The post mortem and autopsy reports of my entire family arrived in my inbox today.
My husband, Ed.
My son, Daniel.
My son, Harrison.
My daughter, Milagros.
All because of a fucking drunk driver.
I hate this fucking world
The eyes he shared with Harry are forever closed
Daniel's curls will never shine in the sunlight again
I will never see Milly's shy smile creep across his lips anymore
My children's father, Edward Lake, has joined our kids so they can play together, forever.
Mahal kita, Edward.
A year ago today
The post mortem and autopsy reports of my entire family arrived in my inbox.
My husband, Ed.
My son, Daniel.
My son, Harrison.
My daughter, Milagros.
All because of a fucking drunk driver.
I hate this fucking world
You know, I used to have dreams.
17 yrs ago today Ed & I started our love story.
7 yrs ago today we stood looking at the coffins that held our little loves.
Now it's just me.
Our love story shouldn't be this way.
You know, you could be me, right?
#NotOneMore
A 8 yrs ago today we took this pic for our family Christmas photos. I had no idea that this would be the photo that everyone would know my kids by for all time. Or that the next yr I would only have pictures and video of my children to remember.
This is too damn hard. Fuck.
6 yrs ago today the drunken killer of all my children and my dad, the drunk who seriously harmed my grandma & mom, began his reduced 9 Yr and 4 month sentence.
He was released on FULL parole Feb 9, 2021.
My multiple life sentences will never end.
#NotFair
#NotOneMore
I'm the only one left.
18 years ago today Ed and I started our love story.
8 yrs ago today we stood looking at their coffins.
Yesterday it was me and my family.
Today
Or Tomorrow
It could be yours.
You could be me.
4 of 4.
#NotOneMore
#ConsequencesMatter
I will enter the new year completely alone.
My multiple life sentences for crimes I didn't commit will never end.
My family will never stop paying the consequences of someone's decision to drive impaired.
Be safe.
#nye2022
#NotOneMore
#ConsequencesMatter
8 yrs ago today we took our last family photo in Harry's classroom.
Acc to the clock less then 24 hours later we would pick up our first new vehicle in 10 yrs, our family mini van.
I don't think I have the words how much I wish I could back into this photo and just stay there.
No matter what happened today, Daniel, Harry and Milly are not coming back home. My dad isn't coming home to my mom.
Nothing changed for me.
My family's killer Marco Michael Muzzo was granted full parole.
Thank you for doing your best.
I did.
#ConsequencesMatter
#NotOneMore
7 yrs ago today we took our last family photo in Harry's classroom.
Acc to the clock less then 24 hours later we would pick up our first new vehicle in 10 yrs, our family mini van.
I don't think I have the words how much I wish I could back into this photo and just stay there.
Five years ago today Drunk Driver Marco Michael Muzzo, the Killer of all my children, the Killer of my dad, who seriously hurt my nanay and my lola began his reduced 9yr and 4 mos sentence in prison.
I wonder what it's like to get a reduced sentence?
Mine lasts forever.
8 years ago tomorrow I was on my knees crying my heart out after watching my babies & my dad being lowered into the ground & covered with dirt and flowers.
I was forced to bury my children and my dad because of an impaired driver.
Tomorrow I will relive that horror...again.
7 yrs ago the drunken killer of all my children & my dad, the drunk who seriously hurt my grandma & mom, began his REDUCED 9 Yr & 4 month sentence.
He was released on FULL parole Feb 9, 2021.
I will pay for the rest of my life for his crimes.
Forever.
#ConsequencesMatter
8 yrs ago today I woke up with my kids.
They ate their last breakfast with their dad.
I eat my last meal with my kids. They set up the kefir, picked veggies.
They leave.
I wave goodbye from my driveway.
Ticktockticktockticktockticktocktick...
#MomLife
#StopTheClock
Today I light
#ACandleFor
my taken & hurt loves.
For my dad Gary.
For my son Daniel.
For my son Harry.
For my daughter Milly.
For my mom Neriza.
For my lola Josefina.
For my husband, Ed.
In honour of all victims & survivors of impaired driving, please
#DriveSober
5 yrs ago today I wake up with my children.
We eat our last meal as a family.
We go to St Jacob's in our brand new van. We try lavender ice cream.
They find a chair for daddy.
They leave for an overnight with my parents.
I wave goodbye from my drive.
Ticktockticktockticktock
7 yrs ago today I woke up with my children for the last time.
They ate their last breakfast with their daddy.
We went on a road trip to St Jacob's in our brand new van.
I had my last meal with my kids.
They leave with my folks.
I wave goodbye.
Ticktockticktockticktock
Harry & Milly died together holding hands & shared a gurney at the morgue. In the morgue they lay just like they did in Harrys bed, with their toes touching and heads at opposite ends.
