Good men will say
#menaretrash
as a matter of fact and not look for any points for it. Good men challenge systemic abuse. Good men challenge the men close to them on misogynistic behaviour. They don’t ask to be treated differently. They ARE different and behave accordingly.
Police should be on this. The school can be traced from the video. Find this child. If a grown man has been sleeping with a HS kid for 4 years, it’s highly likely that there is statutory rape involved.
We have to stop consuming criminal behaviour/GBV as content.
I really don't think there's something beautiful about this video!. Young women it's okay sometimes not to accept expensive gifts from a boyfriend. 🤔💔 do these kind of kids even care ukhuti they're humiliating their parents out there?😔
I fucking loathe the term daddy issues, because it makes children responsible for the emotional toll of being abandoned, & absolves men of responsibility (the ultimate scam of patriarchy) for their unending BS.
If you’re hurt from being abandoned that makes you HUMAN not weak.
SBWL a women’s vigilante organization, a covert network, that moers the living shit out of abusive men.
You get a text when an abuser is active in your area, then we go as a group & beat them. Men’s egos would never allow them to publicly admit women beat them. We could thrive.
Kahle kahle, if we are keeping it real, SA is a matriarchal society. It’s women who are running households and holding families together. It’s women who are keeping people alive.
Patriarchy is an ancient scam that has us by the throat, but once you see it, you know the truth.
Stop disclosing other people’s abortions. Stop disclosing other people’s pregnancies, even happy ones, without them having disclosed FIRST. Stop disclosing other people’s HIV statuses.
Even if you hate the people, don’t do this. There is some info that’s just for you alone.
Deadbeating should become an administrative nightmare for men. It should come up when you renew your license, when you pay your taxes, when you renew your asylum/residency, when you apply for a job, when you apply for loans and funding. It should haunt you until you do something.
Please update your will and name an executor. Tell your loved ones where they can find your insurance documents and who to contact. None of these things are nice to think about, but you will spare your beloveds enormous additional trauma should you pass on.
So now everyone needs solar power, a generator, an inverter, a borehole, private security, private health care, private schooling, an armoured car, a gun, ninja training, & a power of discernment second only to Jesus when it comes to seeing through scammers.
Je suis kgathetse.
Where do you guys learn corporate email language? Is there a resource for that passive aggressive, deflective, yet pretending to be “neutral”, mind fuckery, witchcraft English?
Kind Regards,
Siyafa
You cannot budget your way out of structural inequality.
You cannot financially manage your way out of apartheid’s legacies.
You cannot be financially savvy enough to outwit the gender pay gap.
You cannot budget your way out of black tax.
Stop acting like this is normal.
Being around elderly male relatives who cannot do basic domestic duties, not because they are incapacitated, but because of patriarchal conditioning, is truly exhausting. Even where there is genuine love, it leaves me feeling drained & wanting to keep my distance for my own peace
I’ve been working on a piece about the life of Saartjie Baartman for the past 3 years. It will be on at the Market Theatre in September. It’s called Venus vs. Modernity. Saartjie’s life is the lens through which very single black woman must pass to understand how we are seen.
Can we have a moment of silence for lephondo laka🙏🏾😭❤️. God did the things there. Thank you olive oil. Thank you aloe. Thank you wool. Thank you hair food. Thank you natural hair blogs. Thank you satin doeks. Thank you water. Thank you Black Jesus. Thank you dlozi. *hums sefela*
The Smiths polyamory may be 100% ethical with each other, but it doesn’t change the fact that sleeping with your kid’s friend, who is mourning the loss of half of his family, and is struggling with addiction, in manipulative. I don’t want to be a party pack in someone else’s poly
The least of my issues with a leader is them having an outlet for their creative expression. I think that creative freedom is an asset to any person, no matter what you do for a living.
Let the mainstream Western media’s depiction of Winnie Mandela be a lesson to black women everywhere to be the custodians of our own memory. Because through racist and sexist eyes we will all either be monsters or invisible. I am blocking anyone who talks shit about uMama. Fokof.
This is what 45 looks like. Thank you god, ancestors, babies, besties, art, food, inspiration, water, travel, and above all, thank you to every self I have ever been. You got me here.
