam mo… ☹️
I stopped being discreet when I realized that we all have a collective struggles as part of the LGBTQIA+. And these struggles can’t be confronted if I am just in the “shadows”. That’s why right now, I am honestly uncomfortable being with a crowd of cis x hypermasculine gay men.
May we always find the courage. The courage to go through difficult conversations. The courage to take accountability. The courage to embrace the rough battle within. The courage to love. The courage to hope. 🌱
I decided to come out in 2019 because whenever I think about my future, I only have two options:
a. Marry a woman and have a “normal life”
b. Live with a man, live my truth, despite the possible “backslash” from the ones I loved.
I chose the latter… now, I feel freer. 🧵
Ever since I broke up with my manipulative and toxic ex, things have been good and peaceful lately. Toxic relationship can put so much weight on your shoulder. It dragged me down and finally, I’m free.
Read books, poems. Watch films. Go to museums. Listen to jazz music. Watch plays & concerts. Immerse yourself in art. Bec. art makes us human. When you realize our capabilities as beings, that’s when you see everyone with dignity. Art can make you unlearn your toxic mindsets. :)
“Ma, Pa, sorry di talaga tayo yayaman sa trabaho ko.”
“Wala man mi nangandoy na mo dato ta. Kung unsa imong gusto support mi nimo.” (Di naman kami nangangarap na yumaman tayo. Kung ano gusto mo support kami sa’yo.)
😭😭😭 I AM SO LUCKY WITH MY PARENTS 😭😭😭
If you are doing advocacy work here’s a hard pill to swallow: it’s not about you.
While our feelings are valid, our service to the community should transcend beyond the self. Hence the term community service not “self service”.
😚
As someone who’s in an open rel, I realized that it takes maturity, security, and open comm to “effectively practice” it.
This rel. model doesn’t invite me to fuck around but it changed my perspective on how I view sex: that it’s merely a physiological response to a need.
honestly kung iba strict monogamy sa relationship basta ako strict open rel. kumantot ka ng iba wala akong pake balakajan basta safe!! mahal naman kita ei puta kah
Dami kong naramdaman sa concern na ‘to. Ang Huling El Bimbo + Fireworks just made me realize na tapos na. Move on na. Okay ka na. Luh. 😭
#Eraserheads2022
#AngHulingElBimbo2022
Was sharing random kabadingan to my ate, about relationship etc. She said out of nowhere, "Di naman bagay sayo magka-relationship na strong ang personality kasi for sure maga-away lang kayo palagi. Hanap ka ng kalmado at not complicated like you."
She. did. not. stutter.
“We need a community to discuss these ‘uncomfortable topics’ with.” - Janella Salvador,
@superjanella
We had an opportunity to sit together with Janella Salvador and asked her why safe spaces are important.
Daming agit sa tweet na 'to. The essence lang naman of this tweet ay akala ko we are all about women empowerment because of Barbie? Bakit parang ang daming barda when a woman voiced out an opinion which is relatively harmless naman.
@mckenncastro
Okay… gets naman na nasaktan ka. Pero di ko gets kung bakit kailangan banggitin ang religion to tell your story. Ang irrelevant. “muslim guy” 😬
Read a quote that says, “Some of us never found time to be happy because we’re too busy trying to be strong.”
I felt this. Paused for a while and realized that in retrospect, it’s hard to grow up gay and poor.
I know I am a strong independent person and I am enjoying my solitary life in my apartment. But there are just times that you wish that there’s a warm body beside you before you sleep. 🥲
This is the exact definition of my favorite bar in Metro Manila. Walang signage, sobrang chill, walang party, usapan lang.
You can also go there alone to decompress and chill, and nobody would judge you. Kakausapin ka pa ng mga tao.
But I want to gatekeep it. Charing!
For >30 y/o single gay/queer folks, a question. Is there some kind of panic on your end that someone might consider you as “too old” to date? If it’s not giving you anxiety, how did you come to terms with it?