Plan a safe way home tonight.
Don't drink and drive.
#StPatricksDay2023
7 yrs today is the day we buried my family.
Our children were rehearsing a dance that they were going to perform for us on Friday Oct 2 in the morning - our 10th wedding anniversary.
Here is the only rehearsal I have on record that shows them.
Thank you for your support.
Family Day 2023
So many bouquets for my family.
Lavender is for Milly.
White is for Ed.
Rainbow is for Harry.
Blue is for Daniel.
Yellow is for my dad.
Way too many bouquets instead of my people.
Too many lives gone
#drunkdriver
#ConsequencesMatter
#NotOneMore
My booful Harry. He loved long hair & flowers he would give to "boo-ful" people. Dandelions were his favourite to hand out to folks, he called them "baby sunshines". As we approach his birthday my broken heart is screaming with pain. He should be turning 13, not frozen at 5.
I found part of my last Val gift from Ed. It is just flat out wrong to eat old candies from a dead husband whilst seated in front of the urn of all your dead children. Yet, here I sit.
Another day of agony in my macabre life.
All because of a drunk driver.
#Valentines
Happy birthday my love.
I am so sorry that this is how we celebrated your 12th birthday.
I wish so badly that you were here.
Mahal kita, my Harry-Bug.
Xoxoxo
#birthday
#ThisIs12
8 yr ago today they're still alive right now.
Tick.
It was normal
I spoke to my kids for their good mornings
Ed goes to work
I sent my dad an email he will never reply to
Tock.
They're late.
No answer on my parents cells.
Tick.
They're really late.
Where are my kids!??
Tock.
7 yrs ago today my anxiety was through the roof
I know what tomorrow will bring
I'm not ready
I'm sick all day
I'm on my knees crying my heart out
I'm scared
I know what tomorrow will bring
I know what tomorrow would bring
I am not ready
I can't
DAMN DRUNK DRIVER!!!
5 yrs ago today
I spoke to my kids
Ed leaves for work
I sent my dad an email he will never reply to.
My day is spent cooking food my family will never eat, prepping laundry for my kids to put away, mending & sewing their clothes.
Wait, they're late.
Why???
Where are they??!?
In 10 days it should be Harrison's 12th birthday, July 8. I am sharing a photo & a memory shared by our family & friends.
It's no secret that Harry loved flowers, gardens & all the little creatures you can find In a garden. Luckily he had his daddy's gardening skills, not mine.
9 yrs ago today we took this pic for our family Christmas photos. I had no idea that this would be the photo that everyone would know my kids by for all time. I hate that I didn't get more time with them. I want them back!!!
This is too damn hard. Fuck.
In 12 days it should be Milly's 10th birthday, Dec 23. In honour of my baby girl I will be sharing a photo and a story each day.
On Sept 26 2015 we went on a family outing to St Jacob's in our new family van we had just picked up. Milly wore a beautiful dress. Story is on FB/IG
I have flowers instead of my people.
A Yellow rose is for my dad.
A Lavender rose is for my Milly.
A Blue rose is for my Daniel.
A Rainbow rose is for my Harry.
A White rose is for my Ed.
Flowers instead of people because of a drunk driver.
#DontDriveImpaired
#NotOneMore
In 6 days it should be Harrison's 11th birthday, July 8th. In honour of my son I will be sharing a photo & a memory.
My Aunt Wendy Fralick writes "I remember the first time I held Harry. He wasn't very old. I still remember how Harry felt. He was snugly and felt good in my arms.
Today has been utterly shit. More than usual, although not as much as being completely physically alone on Milly's bday.
I considered taking all sorts of stuff to die but settled on breaking open the Ben & Jerry's.
I am out of spoons.
Good thing I have a fork.
#NotOneMore
I miss making memories with my kids. I hate listening & seeing all of the families out there who get to make new memories with their kids. All day long,
Everyday I wake up and start crying. I cry all day. I don't get why I am here. There is nothing for me left.
8yrs ago today
Say goodbye forever soon
Not ready
I have to kiss them goodnight one last time
I am not ready
I have to tuck them into bed one last time
I am not ready
OMB, now??? More time..please???
Please???
Now.
Please??!?
I am not ready!!
Whywhywhywhy?!??
PLEaSE!
7 yrs ago today
I have to say goodbye forever soon
I am not ready
20 colour coded pallbearers;
I can't bear to see that word & my loves names on a list I write on a prescription bag of Harry's
I kiss them goodnight one last time
I am not ready
OMB now??? More time..please???
Today Milly should be 10.
Masaya kaarawan ang aking mahal na Milagros. Mahal na mahal kita.
Happy birthday my precious Milly. I love you so much
16 little pieces that made up my beautiful Milagros can be found on my Facebook page.