#7FebruaryKeLetsatsiLaManyora
Will you tell your daughter that you & 4 friends once pinned a girl down & pulled up her gym dress. Will you tell them how the girl fought & got away after you pulled her underwear down. Will you explain that this is who you once were even if it’s not who you are now as a father?
My granny became a granny in her 40’s. I’m in my 40’s, with children way younger than my Mom & her siblings at the time, and I’m working, travelling, still jol’ing, still energised, still searching, and contemplating what the next phase of my life will be.
Feminism saves lives.
Don’t let these dumb MFs scam you with ageism. Life gets BETTER as you age if you live on your own terms. My kuku and my achievements are mine. I am accountable to no one but me. My boundaries are stronger & my intuition is getting sharper. They don’t want you to own your power.
Jumping to stage 6 after SONA without any warning is brutal. No power for 10 hours a day, over the weekend, when people must do washing & prep for the week ahead.
Black women’s anger is pathologized because no one wants to confront or change the systemic injustices that are at the root of this rage.
Also, sometimes people confuse passion for anger, because they have never known passion & it scares them. And that, my baby, is just sad.
We are keeping my 4 year old at home for the rest of the year. He went back to school for a while, got sick, made my Mom sick, so issa wrap. Plus this guy HATES school. When asked what he’s going to do with the rest of his life with no education, he said, “I’ll clean the garden.”
Nothing more satisfying than walking away from a man who ain’t shit. Your self esteem goes up. You start believing in your ability to protect yourself. You learn to listen to warning signs. Your skin glows. You have more energy. Your money starts looking better. Your mind eases.
Leleti took a severe beating after cheating with Ngema - Sunday World
This man keeps getting work. He keeps getting lifetime achievement awards. His abuse is legendary. There are many more stories. I hope this is the beginning of the tide turning.
Being a fuckboi is being a misogynist.
Lying to get ass is being a misogynist.
Sexually harassing colleagues is being a misogynist.
Maintaining alliances with abusers is being a misogynist.
Paying women less than men for the same work is misogyny.
SA masculinity is misogyny.
Enhle’s Mama’s a make up artist who has been in the industry for years working on productions. She didn’t need Black Coffee for access. She already had it. She grew up with it. She is also kind, sincere, and hard working. Global exposure has not changed her. She’s still Enhle.
African widow cliches:
- you killed your husband
- you drove him to kill himself
- you stressed/worked/nagged him to illness and death
- you made him neglect his other family
- you are a vile bitter moloi who wants money
Just say you hate women & STFU.
This is important. Colourism is real. It’s pervasive, and it hurts. Silencing conversations about colourism, whether out of love, denial, or because of our own violent BS, is something light-skinned women can’t keep doing. We need to fall back & listen.
Mosadi o tshwara di hair piece.
Mosadi o tshwara di savanna tse pedi.
Mosadi o tshwara letheka ha a jaiva.
Mosadi o tshwara mkhaba ha a shwa di tshego.
Mosadi o tshwara lerato ka monateness.
Mosadi o tshwara di wings le sushi.
Give women money not praises
#NoSharpKnifeToday
My therapist said on Friday that in the depths of sorrow, it is not the despair that overwhelms us, but rather the love. I have not been the same since. Vulnerability is a radical act. Intimacy is a radical act. Perhaps the most radical act of all is opening up to receive love.
Staring at the face of someone I once loved inside the face of a small human who came out of me and realizing that the love has grown limbs, and a brain, and a heart of its own is humbling. My children have made me small but also vast. I never thought my heart could do this.
V-Mash’s death really hurts, because it shows how success & fame in SA are not guarantees of stability at all. How many times have we seen this same story? She was one of the best entertainers of our time. No one did it like her at her peak. I hope she is at peace.
#RestInPower
I had to move quote a few boxes across town, and I hired this company, Girls On The Move. They are an all woman company, and they work nationally with small, medium size & large trucks. They’re strong, efficient, & the sense of safety that I felt is priceless. Give them a try.
“Is the father in the children’s lives?” - a white South African proverb when speaking to black Moms about parenting.
Good morning & a hearty fuck you to everyone who thinks asking this question is appropriate.