Can these drunk kids learn how to ask for consent? Medyo basag kahapon while this college kid introduced himself to me then decided to kiss me on my neck and cheeks.
Me to my gay batak brother: Nong, turuan mo nga ako mag Spiderman push-ups.
Gay brother: Girl di ka bagay mag-Spiderman push-up. Bagay sa’yo Darna Push-up.
💀🤣
Uncomfy talaga ako sa quote na, “Parents, children are not your retirement fund.”
La lang, my parents are victims of generational poverty and they know that “investing” in education for their children is their only way out of that cycle.
🧵
Feeling good about my progress. From 77kgs 8 months ago, now am at 69kgs!!
Cutting down sugar and exercising at least 30-45mins twice/thrice a week seems to work!
Daming pagkakataon na akala mo payo ang kailangan. Pero mas maraming pagkakataon na ang kailangan mo lang ay mga taong makikinig sa’yo at sabayan ka sa iyong katahimikan.
Totoo pala yung kapag early 20s ka gustong gusto mo magtravel kaso wala ka pera… tapos ngayong late 20s na ako gagi gusto ko nalang mag-stay sa apartment at manood ng series at magcuddle sa unan at ubusin ang pera sa pagkain at appliances. 🤣 Kapagod ang life.
Tumawag si Mama at Papa para tanungin kung ano ulam ko. Kasi masarap daw ang ulam nila. Nagluto si Papa ng Crispy Pata na sobrang lutong daw ng balat.
Hindi mahilig si Mama at Papa magsabi ng I miss you or I love you. Pero ramdam ko ang pagmamahal nila sa lengwaheng alam nila.
I miss my 6’4” giant who always gives me back scratches to put me to sleep and cuddle me as if he is a weighted blanket. Not to sound needy but ang hirap ng LDR mga tih.
While we are in an open relationship, nothing beats the deep connection we share to each other. 🥲
When we were 21-23, we thought that we are already adults. But we actually have no idea what we’re talking about.
Because now that we are in our late 20s — huge crowd already overwhelms us, partying is not that appealing anymore, and joining hookup culture is tiring.
• From 1 to 10, 10 being the happiest, nasaan ka ngayon? (Ex: If the person answers 7, follow up mo, “ano yung nawawalang 3 na yun bakit hindi 10?”)
• May x months na lang before the year ends, ano nilo-look forward mo this year? Meron ba?
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My ex told me in front of my face: “Ginawa mo lang ata yang safe space para makalandi ng ibang bading.”
When your passion is misconstrued and misunderstood by someone whom you formerly love, the pain is unimaginable.
I’m just glad I found someone new who’s ever supportive.
Bugsh! Pero yes, if ure discreet/closeted and would just love to find a community, attend kayo sa session ng Iligan Safe Space. But PM me first para I can brief you what you need to do. Hello,
#AlterIligan
! 👋
If u want to learn more what we do, see
@iligansafespace
on IG. :)
If education is the goal, then the language of the criticism of her tweet should be constructed well. Hindi yung bullying ang atake. Well, sabagay, what's new twitter.
BF’s a yt IT guy. So he’s never seen that much film in his life because he spends his free time on video games.
I told him to watch a Filipino film with me. It’s his 1st time. We watched the trailer but told me to pick a diff one. But I forced him.
Ayun… umiyak sya. HAHAHA!
Anyone from here from Lanao-Iligan Area? Dalawa lang kaming magha-H2H this Friday and Saturday and we need more volunteers. Your RT is highly appreciated. 💗💕
Sa mga
#AlterIligan
at
#AlterLanao
dyern - baka bet niyo munang mangampanya. HAHA!
• Kita ko sa soc med mo tahimik ka, what’s up?
• I saw sa stories mo na nagpunta ka sa — kumusta yun?
• May nakita akong RT mo na pagod ka na, musta ka now?
• Last time we caught up, you told me this —, musta updates don?
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