#BirthdayGirl
8 yrs ago today at 930 am, Milly created her last piece of art with her daddy before leaving for her last music class with Miss Sarah.
Her last...tick....her last...tock....
Her last.
#ToddlerLife
#LittleGirl
#art
#NotOneMore
Today should be Harrison's 12th birthday, July 8th.
Today's memory is from Ed.
It's no secret that Harry was a flamboyant & creative soul who definitely had his own mind when it came to certain things, especially clothing.
#Rapunzel
#BirthdayBoy
#ThatDress
#ThisIs12
Drunk driver Marco Michael Muzzo was given 10 years.
Milly lived for 1009 days; less than 3 years.
Harry lived for 1908 days, just over 5 years.
Daniel lived for 3,523 days; He lived less than 10 years.
Muzzo has served 1,656 days. He served just 4 yrs b4 given day parole.
My
#beautiful
&
#creative
#Harry
. He wanted to wear a dress for his 5th birthday & have Rapunzel come. He got both wishes. I miss my little cuddle bug so much. He saw beautiful everywhere. So many times he would pick a dandelion & hand it over to a random lady.
#NotOneMore
This time of year is horrifc 4 me. Survival is only remotely possible bc of who chooses to walk w/ me through these agonizing weeks of the crash date to their burial date.
TY Fireflies who light up my eternal darkness. I am still here, with You, bc of You, zigzagging with me.
Hi all. Ty all for messages, care & support. Yes, I am okay. I took a mostly tech free night after an incredibly stressful day. Today is dealing with a massive water issue & ripping out floorboards, although that will wait till I've had my cuppa. Or 2. Or 3?
Thank you all again
Stop it!! JUST STOP IT!! I don't even know what to say anymore. I spent this past weekend honouring my dead kids and dad instead of enjoying life as their mom with them... all because of impaired drivers. Drunk driving kills. I can't even...!!!!
IMPAIRED - 24 drivers charged this past week for impaired driving on York Region roads including this driver who wasn't able to keep his vehicle on the road. Watch as he stumbles out of his vehicle then blows more than 2.5x the legal amount of alcohol.
#NotOneMore
8 yrs ago hundreds of people joined us as we celebrated the lives of our beautiful family. 20 pallbearers, dressed in each in our beloveds favourite colours, made a rainbow as they carried our little ones to the next stage of their journey, leaving Ed and I behind.
#IHateThis
In 12 days it should be Milly's 11th birthday, Dec 23. I snapped this photo & thought just how old my little Miss looked in it. It kills me that she is frizen at 2. This is the dress she would be buried in when she was killed 24 hours after this photo was taken.
#BeautifulGirl
Thank you for helping me say goodbye to Ed in his hometown today.
Your love and support is immeasurable.
With gratitude and appreciation,
Jennifer
#ConsequencesMatter
#Goodbye
This is what a family lunch looks like when your entire family is dead because of a drunk driver.
Every meal.
Every holiday.
Every celebration.
Every day.
This is my family mealtime now.
#NotOneMore
#ConsequencesMatter
I can't believe the last Christmas card photo of my loves is now 7 years old. I hate that I didn't get more time with them. I want them back!!!
This is too damn hard.
Thank you to everyone who helped my sister and my mom celebrate my Milly during the storm.
Happy birthday my darling Milly.
I miss you so incredibly much.
Mahal kita maganda nene. Forever.
#BirthdayGirl
#Milly
I will enter the new year alone.
So you wanna talk about rights & choices? My kids had the right to live. I had the right to make new memories with my children. Ed had the same rights as me. My multiple life sentences for crimes I didn't commit will never end.
Be safe
#nye2023
In 7 days it should be Harry's 12th birthday, July 8th. In honour of my son I will be posting a memory shared by his family & friends. Today is day 6.
Harry was the kind of kid who made friends everywhere he went, especially if they were the younger siblings of Daniel's friends.
7 yrs ago today it's almost time
To bury my dreams turned little loves & my heart
I don't want to do this
My kids have gone from my arms to my dads
They'll sleep together forever in a colder, narrower bed
I hate this so much
I hate this cruel world
Fuck my "life"
We...us...oh wait, just me now.
I
#LightACandle
for all the bereaved parents, heartbroken children and lost families.
Impaired driving is never the answer.
Never.
Feb 3, 2021: 7 days ago my son Daniel should have turned 15 yrs old.
Today I will see my son Daniel's killer
Today I will see my son Harry's killer
Today I will see my daughter Milly 's killer
Today I will see my dad's killer
Today I will see the drunk who hurt my nanay & lola
There is no more peaceful sound than a family, tucked safely under their covers, fast asleep.
I envy everyone who hears this sound.
The silence of my dead deafens me tonight.
Why am I the only one left of my little family???? Why Why Why Why why????
