2 years ago today, I came out to my coworkers when they asked everyone to show 1 thing that represents us. I decided to show the trans flag. My heart was racing...I was so nervous but figured now was the time. Then, no reaction. Until finally someone said, "What country is that?"
So I applied for an apartment today and the landlord is this kind 70 year old man and he is like “You have a previous name on this application?” He looked at my dead name and then went, “Were your parents okay? Why would they choose a boys name for such a pretty young lady?”
My mom made me cry 😭. When my mom was born, my grandfather played "Isn't she lovely" in the delivery room. She said when I was a kid, that if she had had a daughter she would've done the same with me but now I've transitioned...and this morning on my birthday she sang it to me.
I’ll still never forget when I came out to my mom and she was like, “Just make sure they wear protection with you.” She clocked me as a bottom immediately and I was like “Damn, what if I need to wear protection, huh?” And she laughed. SHE LAUGHED. Then said, “I doubt that.”😫
The answer as always is...the place where the coolest and hottest people are from. I did feel silly and laugh a bit though because people were seriously trying to like guess the country.
I rarely ever don't have a mask on, but I've also never been gendered correctly without one on and when that day happens I'm gonna take out confetti and a banner and just run around screaming.
I was trying not to laugh or cry but it was so sweet. He was so confused. I said, “Yeah, I know…it’s an ugly name so I changed it.” He was like, “That makes sense. I would too!” Awwwwww
Side note: He told me that if I let him borrow the reserved parking space for a couple hours a month when he hangs out with his friends (and he would give 48 hours notice) he would knock $40 off my monthly parking to bring it down to $60 which sounds like a hell of a bargain.
“Why do a lot of trans people post so many selfies? That seems so vain?”
Listen, I hated the way I looked for two decades. I hid my body. I refused to look in the mirror. I just started liking the way I look on some days. You’re damn right I’m gonna celebrate that.
Oh my god!!! I was on a video call with my mom and she was like, “By the way, your boobs are really noticeable! Your surgeon did a good job.” She genuinely didn’t know that HRT can cause breast growth so I told her that it was just from HRT and I saw a look of shock/pride.
My old boss misgendered me and my new boss stepped in and corrected him and told him to never make that mistake again. Hello? 👀👀 I’ve never seen that happen before. She was pissed and cut him off on the spot
I’m not going to list my dead name but imagine it being something like “Kevin” or “John” (not that those are bad names at all) and then there’s this 70-year-old Chinese grandpa reading that and being confused because he didn’t know I transitioned until maybe this moment.
For additional background, He gave me a paper application, I filled it out and asked him to check to see if I missed anything. There was a section that said, “Have you had credit under a previous name? If so what was it?” I had checked yes. He stopped at that line and then asked.
On Tuesday, the Earth, sun and moon will align to create a Blood Moon eclipse. It will be the last total lunar eclipse until 2025. Mark your calendars.
My mom, just now on the phone: "I show people pictures of my daughter. All the guys I show the photos to don't know that you're trans, not that it matters, but they always ask for your number. I won't give it out though because 1) I'm your mom 2) they aren't good enough for you."
So I walked back to them! I was nervous but yelled out their name and they turned around and saw the look of confusion turn into surprise and then they asked me if I’m (my real name). I said yes and then they hugged me so tightly and swung me around. (1/2)
I saw at a bookstore a cute lesbian couple with one of them having a thin chain (like a very discreet leash?) mostly hidden under their rain coat that extended from their neck and clipped to the other person's belt loop and that was so cute.
My gf: “I went to the art store and was disappointed that they didn’t have a star sticker sheet.”
Me: ”That’s very specific why would you need that?”
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Her: 😏
Me: “I cannot believe you.”