Artists are committing suicide. Artists have lost homes & livelihoods. Artists do not have health care. This pandemic was an opportunity to show the sector that we are valued and supported & the Minister refuses to even address us directly after 2 years. These attacks are valid.
This picture is sublime. The magic, the euphoria, the movement, the clothing designs, the fabrics, the light, the colour palette. I could look at it forever.
It’s such a pity it came via your moronic tweet.
My granny told me about how women gangs used to beat up men who sexually assaulted children in Sophiatown. The tag line was, “If a man abused your child, you saw him coming and you saw him going.” They got shit done. The abuse rates went down. They called it “a women’s beating”.
Men who are more concerned about false rape accusations than they are about the real violations being experienced by the majority of women they know who will never get justice are a major problem. You side track us. Please stop.
#SueUsAll
Dr. Donato Monnapula Mattera, aka Bra Don, aka Bra Zinga, poet, gangster, activist, Muslim, Pan-African, orator, journalist, playwright, & human encyclopedia. My life would be impossible without yours. Sending love to your family that shared you so generously with the world. RIP.
Plot twist: No victims are perfect. You do not have to be a perfect person to be believed when you are on the receiving end of GBV. You do not have to like someone to acknowledge that they are a victim of GBV. Why do we hold victims to a higher standard than perpetrators?
South African artists, Please don’t define your success based on whether or not this country cares about your work. At the best of times, this country ignores its most precious gems. Hopefully what you create will outlast the norms of your time. Being ahead of one’s time hurts.
At some point I genuinely believed that Helen Zille added value to political discourse in this country. She was someone I respected until Twitter. I’ve had her blocked for years. She is callous, racist, ignorant, & unrepentant. She has never been the woman she thinks she is.
I have no desire to engage with racists, misogynists or homophobes in the name of “robust discussion”. Please miss me. Turning social justice issues into WWE wrestling matches achieves nothing other than flaccid entertainment for people who never cared in the first place.
Don’t PR spin me. Language is my domain. You will lose.
I asked you a question: Are you waiving the interest payments for people who are making arrangements with you, or are you planning on capitalizing on their desperation in the long run. Answer or stop talking.
@lebomashile
Nedbank is mindful of the economic impact the COVID-19 pandemic is likely to have on our clients, many of whom are already under pressure due to the country’s low levels of economic growth.
This country has been a ticking time bomb. If you’re reading this, I wish you peace of mind and protection over you and your loved ones. Wishing you health.
This idea that GBV in gay relationships is just “two men fighting” is harmful & wrong. Twitter folks insist that victims should speak out & then ridicule them mercilessly when they do. The entire country is the same. I pray for peace and protection for Mohale & all survivours.
My heart goes out to Mohale 💔I can’t imagine bearing the brunt of so many jokes and being ridiculed, meanwhile..,
Family, when are we going to start talking? 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
What’s happening to Malaika leaves a terrible test in my mouth. To have to disclose the intimate parts of your life as a pre-emotive strike against a jilted lover who wants to destroy your credibility is awful. SA’s brand of misogyny is particularly ruthless and cowardly.
@Nampree
@DJFreshSA
@euphonik
I believe you Sisi. These two have been named in far too many stories of abuse. It’s consistent. I am so sorry that this is what you went through. No one deserves it. Thank hon for validating others who may be too scared to come forward right now.
I’m a Nkosi Sikelel’iAfrika fan. It’s a masterfully composed hymn. Removing the “Woza Moya” part does it an injustice, because it’s a powerful invocation. Replacing that part with Die Stem was a mistake. You can’t reconcile with Apartheid. Antiracism doesn’t work like that.
Thank you. This day took everything out of me. I came home from this shoot and sat on the couch for 3 hours, numb, until the sun set. Arguing with racists on tv is not my portion anymore, but I am glad that this moment took on its own life.
I’m turning 45 in 3 weeks. My eldest is in high school. I want to get more tattoos and piercings, and I am thinking of getting blue braids. I want Zodwa wa Bantu to perform at my 50th.
Imagine waking up and caring what a man who neither feedeth nor fucketh me thinks🤣🤣🤣.
@lebomashile
No one says don’t own your power, all we are saying is that let there be a distinction between a 40 year old and a 16 year old female.
Right now you sound like a adult stuck in their teenage years.