What did my eldest son do??, My middle boy? My baby girl??? My husband??? Why did I do to deserve to be punished like this???
Whywhywhywhywhy
#ConsequencesMatter
I completely forgot to post this act of Easter Kindness.
Thank you kind strangers, for remembering my kids and bringing them some Easter goodies.
#KindnessOfStrangers
#Easter2023
8 years ago today we were fishing at my parent's cottage up north.
5 people were on this dock in August 2015
4 of them were dead by the end of Sept 2015.
Don't drive impaired. Don't kill kids
I'd give anything to go fishing with them again
#NotOneMore
#arrivealive
In less than an hour it will be three months since Ed died.
In less than an hour it will be start of the last week of all my children's and my dad's lives.
Fuck. Fuck it all.
Trying to fall asleep In the midst of the worse case of "skin hunger" is so agonizing. Waiting for my sleep meds to kick in so I stop hurting. I spent every second of every day hurting for them, yearning for them. Every second of .
#ConsequencesMatter
I always woke up with a slumbering babe in my bed. Milly had her own room at 2 yrs that Ed painted (Daniel picked out the paint) but she still preferred to sleep with either us or Harry. I
#MissThemSoMuch
. Every day starts and ends in tears because of
#drunkdrivermarcomuzzo
.
In 5 days it should be Harrison's 12th birthday, July 8th. In honour of my sweet boy I will be sharing a photo & a memory. Today is day 8.
Harry was very blessed to have met many role models in his life. Devon Leon & he shared passion for fun, an eye for beauty & a special bond.
In 4 days it should be Harry's 12th birthday, July 8th.
Harry loved colours, the more vibrant the better. Rainbows, "colour tornados" & flowers were amongst his favourite things to draw and have. Today's story comes from Reine-Marie who loves this pic of Harry with a rainbow rose
I don't bother sitting to eat at a table anymore unless one of my workers is with me. Usually I just stand near a cutting board where I put my kids pics so I can eat not "alone.
Tonight my family serenaded me with a few bars of "Let It Be".
Thank you my loves, for the music.
Today it is the Worldwide Candle Lighting Day for all our children who are gone far too soon. At 7 pm your time across the world, will you light a candle please?
Thank you.
I've been watching this video over & over today. 6 years ago today Harry reminded me he wanted to fly.
It took many, many hours of visits to
#Erinoakkids
,
#HBKidsHospital
&
#SickKidsNews
to help Harry be able to move under his own power & with limited mobility aids.
#NotOneMore
Today should be Harrison's 13th birthday, July 8th. It was difficult in the beginning for Ed to accept Harry's choice of clothes but dress by dress, Harry won him over. Ed shared this memory: Harrison loved to dress up all the time, I miss him so much." Harry's 5th bday pic.
This was a day of roller coasters, games & lots of fun! It's still hard to believe that the photo we took of this amazing day was the one I used to ID everyone but me at the police station less then 4 months later.
Don't do this to another mom!
Don't drive impaired!
Felt so ill this morning. Woke up and reached out for my littles to snuggle with bc I am so cold and there are only empty cold beds. My heart is breaking over and over every day.
#ConsequencesMatter
Today is Milly's 11th birthday. I wish so badly she was here. She should be here.
Masaya kaarawan ang aking mahal na Milagros. Mahal na mahal kita.
Happy birthday my precious Milly. I love you so much.
#BirthdayGirl
#ConsequencesMatter
#NotOneMore
Tick.....
I spoke to my kids for their good mornings
I sent my dad an email he will never reply to.
Tock...
I sew, prep dinner and mend.
Tick...
Wait, they're late. They should be here by 330.
No answer on my parents cells.
They're really late.
Where are my kids?!!!?!
Tock.
2016 the killer of all my kids & my dad, the drunk who seriously harmed my grandma & mom, began his reduced 9 Yr & 4 month sentence.
His mandatory release at 2/3 of his reduced sentence is now, Sat June 18, 2022.
His FULL parole Feb 9, 2021.
My life sentences never end.
Dear Ed,
We came together in '05, broke in '15 & fell apart in '21 but..
Without you, there is no us
Without us, there is no Them
Without Them, there is no we
I miss you.. us..Them.. we..
I wish we were chasing after Them, still lost & holding hands.
Maraming mahal kita,
Jenn
In 6 days it should be Milly's 10th birthday. In honourof my baby girl I will be sharing a photo and a story.
Milly liked to be independent & the end results were cute & funny!
#BeautifulAndSmartAt2
5 yrs ago today was my boys last day at school. It was picture day.
Harry tried to negotiate wearing a dress from Milly's closet but settled for this sweater. Daniel did his own hair and changed from stripes to plaid for once.
Tick..their last day..tock..at school..tick..tock.