I'm visiting my mom's house for the first time in like years... She went through and replaced every single award I've gotten as a kid with my new name, put flowers over anything that was like gendered, and also updated all the family tree stuff with my new name..😭
...there's a cis dude who likes me and asked me out but I don't think he knows I'm trans...I don't think he really minds but I should probably tell him before the date right? I've never really been in this situation before
My step mom told me yesterday, “It’s no surprise to me that you’re a beautiful girl now. When you were growing up I sometimes told your dad that you would’ve been a very pretty girl. Then you transitioned and now I get to say I’m right.” 🥺
Hi…I didn’t expect this many people to see this. I thought it was just going to be a mini feel good moment with a few friends but thank you for being here. I’m also honored by the new friends who followed. I hope to get to know you more and I will do my best to follow back later
I’m getting back into fighting games again and I keep hearing terms about “punishing your opponent” Oh, punish this, punish that. How about you punish me? Huh? Why don’t we set down the controllers and-
Recreated the "Damn, nobody want you fr" meme with my mom.
Mom: "Mirai! How are your gfs doing?"
Me: "I don't have a gf at the moment."
Mom: "Oh but you're poly right?"
Me: "Yeah."
Mom: "How about your bfs then you're bi, right?"
Me: "..kinda? but no bfs."
Her: "..damn"
Then they introduced me to their friends and told me I was so beautiful! They were so shocked and told me that I looked beautiful!! So, I finally got to see my brother again!!! The end (2/2)
She was like, “Oh damn for real?!!! That’s our genetics for you, I guess. Damn girl!” (They aren’t that big but I think she just wasn’t expecting any growth at all)
My pronouns are actually she/they, but whenever I tell cis people that they say they because they don't feel comfortable calling me she based on how I look.
I'm she/they in the sense of like use she 80% of the time and slip me a they every once in a while as a little treat.
Story time (wholesome)!
I was headed home after dropping a friend off at the airport. When I got back, an old lady was walking up to my car with a stern/serious look on her face. She firmly said, "You don't know anything about cars, do you?" I was confused and taken aback. (1/8)
I was so strong today!! I’m so proud of myself! I’ve been waiting in line for 20 min and some lady just walked up to cut in line. I politely said, “Oh the back of the line actually starts over there.” She replied, “I know. I’m in a rush.” I said, “Lady! We all are! Now move.”
I need you all to know how much this art means to me. I’m like crying because this is the first time I’ve actually felt like…black girls represented as soft and allowed to be cute and shy in a sapphic way and just…. 😭😭😭😭
Me: “Mom…it’s just tough because people misgender me all the time and say mean things to me on occasion and it makes me really sad.”
My normally polite/soft mom: “Tell those pathetic loser no-life bitches off. You don’t take shit for being black. Don’t take it for being trans.”
Also I forgot that I’m the shortest sibling by a long shot. I have three brothers and they are all so much taller than me! Everyone is like at least 6’0” (if not more) I think and I’m 5’6” so I’m tiny by comparison to them
Also, I wanna be clear. My mom and I don’t know really talk about intimate stuff and is very avoidant on topics such as this, but she did inform me that it just was genuinely important to be safe when being with new partners. It’s just the wording that made it embarrassing
Update: She's trying to recommend bras to me now because she doesn't like that I use like bralettes with no support but it's more like...I don't have the money to get a proper bra that fits and supports.
I saw at a bookstore a cute lesbian couple with one of them having a thin chain (like a very discreet leash?) mostly hidden under their rain coat that extended from their neck and clipped to the other person's belt loop and that was so cute.
For those who didn’t get it, she knows I appreciate praise and so she’s trying to find a really silly way to give me praise by giving me a star sticker when I do something well.
My roommate was in the room with me when she heard it since we were on speaker phone. My roommate also yelled out, "She has curves people would kill for." My mom yelled back, "Damn right, she does! she got them from me!!!!"
I'm so embarrassed by these two....
I got a really unfair performance review at 8am a long time ago. I packed up my stuff went home for the day at 8:40AM, told them I’m taking 2 weeks off without any approval first, got a new job, came back and quit. In the exit interview they asked me why I left and I said…(1/2)
I…didn’t expect this many people to see this. I don’t have anything to plug really except I hope you’re all having a great day and are staying hydrated if you can! Don’t forget to take care of yourself and I’m rooting for you!!! 💜💜 Oh and also be kind to others if you can!
“I joined here and was willing to take less pay because I thought I was making a difference. However, now I realize that all I did was sell my soul and if I’m doing that, I’d at least expect a higher price than whatever tf you got going on here.” Then I left for good.
I feel a bit sad because when I first came out as trans, I was so starry-eyed and excited to finally date people who saw me for me and treated me like the girl I was and I had many dates after dates with people who didn’t treat me well and now this version of me is disillusioned.
Let’s gooooooo. I was doing my like performance review and because I got my new job mid quarter it was a joint evaluation between my old boss and my new one and yeahhhh she saw him misgender me once and was like, “Nuh uh…none of that.”
Me, embarrassed: "Before you see me with more revealing clothes, just know that I have stretch marks in a few places..."
Everyone I've told this to like clockwork: "LET'S FUCKING GOOOOOOOOO!!!"
She’s also this woman with a very heavy southern accent since she’s from Texas and so it was wild to hear it come out so stern. I was sitting there like
My voice therapist: “So, for this vocal exercise you wanna practice like hissing. Do you think you can do that?”
Me, who hisses at my gf all the time: “Yeah, I think I can do that…”
Her: “Wow. You’re so good at that! You’re like really really good at it. Nice job!”
Now she's telling me about some game on the app store that she wants me to play because she thinks it has a trans girl in it and it reminded her of me and now she wants me to play it because I can romance people in it...
My mom wants to have a girls night with me 🥺 and if I’m not feeling well after traveling she wants to come over to take care of me and make me soup. I can’t even 😭😭
Next door neighbor just hung a trans flag from their balcony!😮I don’t wanna be awkward but I’m like, “New friend?” I wanna like give them a cute card or something just saying I love their flag.
For context: During this time period I was super depressed and my mental/physical health was declining, working almost 70-80 hours a week, constantly was on call (it was healthcare), and was underpaid by over $15,000 for the job I was doing. So, yeah. I was done.
These are the clothes that made me feel cute yesterday ☺️
(I’m still getting used to having to wear a hair clip because my hair has gotten long enough to cover my face)
She’s a lovely sweetheart. If anyone hasn’t seen this post earlier, this was her island when I visited her in Animal Crossing. Lots of trans pride stuff everywhere:
I went to visit my mom in animal crossing because she’s been begging me to for 2 weeks and y’all- I’m crying so much! Look how she greeted me and her island!
Okay but y'all wanna know the little detail I forgot to mention...the taller one who was probably like just a little less than 6 feet (182cm) was clipped to the belt of the 5 ft 5 person (165 cm).
I just woke up and looked in the mirror and like…that’s me??? Wtf?!!
Sorry for the dirty mirror but I heard that trans girls take the best selfies before they get to clean their mirrors
Now, I'm inside trying to get warm but I'm holding the scarf she sewed and as I left she said that for some reason she wanted to give me this very particular scarf that she felt blended together Black and Asian patterns. Little did she know it was very fitting. (8/8)
She walked over to a wall of scarves she made and looked at me then gave me one. She said, "I want you to have this to keep you warm in the cold. You were under-dressed while working on my car. A sweet girl like you needs warmth." ...she...called me girl. I was so happy. (6/8)
Then she helped me wrap it and I told her that I wanted to be a seamstress one day. She looked at me and then said..."Well if you'll keep me company every now and then, I'll teach you. I already have a station ready for you." We exchanged contact info and I went on my way. (7/8)
I know this isn’t a big deal but for someone like me who is conflict averse and usually retreats, standing up for myself felt massive. I know that like again this isn’t a lot though
I'm crying so much... I visited my dad again after a long time and he said, "I've never seen my daughter look so happy before...it looks good on you...it really does."
I don’t know what came over me because I am usually so mild-mannered and timid but she acted with what seemed like so much entitlement…anyway, she went to the back of the line but grumbled the whole time..
So much gender euphoria today! I just got done touring another apartment just now and it was an older lady and she was like, “Whoa! You are doing well for a single lady like yourself.” Then says, “This closet has so much room for all your shoes and purses you might need.”